The Salina Journal from Salina, Kansas on May 14, 1995 · Page 58
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The Salina Journal from Salina, Kansas · Page 58

Salina, Kansas
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Sunday, May 14, 1995
Page 58
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COURTENEY COX Nix fake friends Catch Cox on the 'Friends' season finale this Thursday. O N THURSDAY NIGHTS, actress Courteney Cox often invites friends over to watch her hit NBC sitcom, Friends. These real-life friends look and sound exactly like her fictional friends on the show. Wait a second. They are the actors from the show! "It wasn't a conscious choice to hang out together," Cox explains. "We all just connected." Friendships aren't always so easily built in cutthroat environments like Hollywood. In 1987, Cox joined Family Ties as Michael J. Fox's girlfriend. It was the show's sixth season, and she felt like an outsider. "I was insecure. I tried too hard to be friendly." Tough experiences like that have left Cox, 30, with some definite ideas about friendship: "Don't try too hard. Give a little bit, and, hopefully, the other person will give a little. But if you pour yourself out, you may resent it someday." Friendships ought to feel almost effortless, Cox says. If her new friends from Friends turn out to be a drag, you can bet she'll back away. "It shouldn't feel like a chore to keep up with someone. If friendships aren't working, if there's tension, I say, 'Nix 'em!' " Cox, whose longtime beau is actor Michael Keaton, thinks angst should be saved for romantic relationships. "Relationships are hard work. You have to persevere. Friendships should be easier." A close, "easy" friendship can be a vital reality check, Cox says, because we all need feedback beyond our spouses USA WEEKEND asked readers to pick the best singles show on TV In our March 10-12 issue. Fifeflcbbyawkfe margin: 47 percent of the 356 who responded. Blen, Seinfeld and Metoose Place finished a distant second, third, fourth. or lovers. That's why she doesn't call Keaton her best friend. "Boyfriends are different kinds of friends. Your feelings are at stake. You're more vulnerable. So you need an outside friend — someone you can talk to about the relationship. I encourage that. In a relationship, I always say, 'Please talk to your friend about this.' "You need a friend to remind you when you're repeating mistakes. I'm fortunate. I can tell certain friends every detail of my life. They understand me." Cox's best friend, she reveals, is her mother: "I tell her everything, even things she doesn't want to know." MORE ADVICE FROM COX • Avoid shallow friendships: "I don't have time for superficial friends. I suppose if you're really lonely, you can call a superficial friend, but otherwise, what's the point?" • Don't rush Southerners: "Their drawl used to be too slow for me," says Cox, who took voice lessons to lose her native Alabama accent "As a child, I'd speak faster because I wanted people to speak faster to me. Now I see it's a graceful, beautiful accent." • Quit slamming Generation X: "People say we're aimless. But name another generation that knew where they were going. In the '70s, what were baby boomers doing? Smoking pot and making candles out of Coke bottles. Like they knew where they were going." d Want advice? Cox will call or write one reader seeking advice on a particular issue. Write by May 21 to Straight Talk, Box 3455, Chicago, 111. 60654. Or fax: 312-661-0375. Zaslow is an advice columnist for the Chicago Sun-Times Features Syndicate. NEXT WEEKEND • A landmark book uncovers the secrets of successful marriages • The new battle over prayer in schools PUBLISHER: Brette Popper • EDITOR: Marcia Bullard • EXEC. VICE PRESIDENT: Charles Gabrielson • VICE PRESIDENTS: Sue Agresta, Carol Kerner-Odgis, Beth Lawrence, Tobey Lyden, Thomas Meisel iinmrinB Managing Editor Amy Eisman Senior Associate Editors: Dan Olmsted, Brenda Turner Associate Editors: Carol Clurman, Constance Kurz, Lorrie Lynch, Kathleen McCleary, Jim Sexton Contributing Editors: Jean Carper, Joyce Maynard, Jeffrey Zaslow Assistant Editors: Pamela Brown, Gayle Jo Carter Reporter/Researcher: Richard Vega Researcher: Myron B. Pitts Copy Chief: Tom Lent Copy Editor Terry Davidson Byrne Din Art Director Pamela S. Smith Assistant Art Director: Amelia Stephenson Technology Manager Treva Stose Photo Editor Jennifer Greenfeld Office Staff: Kate Bond, Nicole Price »IIHIIMIJIL'II«IMMM 535 Madison Ave., New York, N.Y. 10022 HrtHrtilHtMUHll 1000 Wilson Blvd., Arlington, Va. 22229 Printed In U» USA Editorial and Advertising questions: 1-MO-4S7-MM • Cmritf* UN IMA MOUND, I dkWM 18 USA WEEKEND • May 12-14. 1WS PHOTOGRAPH BY SANDRA JOHNSON

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