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THE NEWS PALLADIUM, BENTON HARBOR, MICH. RIDAY, APRIL 14, 1967 PAGE FIVE He Keeps Busy In Retirement YOUR Child's Welfare By GARRY CLEVELAND MYERS, Ph.D. Disagreement On Child's Upbringing II nifll SB 1 mm iC- "rj.i 1 1 1 PWP DINNER DANCE: Climaxing PWP week, Parents Without Partners will hold a dinner-dance Saturday, at Inman's of Holiday Inn, Benton Harbor. The affair is open to all single parents and their single friends over 21 with the dinner $5 and the dance $2. Reservations may be made with Mrs.

Jane Leatz, Benton Harbor. A coffee hour was held earlier in the week to acquaint interested persons with the international, non-profit, non-sectarian organization whose aim is the welfare and interest of single parents and their children. Planning Saturday's dance are, from left, Mrs. Helen Kepp, Mrs. Betty Baker, Ernest Kramer, the dinner dance committee, and Mrs.

Ethel Oppenhuisen, current president of the group. (Staff photo) Varied Work In Africa Topic For Missionary SPECIAL EASEL: Henry Kuhn of St. Joseph displays the easel he built for the Maud Preston Pal-enske Memorial library in St. Joseph. The easel is designed to be used to display art works and posters in the library.

(Staff photo) June Bride By DICK DERRICK SJ City Editor If Santa Claus ever retires he probably will be just like Henry Kuhn. Kuhn, 74flp is a retired engineer and purchasing agent from Gast Manufacturing Co. He goes out of his way to do nice things for other people. Recently he built a special easel for the new Maud Preston Palenske Memorial library on which art works and posters can be mounted. It typifies the way Kuhn goes about a project.

He wanted it to be both rugged and artistic. He settled on a rather formidable post with a lyre-like top where pictures, signs, posters and the like can be placed. He drew the design first. "Saves a lot of time and lumber," he explained from the workshop tucked in back of his garage on Ravine drive in Hickory Creek subdivision, St. Joseph.

The workshop is a clue to Kubn's busy retirement. It's filled with machinery, tools and materials. Also tucked away in one corner is a rocking chair horse that needs repair as well as plans for toys and other children's items yet to be built. Kuhn has nine grandchildren and two great grandchildren. i inally from New Jersey, he has worked at a "'Variety of jobs from Maine to Florida.

He remembers the depression years as a struggle and the ups and downs of the economy in the post war years. He joined Gast Manufacturing Co. in tbe early 1930's as a sales representative. Eventually he moved into its engineering department and for tbe last nine years he was its purchasing agent. But his work at Gast is not finished.

His current project is building the Christmas decorations. It centers around a realistic fire place with Santa Claus. Years ago Kuhn played Santa Claus and he recalls one of the most moving experiences of his life was when a little crippled girl put her arms around his neck and kissed (him whispering, "I love you, Santa." Kuhn's home was in the path of 1-94 and finding a replacement around the start of tbe 1960's posed a problem. His home is full of furniture he built himself. The Kuhns had to find one large enough to hold all of their treasures.

No sooner had they moved in when Kuhn began building more like a hi-fi sound system, lattice-work at the entry and a bar in his recreation room. While he can be found mostly in bis workshop he has another retreat his study or studio. It's lined with technical books, has a painting easel and his photographic equipment. Kuhn was one of the men who helped found the Twin City Camera club and help- Junior Reading Shelf Desirable as it Is for parents to agree with each other on standards and ways of bringing up their children, this Utopia is not easily achieved. They are different persons with backgrounds more or less different.

When one of these parents is very strict the other may be inclined to ba very lenient. As One of them leans more in one direction the other may lean farther in the opposite direction. Yet many a pair of parents do amazingly well at achieving accord. A father from Ohio with two children, a boy, 7, and a girl, 5, believing that his wife is too lenient and indecisive with their children writes on how he sees the difficulties. WIFE BECOMES AGGRAVATED "I insist that the children mind me when I tell them to do something.

They have to do it the first time I say it a request or suggestion is usually sufficient. The opposite result is apparent when my wife calls for the children to come in to eat, to do most anything. She invariably has to yell. She gets aggravated and she shows it." He adds, however, that "she is a college graduate, Intelligent, good money-manager, considerate and a hard-working, He himself as the more strict, more decisive, with the children, less The Aikens Are Wed 50 Years More than 80 friends and relatives gathered at the Sister Lakes Fire Station last Saturday evening for a surprise dinner and dance honoring Mr. and Mrs.

Clifford Aiken. The occasion was the Aikens' 50th wedding anniversary. Out-of-town relatives in-eluded two of their three children: Mr. and Mrs. Brentweed Aiken and children, Diane, Susan and Bryan of Indianapolis; Mr.

and Mrs. Herman Kuiper and daughters, Patricia, Linda and Karen of Hickoryville, fit. Mr. Aiken is very active member of the Sister Lakes Volunteer Fire Department. Mrs.

Aiken is a member of the Auxiliary. The Aikens moved from Chicago to Magician Lake about seven years ago. SUMMER STEP SAVER An outdoor ledge adjoining a kitchen window saves steps in passing food and drinks from kitchen to patio especially when it's made of per manent, weatherproof ceramic tile, a built-in pass-through means ready convenience whenever good weather permits outdoor insistent on neatness and tidiness and their eating what is set before them; and "more intent upon the children, as a rule. The children do not play one of us against the other. We both show them affection The children love us." VALUES DIFFER My reply in part: You have written an interesting human document which many a husband might write about his wife or any wife might write about her husband.

Clearly you are very different people and see values differently. The more extreme either you or your wife becomes in your ways, the more the opposite one tends to go to the other extreme. I note that you say you rarely disagree before the children. I hope you both emphasize this. Of course, they can easily sense disagreement without a word from either of you.

First I think you need to realize that mothers naturally put more emphasis on neatness and tidiness than men do. While we men feel we are right on this, we need to recognize the basic urge in women to emphasize neatness. I have a notion you could get some good results if you and your wife were to try to talk over these matters in a purely objective serene manner in privacy, ROOM FOR IMPROVEMENT You might begin by pointing out some ways of yours you would like -to change and then your wife would be more ready to resolve to change her ways a bit. You might persuade her to be more decisive in her commands. She might consider an effective punishment for either of those children requiring the older one to sit unamused, doing nothing for 40 minutes; the younger for 25 minutes.

Then she could avoid shrieking at them. I think we need to remember that when one parent sees weaknesses in the ways of the other parent, he or she is inclined to magnify these weaknesses and his or her own strengths in comparison a' common human inclination; not easy to be wholly objective about. My guess is that you have two fine children and that Mrs. has a heart of gold. (My bulletins "Fathers" Are Parents, "A Parent's Prayer," and "Love and Restraint" may be secured by sending a self-addressed, U.S.

stamped envelope to me in care of this newspaper.) Answering Parents' Questions Q. Our son, 14, wishes to leave his bedroom door ajar at night with a light on in the hall. What should we do? A. Why not let him do so? Suggest to him no reason why he should not. Prof, and Mrs.

Yunghans spent considerable time working with missionaries in the Lutheran mission field 500 miles from Ibadan. She wrote radio Scripts for the Lutheran Radio Voice of the Gospel; worked in mission hospitals; conducted craft classes, aod spoke in school and bush churches. Author of "Art Manual for Nigerian Schools," Mrs. Yunghans has also authored numerous mazazine and newspaper articles and has been on a number of extensive lecture tours, both in the States and Europe seeking support for her mission work among the dear. Prof, and Mrs.

Yunghans were cited in the Lutheran Witness for their unusual work overseas as witnesses for Christ. They are parents of three school-age children. MRS. YUNGHANS she established two Sunday schools to serve both Nigerian and expatriate children. From the famous shirtmaker for men i1 Guest speaker for Christ Lutheran Ladies League of St.

Joseph Wednesday, April 19, will be Mrs. Charles E. Yunghans who has recently returned to the United States after spending four years in Nigeria, West Africa. The 8 p.m. meeting will be preceded by a 7:30 'clock business session.

Women's groups of Coloma, Gfendora, Berrien Springs, Bridgman, and Sawyer have been invited to attend this meeting. Mrs. Yunghans accompanied her husband, a sor in electrical engineering to Ibadan, Nigeria, where he established a technical college. Prof, and Mrs. Yunghans also served there as lay missionaries and Mrs.

Yunghans established a school for deaf children. The school is currently operating on public donations with the management taken over by a Nigerian man and wife team. Mrs. Yunghans worked extensively with the Peace Corps in establishing day camps for Nigerian boys and girls. She taught teacher training courses the Girl Scout program aod New Son NEW BUFFALO Mr.

and Mrs. George Stanage, 15 S. Whittaker street, New Buffalo, became the parents of a boy April 11 at St. Anthony hospital in Michigan City, Ind. ed it launch its highly successful travelogue series.

Tbe Kuhns have two daughters, Mrs. Raymond Hafer of 1508 Forres avenue. St. Joseph, and Mrs. Stephen Mirkovic, Plain-field, N.J.

By LUCY BRIDGHAM Children's Librarian Benton Harbor Library Because this is the last National Library Week which we will celebrate in this building, we are making it a memorable one. We have borrowed 200 new books from Michigan state library for use in the children's department for this year. These, along with our own 225 lovely new books, will be exhibited for the entire week Monday, April 17 Monday, April 24. We urge families to come, school classes to come, and children from all of the towns nearby to take advantage of this chance to see what is new in the field of children's literature! The slogans for the Library week are "Explore Inner Space," "Read," and "Reading Is What's Happening." These 450 books will not be checked out until 4 p.m. Monday, April 24.

Each individual who has a library card is allowed just one new book at that time. It will be a difficult decision to choose just one, but that is the fair way to deal with such a wonderful selection of books. Two free movies in color will be shown Saturday morning, April 15 "Dancing Fleece" and "Eruption of They will begin at 9:30 and will be over at mmm MISS LUCKER Mrs. James Moss, Route 1, Stevensville, announces the engagement of her daughter, Rebecca Lucker, to Wayne McAndrew, son of Mrs. Wayne Newman of Ko-komo, and the late Gideon McAndrew.

Miss Lucker's father was the late Maurice Lucker, Jr. The wedding is set for June 23. 10:30 o'clock. Everyone is invited to come! Visit your library during National Library week! The following boys and girls filled their library cards during this past week: Angelique Joseph, Bobbie Ree Joseph, Lisa Mammina, Kathryn Patzer. and Kathryn Phillips Congratulations! "FRUIT FANTASY 23" Automatic Oven I Dial-any-heat Surface Units I Top Lifts Up for Easy, Safe Spillover! Cleaning 'Quick Set AutomaW Tiimejigjockj Timed Appliance Outlet; Interval Timer with Chime Fluorescent Surface LightPitof Ctgrtt Bake-Broil Selector Switch) i Illuminated Glass Control Pane? Oven Ready Light.jjtecessed As Refreshing As A Spring Day! Oven Light Lfft Off Oven Door) Full Width Lift Out Storage Drawer Broil-Under-Glas-optioial extra) Have you tried Producers new and doubly delicious "Fruit Fantasy" Ice Cream.

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