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I'M 35 GOING ON 34! II 1 By Marion Martin ON INSIDE PAGES tfkieajjo Sunday (Tribune omen PART 5-AUGUST 21, 1960 LAUDETTE COLBERT has always been my i It I 1 idol, and we have a lot in common. We're both women. She admits being over 40. I guidance I'd soon be slim and beautiful again. I let the again go by no use discouraging the girl.

In the slenderizing salon willowy girls 'in skintight capris strolled around, or lifted their legs in graceful balletlike exercises. At my first treatment I found out that the sylphlike beauties were the employees. They showed you how to do the exercises so that someday you, too, would look like them, altho not one of them weighed over 95 pounds in her life. The plump women stretched out on benches from sheer exhaustion were the customers. But I stuck it out and I did lose weight and inches.

I never looked or felt better. Until I saw Miss Colbert on live television. There she was, charming, vivacious, mature. I guess I'll just have to admit that this is the peak of my mature beauty. In fact, I think I'll slip in a birthday party for myself next week to make up for the one I ignored months ago.

Maybe when I'm forty admit being 34. I've admitted it for a couple of years. The only trouble is my' 14 year old daughter insists she's going to be 15 next month. Actually, I'd be delighted to be 35. It's just that I'm not ready yet.

I read that a woman reaches the peak of her mature beauty at 35, and altho I've watched anxiously for signs that, like a brick of fine cheddar cheese, I'm reaching a mellow ripeness, nothing has happened. Obviously, nature had goofed, and I decided she needed a helping hand. So, I got porcelain caps for my teeth, and a new hair-do, and had my eyeglasses checked. This improved my vision, but not my spirits. I decided what I really needed was re-shaping.

At the local health, beauty, and glory salon I was assured in dulcet tones that under their in ii i .1 AMUSEMENTS Page 7 How to show off Danish modern. r.itrr Page 2 Knits are wardrobe pearls. 3 Reflections of a family reunion. 3 Suburbanites have a city week-end whirl 5 i I m. 1 I 1 I My Idol, Claudette Colbert.

She admits being 40; I admit being 34." How We Worked Out a Survival Plan for Our 'Heart Condition' Husbands TRIBUTE Photos by Robert MacKay irrni A 'I aijtiiOi mti --f--a By Vivian Garland WHEN A MAN has had a heart attack, how can his wife help him to live a long and rewarding life? This problem has caused anxiety to five friends and myself. Within the past two years our husbands, all intheir early forties, have been heart attack victims. Fortunately, they survived. As soon as a heart patient is permitted to resume some of his normal activity, proper care becomes more difficult. He looks well and feels well because he has had complete rest.

He is anxious to return to the excitement of his job and to visiting with family and friends. My five friends and I knew that our husbands 0 i 7 -ZTs- JZ' -f I 1 vww -vnw I i- v. w.w, I v. -n 5, 4 I i 'JjtV 1 v. jf J.

WVCs sv 1 i- i A jji C' 1 ''k I I 1 3 I 1 WUkiMAdlHWHHlMWMMHUdlUiHU fall lliMrtVil iBi MfUl Iffllii i nifli' Hi" fli' 'III 1 "ifn Ti 1T1' 1 ill Tl 11 1 iMOTWItfaflMfclfcAtoa Vivian Garland and friends try to unobtrusively husbands who've had heart attacks. She, her husband, Jerome, and his brother, Stanley (left) enjoy a chat sitting down "one of the ways to avoid fatigue. needed unobtrusive, yet watchful care. As long as they beat a steady path from home to office and home again, this care was possible. However, nobody can live that way.

When my husband was given permission to increase his activities, he said to me: You know I love you, buUf you think going to look at your face and these four walls for the rest of my leisure time, you're mistaken. Let's live a little!" My friends and I found that the good intentions of people often were misdirected unless they, too, had helped care for a heart patient. Others simply would forget that this man was jiot operating at 100 per cent of physical capacity. Everyone is familiar with the protective wife. "Jim, we must leave early; you need your rest!" "Jim, that is not on your diet! Poor Jim he cringes every time his wif looks at him.

My friends and I found ourselves drifting into this behavior pattern. No man likes to be reminded that he is not as strong as the next fellow. TO" AGREED ON a plan to teach our friends, relatives, and business associates the limitations of our heart patients. We tactfully suggested simple dinner menus to hostesses who pride themselves on the wonderful and fattening meals they serve. 'We askedthese wpmen not to insist on second portions for our husbands and not to feel insulted if our men passed up some dishes.

We educated our friends to the benefits of "sitting" rather than "standing" conversations. We urged hostesses to start their parties early and break up early. For years, my husband's business associates had called him shortly after dinner, each night to continue the day's work by telephone. When he was able to resume work, his employers were extremely cooperative about shortening his hours and relieving, him of some irritating responsibilities but the evening telephoning persisted; I finally stopped this by having the children answer the telephone and say, "Daddy is resting. Please leave your telephone number, and he will call you back after 8:30." Nine times out of ten the seply would be: Never mind, it wasn't important.

I'll see him in the office tomorrow." 111 II 's f2 iff WHO IS THIS WOMAN? She lives in a wonderful world of her own, with tigers, chessmen, ballet dancers, butterflies, and mysterious planets whirling in space. Yet she lives here in Chicago. Edith Weigle tells about her on page 4. Photo by Herbert Georg One thing a wife can do to help her husband after a heart attack is to assist him with his coat. PARENTS' CORNER 1 FOUND that winter is especially tiring for my husband.

At times he finds his overcoat an almost unbearable burden. I try to be near to help him when Treat Young Love with PATIENCE K' A By Richmond Barbour Guidance Counselor he comes in; If we visit and have to climb more than one flight of steps, he takes his coat off at the street level, and I carry it upstairs for him. I rarely let my husband go to the grocery store with me, because he would feel obligated to help me with the packages. The heaviest package he carries now is a newspaper. The Things Kids Do! 4 He looked around and discovered females.

Now he's painfully clean. He broods over his pimples. He writes letters to girls. He makes long phone" calls. He moons around the house.

Probably, he directs his love toward a turban-headed little Jezebel with no brains and few morals. Right? If this hasn't happened, wait. It will. How should you treat young love? With dignity, patience, gentleness. Remember how you felt when you were that way.

Avoid sarcasm. It hurts too much. Let your son and daughter see that you understand. Give them plenty of chances to talk to you. Oppose their affection only if outright disaster impends.

They'll get over it quickest that way. Soon your girl will fall for a better boy. Your boy will fall for a nicer girl. Their taste will improve. Then you'll have fewer worries: Young love is only a temporary aberration.

Thank heaven for that! YOUNG LOVE is blooming this summer. Have you noticed? Let's look at it. "Your daughter is 10, 11, or 12. She's a tomboy and runs with other tomboys. She has no time for males.

Then 'overnight, bingo! Suddenly, boys matter more than anything. She follows them shamelessly. She phones them and has long, inane conversations. She finds excuses to go to their homes. She brings them to yours.

Soon she centers her affection on one boy. Likely as not, he's the worst kid in the neighborhood. You wonder how you could have produced such a ninny of a girl. Right? Your son is 12, 13, or 14. Maybe older.

Until recently, he was a woman hater. He went to parties only under protest. He was proud of his dirty fingernails, unkempt hair, and abrupt manners. Suddenly, he shot up several inches. grown up.

Sunday afternoon with Mother and Dad is no longer an exciting prospect for them." I noticed my daughters watch me and then go into a huddle. Then the oldest came forward and took my hand in hers. Gently, she said: It's all right, Mother, don't feel so badly. We will take you to the zoo! Mrs. T.

Maslowsky Chicago THE summer our two girls were 10 and 12 had not been the kind of summer we had had in the past All of my suggestions for picnics, visiting museums, going to the parks and zoos, which formerly would have been eagerly accepted, hqw were disdainfully vetoed. On Labor day, the last day of vacation, -I thought sadly: I do not have little girls anymore. They are If you've a daughter the age of Melinda Kay Novinger, you may be going thru the young love problem. If so, treat the situation with dignity, patience, gentleness. It.