Kokomo Tribune Sunday from Kokomo, Indiana • Page 27

KOKOMO TRIBUNE STYLE SUNDAY, FEB. 4,1996 C3 ENGAGEMENTS AleJo-Dalsy Leah Alejo and William Michael Daisy have set April 20 for their wedding in Kokomo Zion United Methodist Church. Leah is daughter Ofelio S. Leah Alejo- Wllllam Daisy the of and Angelina P. Alejo, Kawit, Cavite, Philip- bines.

She is a 1983 graduate of St. Mary Magdalene School, Philippines. She graduated from the Mapua Institute of Technology in 1988. She is a Environmental engineer with the Department of Defense. William is the son of William J.

and Dee Daisy, 1609 Stoneview Drive. He is a 1987 graduate of Kokomo High School. He graduated from Purdue University in 1992. He is a electrical engineer with Hughes Electronics. Nutter-Cone Kimberly Ann Nutter and William Michael Cone have set July 6 for their Tvedding in Cornerstone Christian Church.

Kimberly is daughter lof Robert J. Donna L. Nutter, 915 S. Buckeye Apt. C.She is a Kokomo School "graduate.

She Indi- University Kokomo. She works 3it Chrysler. William is the son of Michael W. step son of Tammi Cone, 300 -Edgewater Lane, and son of Betty and step son of Russell Landis, He is a 1988 Delphi High -School graduate. He attended Vincennes University.

He works at Chrysler. Cofleld-Huff Catha Laurel Cofield and Jason Eric Huff have set Aug. 10 for their wedding in Southport Presbyterian Church, Southport. Catha is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs.

Malvin Cofield, 200 Laramie Lane. She is a 1990 graduate of Kokomo High Jason Huff- Catha Cofield William Cone- Kimberiy Nutter School. She graduated from Taylor University in 1994. She is a Elementary teacher at Heritage Christian School, Indianapolis. Jason is the son of Mrs.

Suellen G. Huff, and the late Carl Huff, 989 Greenwood Trails, Greenwood. He is a 1992 graduate of Greenwood High School. He graduated from Taylor University in 1995. He is serving with the commission in Russia.

Rainey-Johnson Kimberly Rainey and Dewey Johnson III have set March 23 for their wedding at The Columns, Kimberly is the daughter and step daughter of Faye and Richard Burton, Kokomo, and daughter of Jack Rainey, Kokomo. Kimberly is a 1989 Kokomo High School graduate. She graduated from Purdue University in 1994. She works with Lithonia High Tech, Crawfordsville. Dewey is the son of Vicki and Dewey Johnson III, Pittsburgh.

He is a 1988 Bethel Park High School graduate. He graduated from Purdue University in 1993. He works for Cable Master, Indianapolis. Dewey Johnson- Klmberiy Ralney Mullenger-Sublette Gamble-Steiner Michael Mullenger- MfcheHeSuUette Michelle Anne Mullenger and James Sublette have set June 8 for wedding St. Pius Edgewood, Ky.

Michelle is the daughter Paul and Mul- lenger, Edgewood, Ky. She is a 1992 Dixie High gradu- She is in at the University of Kentucky. Michael is the son of Daniel and Cynthia Sublette, Kokomo. He is a 1988 Taylor High School graduate. i He graduated from Purdue versity in 1993.

He works at mark International, Lexington, Ky. Utterback-Burch Shari Ann Utterback and Sean Eugene Burch have set May 18 for their wedding in Madison Church of Christ, Nashville, Tenn. Shari is daughter Michael Laura Ann Gamble and Matthew Ray Steiner have set April 20 for their wedding in The First Presbyterian Church. Laura is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs.

Dan Gamble, 1502 Arundel Drive. She is a 1985 graduate of Northwestern High School. She is currently finishing her medical residency in Anesthesiolc- gy at Indiana University Medical Center, Indianapolis. Matthew is the son of Mrs. Mary Steiner and the late Dr.

James Steiner, 425 Sidney West Liberty, Ohio. He is a 1984 graduate of West Liberty-Salem High School. He is currently finishing his medical residency in Emergency Medicine at Methodist -Hospital, Indianapolis. Laura Gamble- Matthew Steiner Sean Burch- Sharl Utterback the of and Susie Utterback, 6066 W. Division Road, She is a 1983 Eastern High School graduate.

She graduated from Ball State University in 1985. She graduated from David Lipscomb University in 1995, with a B.A. in nizational communication. She is Regional V.P. Administrative Assistant at Medshares Home Care, Inc.

Sean is the son of Pat and Sandra Burch, 453 Chickasaw Trail, Goodlettsville, Tenn. He is a 1984 Goodpasture High School graduate. He graduated from'David Lipscomb University in 1989. He graduated from Belmont University in 1995, with a B.A. in nursing.

He is a Cardiac Critical Care Nurse at St. Thomas Hospital. Heather La Fave- Davld Wills, Jr. Secondhand smoke may increase problems Protecting children from second, hand smoke may reduce breathing problems associated with colds, a new study published by the Ameri, can Lung' Assiocation suggests. Parents who don't smoke at home may also reduce the risk that their child will end up in the emergency room with an attack of wheezing, the researchers found.

The results add to the growing body of evidence linking second- ANNIVERSARIES Children, parents benefit from music Early education leads to a lifetime of enjoyment Phyllis and Ora Sharp Sharp Ora and Phyllis Sharp, 3023 W. Branded Court, celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary with a Panamanian and other points of interest cruise. Ora and the former Phyllis Price were married Feb. 2,1946 in Kokomo. The Rev.

Byron Strong officiated the ceremony. He retired from Cabot Corp. as a Tooling En'gineer. She retired from Delco Electronics Corp. as a technician.

Lloyd and Margie Stover Stover Lloyd and Margie Stover, 8664 E. Road 1100 South, will be celebrating their 40th wedding anniversary with a family dinner and a trip to Myrtle Beach, S.C. and Dallas. Lloyd and the former Margie Spangler were married Feb. 18, 1956 at Grace United Methodist Church by the Rev.

Donald Bailey. He is a farmer. She is a housewife. Their children are David L. Stover, Galveston, and Joyce L.

Bower, Walton. They have four grandchildren. Why is it so difficult to find a good babysitter? Fewer teens are willing to work for money La Fave-Willis Heather Marie La Fave and David Alan Willis, Jr. have set June 1 for their wedding on the grounds of U. A.

W. 292. Heather is the daughter of Lee and Alana La Fave, 230 W. Vine, Sharpsville. She is a 1994 Tri-Central High School graduate.

She is currently attending Indiana University Kokomo. She works at Red Lobster. David is the son of David and Lisa Willis 1012 E. Fischer St. He is a 1994 Kokomo High School graduate.

He is currently attending Indiana University Kokomo. He works at Fortune Management. By SAIMI ROTE BERGMANN Thomson News Service Coming soon to your area: a seminar on how to increase your chances of finding and keeping a baby sitter! Ludicrous? Think again. A 'shortage of sitters has put today's teens in the driver's seat, and has reduced parents to begging. "I go out and buy all these chips and pop I don't normally buy and put them all out on the table so she'll like coming and come back again," admits one mother.

What's wrong with this picture? Apparently we need them more than they need us. What's next, negotiating sessions? Imagine it tense parents meet with a potential babysitter and her agent. "OK, Mrs. Jones," the agent says smoothly. "Janey is willing to consider your offer, but we have a list of demands.

First, cable TV. That's non-negotiable. Two rented movies, new releases, of course. Unlimited phone privileges. OK? Now, let's talk snacks." Why the shortage of sitters? Well, it's partly attributable to a shortage of teens.

There are fewer teens now than there were in 1980. Due to a baby boomlet, there also are more children under the age of 9 now than there were in 1980, thus more need for sitters. But statistics don't wholly explain the phenomenon. There ARE teens out there, in our neighborhoods, at our churches. They are out there they just don't baby-sit.

The response heard most often is "I'm too busy." The question begs to be asked: Why don't these teens need money? If our children aren't earning money, who is paying for all these activities that keep them "too We baby boomer parents have been accused many times of spoiling this next generation, of giving them too much and expecting too little. The baby sitter shortage lends credence to that criticism. I'm not advocating violation of child labor laws, but I believe it's vital that I instill a work ethic in my children. But how? Some say we can teach our children to work hard simply by setting a good example. Yet I know hard-working parents whose children watch TV while Dad shovels the driveway.

I've seen teens walk away from a dinner table, leaving the dishes for Mom to clear, then ask for and receive $5 so they can see a movie with friends. My own wake-up call came a few years ago when my husband discovered pennies and nickels in a trash can. Appalled, he picked out the change, then asked my children what happened. Our daughter admitted she had cleaned out her lunch box and the coins were "dirty" so she threw them out out. I thought the blood vessel in my husband's forehead was going to burst.

We realized then that the only way to teach children the value of a dollar was to let them earn one. When our daughter turned 12 and started baby-sitting, we stopped paying her an allowance. Since then she has paid for all her own entertainment, including movies, skating and bowling, and clothing that I don't consider essential. Baby-sitting, and all the jobs that follow, are rites of passage. When you baby-sit, you are in charge.

People are trusting you with their children. The responsibility is a heady feeling. You learn to make decisions, to nurture, to comfort and to handle emergencies. And you make money. We must allow our children to experience the pride and satisfaction of earning, and spending, their own money.

By CHRISTINE ARPE GANG Scrlpps Howard News Service A parents watch their toddlers sway with music, sing with enthusiasm or intently finger piano keys, they invariably wonder if their child has a musical talent that should be developed. The answer from the experts is yes. But forget about special talent. Music, they say, is in us all. "Response to music is innate and unconscious in early childhood," says Eileen Auxier.

Auxier teaches Kindermusik, a curriculum designed to foster musical bonds between parents and preschoolers. "Kindermusik brings it into the child's conscious mind to where the child is thinking about what they are doing," she says. Shinichi Suzuki, an older man who observed that very young children can master instruments much like they develop language, does not believe in the concept of musical talent. His belief that musical ability is developed through education and a supportive environment, not heredity, is the basis of a wide method of musical instruction that bears his name. "The Suzuki philosophy is that you can teach a very young child how to play an instrument as if they were learning their native tongue," says Cathy Fletcher, director of the music academy at Rhodes College in Memphis, which offers training in all the symphonic instruments and voice to children.

"The teacher plays and they repeat it. They do it again and again until they are playing a piece." Young children don't seem to mind the repetition. "By starting young, we get children in the imitative stage of development," says Lyda Partee, interim director of University of Memphis' community music school, which also offers Suzuki instruction on violin and piano for children ages 3 to 8. Partee knows first-hand the benefits of the Suzuki method. "When I was 4 years old, my pediatrician suggested I take violin lessons because I seemed to have no fine motor skills," says Partee.

"That was in 1964 when the Suzuki method was first brought to the United States. I'm one of the oldest Suzuki students in this country." For Partee, it was the beginning of a lifetime involvement in music. Many former Suzuki students play in community orchestras as adults. "Or they are in the audience for all kinds of musical performances," adds Partee. "Their musical tastes tend to be eclectic." An important element in both the Suzuki method and Kinder- musik is parental involvement.

Parents don't just drop children off for lessons. They attend, too. "A lot of parents rent an instrument and play along with their child," says Fletcher. "Some say they studied piano when they were little but their parents let them quit so they are glad to come back to it. It gives the parent and child something special to do together." Suzuki students and their parents attend a private and group class each week.

Daily practice is strongly recommended. For young children, practice sessions are hand smoke at home to breathing problems in school-age children, the researchers said. "This study suggests that children may be at risk of having more sever respiratory infections they're exposed to secondhand smoke in the home," said George T. O'Connor, M.D., assistant professor of medicine at the Boston University School of Medicine, an author of the study. WEDDING GIFT REGISTRY Suzanne Oaks-Doug Kuhlman Christ! Roach-Pete Watson Beth Spelman-Chris Hallock Bridget Hynds Michael Bain Lori Blackman-Gerry Good Stephanie Ratclitf Craig Bridell Heather Richter-Jim Zetzl Susan Klein Brian Fulp Debbie Bourff-Jim White FREE GIFT DELIVERY TO REGISTERED BRIDES PHONE ORDERS WELCOME Toll Free within 317 area code 1-800-281-2419 OPEN FRIDAY EVENINGS UNTIL 7:00 and SUNDAY HOURS: Monday thru Thursday Friday Saturday Uptown On The Square 108 N.

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First is "Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star." They learn to read music when they learn to read words, in the first and second grades. "At first the child will probably be playing at a higher level than he is reading music," says Fletcher. "But they catch up." Aimee Johnson started Suzuki classes at the University of Memphis when she was years old. Now she continues her lessons, plays in the Memphis Youth String Orchestra and has visions of teaching music one day, "I had no idea she would be doing it this long," says Nancy Johnson, Aimee's mother. "She's our third child and if I had realized the advantages of it, I would have had my other two take it as well." Johnson says the method has helped Aimee develop discipline and the ability to memorize.

"It's made her school work much easier," she said. Adeline Brown, now has been taking Suzuki violin lessons for almost a year. "She really enjoys it although practicing at home is the hard part," says Mim Brown, her mother. "She always loved music and loves to perform." At the start of a Kindermusik class at suburban Germantown United Methodist Church, five 4- year-olds take turns strumming the autoharp with Auxier while their mothers and classmates sing "Now it's time for music, we'll all have fun." Some strum slowly, others more quickly. The group responds to the tempo with their singing.

They also clap, jump, swing their arms in swimming motions and otherwise move to music. As music on an audiotape evokes the image of certain animals, the children move about the room like snakes, bears and squirrels. During the 45-minute session, they also play a few notes on the piano, a small xylophone, shakers and tone bars. Sarah Hafley likes playing the autoharp the best. "Sarah's always been interested in music," says Norma Hafley, her mother.

"Now she's learning the basic elements through fun and games. She doesn't even know she is learning." The goal of the class is to stimulate children musically. "We try to give the child complete stimulation movement of their full bodies and small muscles, singing, playing simple instruments and developing rhythm," Auxier says. Rather than competing with each other, proponents of Kinder- musik and Suzuki have a common goal to bring music into the lives of children. "We feel like we complement Suzuki," Auxier says, adding that she believes musical games and children's songs that were once an important part of most homes are now disappearing.

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