Ukiah Daily Journal from Ukiah, California on April 9, 1995 · Page 13
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-THE UKIAH DAILY JOURNAL- SUNDAY, APRIL 9,1995 — A-13 Time out Families hesitate to donate organs JEANE DIXON Newsday Crossword SATURDAY STUMPER by Matt Gaffney Edited by Stanley Newman SUNDAY, APRIL 9,1995 HAPPY BIRTHDAY! IN THE NEXT YEAR OF YOUR LIFE: Courage will help you find success in business and happiness in love. Refuse to be bullied or nagged into doing something that does not feel right. Although teamwork is the key to swifter career advancement, there will be times when you must work alone. Next fall, focus on building a wider base of support. New alliances could mean higher profits! Give young adults an opportunity to find their own niche. Too much "guidance" can undermine self- reliance. CELEBRITIES BORN ON THIS DATE: model Paulina Porizkova, golfer Seve Ballesteros, Playboy founder Hugh Hefner, actress Keshia Knight Pulliam. ARIES (March 21-April 19): Funds held in common could be affected by a third party's actions. A younger person offers a friendly warning. Do not panic! You have the inside track. TAURUS (April 20-May 20): An inspiring sermon or talk could rekindle your faith. An interest in education grows stronger. Consider giving or taking a class in the arts. Romance heats up when you reveal more of your plans. GEMINI (May 21-June 20): Romance takes a turn for the better. Although you do not have to blend in with the crowd, you should not try to offend people either. Avoid behaving erratically; loved ones will not understand. CANCER (June 21-July 22): Do not let a stubborn streak upset a family member's plans. Do everything possible to promote domestic harmony. Paying bills on time protects your credit rating. Be diligent. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): Your nesting instinct comes to the fore. Go ahead and host a wonderful reunion or birthday party. Sharing the cooking and clean-up chores will give you more time to enjoy your guests. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Those who give more than they demand will eventually gain their ACROSS 1 Silo filler 10 Bow of fame 15 Parent, at times 16 Chaos 17 '50s conflict 18 Memorable mission 19 Early video game 20 Less loopy 21 Palindromic cheer 22 ACLU concerns 23 Huygens rival 24 Troubled 27 "Will _ There?" (Jackson song) 30 Neophyte 36 Beats the incumbent 39 Olympian, e.g. 40 Diner fare 42 Ferberetal. 43 Bird_ (Gibson/Hawn film) 46 Rabbit Redux, e.g. 51 Carl's kid 52 Is afflicted with 55 Swimmer Janet 56 Rent 59 "_ Be" 60 Football great 61 Calliope's sister 62 Turkey's region 63 Throat bug 64 #1 tune of '67 DOWN 1 ABC Sports surname 2 Mandela's native tongue 3 Feldman or Ingels 4 Shrink's words 5' 6 Spanish missus 7 Part of, as a clique 8 Encourages, in a way 9 Does wrong 10 Bankeponym 11 Hamlinshow 12 _-garde 38 Word in CA 13 Role for Leslie, place names Laurence or 41 Scandinavian Leonard tongue 14 Nut of a sort 44 Get a _ 23 Nickname in edgewise the news 45 Autobio start, 24 "Oh, sure!" maybe 25 1963 Oscar- 46 Tennis champ winner 47 Tennis champ 26 Meadow 48 Mideast 27 Ick opposite emirate 28 U2 song 49 Marx's 29 1996 Olympics exhortation host 50 Bar 31 Bono ex 52 Barbera 32 Ye _ Shoppe collaborator 33 Merrie group 53 Rare gas 34 Greek vowel 54 Cubic meter 35 Scale notes 56 Corner 37 Work with 57 Gl Bill sponsor leather 58 Beach toy CREATORS SYNDICATE cim STANLEY NEWMAN «WM heart's desire. Focus on removing an obstacle to your love life, by peaceful means. Finesse, not force, is required. Speak from the heart LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): A partner may be going through a period of transition. Encourage growth and self-knowledge. Although invitations come your way, you may be feeling shy. SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Welcome a reconciliation with a brother or sister. Vacation travel is possible. A stable home is of vital importance. Wear your heart on your sleeve; romantic partner will respond favorably. , ,,SAQITTARiUS (Nov. 22-Dec.. 21): Contention is likely between partners as well as competitors. Emphasize good public relations. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): An excellent day for your per- Answer to previous puzzle onrun anan ananmnn TODAY'S CHILDREN long to go where no one has gone before. Advanced technology and new fields of study will entrance these forward- looking Aries. The exploration of outer space will be just one of the many subjects that capture their lively imaginations. Boundless energy makes these Aries excellent workers. They are still going strong when their peers plead exhaustion. Count on them to be self-employed for a good portion of their career. They need their independence in order to be creative. OBOE runnnrj QQQrjnniiHciB DSQII sonal and professional ambitions. You may be asked your opinion on a real estate venture. Settle a domestic conflict peacefully, compromising when necessary. .Others admire your spunky attitude Jo wards life.,, AQUARIUS (Jan; 20-Feb. 18): A relationship will bring you more than you bargained for. Luckily, you are in the mood for a challenge. Adventure beckons! Interesting people seek your company. Shake up your life in any way possible. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): Try to forget past disappointments. An element of good luck seems to follow you today. A relationship improves when you feel self-confident again. Good-hearted actions produce a nice pay-off. Friends applaud. Dear Ann Landers: I read with interest the compelling letter you printed from Bruce Bowden, chairman of the National Kidney Foundation. He was asking readers to become organ donors. Let me tell you from firsthand experience what a delicate and difficult task it is for an attending physician to approach the family of a dying patient and request the patient's organs to help save the life of another. Often, family members are convinced that the patient WILL survive and are shocked and dismayed at the unwelcome news of impending death. They view the bearer of such news as a monster and are certain the doctor could save the patient if he really wanted to. The demand for donor organs far exceeds the supply, even though the potential number of organs available is more than enough to meet our requirements. Asking people to sign donor cards has not done the job. There is, however, a method of obtaining organs that has worked well in Belgium, and I see no reason why it wouldn' t work here or in Canada. It reverses the usual donor-card procedure and assumes that people who die are automatic donors unless they have signed a card denying the use of their organs for transplant purposes. This way, everyone's rights are protected, and if there is an objection, religious or otherwise, the organs are not touched. I hope this letter makes your column and helps move this concept forward. — Pennsylvania Dear Pa.: I would not feel comfortable pressing for such legislation. Organ donation is an intensely personal act. Even if a law were passed that made everyone an automatic donor unless he or she had signed a card stating otherwise, many people would be outraged at the assumption that the organs of their loved ones could be automatically harvested. » A better approach is for physicians to be trained in precisely how to broach the subject of transplantation with family members for whom there is no hope. Dear Ann Landers: I am 32 and married to a man I have never loved. My parents thought he would be good to me. I was 20 at the time. We have two children and get along OK, but there never was that special spark, and I always felt cheated. Now for the messy part. I met a man at my part-time job who made me feel like a teenager again. "Ron" is married, has three daughters and will never be divorced. I knew this when we ANN LANDERS started to see each other, but the pull was so strong, I didn't care. I am now pregnant with Ron's child and have just learned I am carrying a boy. Ron has always wanted a son and is thrilled. My husband knows about this and says we are going to stay married no matter what. I want to put Ron's name on the baby's birth certificate and name the baby after him. Would this be OK? — Helen in Houston Dear Helen: If you want to name the baby after Ron, go ahead, but according to the Cook County Department of Records, putting his name on the birth certificate, at least in Illinois, would be no simple matter. Talk to a lawyer, and get advice on how to proceed. It sounds as if your marriage could use some repair work, Helen. Please consider counseling. GEM OF THE DAY: According to a recent survey, 46 percent of high school seniors do not know how to do simple math. That's one out of three. Dear Readers: I have just finished a book that should be required reading for everyone facing the challenge of long-term illness, whether their own or that of a loved one. This book, written by Irene Pollin, a psychiatric social worker, and Susan Golant, a health writer, goes straight to the heart of the challenge and comes up with superb answers. Irene Pollin is uniquely qualified to give advice on this subject, having suffered the devastating loss of two of her own children to chronic illness. For 20 years, she counseled families who also had lost children to chronic illness. Pollin identifies some of the fears these individuals experience. • ,,Fear of loss of control. (What if I am not in charge anymore?) • Fear of loss of self-image. (Who will love the weak person I have become?) • Fear of dependency. (How can I bear being such a burden to others?) • Fear of stigma. (Will others avoid me?) • Fear of abandonment. (Will my toved ones leave me?) • Fear of expressing anger. (What if my rage drives people away?) • Fear of isolation. (Will I live out my days alone?) • Fear of death. This book instructs people with chronic illness how to carry on with self-assurance, instead of feeling powerless. I especially liked such passages as these: "Sitting In a wheelchair places you at a disadvantage but here, too, you can present a positive image. If you notice someone staring at you, give that person a smile and it will be returned." "In the same spirit, you can choose, as some people do, to make your condition even more visible. A woman who had lost her leg to diabetes decorated her crutch, almost inviting people to ask questions about her illness." "Blessedly, and after far too long, society's attitudes have changed. Today, people ride around in their motorized wheelchairs and remove their prpsth- eses at the beach before taking a plunge. Once you have desensitized yourself, comments or stares no longer will be stressful." The title of the book is "Taking Charge." The publisher is Times Books. The price is $22 (in Canada, $29). It could be the most valuable gift you will ever give. Dear Ann Landers: I have a gripe. The clothing manufacturers put too many labels on the collars of men's shirts. They put the brand name on one, another tag gives the size, another has washing instructions, and yet another tag indicates it is "union made." The first thing I have to do when I buy a shirt is cut off these tags because if I don't, they irritate my neck and drive me nuts. Why don't the manufacturers put these tags on the bottom of the shirt? I apologize for taking up your time with such a trivial problem, but if you could get this message out to the clothing manufacturers, I am sure that millions of people would be grateful. — Richard in Illinois Dear Richard: No apologies are necessary. Your complaint is a valid one and I printed a similar letter several years ago. Unfortunately, no one in the industry picked up on it WAKE UP OUT THERE. Your customers have a legitimate beef. ; Letters to Ann Landers should be mailed to P.O. Box 11562, Chicago, IL 60611-0562. SUNDAY EVENING MONDAY, APRIL 10,1995 HAPPY BIRTHDAY! IN THE NEXT YEAR OF YOUR LIFE: Stop acting quite so independent and make an effort to impress those in a position to help you. Your ability to organize and manage special projects is a tremendous asset. Adopt a positive approach to resolving family disputes. Holding grudges can be bad for your health! Powerful allies will be especially supportive early in 1996. Happy romance depends on your attitude. Take mate into your confidence. CELEBRITIES BORN ON THIS DATE: sportscasters John Madden, actor Harry Morgan, bridge expert Omar Sharif, martial artist Steven Seagal. ARIES (March 21-April 19): Prepare to accelerate to maximum speed! Sitting on the fence gets you nowhere. Become a decision-maker; you know the score! Check with experts before changing your financial plans or investments. TAURUS (April 20-May 20): Return to your original financial plan. Your business savvy will help you outsmart the competition. Stay within a budget. You need to watch your language and actions, especially when dealing with conservative people. GEMINI (May 21-June 20): The emphasis is on salvaging things and making do with what you have at hand. A long-range financial security program enjoys highly favorable influences. CANCER (June 21-July 22): Be all that you can be. Getting involved with a service organization or community campaign will hone your organizational skills. Your partner may wield the power in your relationship. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): Meet any problems head-on. You need to know exactly what you are facing. A bad habit can be conquered with other people's help. Count on tomorrow's bringing some welcome answers. Affection grows. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): A romantic relationship begins to heat up. Your spirits rise. Someone special is wrapped around your little finger. Loosening your grip on the purse strings could save a relationship. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Success beckons! Approach authority figures about an important financial project. Open-minded types will be eager to hear what you have to say. Keep any romantic relationships low-key. SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Mixing business with pleasure could prove embarrassing. Attend to unfinished work before starting new projects. Little will hold you back once you clarify your intentions. Visit someone confined to a hospital or nursing home. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Although travel is expensive, a face-to-face meeting will work out best. Your reputation gives you several advantages over the competition. Be compassionate. Listen to a child's concerns, then reach out to help. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Stop dwelling on the past. Your heart needs time to mend. Give a new relationship a chance to mature at its own pace. It would be a mistake to turn your back on family and friends. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Have no qualms about taking on more responsibilities. You can handle it! A raise or promotion is in the works. Avoid acting temperamental with either employers or employees. Stay informed about rapidly shifting events. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): Travel for educational purposes or to settle a legal matter. A parent- child conflict can be resolved if you make the first move. Go more than halfway to re-establish peace. Opinionated remarks could boomerang. 7-nn I 7-30 I 8:00 I 8:30J 9:00 I 9:30 110:00H0:30111:00 Movie: * * * * "The Sound of Music" (19651 Julie Andrews. Christopher Plurnmer. Q ol Music" (1965) Julie Andrews. Christopher Plummer. A Robin Hood: Prince ot Thieves" (1991) K 60MJnules A SJ] IMovIe: * * * "Robin Hood: Prince o( Thieves" (1991) Kevin Coslner. * * * x "The Ten Commandments" (1956. Drama) Charllon Heslon, Yul Brvnner Mnv | P '.. * * *«"Th, T,n commandments" (1956. Drama) Charllon Heslon. Yul Banner. Q Line Special Debate: Suing MasleraieceTheatfe Nature: Nomads-Wind Hercules-Jrnys Upstairs, Downstairs Movie: * *"Uke Father. Uke Son" (1987) NHL Hockey: Sharks at Oilers Sliders "Fever" (R) SB Slar Trek: Next Gener | Simpsons Hawkeye "The Ally" (R) Star Trek: Voyager (R| Lonesome Dove-Series America's Castles: The Age ol Invention (R) Movie: * * * "Foul Play" (197B, Comedy] ) Movie: ***'/, "The Parallax View 1 ; High School Basketball: RoundballCI Movie: * *»"Annie" (1982. Musical) Albert Finney "Murder So Sweet" (1993) "Dracula" |Movie: **** "Frankenstein National Geographic Explorer BB iQutdoors Paid Prog. iPaldProg. IPaJdProg, (:05) American Sports Cavalcade (fl) Geronlmo" (1962, Western] (5:00) "Geronimo" Lifestyles (R) PREMIUM CHANNELS Tekwar 'Killer Instinct" I Replay NewsE) Tekwar'Chill Factor* Night Court [Highlander: (:15) Movie: * * * "3 Godfathers" (1948) John Wayne. Tekwar (R) A H ISilkStalkings(R)E) jStalkings DISN Avonlea (R) A EL "Ma Li IMovIe: * * * "Escape to Witch Mountain" A = ^ ' ** "Ace Ventura: Pet Detective" l"Bell Book Cnd" \ Gnome Named Gnorm" Movie: ** "Midnight Kiss" (:45) Movie: * * X "Intersection" (1994) 'R Movie: *»' SHOW iMovie: * * "A Home ol Our Own" (19931 A IMovIe: * * * "Tombstone" (1993) 'R 1 El GD GE) -tor Ft. Bragg AMendocino viewers only .SJ 63 EB -lor TIA only TODAY'S CHILDREN are enterprising, energetic and ambitious! If they use these traits wisely, they will go far! Fond of a challenge, these Aries will be undaunted by any problems they encounter in their work. In fact, it is when things run too smoothly that these Aries sometimes become bored and restless. In love with love, they often enjoy numerous romantic pairings in their teens and 20s. A marriage after age 30 has the best chance of lasting a lifetime. Quotes of the week Associated Pr*M Selected comments of the past week by people making news in California: "The prosecution to me, from what I've seen so far, is just spinning wheels.... To be perfectly honest with you, I see a hung jury." — Jeanette Harris, an O.J. Simpson trial juror dismissed Wednesday after nearly three months of hearing testimony. "He came across as really cocky and kind of arrogant ... A person that doesn't care to me is capable of probably anything." — Former juror Harris on the testimony of LAPD Detective Mark Fuhrman, portrayed by the defense as a racist who could have planted a bloody glove at O.I. Simpson's estate. "Mr. Goldberg, before we go too much further, please accept my apologies to you if I seem irritated. This day has not gone well. We started with many different arguments over many contentious items and it's been a bad day today ...So don't take it personally, but you're not making my job any easier." •— Superior Court Judge Lane* Ito after admonishing Deputy District Attorney Hank Goldberg over violations of a court order barring lawyers from showing the jury a luggage tag and plane ticket. "Frankly, even if this was intended as a joke, a coroner who would make a joke about killing nine or 10 lawyers, one year after the tragedy of what happened in San Francisco when a gunman went into the offices of a law firm and shot eight or nine people. It's just not a funny joke. And if it's a joke, let the jury hear it and let them decide what bearing that has on whether they should give weight and credibility to the opinions of this expert witness." —Defense attorney Gerald Uelman, on a report deputy coroner Irwin Golden had waved a pistol last summer at the coroner's office and made a statement about killing lawyers. "/ was not in any way expecting that I would be standing here talking to you about running for president. At that lime, there were a number of people who have my admiration who have since taken themselves out of the presidential sweepstakes: Jack Kemp, Dick Cheney, Bill Bennett, Dan Quayle." — Gov. Pete Wilson, explaining why he is running for the Republican nomination for president after pledging during his reelection campaign last year he would not do so. "They want more chrome." —John Bacon, a spokesman for Save-Mart, referring to what he called a "Rolls Royce" of health care benefits that union workers receive. Health benefits and a pay raise are among issues in a strike that affects 208 Safeway stores and may lead to a company lockout at 180 Lucky stores and 17 Save Mart stores in Northern California Saturday. "If we can't change the way we're doing business to compete, some of these stores may not even be in business." —Mark Murray, a spokesman for management at Safeway, Lucky and Save-Mart stores. « "The education scores released'[ today are absolutely unacceptable • to me, and I am certain, to every '. parent in the state." — Gov. Pete Wilson on results ; of the 1994 California Learning Assessment System tests that showed more than half of fourth, eighth and 10th graders in California schools performed at barely proficient levels. Wilson and Secretary of Education Maureen DiMarco called for a retuu§Uo teaching of "basic foundation skills" in reading and mathematics.

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