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Communily ASHEVILLE CITIZEN-TIMES Sunday, April 7. 1985 Section WeddingsEngagements MedicineHealth Advice 4i Rhododendron TV mi---- m. H. m. jm a 4 Announced Nancy Brower Jane Verderber Finds New Life 1 1 knew the Lord would always lake care of me," Jane Ver- 'Is TV Lderber said, "but I didn't know I'd be this happy." Jane Verderber, widowed in riii inrv i ma u111 itn murnwi nnni -iiV.

27 to Albert Isenhof whose wife died -last year. VJhan luna'c hncHiinrl AiaA sne leu ner life naa enaea. me neip Crowning Of King, Queen To HighHght Coronation- Festivities Thirty-five young women will be presented by the Rhododendron Royal Brigade of Guards at its 53rd annual Coronation Festivities on June 6, 7 and 8. King of the Mythical Realm of Rhododendron will be John Deming Ellis a student at Appalachian State University. He is the son of Mr.

and Mrs. John D. Ellis Sr. of Asheville. Rhododendron Queen will be Eleanor Sedberry Field, daughter of Mrs.

Arthur J. Field of Asheville and the late Mr. Field. She is a student at SL Mary's College. Debutantes to be presented at the Coronation Ball, the culmination of a week's round of private and brigade parties, are pictured here.

,.1 f.l itfH United showed her- differently. "When something happens in your life that depresses you so much you think there is no way out, don't lose hope," she said. "We can't see around the corner, but there are good things wailing for us." Jane's husband struggled against cancer for years while she cared for him in their Echo Hills home. "Hospice helped me," she said. "He was never in the hospital.

Even though I was expecting his death, when it actually I thought was oyet toot 4 HTjP Eleanor Sedberry Field John Deming Ellis Jr. i 6c -fri i ptJF- a very my life; I had sheltered life," she rSJ3 si B'lolotlHven when I was married, my husband took care of all the business. When we knew he would not get well and that I would be on my own, he taught me to balance the checkbook and drilled me in all the things I M4 Lisa Rogers Martin, UNC-Chapel MiU, daughter of Dr. and Mrs. Dennis L.

Martin of AsheviUe. Katharine Johnson Candler, St. Mary's College, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. John S.

Candler of Brevard. Frances Elizabeth Baker. UNC-Chapel MM, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Charles II.

Baker of Waynesville. Isabel Helnltsh Nichols, St. Mary's CoUege, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. John 1..

Nichols Jr. of Brevard. Alkla Anne Sherman, a utter Fashion College, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. John J.

Sherman Jr. of Asheville. Suzanne (iratton lleywood, Agues Scott College, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Harvey M.

lleywood Jr. of AsheviUe. S. 9 would have to do as executrix of his will. I was so grateful for this." Jane, a former employee of the AsheviUe Citizen-Times, read a notice of the first meeting of Christian Singles United.

"I talked with Lucille Tucker. VERDERBER we Kelly Lynn McClaln, Wake Forest, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. C. Henry McClain of AsheviUe.

Rebecca Jo Cole, Western Carolina University, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. F. Jack Cole of AsheviUe. Stacia Lynn Holt, N.C.

State, daughter of Dr. and Mrs. Stanley E. Holt of AsheviUe. Sallle Kate Sprague, Salem CoUege, daughter of Mr.

and Mrs. Peter II. Sprague of AsheviUe. Laura Chadwick Pease, UNC-Chapel Ilia daughter of Mr. and Mrs.

Franklin Stuart Pease Jr. of Chatham, N.J. Sara Beth Bennett, HoUins College, daughter of Mrs. Grady O. Bennett Jr.

or Asheville and the late Mr. Bennett. P5 I (illda Krlstlna McDanlel, UNC-Chapel MiU, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Molcombe C.

McDaniel of AsheviUe. Julia Broylcs Norton Hunter. UNCA, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. James W.

Hunter of Asheville. Rachel Belt Stroud. UNC-Chapel IliU. daughter of Dr. and Mrs.

Walter L. Stroud Jr. of Weaverviue. Sarah llardlson Covington. UNC-Chapel Mill, daughter of Mr.

and Mrs. T.J. Covington III of WeaverviUe. Elizabeth Anne Boerner, UNC-Chapel Mill, daughter of Dr. and Mrs.

Robert M. Boerner of AsheviUe. Jennifer Jane Pickering, Vanderbilt. daughter of Mr. and Mrs.

George W. Pickering of Black Mountain. 'jS if -y 1 I 1 am vy 1 ,4 I 1 I explained my situation to her and, over the phone, we prayed together. As she prayed, I realized the Lord still had a plan for my life." A few days later, Jane attended the group's monthly dinner meeting. "Lucille and Sarah Dunn, the director, took me under their wings.

A month later, I became editor of the newsletter for the group. This helped me keep busy and get back into the swing of life. "Christian Singles United is not a dating service as some assume," Jane said. "It's main purpose is to reach qui in love to touch lives that arT 'rinding from others in the group that diyorce.hurts more than the death of a loved one. "CSU is meet every month for dinner, a pro gram of music and a speaker.

This summer, we are going to suspend our dinner meetings and instead take short lours and have covered-dish dinners and small gatherings in members' homes. "In the beginning, CSU was primarily for senior citizens. Now we have people from their 20s to 80s. We'd like more men to come to these meetings. Women always seem to reach out in their sorrow, but men don't look for companionship." About 150 people, most of them women, attend CSU meetings, which are open to the public.

Knd Of Isolation The group put Jane In touch with others after the isolation surrounding her husband's long Illness and "I talked with other women. Although they had been widows longer than I had, they could not pick up the loose ends of their lives. They dwelt on their sorrow. I was, even before I met Albert, able to make new friends. I got a part-time job.

I was able to find new inter-' esls in life and not Just sit at home and feel sorry for myself." In November, mutual friends introduced Jane to 'Albert Isenhof a retired land developer who lives in Leicester. His wife had died in June. "I might say that meeting him just changed my life completely, because he introduced me to things I had never experienced before. He lives In the country and we walked In the woods, waded In the creek and petted the cows. "He just enjoys God's creation so much," Jane continued.

"He has three sons and I have three daughters. We plan to travel a lot. We are going to Alaska on our honeymoon." Jane credits CSU with giving her the support to resume life when she had given up. "Two members of CSU are going to participate in our wedding. The organist at Oak Forest Presbyterian Church, Helen Rosner, Is going to play the organ.

Floral designer Retly Hyman is going to do all the bouquets." For more information on CSU, contact Surah Dunn, 274-2607. Margaret Eleanor Ivey, Duke, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. David P. Ivey of AsheviUe.

Mlkell Abbott Mlddleton, Salem CoUege, daughter of Abbott Middleton of Charleston, and SaUie Ellington Middleton of Asheville. Amanda Javne Weaver, A-B Tech, daughter of Dr. Zebulon Weaver III of Asheville. Melissa Anne Boring, N.C. State, daughter of Mr.

and Mrs. James D. Boring of Fletcher. Cynthia Kay Crews, UNC-Chapel IliU, daughter of Dr. and Mrs.

II. Dennlston Crews of Asheville. Cynthia Lynn Presley, St. Mary's CoUege, daughter of Mr. and Mrs.

Eugene L. Presley of AsheviUe. 4 Heidi Lynn Jones, Appalachian Slate, daughlpr of Dr. and Mrs. C.

Kdgar Jones of AsheviUe. Meredith Austin Miller, UNC-Chapel Hill, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. James H. Miller of AsheviUe.

Melissa Ann Butler, Clemson, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Ronald S. Butler of Asheville. Kathryn Kelly (lallaRher, UNC-Cha)el Mill, daughter of Dr.

and Mrs. Timothy J. Gallagher of AsheviUe. Virginia Randolph Ramsey. UNC-Chapel Hill, daughter of Mr.

and Mrs. Gayle E. Ramsey of Brevard. 1 Rebecca Blxbv Weaver, NC-Greensboro. daughlor of Dr.

Zebulon Weaver III of AsheviUe. 1 Karen Lynn Wood, Catawba College, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Arch K. Wood of Asheville.

Saundri Lee Kltch, College of Charleston, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. (ierald C. Kltch of Asheville. MargEvt Ann Morris, UNC-Chapel Mill, daughter of Dr.

and Mrs. A. Sherman Morris Jr. of AsheviUe. Catherine Ann Cagle, UNC-Chapel IliU, daughter of Mr.

and Mm. William B. Cagle Sr. of Asheville. Ashley Michelle Hanks, daughter of Mr.

and Mrs. W. Neal Hanks of Asheville. 1.