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D2 SATURDAY. NOYKMBKR 10. 2u0" THE DESERT SUN FEATURES DOONESBURY Coping with musical performance anxiety JWUHAVeiWIlUW 5, 1 W5MLLL5AVETH5-IWSA9T INFLAMES NULGREffr. HBY-J POXXKNCW DWXfTA5K HOW LONG HIM DOM iKintPTAING? SUCCESSORS 082d -7 i 19 I II i. USC Keck School of Medicine, will speak.

You'll get to hear a discussion of the causes of musical performance anxiety and strategies to help overcome them. You may learn some new skills many of the principles covered can be applied to stressful "non-musical" situations, organizers said. Cost is $10 per person For more details, contact Ruth Moir, president of the Steinway Society of Riverside County, at 341-4130. News staff report Everyone suffers from performance anxiety now and then anxiety of the musical variety. A workshop, "Performance Anxiety," will take place at 1 1 a.m.

Nov. 1 5 at Steinway Gallery, Prosser Piano, 71-587 Highway 111, Rancho Mirage. Nancy Bricard, professor emerita and former chair of keyboard studies at USC Thorton School of Music, and Dr. Sher-wyn Woods, M.D., Ph.D., professor emeritus of psychiatry and the behavioral sciences at "Tip 1M Loss of a child causes daughter to act out 'Stalker' priest held 4 i the health risks this may be presenting. I cringe when I have to handle documents after Alexa does, and I become sick to my stomach when she chews her cuticles when we're conversing.

How should I handle this? Grossed out in Baltimore DEAR GROSSED OUT: Your coworker appears to either be a nervous wreck or be suffering from OCD. Because she is bleeding on the documents others must work with, it's time to discuss this problem with your supervisor. Even if the woman is in the best of health, there is the "ick" factor to consider, and people should not have to handle documents she has processed with saliva on her fingers. DEAR ABBY: I have a 30-year-old daughter who was happily married to a man she loved. My daughter and son-in-law worked in information technology for many years and did well at It Because of their Intensive work schedules they decided to start a family only last year.

When my daughter conceived, our families were overjoyed. Unfortunately, after only 2'A months, my daughter miscarried. She was so upset about it that she decided to return to the country we had emigrated from. Three months after that, she became Involved with a man she knew from her childhood. She returned to the U.S.

and said she wanted to separate from her husband. It was a shock to us and everyone who loves her. We tried to pacify her and begged her to seek counseling. She refused to discuss It Without further discussion, she filed for divorce. I am acquainted with the man she got involved with.

His mother and I were close friends. He never completed his education, has no regular source of income and used to abuse From what you have told me about your daughter's new love interest, she is making a huge mistake. However, because she refuses to accept counseling, I see no way to prevent it. Her husband may be able to slow down the divorce process, but he cannot stop it. If you love your daughter, as I am sure you do, I can only advise you to be there for her in the coming months and years, because her road will not be an easy one.

DEAR ABBY: One of my co-workers, "Alexa," has a habit of biting her nails and chewing on her cuticles when she's talking to people. I'm sure it's Just a nervous habit, but I am concerned because her fingers bleed from chewing on them so often. Alexa and I work in an office that deals with a lot of paperwork, and I often work directly with her on projects. The habit itself is one thing, but because her fingers are constantly bleeding, I'm worried about New York jail, but declined to comment except to say "it will be worked out in court." Ajemian, who allegedly began writing O'Brien in September 2006, has been placed on leave by the Boston Archdiocese and can't minister publicly. He was removed in June from his last posting, at St.

Patrick Parish in Stone-ham, after two years at the parish. A spokesman at the archdiocese did not respond to questions about whether the move was related to the stalking allegations. But on July 2, Ajemian wrote security officials at NBC questioning "why you chose to raise this matter with my superiors after I left you a clear message by phone several weeks ago that I would cease all contact with the show," according to court papers. In the same letter, he called himself "a stalker of a very different order than the kind you are used to dealing with" and dared them to "tell Conan about your surveillance of me." By Jay Lindsay SSOi I.MHI1 PKl-vs Wklll-K BOSTON The priest accused of stalking Conan O'Brien was kind and caring, nothing like the obsessed man who allegedly told the late-night talk show host he was "tracking him through space and time," his seminary mentor said. The Rev.

David Ajemian, a priest in the Archdiocese of Boston, was arrested last week while trying to enter a taping of "Late Night with Conan O'Brien" in New York City despite being warned to stay away by NBC security personnel. He was arraigned on charges including stalking and aggravated harassment and ordered held for psychiatric evaluation. Ajemian, 46, was scheduled to appear in court Friday for an update on the case, said Jennifer Kushner, a spokeswoman for the Manhattan prosecutor's office. His attorney, Eric SeifF, said Ajemian was being held at a Dear Abby his mother. I was shocked that my daughter would get involved with such a person and so quickly.

I told my daughter to be patient, that if she wanted a separation from her husband, she couid do ft without getting involved with that young man. She is adamant that she will do as she likes. She says she wants to be independent of all family ties and lead her own life. Please advise us. I don't know what our family and her husband should do.

Unhappy mother in the East DEAR UNHAPPY MOTHER: It's sad, but sometimes marriages do end over the loss of a child. The grief is so deep that instead of drawing the parents together, it pulls them apart. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

Juan Luis Guerra wins 5 trophies to sweep Latin Grammys in Las Vegas List of winners at Thursday's 8th Annual Latin Grammy Awards Record of the year "La Uave De Mi Corazon," Juan Luis Guerra 440. Song of the year: "La Uave De Mi Corazon," Juan Luis Guerra, (Juan Luis Guerra 440). Album of the year. "La Llave Bryndis. Tejano album: "Evoluciones," Los Palominos.

Norteno album: "En Vivo," Michael Salgado. Regional Mexican Song: "A Las Escondidas," Freddie Martinez (Joe Lopez with Jimmy Gonzalez and Grupo Mazz). Christian album: "Caminho De Milagres," Aline Barros. Brazilian contemporary pop album: "Acustico MTV," Lenine. Brazilian rock album: "Acustico MTV," Lobao.

SambaPagode album: "Acustico MTV 2 Gafieira," Zeca Pagodinho. MPB (Musica Popular Braslleira) album: "Ao Vivo," Leny Andrade Cesar Camargo Mariano. Romantic music album: "Etemamente Cauby Peixoto 55 Anos De Carreira," Cauby Peixoto. Brazilian RootsRegional album: "Bale Mulato Ao Vivo," Daniela Mercury. Brazilian song (Portuguese language): "Nao Me Arrependo," Caetano Veloso (Caetano Veloso).

Instrumental album: 'The Enchantment," Chick Corea and Bela Reck. Folk album: "Un Fuego De Sangre Pura," Los Gaiteros De San Jacinto From Colombia. Rock solo vocal album: "El Mundo Cabe En Una Cancion," Fito Paez. Rock album by a duo or group with vocal: "Kamikaze," Rabanes. Rock song: "La Excepcion," Gustavo Cerati.

Alternative music album: "Oye," Aterciopelados. Alternative song: "Me Uaman Calle," Manu Chao, (Manu Chao). Salsa album: "Arroz Con Habichuela," El Gran Combo De Puerto Rico. Merengue album: Juan Luis Guerra 440. CumbiaVallenato album: "Son Para El Mundo," Jorge Celedon and Jimmy Zambrano.

Contemporary tropical album: "Fuzionando," Oscar D'Leon. Traditional tropical album: "Romanticos De Ayer, Hoy Siempre," Bobby Cruz. Tropical song: "La Uave De Mi Corazon," Juan Luis Guerra, (Juan Luis Guerra 440). Singer-songwriter album: "Ce," Caetano Veloso." Ranchero album: "Enamorado," Pepe Aguilar. Banda album: "Desatados," Los Horoscopos De Durango.

Grupero album: "Solo Pienso En Ti," Grupo Tango album: Te Amo Tango," Raul Jaurena. Flamenco album: Techari," Ojos De Brujo. Latin jazz album: "Rumba Palace," Arturo Sandoval. Christian album (Spanish Language): "Alegria," Marcos Witt. Latin children's album: "Como Se Uega A Belen," Voz Veis.

Classical album: (tie) "Beethoven Abertura Consagragao Da Casa Sinfonia No. 6," John Neschling, conductor, John Neschling, producer. "La Cancion Romantica Espanola," Montserrat Caballe, Carlos Caballe, producer. Short form music video: "Ven A Mi Casa Esta Navidad," Voz Veis. Long form music video: "MTV Unplugged," Ricky Martin.

Recording package: "Los Vallenatos De Andres," Catalina Diez, art director (Various Artists). Engineered album: "La Llave De Mi Corazon," Allan Leschhorn, Luis Mansilla and Ronnie Torres, engineers, Adam Ayan, mastering engineer, (Juan Luis Guerra 440). De Mi Corazon," Juan Luis Guerra 440. New artist Jesse Joy. Female pop vocal album: To Canto," Laura Pausini.

Male pop vocal album: "MTV Unplugged," Ricky Martin. Pop album by a duo or group with vocal: "El Mundo 4 if Martin By Alex Vkiga ASSOCIATED PKhSS UKI'IhK LAS VEGAS You could say the deck was stacked in Juan Luis Guerra's favor before the prolific singer-songwriter ever got to Sin City and came away with a jackpot of Latin Grammy trophies. The Dominican superstar had a show-leading five nominations heading into the 8th Annual Latin Grammy Awards on Thursday and won them all, including the most-coveted trifec-ta: album of the year, record of the year and song of the year. The singer and his band, 440, also won trophies for best merengue album and tropical song for their album, "La Llave De Mi Corazon," and its title track. A master of songcraft known for taking traditional genres and making them his own, Guerra bested a roster of Latin music's new order, including Ricky Martin, Shakira and reggaeton stars Calle 13.

That is no small feat at a time when reggaeton, pop and even alternative rock in Spanish are increasingly capturing favor with young fans of Latin music. "I have a lot of confidence in tropical music, the genres I work in salsa, merengue and bacha-ta," Guerra told reporters back- Se Equivoca," La Quinta Estacion. Producer of the yean Sebastian Krys. Urban music album: "Residente 0 Visitante," Calle 13. Urban song: "Pal Norte," Panasuyo and Calle 13, songwriters (Calle 13 featuring Orishas).

and Bose and Paulina Rubio. Praise for "La Llave" also extended to its production, as the album garnered the award for best engineered album. Guerra also was named the Latin Recording Academy's person of the year in recognition of his career and personal stage. "Merengue will never go out of style, nor will salsa or bachata, they are established genres." For a while it looked as if Martin and Calle 13 might spoil Guerra's chances. Each had four nominations going into the awards.

Both picked up two trophies. Guerra's dominance took a staples. Later, reggaeton star Daddy Yankee performed "Ella Me Levanto," flanked by scantily clad "Folies Bergere" showgirls in colorful feather headpieces. Calle 1 3 and Cuban hip-hop group Orishas also got into the Vegas theme, taking the stage back-to-back with dancers of backseat only to the onstage spectacle rolled out for the award show's Las Vegas debut. Martin opened the show with a rousing medley of "Lola" and "La Bomba," while the Blue Man Group added its signature frenetic dance visuals.

It was one of the show's several mash-ups of nominees and Las Vegas Strip "HavanaNightShow" and drummers from the show "Stomp Out Loud." Guerra edged out Miguel Bose, Calle 1 3, Martin and Alejandro Sanz for the album of the year prize. Among the artists he bested for his record of the year win were Martin and other superstars: Beyonce and Shakira, CUSTOM HOME LOANS PREPARED TO ORDER. jj.a09roj Yon Wells Artificial knee joints designed with thinner profile contoured shape-based on female anatomy Discussion of minimally invasive surgical techniques By Raj Sinha, MD Board Certified in Orthopaedic Surgery Member Zimmer Implant Research Team Senior Loan Consultant (760) 862-4846 or issai 925-7475 yon.wellswamu.net Specialize in Custom Homes and Contruction Loans Washington Mutual HOME LOANS WE CREATE HOME LOANS TO SUIT YOUR NEEDS, NOT OURS. GIVE ME A CALL. Bar FA many statw.

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