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2004:06:22:14:58:45 E12 CALENDAR LOSANGELESTIMES TELEVISION REGENCY FOOTHILL CINEMA 10 854 E. Alosta Ave. of Alosta Azuza (626)334-6007 DODGEBALL: A TRUE UNDERDOG STORY 1:15, 3:15, 5:30, 7:45, 9:45 THE CHRONICLES OF RIDDICK 12, 2:30, 5, 7:30, 9:55 THE DAY AFTER TOMORROW 1, 4, 7, 9:40 SHREK 2 (PG) 12, 1:15, 2:15, 3:30, 4:30, 5:45, 7, 8, 9:15, 9:55 SOUL PLANE (R) 12, 2, 4, 6, 8:15, 10:05 NEW YORK MINUTE (PG) 3, 5, 7, 9 SCOOBY-DOO 2: MONSTERS UNLEASHED (PG) 12:30, 2:30, 4:30, 6:30, 8:30 13 GOING ON 30 12, 2, 4, 6, 8, 9:55 VAN HELSING 3, 7:45 JOHNSON FAMILY VACATION 12:45, 5:45 THE PRINCE ME (PG) 12:30 FLAGSHIP UNIVERSITY VILLAGE 3 3323 S. Hoover(213)748-6321 WHITE CHICKS 11:50, 2:25) 5, 7:35, 10:10 DODGEBALL: A TRUE UNDERDOG STORY 11:15, 1:30, 3:45) 6, 8:15, 10:30 SHREK 2 (PG) 12:20, 2:40) 5, 7:20, 9:40 Advance Tickets on Sale Now: SPIDERMAN 2 (MIDNIGHT TUESDAY) WHITTER VILLAGE STADIUM 8 7038 Greenleaf AROUND THE WORLD IN 80 DAYS (PG) 11:45, 2:25, 5:05, 7:55, 10:35 THE TERMINAL 11:50, 2:30, 5:10, 7:50, 10:25 THE STEPFORD WIVES 12:05, 2, 4, 5:55, 7:55, 9:55 HARRY POTTER AND THE PRISONER OF AZKABAN (PG) 11:45, 12:30, 2:40, 3:25, 5:35, 6:20, 8:30, 9:15 THE CHRONICLES OF RIDDICK 12, 2:30, 5, 7:30, 10 RAISING HELEN 12:20, 5:55 SHREK 2 (PG) 12:45, 2:55, 5:05, 7:15, 9:25 TROY (R) 2:45, 8:15 RUGRATS IN PARIS-THE MOVIE (G) 10 A.M. ACADEMY 6 THEATRES 1003 E.

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Perhaps because the facts of presidency cannot be in dispute, much of the frenzy surrounding this publication has come to center on what is called character though in case, character conundrum might be more apt. The story of the future troubled childhood home life with an alcoholic stepfather who abused his mother and threatened thetwo sons, is by now well known. But consider the conclusion Bill Clinton the middle-aged man says he drew from that experience: question of secrets is one thought about a lot over the years. We all have them and I think entitled to them. They make our lives more interesting, and when we decide to share them, our relationships become more meaningful.

The place where secrets are kept can also provide a haven, a retreat from the rest of the world, where identity can be shaped and reaffirmed, where being alone can bring security and peace. Still, secrets can be an awful burden to bear, especially if some sense of shame is attached to them, even if the source of the shame is not the secret holder. Or the allure of our secrets can be too strong, strong enough to make us feel we live without them, that we even be who we are without Note the confusion between privacy, which is an irreducible component of a mature and healthy life, and secrecy, which while sometimes expedient, can be viciously destructive when it involves withholding from others what they are entitled to know. Note furtherthe notion of simultaneous lives not private and public, but public and secret. Much that needlessly convulsed this nation and did incalculable harm flowed from the unconsciously revelatory admission in this passage.

It is this duality that makes Clinton seem so dodgy when he comes to issues of responsibility during key moments of his presidency. For example, he attributes the appalling disaster at the Branch Davidian compound near Waco, Texas, to taking bad advice from Atty. Gen. Janet Reno and counselor George Stephanopoulos. Waco, I resolved to go with my Clinton writes.

Similarly, what he describes as of the darkest days of my the disastrous Somali incursion, began with his approval of a plan by Colin L. Powell, then chairman of the Joint Chiefs of arrest warlord Mohammed Farah Ai- did. According to Clinton, the whole effort fell apart because of incoherence among the U.S. commanders. And, though the former president accepts responsibility for the 19 American servicemen killed and dozens wounded, it is as in the case of Waco responsibility without blame.

So, too, with his halting approach to the crisis in Bosnia. Nothing, however, quite matches his description of his role in what many consider the greatest postwar moral collapse failure to halt the Rwandan genocide. Clinton devotes just two paragraphs to that debacle, though he calls the failure of the greatest regrets of my In some ways, Clinton is at his most interesting when he lets himself get in touch with his inner political infighter. As a candidate, he always possessed what campaign professionals refer to as high RLC (The acronym stands for rat-like cunning, a quality much admired among veteran political handlers.) A poor kid like Clinton has to cultivate his own RLC; inherited money of the Bush sort rents it from guys like Lee Atwater and Karl Rove. book is studded with well- aimed, nicely dismissive digs at right-wing Republicans and rampaging special prosecutors, and then this shot at the press and its treatment of campaign finance reform: the press objected to the influence of money on campaigns, though most of the money was spent on media advertising.

Unless we were to legislate free or reduced- cost airtime, which the media generally opposed, or to adopt public financing of campaigns, an option with little public or congressional support, the media would continue to be the largest consumer of campaign dollars, even as they pilloried politicians for raising the funds to pay nifty, especially coming from somebody who practically operated the White House like a bed-and-breakfast for well-heeled contributors. But anybody who likes to mix it up has got to admire the footwork. With a master, which Clinton remains, politics like boxing is asweet science. Still a relatively young man, Clinton has lived a life filled with significant and dramatic events. Yet his thoughts on it are curiously shallow, products of that inner paradox that has rendered so much of the inner life impersonal and self-absorbed at the same time.

In that, Clinton is emblematic of his generation in a way he never intended. Some of what stood between him and a genuinely and fully personal consideration of his time and his place in it may be a habit of duality and secrecy. At a deep level, he seems to believe that himself. Perhaps when Clinton the candidate and, in some sense, he was ever that spoke of feeling pain, it sounded so convincing because he actually preferred it to his own. In there are hints, but no answers to such questions.

Socrates instructed us that the unexamined life is not worth living. As it turns out, the superficially examined life is only fitfully worth reading. Concern over not privacy Clinton, from Page E1 Spencer Platt Getty Images IN DEMAND: Barnes Noble stacks copies of President autobiography for customers at a New York store. Here are the rankings for national prime-time network television last week (June 14-20) as compiled by Nielsen Media Research. They are based on the average number of people who watched a program from start to finish.

Nielsen estimates there are 272.04 million potential viewers in the U.S. age 2 and older. Viewership is listed in millions. Program Network View- ersProgram Network Viewers 1NBA Finals: Game 5ABC21.84 2 60 MinutesCBS15.77 3 CSICBS14.12 4 CSI: MiamiCBS14.05 5 Without a TraceCBS12.84 --------------------------------------------6 Law OrderNBC11.81 7 Cold CaseCBS11.41 8 Everybody Loves Raymond CBS11.36 9 Two and Half MenCBS11.02 10 Last Comic Standing NBC10.37 --------------------------------------------11 Law Order: SVUNBC10.33 12 Navy NCISCBS9.80 13 Simple Life 2FOX9.76 14 Last Comic Standing (Wed.) NBC9.75 15 CSI: Miami --------------------------------------------16 Dateline: NBC 17 Law Order: Criminal Intent NBC9.29 18 Fear FactorNBC9.11 19 60 Minutes 20 Crossing JordanNBC8.92 --------------------------------------------21 48 Hours MysteryCBS8.39 King of QueensCBS8.39 23 Simple Life 2FOX8.29 24 Method and RedFOX8.27 25 House --------------------------------------------26 NBA Hangtime Finals: Game 5 ABC7.34 27 Yes, DearCBS7.20 28 For Love or Money 3NBC7.15 29 QuintsFOX7.12 30 Las Vegas --------------------------------------------31 Still StandingCBS6.85 32 48 Hours InvestigatesCBS6.79 33 Most WantedFOX6.62 34 35 WeddingsABC6.50 --------------------------------------------36 Fear Factor 37 Judging AmyCBS6.17 38 North ShoreFOX5.92 39 CasinoFOX5.80 40 Primetime ThursdayABC5.72 --------------------------------------------41 ERNBC5.66 42 My Wife and KidsABC5.59 43 Extreme Makeover (9 p.m.) ABC5.55 44 8 Simple RulesABC5.49 Last Comic Standing 8 p.m.) NBC5.49 --------------------------------------------46 FriendsNBC5.46 Next Action StarNBC5.46 48 The GuardianCBS5.45 49Cops (8:30 p.m.)FOX5.44 50 Extreme MakeoverABC5.40 --------------------------------------------51 JAGCBS5.25 52 Will GraceNBC5.14 How to Get the ABC5.14 54 George LopezABC5.09 55 --------------------------------------------56 Hope Faith 57 CopsFOX4.97 58 My Wife and Kids 59 Action 60 The SimpsonsFOX4.91 --------------------------------------------61 According to Jim 62 63 George Lopez Funniest Home Videos ABC4.60 65 WWE --------------------------------------------66 Hope FaithABC4.39 67 68 Bernie Mac (8:30 p.m.)FOX4.29 69 Married to the KellysABC4.27 Joan of ArcadiaCBS4.27 --------------------------------------------71 ScrubsNBC4.26 72 Come to PapaNBC4.25 73 Superstar USAWB4.24 74 Last Comic Standing 7:35 p.m.) NBC4.23 75 The JuryFOX4.18 --------------------------------------------76 Crime and Punishment 3NBC4.04 77 Bernie MacFOX3.96 78 Drew Carey Show (9:30 p.m.) ABC3.93 79 Drew Carey ShowABC3.84 80 Malcolm in the MiddleFOX3.80 --------------------------------------------81 Life With BonnieABC3.73 82 North Shore The Ultimate Love TestABC3.57 84 Quints 85 Summerland at 87 88 RebaWB3.25 89Reba (9:30 p.m.)WB3.23 90 Tru CallingFOX2.97 --------------------------------------------91 7th HeavenWB2.70 92 King of the HillFOX2.67 93 The Jury 9 p.m.)FOX2.43 94 Half and HalfUPN2.42 95 GirlfriendsUPN2.39 --------------------------------------------96 Grounded for LifeWB2.34 97 The Jury 9 p.m.)FOX2.32 98 Gilmore GirlsWB2.29 100 Oliver BeeneFOX2.24 Network averages Here is the number of viewers (in millions) that each network averaged per hour of prime time, for last week and for the season. Network Last week Season to date CBS8.6412.65 NBC7.2010.67 ABC6.428.78 FOX4.679.31 UPN2.523.31 WB2.323.53 Bill Clinton was a polarizing figure when he was president, and he remained one Sunday night on This time the divisions had more to do with age than party affiliation.

The hourlong interview with Clinton was the second most- watched program for the week ending June 20, according to Nielsen Media Research. It trailed the fifth and final game of the NBA Finals. scored 15.8 million viewers, a strong number considering that the telecast landed on Day and aired when the sun was still shining (it was the second longest day of the year). However, young viewers seemed decidedly unimpressed by the Clinton chat. Among ages 18 to 49, placed 16th for the week, tied with realityseries Love or Among 18- to 34-year- olds, the newsmagazine tied for 32nd place, and among 12- to17- seldom a strong target audience for news programs tied for 102nd.

Young adults were keener on premiere of Simple Life the unscripted comedy starring Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie. took second place in the 18-49 demographic, tied with a repeat of crime drama NBC also did well among young adults with the return of its stand-up contest, Comic Overall, CBS won the week in total viewers (8.6 million average), followed by NBC (7.2 million), ABC (6.4 million) and Fox (4.7 million). NBC won the week in the18-49 demographic, with ABC and CBS tied for second and Fox fourth. Collins Clinton draws viewers to CBS Prime-Time TV Rankings Where: KCET, Channel 28 When: 8 tonight Williams: Honky Tonk By Noel Holston Newsday With a soundtrack of timeless songs and remembrances by friends and family that can make you cackle or give you chills, Williams: Honky Tonk is a must-see for lovers of great American music. not to say definitive, however.

formative years get rather cursory attention from producer-director Morgan Neville. Though Neville collected many testimonies to the singer- loneliness, the man remains something of a mystery. One old associate calls him most cocky, confident man I ever and another recalls his being painfully insecure. The most thoughtful assessment in offering on PBS comes from Danny Dill. was one of those people who had driving says Dill, a revered country tune- smith Black in his own right.

wanted to get to the place in the world where he was Williams was born into a poor family in 1923. His father was a World War I veteran who ended up in an institution when little Hiram Williams was 7. His mother, a church organist, recognized the musical talent and encouraged it. She paid an elderly black man, Rufus Payne, 15 cents a lesson to teach her sickly 9-year-old to play guitar, and Payne and Singing eventually became astreet-corner duo in tiny Greenville, selling peanuts, shining shoes and singing. It has been charged that Williams stolesongs from Payne, but if there was theft, it was largely by osmosis.

son, Henderson Payne, now an elderly man, recalls young Williams being a quick study. influence on country music (and rock and pop) is so huge and his raucous life and early death so mythologized that easy to forget how brief his golden era was. Williams died of heart failure on the first day of 1953 on the way to a gig in Ohio in his powder-blue Cadillac convertible. He yet 30. Neville uses a similar Caddie as a visual device.

He photographs the vintage car gliding like a ghost through Alabama farmsteads and through time- warp towns. a little hokey, but truly the exception, not the rule, in this intelligent and haunting recollection of the father of modern country music. Noel Holston is a television critic at Newsday, a Tribune company. TELEVISION REVIEW vintage All-American voice By Carolyn Hax Dear Carolyn: Isuspect my husband is cheating or on the verge of cheating but have little or no proof. A therapist told me not to worry about trying to him or confront him but to focus instead on being so irresistible that be a fool to leave me.

been doing this, and he seems appreciative, but my unconfirmed suspicions are still getting the best of me (no sleep, stress-related illness, concentrate at work, If ignorance is bliss, why do I feel so lousy? afayette La Inever subscribed to the ignorance-is-bliss thing. Too often ignorance is just the calm before the blindsiding. Ihesitate to say this, though, because it sounds like you need any more reasons to be paranoid. You say you have no proof, but do you have legit, even gut-level grounds for suspicion? If you do, say talk to your husband about them. If not, then in a camp similar to your that the one you have to work on.

not entirely in the same camp, though at least, not with your interpretation of her advice. I think fair for you to have to bust your butt to keep your attention. No spouse should ever have to work beyond normal marital warmth and attentiveness. The burden of his fidelity is on him, not you. What I think and what I hope your therapist is really trying to say is that you should focus on why an attractive wife to have.

Believe that of yourself, and feel less threatened by other women. Write to Tell Me About It, in care of Washington Post, Style Plus, 1150 15th NW, Washington, DC 20071, or e-mail Tell Me About It When a wife suspects Pick upyour life on Thursdays. WITH THE KIDS Ideas for family fun and entertainment, and reviews CDs, videos, video games, DVDs and more. Every Thursday Calendar Weekend.