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2D The Clarion-Ledger Tuesday, October 25. 1994 Book aims to help parents juggle jobs, kids CALENDAR What's happening in Mississippi By Anne Gasior Cox Newt Sarvic FAMILY October SUN MON TUE WED THU FRI SAT Today's best bet On stage: Theatre Roundabout, a British acting team, will perform at 7 p.m. in Girault Auditorium at Belhaven College. The two performers, Sylvia Read and William Fry, will perform Vanity Fair. It's free.

Details: 968-5979. ,.,1 235 6 7 8 11 12 13 14 15 16 T7 "is li "20 Ti" "22 Pj7252S 27 28 29 Here are some tips on how to ease your absence from your kids, from The Working Parents Help Book: Give your child a calendar with the days you're away marked clearly on it. Put a big star on the date you're scheduled to return. Read children's books onto an audio tape so your child can listen to a story in your voice when she goes to bed. Give your child pictures of yourself, maybe even one of you reading to him.

Send postcards addressed to your children. You could mail the first one the day before your trip, or drop it into the mailbox at the airport just before you leave town. Try to avoid business trips that coincide with your spouse's. Children, especially very young ones, can get quite upset if both parents are gone at the same time. If both of you do travel at the same time, leave your kids in the care of a family member or someone else your children know well.

Don't forget how travel affects the parent who stays at home. When you're gone, the entire child-care burden falls on your spouse. Raising kids in a dual-income family requires balancing the increasing demands of work with the pressures of home life seemingly an impossible task. But there are ways to cope, contend authors Tom and Susan Crites Price. The Prices have written an advice book based on interviews with 100 working parents as well as their own experience raising daughter Julie, 9.

The Working Parents Help Book ($12.95 Peterson's Publishing) addresses everything from car pools to maternity leaves, from buying kids a car to transferring jobs. "This is not a book about child development," Tom says. "It's a book to help parents juggle kids and careers." As a result, the book is designed to be quickly and easily scanned. "We tried to write a book for people who don't have time to read a book' Susan says. The Prices are journalists.

Tom is the Washington correspondent for the Dayton Daily News. Susan is a free-lance writer. The book takes parents from pre-birth to the teen years. One section tells parents to set priorities. Before saying yes to something, figure out what will have to fall by the wayside.

Bow to convenience and be willing to serve pizza or take-out food for dinner. Shop by catalog, get hip to technology like computers and cellular phones and don't buy clothes that need to be handwashed. Another section addresses things like returning to work after having a baby and whether a leave can be extended. "If you don't feel you have fully recovered by the end of your scheduled leave, you may be able to have Tuesday, Oct. 25th Sprucing up: A "Thanksgiving and Fall Decoration" class will be taught by Tom and Nancy Mclntyre from p.m.

in the Millsaps College Fall Enrichment series. Cost is $10. Details: 974-1130. Pipe dreams: Organist Andrew Risinger performs at 7:30 p.m. at North-minster Baptist Church, 3955 Ridgewood Road, Jackson.

It's free. Details: 362-3235. Diabetes suDDort: A diabetes seminar and suDDOrt btoud meets at 6:30 p.m. on the fourth Tuesday of each month in classroom 1 of the Education Services Building at Methodist Medical Center, 1850 Chadwick Drive, Jackson. For details call 376-2529.

Save your life: Dr. David Wahl discusses breast cancer at 7 p.m. in the sixth floor conference room at Methodist Medical Center, 1850 Chadwick Drive, Jackson. To register call 376-2273. Sneak peek: The Hinds Community College Lendon Players present a preview of The Diviners at 7:30 p.m.

at Brooks Theatre on Raymond campus. Tickets are $3 for students and $5 for adults. Performance are No5 2-5. For reservations call 857-3266. Stage classic: New Stage Theatre, 1100 Carlisle Jackson, presents To Kill a Mockingbird at 7:30 p.m.

Tuesday through Thursday, 8 p.m.,Fri-day and Saturday and 2 p.m. Sunday through Nov. 6. Admission is $12418, Details: 948-3531. You're not alone: The Healthcaring Center for Women at Baptist, Medical Center in Jackson offers a support group for women experiencing menopause or who will soon face it.

It's at 6 p.m. Details: 973-3180. Good stories: The Madison Ridgeland Storytellers Guild meets at 7 p.m. at the Ridgeland Library on U.S. 51.

Details: 856-6384, High notes: Kimberly Griffing, soprano, presents a guest recital at 8:15 p.m. in Aven Fine Arts Auditorium on the Mississippi College It's free. Details: 925-3239. Be a pro: Mississippi University for Women offers a workshop The Professional Secretary at 10 a.m. in the conference room of the Peoples Bank Trust Company in West Point.

Cost is $70. Details: Dollars and sense: Hinds Community College is offering a "Successful Money Management" seminar at 6:30 p.m. today, Nov. 1, 8 and 15 at the Lecture HallTechnical Building at the Hinds branch. Cost is $55.

Details: 857-3470. Raise funds: The Mississippi Center for Nonprofits has its annual fun- five-month leave but your boss says three months, offer an alternative, such as returning to work part time or working from home. Finally, make sure to put the plan in writing. There also are ways parents can more evenly share the demands of work, family and running a home, the book says. "In most cases, mothers are carrying most of the burden," Tom says.

"They need to tell the fathers they are not doing their share. And they need to let the father have equal responsibility. As long as what he is doing isn't endangering the child, the mother needs to realize there is more than one way to change a diaper." One parent in the book suggests a "divide and pick" method of doing chores. One person makes a list of the chores to be done and divides it into two groups. Then the other person gets to pick the group they want to do.

The one who does the dividing is motivated to make the groups equal because he knows he is going to have to do one of the lists. it extended by getting your doctor to certify your continued disability," the books suggests. The problem, the Prices say, is that many employers do not want family problems spilling over to the workplace. Though that is changing, the change is coming slowly, Susan says. "Employers are a big source of stress," she says.

"If you're working and worrying about child care and you know you get no support at the office, it's very stressful." It is possible, they say, to find "family-friendly" companies. Ask potential employers how often employees are relocated. Does the company offer personal absence days or paid leave when you have to stay home with a sick child? Talk to employees about work hours and late meetings, the book suggests. The Prices also give tips for negotiating parental leave. Open negotiations by emphasizing commitment to the company and that you plan to return to work after the baby is born.

Give suggestions for how your work can be handled during your leave. If you want a Here are some tips for making more time from The Working Parents Help Book: Set priorities: Make a list of optional activities in your life, estimate how much time is spent on each, then list them in order of importance. Consider whether some can be eliminated. Hire help: Hire a neighborhood kid to mow the lawn, send shirts to the laundry, hire someone to wash windows, or even hire someone to do your grocery shopping. Simplify mealtimes: Use convenience foods such as spaghetti sauce from a jar or already cut-up frozen vegetables.

Pick up salads are the supermarket or buy prepared deli foods. Simplify shopping: Shop by catalog. Order flowers or gift baskets for distant friends or relatives by phone. Keep lists of what is needed and consolidate shopping trips. Buy quantity.

Shop during off-hours. Use technology: Microwaves, answering machines, cordless and cellular phones, beepers, recorded books on cassette and computers can save time. Housekeeping shortcuts: Don't buy clothes that need a lot of ironing or must be hand-washed. Buy dishes that are dishwasher proof and microwave safe. Give children chores to do.

Lower your standards. draising campaign today at the Cottonlandia Museum in Greenwood. Cost is $20 for Center for Nonprofits members and $35 for nonmembers. A "Grant Writing Made Easy: Financing Your Vision" seminar is Oct. 26-28 at Primos Northgate in Jackson.

Cost is $100 for members and $150 for non-members. Details: 968-0061. Tis the season: Janice Jones, extension home economist, will present a NYPD Blue From ID program on holiday foods at 9:30 a.m. at the Hinds Cooperative Extension Service Building, 1735 Wilson Jackson. It's free.

Details: 372-1424. Out West: Rhea and Larry Estes will lecture about northern Arizona and southeastern Utah during the October meeting of the Audubon Society at 7 p.m. in the library auditorium at Belhaven College. Details: 956-8888. Wednesday, 26th of his body's nether region.

Five occurrences of "crp." One'Vtch." At least three unchaste references to body parts. Two mentions of an activity often, but not necessarily, performed with a straw. Nudity This is a little tricky. NYPD Blue is a definite winner, or loser, if you will, if total uncoverage is the guiding star: three bare-behind shots (of the same woman), two nude shots from the side. One Life to Live was more restrained with bedroom shots: bare arms, bare male chest, female cleavage, sheets wrapped around what one would imagine to be hot, naked little bodies.

The nudity, though partial, was of longer duration than that on the cop show. No more comment on that. Violence Judged by the least subtle of standards, the soaps lose, with about four overt acts, or threats Profanity Of the soaps, All My Children wins the profanity sweepstakes with four "dmns." General Hospital is second, with two "dmns" and a "hll." One Life to Live Not one word to disgust your grandmother, unless you count this: "Let's kick some ash." Or this: "How can you make me do the worst thing I've ever done sleep with my brother?" Otherwise, this was no contest. When it comes to language, the show isn't called NYPD Blue for nothing: 17 occurrences of the three-letter word, or variations thereof, denoting the hind quarters. 13 mentions of a five-letter word, or derivatives, denoting a sexual encounter of the gritty kind.

Five mentions of a seven-letter word meaning a male child of indeterminate parentage. Three counts of a highly insulting eight-letter word suggesting that the insultee has had his head grafted onto an intimately located organ of, violence, including two brandished guns and an old-fashioned throat squeezing. NYPD Blue portrayed at least eight acts of violence, including these: A cop kicks a hood down the stairs, a cop shoots two hoodlums to death in the head, a cop is shot six times by the hood he kicked down the stairs. To shove the soaps into first place, one would have to count threats or implied threats of physical or emotional retaliation. The soaps, then, would clean up, because, among their characters, back-stabbing is the favorite avocation, with or without a knife.

Sexual situations This one was the most difficult to tally. Soap opera directors tend to cut frequently to entirely different scenes with entirely different characters. So, should a kissing situation resumed after a break count for one incident or two? If for only one, then its a 4-4 tie. If for more than one, then there ain't no number high enough to keep up with the soaps. If degree of enthusiasm is the standard, then the soaps still win.

If taboo-breaking situations count for everything, then the cigar (sometimes a cigar is NOT just a cigar) goes exclusively to One Life to Live, and specifically to the characters Tina and David. They are brother and sister. Do you want to know more? No, you don't. Surprise category, Artfulness The people in soaps are better dressed, better looking, and, for the most part, better educated than those in NYPD Blue. They are also about as deep, intellectually and morally, as the water in your toilet bowl.

And about as engaging. Compare. Detective Kelly of NYPD Blue, grieving over his wounded partner "It just seems no matter how much you feel about someone, you never really get it squared away, you know? You never really get to understand them the way you wanted." Wilma of All My Children castigating the two-faced, pastry-loving JanetJane: "I was trying to hear my conscience over that doughnut demolition." In other words, color this category Blue. Brahms music: The Mississippi Camerata sings music of Brahms at 12:05 p.m. at St.

Andrew's Episcopal Cathedral, 305 E. Capitol Jackson. It's free. Details: 354-1535. Spooky times: The March of Dimes and Nightmare FX present "Nightmares The Haunted House on Monroe Street," off High Street between Rally's and Taco Bell.

Hours are 7-10 p.m. Monday through Thursday and 7 p.m. until Friday and Saturday. Tickets are $4 in advance and $5 at the door. Details: 362-8945.

Scary stuff: Mississippi Paralysis Association and Bob Day Productions has Slaughter Haus today through Halloween in the old Zayres building in Jackson Square Shopping Center. Hours are 7-10 p.m. Tuesday through Thursday and 7 p.m. to 1 a.m. Friday and Saturday.

Admission is $4. Details: 366-4369. Diabetes update: A registered nurse and dietitian will provide updated information on how to manage diabetes through controlling diet with good nutrition, managing activities and medication. For times and details call 364-6696. Feels so good: Deadline to register for a "Beginning Massage Course" is today.

The class is p.m. on Mondays in Ridgeland. It's lead by Helen Walton. Details: 956-6050, 368-0385. A classic: The Mid-Delta Arts Association of Indianola will present Shakespeare's A Midsummer Night's Dream at 8 p.m.

today through Saturday at the Indianola Little Theatre. For tickets call 776-4454. QUIZ SHOW (PG-13) Thursday, 27th COTTON BOWL LANES 354-5738 Tue. Fri. Thur.

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Details: Zoo frights: Fright Night, a spook-filled evening for the entire family, is 6-9 p.m. at the Jackson Zoo. Admission is $3. Train ride is $2. Friends of the Zoo are admitted free.

Details: 352-2582. Real gems: John Keefe, curator of decorative arts at the New Orleans Museum of Art, will discuss "Jewels of the Nineteenth Century" at 10:30 a.m. in the large rehearsal hall at Mississippi Arts Center in Jackson. Tickets are $5. Details: 960-1515.

On stage: The Mississippi College Players will present Arthur Miller's The Crucible at 7 n.m. tndnv. 28. 29. 31 and Nov 1 in Avon The Puppet Masters (R) 7:30 Jason's Lyric (R) 7:30 LBowling Birthday Parties Love Affair The Specialist (R) 7:20 Wes Cravens I Starting At Automatic Scoring New Nightmare (R) 7:20 PG-13 A atre.

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It's free. Details: 846-4675. School hauntings: McLaurin Attendance Center will have its annual Halloween Carnival at 6 p.m. at the school, located on Star-Brandon Road. On tap: an orbitron, haunted house, dunking booth, sweet shop, space wall and bingo games.

Details: 845-2127. For the kids: Southern Christian Services for Children and Youth has its dinner benefit at 7 p.m: at the Country Club of Jackson. It features Miss Mississippi Rebecca Blouin, CEO of WLBT-TV3 Frank Melton and Helen Moffat and the Moffettes. Tickets are $75. Details: 354-0983.

How pretty: The Columbus Historic Foundation has its annual Decorative Arts Forum and Antiques Show and Sale at the Trotter Convention Center, 402 Second Ave. North, Columbus. The Champagne Gala is at 7 p.m. today. Cost is $20.

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