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Time: 06-08-2011 21:19 User: lhack PubDate: 06-12-2011 Zone: KY Edition:! Page Name: E 5 Color: Eftapfcnta FEATURES I courier-journal.comfeatures THE COURIER-JOURNAL I SUNDAY, JUNE 12, 2011 I E5 SEXTING It can be risky business to expose your not-so-private side online By Richard DrewAssociated Press Meagan Broussard, one of the women who exchanged text messages with Rep. Anthony Weiner, appears on Fox News. "Communication in this form goes back and forth like a tennis ball. So it's exciting and it moves quickly, and you're not really thinking what the implications are." SUSAN LIPKINS, a psychologist and sexting researcher anymore," she said. "It probably should be renamed the booty text." And it's not limited to those in casual sexual relationships. For those in committed relationships, Drouin found that 80 percent had exchanged sexually explicit texts. "Sexting is just one form of sexual expression," explained Debra Herbenick, a sexual health educator at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University in Bloomington. And other forms of expression can be just as embarrassing if leaked think sex tapes, or erotic poetry. "Most of the time, people's private behavior is not 'exposed' and so they feel safe, and may continue their behavior or get more explicit," Herbenick wrote in an email. "Rarely are people 'outed' for their private sexual behavior, and far, far more people have sexted than have been caught." Reporter Katya Cengel can be reached at (502) 582-4224. Reporter Matt Frassica can be reached at (502) 582-4502. get away with it." People tend to think a Twitter message between two friends is private, but nothing, except what is in our heads, is truly private anymore, Shankman said. This lack of privacy and always needing to watch our behavior may cause human frailties to come to the fore, Baldoni said. The problem is not unique to leaders, said Jason Falls, owner of Louisville-based Social Media Explorer, a website and consulting company that helps people and companies understand social media. "I think the underlying problem is that people don't quite understand that these channels, if they're not public, they're only semi-private," Falls said. You may only allow a certain number of people on Facebook to see what you are saying, but you're still broadcasting a message that others can comment on and even share. "I like to live by the rule of thumb if you wouldn't say it in front of your grandmother, don't post it," Falls said. Added Shankman: "There is no technology out there that has yet to be invented that will protect you from stupid." Increasingly common Of course, not all sexting is illicit. For teens and young adults, sending enticing photos to a love interest is just an extension of normal online activity, Lipkins said. "For the younger generation, taking pictures and sending them is just a universal form of communication." In this way, some experts suggested, sexting may be no different from doing other things to show off for potential mates like joining a garage band or stripping down for some beach volleyball. "Part of what's going on is, (sexting) is apiece of how technology is part of how we date and mate," said Lenhert, of the Pew project. "There's a desire to feel sexy or desirable. If you think you're pretty awesome and you want to share that, this is a way to entice other people to you." In relationships too But sexting isn't just for people looking to pick up someone. Michelle Drouin, an assistant professor of developmental psychology at Indiana University-Purdue University Fort Wayne, has studied sexting within relationships. For people between the ages of 18 and 25 in casual sexual relationships, Drouin found, 70 percent had exchanged explicit texts, and 51 percent had exchanged explicit videos or pictures. "For comparison's sake, 86 percent had spoken to that casual sexual partner on the phone. So it's only slightly less common than talking on the phone to that casual sexual partner," Drouin said. "The start of a booty call is probably not a phone call with his wife, Huma Abedin. But the political consequences he faces stem more from his attempted cover-up than from the sexting itself, according to John Baldoni, a leadership educator, speaker and author based in Ann Arbor, Mich. "I don't care about what he does in his private life; that's between him and his spouse. But if you're going to go out and lie about it, that's an issue of public trust," Baldoni said. Weiner is not the first leader to engage in deceitful behavior or the first to forget the lessons of Watergate, where the cover-up proved more serious for many than the break-in crime. Baldoni chronicled Weiner's mistakes in "Weiner Sexting Scandal: 4 Mistakes You Shouldn't Make," on the CBS Business Network BNET It is not a new topic for Baldoni; he has written a similar story a half-dozen times over the years. 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The public release of naughty pictures can cause embarrassment for teens and singles, but for people sexting outside of marriage, it can be like getting caught cheating. "More and more people are getting caught, and more and more marriages are breaking up," Lipkins said. "I am seeing it more and more," agreed licensed mental health counselor Lara West, a couples therapy specialist in Louisville. For people sexting outside a relationship, the consequences can be serious. "People are certainly getting themselves in a lot of trouble for seeking this stuff out," West said. Among the couples she sees, one partner might start sexting to fill a need the relationship isn't satisfying. "People do it because sex meets a lot of our needs and we often don't have a partner available or willing," West said. The sexter might also find it easier to articulate his or her desires online than in person. West said, "People might be ashamed of their sexual proclivities, and it's so much easier to go online in relative anonymity and seek out other people who are OK with what you want to do." Opportunity costs Those needs are nothing new in the past, people would turn to pornography or prostitution, according to West. But the constant availability of the Internet makes sexting a greater temptation. "The ease of sexting is very appealing to people," she said. And people going outside their relationship for online sex often feel that they've done nothing wrong, according to Rick Ennis, a licensed marriage therapist in Louisville. He often sees men who "don't consider it an infidelity because, 'I didn't sleep with her.' " Not surprisingly, the other partner in a relationship can feel differently about extramarital sexts. "If a partner feels betrayed, then it's cheating," West said. In Weiner's case, the effects of his activities on his marriage and his family relationships are unknown. 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