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THE TRIBUNE, SEYMOUR, INDIANA PAGE8A MONDAY JANUARY 20, 2003 Wed Lisa J. Ruster and J. Brooks Moore plan to marry at 4 p.m. July 5 at the French Lick Springs Resort Spa. She is the daughter of James and Pamela HAINAN CCIIZN Me, Harlan! I i 1 Ruster, 2585 Willow Street, Greenwood.

He is the son of John and Drummond Vicks- burg, Miss. The bride-elect is a 1995 graduate of Center Grove High School in Greenwood and graduated from the University of Evansville in 1999 with a Thompson-Mannix Melinda Dawn Mannix 'and James Floyd Thompson were married at 5 p.m. Oct. 19 at First United Methodist Church, Seymour. The Rev.

Neal Partain officiated. The bride is the daughter of Tim and Pam Mannix, 9280 S. 950W, Crothersville. The groom is the son of Floyd and Harriet Thompson, 12240 E. 600S, Crothers--rtUe- The bride wore a white gown of matte satin.

The strapless neckline was embellished with pearl beading, and the A-line waist fell to a floor-length hem that exposed a tulle petticoat. She also wore a fingertip-length veil of white tulle, accented with crystals and pearls, and carried a bouquet of fuchsia roses hand-tied with white satin ribbon. Maid of honor was Amanda Mannix, bride's sister. Bridesmaids were Tara Elmore, bride's cousin; Megan Judd; Laura Hazelwood; and Treasa Garland. The attendants wore strapless, A-line gowns of platinum satin and carried bouquets of fuchsia roses hand-tied with silver organza ribbon.

Best man was Bret Daugherty. Groomsmen were Tony Thompson, groom's brother; David Mcintosh, bride's cousin; Darrin Means; and Tom Dake. Ushersu were Andy bride's unclejytnd John Elmore, bride's cousin. Jessica Kuniholm was flower girl, and Brantley Heath was ring bearer. Terry Taylor was vocalist and guitarist.

Acolytes were Jordan Mannix, bride's brother, and Erica Kuniholm, bride's cousin, who also served as guest A reception was held at Jeeves and Company at Scottsburg. Music was pro- Lisa 1. Ruster J. Brooks Moore mond, and received a bachelor of arts degree in psychology in 1998 from the University of Southern Mississippi at Hat-tiesburg, Miss. He received a master's degree in higher education administration in 2000 from Florida State University and is employed in the Office of Registered Student Organizations-Assistant Dean of Students at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign.

bachelor of science degree in psychology. She will receive a master's degree in educational organization and ship in May from the University of Illinois at Ur-bana-Champaign, where she is employed in the Office of the Dean of Students-Fraternity and Sorority Affairs. The future groom is a 1994 graduate of St. Thomas Aquinas Catholic High School in Ham- Abusers lurk on the Web Dear Harlan: The other day, I checked an old e-mail account that I had used to enroll as a member in the online dating service Match.com. Although I no longer subscribe, they still send me potential matches.

guy I met, who later abused me, was back in my inbox as a potential love match. My stomach sank when I saw his profile posted online again. The thought of him doing this to another woman makes me sick. I feel like I should tell the folks at Match.com that they have an abuser on their hands, but legally, I dont know if I can do that Obvi- ously, I dont want to give this guy a reason to bother me again. I would feel horrible knowing that I'm giving this guy a venue to prey on other women.

Any thoughts? Protecting the Public Dear Protecting: Abusers are all over the place not just online. It's awesome that you got away from him," Mr. and Mrs. James Floyd Thompson vided by the musicians The Lost Dogs. After a trip to New Orleans, the couple is living at 506 N.

Chestnut Seymour. The bride was home-schooled and graduated in 1995. She attended both Asbury College and Gallaudet University and is pursuing a. behavioral sciences degree from Vincennes University. She is a training consultant with South Central Work Force Development Services in North Vernon.

The groom is a 1991 graduate of Crothersville High SchooL He is a letter carrier with the United States Postal Service in Crothersville. Anniversary Hutchens Schocttmer-Pollcrt Stacy Lyn Schoettmer and Adam Lee Pollert plan to marry at 1:30 p.m. Feb. 8 at St. Mary Catholic Church, Greens-burg.

A reception will take place at the Knights of Columbus, Batesvifie. She is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Leonard Schoettmer Greens-burg. He is the son of Mr.

and Mrs. Ron Pollert, Seymour. The bride-elect is a 1998 graduate of North Decatur High School and graduated from Indiana State University in 2001 with a bachelor of science degree in aerospace administration. She is Stacy Schoettmer Adam Pollert employed in the corporate off ice, of ATA. The future groom is a 1998 graduate of Seymour High School and graduated from Indiana State University in 2002 with a bachelor of science degree in marketing.

He is employed in management with Walgreens. Carol and Richard HutchenS, 10011 E. 700S, Crothersville, celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary Jan. 15 with family and friends at the Crossroads Family Restaurant in Versailles. Their children were hosts.

Mr. and Mrs. Hutchens were married Jan. 16, 1953, at Bethany Baptist Church by the Rev. Alton.

Cutshall. They have two children, Terry Hutchens and Venetia (Skip) Green, and two grandchildren, Brittany -Rene Green and Kyle Patrick Green. Mr. Hutchens retired from the old American Can Co. in Austin after 38 years, and Mrs.

Hutchens retired after 43 years of secretarial and accounting duties. Both are members of First Baptist Church of Seymour. Mr. and Mrs: Richard Hutchens Does birth order stack deck for life? Jaynes-Grimos Jennifer Evelyn Jaynes and Troy Dow Grimes plan to i marry at 6 p.m. Feb.

22 at Immanuel Lutheran Church, Seymour. A reception will take place at Dakota Ridge, Seymour. The bride-elect is a 1986 graduate of Seymour High School and is employed at Cummins Industrial Center, Seymour. The future groom is a 1987 graduate of South Decatur High School, served in the United States Navy for five years and is employed at Cum- ana took action, or inose still in abusive relationships: Please GET AWAY. There is NEVER an excuse for the abuse.

NEVER. for what to do next, I spoke to Irish McDermott, vice president of corporate communication for Match, com. She suggested that you report the incident and send an e-mail to abusematch Each case is investigated on an individual basis, and action can be taken if warranted. She said that information such as yours would be kept confidential. Dear Harlan; I am a 23- -year-old single male living in Chicago.

I had a girlfriend -back in college who was the love of my life. Long story short, I was dumped while she "sorted" things out for her final year of college she drank, parried). Now, I'm a much more successful and mature person than when we dated. She has recently moved to my City. She crosses my mind every day.

I know I still love her. She told me that she -Just wants to be friends for now. Do I continue being her pal, or do I cut things off and make her think I am out having the time of my life with other girls? Blinded by Lost Love Dear Blinded: Pals don't fantasize about pals. Therefore, she's no pal, just an ex dressed up like a paL Your pal is holding you back, whether you realize it or not. I'd approach her again.

Tell her that winter is 7 the perfect time to seek warmth, and offer her a hug. Then tell her that you're still interested. If she's still not -interested, cool things off. I-It you can't be a pal without fantasizing about being her husband, then you're better off keeping her at a w.j distance. Jennifer Jaynes Troy Grimes mins Industrial.

Center, Seymour. "The key to bringing out the best in people is to make sure you have-a team, and a -team represents different people," he says. Leman recommends trying to see through the eyes of the individual While some people are "carrot seekers" needing sustained feedback, he says, others resent superiors constantly leaning over their shoulders. Children should be dealt with according to their personalities, concurs Cliff Isaacson, a Des Moines, Iowa, counselor and author of the book Birth Order Plus. Issacson has reservations about a society full of firstborns.

"A greater proportion' of firstborn and only children they are most likely to be responsible for the money and the cell phone. Children tend to live up to their parents' expectations, "Connellan says. Because firstborn children are the oldest, parents hold them more accountable for their actions, often admon-' ishing them by saying, "You should know better than that." Accountability "can mean a brutal assessment of someone," Connellan says. But "failure is a profound way of learning," he adds. "Sometimes kids need to learn how to fail." Finally, new parents tend to "practice" on their first- borns, thus providing them with more constructive and' consistent feedback.

Some evidence from research sup- Connellan's Studies over the years have shown that firstborns are Classes By ALINE MENDELSOHN Knight Ridder News Service ORLANDO, Fla. Hillary Clinton and RushTambaugh, Cher and Jeffrey Dahmer. Oh, yeah, and half of all U.S. presidents. Like them or hate them, they all have -one thing in common: All were firstborn children.

according to Orlando author Tom Connellan, that's a big deal. Connellan, a business consultant, insists that firstborn children and only children are given an edge in society. If managers, teachers and parents treat everyone as firstborns, more people will, succeed, he says. In his forthcoming book Bringing Out the Best in Others! ($19.95, Bard Press), Connellan outlines the three ways firstborns are treated differently from other kids: Parents often set higher expectations, demand greater accountability and provide more feedback. Those factors are the keys, he says, to helping others succeed.

Firstborns--are- often expected to behave more maturely. Sometimes they even become surrogate parents. For example, when firstborn children take their younger siblings to a movie, Brownstown plans classes February computer class- -es at the Brownstown Public Library will include Intro- duction to the Internet at 5:30 p.m. Feb. 10 and Using the Library's Online Catalog at 5:30 p.m.

Feb. 24. There will be a limit of two per class, and each class will last approximately 45 minutes. A sign-up sheet is at the circulation desk now. Family craft session slated The Crothersville Library will be host for a Family Craft "Dad and Me Mak ing a Surprise for Mom for Valentine's Day" at 7 p.m.

Thursday. Children and their father or grandparent will be working on a floral arrangement for Mom's Valentine's Day gift. This craft will be led by Sherry Montgomery of Mountain Memories. There is no charge for this pro- gram, but registration is required. To register or for additional information, call the library at 793-2927.

Kids' crafts set. The Crothersville Library will conduct a free craft for children in grades kinder-v garten through five at 3:30 p.m. Jan. 29. Registration is required; call at 793-2927.

will make us a society of flaw-pickers, yuppies and I achievers," Isaacson says. But not everyone buys into birth order theory. In the early '80s, Swiss researchers CecUe Ernst and Jules Angst compared birth order theory with astrology, refuting it as a "sheer waste of time and money." Connellan, though, is undeterred. On a broad scale, Connellan hopes his book will "shift the way things are in this country," he says. "You do that one person at a time." Write Harlan at hartan help-' natural leaders.

"As parents, our firstborns are 'bur guinea pigs," says Kevin Leman, a. Tucson, psychologist and author of The New Birth Order' Book. "By the time you reach the fifth child, you grab some food, throw it on the floor and yelL But Leman cautions parents, teachers and managers against treating everyone the same. rneharian.com or visit online: com. (All letters submitted become property of the author.) Send paper to Help Me, Harlan! 2506 N.

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