The Galveston Daily News from Galveston, Texas on September 27, 1978 · Page 4
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4*A £'!»' tf>:illu"ilo Wednesday Morning, September 27,1978 On Building Self-Image Richard Spalding •&:#&z&^ A person's feelings about himself are often the hardest ones to change, because those opinions were made by somebody who should know what he is talking about. But sometimes these feelings ought to be challenged, says Richard Spalding, a health services administrator from Abilene who has become a popular speaker because of his simple, down-to-earlh style and his enthusiasm for life in general. Spalding was main speaker at the recent seminar of the University of Texas Medical Branch Hospitals Auxiliary with the subject "How To Cope With Your Feelings." He talked about the feelings of failure and Feelings May Need Challenging inadequacy, the destructive feelings he says actually encourage failure and unhappiness. That "self-esteem" or "self-image" is the very core of the personality. It affects ability to succeed, even selection of mates, he said. "I thought my wife's marrying me was a charity case," hejoked. Spaldings' tactics for improving a low self-image aren't original, he is the first to say. He isn't a psychologist or author. But what he has gleaned from the psychologists and authors and others he passes along with great enthusiasm saying, simply, "The best possible preparation for success in life is a good self-image." Dear Abby . . . Stuck With Freeloader By Abigail Van Buren "0 1978 0> C"IC«QO Trlbunt N V N«t» Synd Me DEAR ABBY: Who should pay for what in a live-in type relationship? The female is divorced, has two children and is on welfare. The male is well-to-do, with a good steady job- Should the rent and food expenses be divided? In this case the guy pays no rent and is living in her home. THE FEMALE DEAR FEMALE: la any kind of relationghip, the assets, liabilities and responsibilities should be shared SO-SO. And If you're the female living on welfare, you (and the taxpayers) are supporting the guy who's living with you. You might consider living with this free-loading, well-to- to creep just loag enough to confirm a common law status (under recent court decision), and then sock it to him! DEAR ABBY: You answer to that 16-year-old who felt that girls expected him to make a pass on the first date fell short. The kid said, 'On the first date. I feel no irresistible urge to make out with her or even kiss her," and you said. "Most girls prefer the slow approach," Why didn't you tell him that the only right lime to kiss someone (or to make love) is at the precise time when the urge is irresistible? If it happens on the first date, you're in business. If it hasn't happened by the 15th date —don't kiss her just because you think you ought to. Admit the fact that the chemistry is wrong in the relationship, and then either go on enjoying her company on that basis, or end it on that basis. If everyone just followed their inclinations —or didn't act when the inclinations weren't there —there would be a lot less stress, gujlt and resentment between the sexes. I am a 45-year-old divorcee, and believe me, most middle- aged men don't seem to understand this any better than 16-year-olds. W.C.M. DEAR MS. M: The rules for kissing, dating and making love are vastly different for 45-year-old divorcees and middle-aged men than they are for 16-year-old boys on their first dates! I still My, the slow approach Is preferable for kids. They may feel like making out (or making love) on the first date, but they lack the experience and maturity to handle it. DEAR ABBY: This evening while working in my yard, 1 noticed the very pretty little neighbor girl —about 6, wandering up and down the street in nothing but her panties. A few months ago I saw this same little girl and her older brother struggling to get a heavy band instrument from the bus stop (three blocks away) to their home, so I stopped and offered to drive them to their home. They accepted gladly. I assumed they knew me. Once in the car it became apparent that I was a stranger to them! Abby, please remind parents that it is their duly to instruct their children never, never to get into a car with a stranger. DEWY. OK.. MOTHER DEAR MOTHER: Thanks for a timely reminder. He breaks these tactics down into these points: — Take inventory. "Nobody can force you to feel inferior without your permission," he says. Look over your assets, appreciating your own individual gifts, he urges. Resolve to maximize the good points and toss out the bad. And, if the inventory is too low, begin again. "Everyone has something he can do, something he can take pride in." —Make-up, dress-up and go up. The cliche "Clothes don't make the man" is only haJf true, because the outward appearance influences how one feels about, himself, he says. —Read the motivational books. A favorite of his is "See You At the Top" by ZigZigler. — Listen go good speakers. They might be national news commentators or local teachers or clergymen. —Begin to accomplish things you know you can do. Find something you can do, and begin finding success in a series of small steps. —Smile and compliment. "People seem to see the goodness in you, when you see the goodness in them," he says. He advises remembering as much about others as one can, even if it's only their name. — Do something for others in a setting where they can't return the favor. "This is for your self- image, not for him." However, he cautioned against a patronizing attitude. "It shows," he warned. — Be careful of associates. It helps to be around people who look on the bright side, he said. —Avoid anything that shows mankind in a bad light. He especially put down television soap operas as being negative and generally depressing. —Make a list of your positive qualities and carry them on a card to glance at from time to time. —Make a list of successes, even little ones, to prove to yourself you are accomplishing things. -Practice public speaking. He especially recommended clubs and groups where members might acquire these skills. "Remember the eye con- tact," he stressed. —Alter the physical appearance, if you feel it's needed and if it's indeed possible. He is all for losing weight or plastic surgery if it's important to the individual. "We learn to cope with our feelings by liking ourselves," he concluded, "so we can build on what God gave us." people . . . • Hnd Family Living Barbs By PHIL PASTORtT "Sweeping legislation" usually means the solons are hiding the problem under the rug. Woodmen Set Rededication This Sunday has been set as the date for rededicalion of the Woodmen Memorial in Lake View Cemetery, Galveston, by Campo Morelos No. 3365 of the Woodmen of the World. The monument is a tribute to the Woodmen members who died in the great 1900 Storm which killed some 5,000 in Galveston. It has been restored by the local WOW chapter over the past several months. The ceremonies will be at 2 p.m. Sunday. Nick T. Newberry, national president of the organization, will give the rededicatory address and other officials of the order will participate in the program. A number of city and county officials are to be special guests. WOW members from throughout the area are invited to attend the rededication. A dinner will follow in the Quintero Recreation Center. FIVE GENERATIONS of the Taylor-Gardin-McClain family are shown at a family reunion held Sunday at the home of Capt. Doc (D. R.) Gardin. Seated at front left is Virgie Taylor, great-great-grandmother of the boy she holds, Kristopher McCiain, six months, and at right is Mrs. D. R. (Josephine) Gardin, great-grandmother. Standing at left is Janet McCiain, grandmother, and at right is Kerwin McCiain, Kristopher's father. (News Photo by Bill Barry.) 1120 NASA 1 Cfe*rLa>k« 333-4845 1814 45th St. Galv*«ton 786-7277 BEAT THE PRICE INCREASE OCT. SEALY POSTUREPEHC *•-:..new Iran the outside in! new quilting . . . great new choices of comfort .. . and the best promise in sleep: no morning backache from sleeping on a too- soft mattress. S119.95toS699.95 WARREN furniture NEW ACCOUNTS WELCOME REVOLVING CHARGE VISA/BANKAMERICARO MASTER CHARGE H you how any of m«* Caret. • VISA • MASTER CHARGE .AMBICANEXHIESS • CAKTE tlANCHE MOM 7&3-53S7 PRICES" MODERATE OPEN DAILY 9:30-9:30 SATURDAY 9-9:30 WED. THRU SAT. 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In some cases (not all) a generic drug can be substituted for the name-brand which a prescription specifies, IF you request it. Naturally, a generic drug prescription may cost less. But before deciding whether you prefer the name brand or the generic drug, check with your doctor. Then MAKE YOUR CHOICE. We'll fill your prescription in either case, with quality ingredients, at the LOWEST K mart PRICES! • HANKSCRAFT' HUMIDIFIER 12 88 Adds moisture to dry winter air. 3 100 TABLETS VITAMIN E 97 400 I.U. natural vitamin E. 100 TABLETS VITAMIN B 1 97 100 mg. Vitamin Bl. \ •SAVE ON FEVER: THERMOMETERS; 56 Ea. , Rectal or oral. Cert-: - ideci accurate. ''/ 61st. and STEWART RD. I IN GALVESTON

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