The Salina Journal from Salina, Kansas • Page 14

1 Engagements The Salina Journal Julle Coleman Jane Barber Lesa Ward Laura Fritz Pamela Swenson Elizabeth Skinner Susan Funk Gregory Gl John Doherty Monty Fox Richard Loft John Gengler Larry Finan Matthew Wheeler would go to the American war films, and when John Wayne led a regiment I'd look for my dad." Hamilton a South High graduate, is a divisional route builder for Schwan's Sales En- terprises. They have chosen the United Methodist Church of the Cross as the site of their July 25 wedding. Ward-Fox LUCAS announce the daughter, Fox, son of of Ellinwood. The bride Lucas-Luray County Bend. She State University.

Her fiance, linwood Barton County and now attends KAYS Radio They plan of Lucas United and Fritz-Luft GYPSUM re- Fritz announce their daughter, ard Troy a Donna Luft of The bride Southeast of received a babies old at the time, the day his an American World War II. Hamilton, who is business in a a drunk who this horrible abusive and his to try to find war films, and I'd look for my chuckle. He took later but without a search and Transatlantic Chilhas not found and he feels "For years I looking for my of others like British adults, by American search for their are providing work is hamAmerican service1984, now has Babes, a Biryear, has close on their own. receives three help in finding Inquiries rise at remembrances. 25 members founder of Trace, third of the that is satifathera or of Mr.

and Mrs. Gene Ward engagement of their Lesa Jo, to Monty Wayne Mr. and Mrs. Austin elect graduated from High School and Barton Community College of Great now attends Fort Hays a graduate of High School, attended Community College attends FHSU. He works in Hays.

an Aug. 1 wedding at Methodist Church. Gene and Margaret the engagement Laura Ann, to RichLuft, son of Hilary of Bison. elect graduated from Saline High School and bachelor's degree on business management from Bethany College of Lindsborg. She works for Anspacher Futures of Kansas Salina.

The future bridegroom, a graduate of Otis High School, received a degree in computer science from Bethany College. He works for Electronic Data Services, a division of General Motors, Plano, Texas. They are to marry Sept. 19 at the Gypsum United Methodist Church. Swenson-Gengler Salinans, 2053 Roscoe Highland, and announce Marilyn the engagement of their daughter, Pamela, to John Gengler, son of Mona Gengler, 110 Bel Air.

The future bride attended Salina schools and works for Regis Hairstylists in the Mid State Mall. Her fiance, a former Beloit resident, attends Kansas Technical Institute and works for General Battery Corp. They are to wed Oct. 24 at the Immanuel Lutheran Church. Skinner-Finan Salinans Robert and Charlotte Skinner of 1312 Pershing announce to find country after Babes dispense offices, been helpful.

advertising popular with cultivated a who have Many of ing to the the wrong pounded by "If all they Chris and he a hope," "Sentimental book about that included dren. It is usually service, The truly tary serial discuss such war years; in an effort to For many bureaucracy ticular, the a veteran's be released policy of the Is to forward man being records were Some native routes and the number are ally the best "If my father his choice, who has officials about the engagement of their daughter, Elizabeth Ann, to Larry Thomas Finan, son of Charles and Monica Finan of Coeur d'Alene, Idaho. The bride- elect graduated from Southeast of Saline High School and works for Dillons in Winfield. The future bridegroom, a graduate of Coeur d'Alene Senior High, works in explosives ordinance disposal with the United States Air Force at McConnell Air Force Base, Wichita. They are to exchange vows June 13 at the First Church of the Nazarene.

Funk-Wheeler OAKLEY Dr. and Mrs. Willis L. Funk announce the engagement of their daughter, Susan Louise, to Matthew Sterling Wheeler, son of Stephen Wheeler and Peggy Wheeler, of Kansas City, Mo. The future bride attended Kansas State University where she was member of Delta Delta Delta sororIty.

She currently is a third year student at the University of Missouri School of Dentistry, Kansas City. The prospective bridegroom is sales manager for Continental Advanced Service, Kansas City, Mo. They are to marry May 31 at the Oakley Christian Church. fathers more than 40 years. Trace and War lists of government and military newspapers and even schools that have One woman found her father by in Army Times, a civilian newspaper veterans.

The two groups have also network of people in the United States helped speed up searches. those searching have spent years writwrong organizations or tracing fathers cities or states, problems often coma lack of information. know is that their father's name came from Hackensack, they haven't said Winfield, who is the author of Journey" (Constable, London), British brides of American servicemen a chapter on the illegitimate chil- necessary to know the branch of military unit and home state of the father. lucky children know their fathers' millnumbers. But many mothers will not matters.

Some have blocked out the one woman had her mother hypnotized pry out a few detalls. the biggest stumbling blocks are the in the United States and, in parPrivacy Act of 1974, which decrees that military records and address cannot without his or her The Military Personnel Center In St. Louis a letter if it finds an address for the inquired about. But many World War II destroyed by a fire there in the 19708. searchers have had luck through alterlike state motor vehicle departments Veterans Administration, but a growing indignant that military records, usuway to trace veterans, are off limits.

wants to reject me, that should be not the government's," said O'Regan, written to senators and government the problem. MAY 15 OZARK FOLK LIFE 4 DAYS FESTIVAL Bus departs from Salina and points east along 1-70. Includes: Bus, 3 nights hotel, The School of the Ozarka, Silver Dollar City, Shepherd of the Hills Farm. 1987 ROYALS BASEBALL TOURS Join Our Bus Trips On: May 31 Texas July 19 Baltimore June 28 Seattle Sept. 20 Oakland Royals Weekend Aug.

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Santa Fo Saline, Ke. 67401 (913) 025-0537 1 Sunday, April 12, 1987 Page Coleman-Gil Salinans Charles and Marjory Coleman, 1102 Windsor Drive, announce the engagement of their daughter, Julie Laureen, to Gregory Allan Gil, son of Macario and Helen Gil of Abilene. The bride-to-be graduated from Sacred Heart High School and the Brown Mackie College. She works for So-Fro Fabrics, Salina. Her fiance, a graduate of Abilene High School and the Salina Area Vocational Technical School, works for United Parcel Service and Service Master of Salina.

Aug. 22 wedding is planned at St. Mary's Queen of the Universe Catholic Church. Barber-Doherty Salinan Joan H. Barber of 1302 Quincy announces the engagement her daughter, Jane Garrett Barber, to John Lee Doherty, son of Jim Janee Doherty of 1010 Vassar Drive.

The bride-to-be graduated from Salina South High School and ceived a degree in journalism from the University of Kansas. Her sorority is Gamma Phi Beta. She is marketing director for the Central Mall, Salina. The prospective bridegroom, also War By The New York Times LONDON He was only 7 years but Frank Hamilton vividly recalls grandmother told him his father was serviceman stationed in England in "I was really pleased," said now 43 and runs an office-cleaning London suburb. "My stepfather was would beat me up.

I was so glad that man was not my father." As his stepfather grew more mother more passive, the boy decided his father. "I would go to the American when John Wayne led a regiment dad," Hamilton recalled with a up his search in earnest 20 years much luck. Then last year he Joined support group in London, the dren's Enterprise, or Trace. He still his father, but he has some new leads he is on the right track. Being part of a group! has helped.

felt a bit embarrassed to say I was dad, but now I know there are a lot ine," he said. In the last few years hundreds of most of them fathered out of wedlock servicemen, have taken up the fathers. Two new organizations crucial assistance, although their pered by a lack of access to men's records. Trace, formed in nearly 300 members, and War mingharn group formed the warne to 250. Other individuals are looking The American Embassy in London to five letters a week requesting unknown American fathers.

Christmas and after World War II War Babes said it has helped about locate their fathers 80 far. A Pamela Winfield, said, "About a members have found some news factory to them, whether of their LIGHTEN UP AND 1.1 l. here. I. 9p' font 1ale-t com- of aright bobs.l SLIM PLAN Begins April 13 Don, Lace altered CALI.

NOW 825-8224 WellPlan 617 1. for Fulton TOPEKA Mr. and Mrs. G.C. Fulton announce the engagement of their daughter, Jan Allison, to Alan Edward Hintz, son of Salinan Mrs.

William Hintz, 400 S. 10th. The bride-to-be graduated from Topeka West High School and received a degree in fashion marketing from Kansas State University. She is a buyer for The Jones Store Overland Park. The prospective bridegroom, a graduate of Salina Central High School, received a degree in accounting from KSU.

He is a controller with National Fire Sprinkler Corporation, Kansas City, Kan. Their marriage will be solemnized Aug. 1 at the Most Pure Heart of Mary Catholic Church, Topeka. Brides Attention, brides-to-be! A few tips will help the Living Today Department of The Journal handle your engagement and wedding reports more efficiently. Forms are available at the office, 333 S.

Fourth, that detail all information the staff needs to write the announcement. Type ot print information, as errors are prevalent when handwriting is difficult to read. Use rank for all servicemen in the wedding party. If picture is to follow, indicate on form. Engagements are published in the Sunday edition and the deadline is noon Thursday.

Pictures should be 3-by 5-inch black and white glossy prints for the best reproduction. These may include the bride elect only or the couple. Information and pictures for wedding stories must be received in our office no later than two weeks after the ceremony. Publication is on a space-available basis in Sunday editions. Pictures should be 5- by 7-inch black and white glossies.

These may include the bride only or both of the newlyweds. Engagement and wedding pictures should be close-ups rather than full-length. Snapshots will not be accepted. Articles about the bridal showers are printed before the marriage takes place. The deadline for this information is one week in advance of the wedding date.

Photographs can be returned in self-addressed, stamped envelopes or held at The Journal office for pickup. their American families." Even if a searcher suspects the father was killed in action or has since died, most still want to know about their American relatives. Spurring the "war bables" who are well into their 40s, with children and, often, grandchildren of their own -is a sense of now-or-never urgency. Many redoubled their efforts after the muchpublicized 40-year reunion of D-Day veterans in 1984. "It's a desperate situation," said the founder of War Babes, Shirley McGlade, 41, who located her father last year.

"These men are now in their 70s and 80s." Many searchers only recently learned that they had fathers to search for. The stigma of having a child out of wedlock in the 1940s was severe, and children were often told little about their fathers. Janet O'Regan, 42, manager of a Northampton dress shop, learned the name of her father only two and a half years ago when she found her original birth certificate. "That's when I realized he might still be alive," she sald. "My mother had always told me he had been killed in the war." The need to establish a family identity has sharpened as the war bables have aged.

Watching their children grow has also strengthened the urge to locate their fathers, or at least their fathers' families. "I have this very deep longing to find the other half of the moon," said Joan Hickey, 41, a London teacher. "I don't look like anyone in my family, and I've always felt a little strange about that. I also feel I owe it to my sons. If I don't do something now, they may blame me for it later." But it Is not easy to find a father in another Sears Hearing Alds 42181 at a price you can afford Backed by the Reputation of Sears! JAMES LACY Sears Hearing Aid Consultant will be in your Sears store: April 13 9:30 am to 3:00 pm Come in for a Complimentary Hearing Test Your hearing needs are carelully and courteously allended to by capable highly trained personnel In-home appointments available USE SEARS CHARGE PLAN You can Sears count on 877 hostel 1 othe wars no joke for many By the Journal's Wire Services Realize your mother-in-law is Mother-in-law problems are no not going to let you be the only joke to millions of American influential woman in your husfamilies who suffer from them.

band's life. Nearly 60 percent of all marriages suffer some degree of ten- "Rather than hope your sion caused by stress between a mother-in-law will change," mother-in-law and daughter-in- Felder wrote, "you would be law, Leonard wiser to look to your husband for estimated psychologist in an Felder support, while also article in the drawing upon issue of Redbook, based on your own inner strength. and the April his research counseling hundreds knowledge that this is a natural of families. way for her to feel." Felder, co-author of "Making The companion-seeker, Peace With Your Parents" and "One of the most delicate Peace With Yourself," lenges of all is the widowed, disaid the cold war with your vorced, aging or otherwise demother-in-law could take its toll. pendent mother-in-law who needs It can put a strain on your or wants more from you than you marriage and on your children, are willing or able to give," add tension at family get- Felder wrote.

togethers, result in phone calls that ruin an entire day, strain The truly needy mother-in-law health and well-being. presents both an emotional and a your Felder wrote that mothers-in- practical problem. On the emolaw exhibit four traits that tend to tional level, you must know your drive da crazy, and own limits and not feel guilty many mothers-In-law exhibit two about sticking to them. or three of these traits. They are: On the practical side, explore The advice-giver.

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