The Post-Standard from Syracuse, New York • Page 19

1 Jt. i Dear Abby Fighting a Losing Battle THE POST-STANDARD, Syracuse, Monday, Dec. 12, 1966 19 By ABIGAIL VAN BUREN DEAK ABBY: My husband and I have been separated for months. We have five children under. 6 years old, and I am seven months pregnant now.

There is this tramp in town who has been spoiling my husband. She bought him about $300 worth of new clothes, a new rifle, a fishing rod and reel, plus she keeps him in liquor and cigarets, and has furnished him with a car and gas. He hasn't even been working because she gives him spending money. He is 23 and she is 26. His mother is all for it.

She says he Authority on Social Work Speaker for Institute ram Miss Margaret C. Shea, director of family and individual services for Mobilization for Youth will be featured speaker at an institute and luncheon Wednesday, at Syracuse University. Announcement of the event is made by Walter M. Beattie dean of the Syracuse University School of Social Work, and Mrs. Mary Bonner, president of the Family Service Center, whose organizations have jointly sponsored the arrangements Miss Shea has a wealth of experience in with the poor and is acknowledged as an authority on social services for the people of the inner cjfy.

She has held posts with Catholic Charities of the Archdiocese of New York, the New York City Department of Welfare and has taught at Loyola and a University Schools of Social Work. In addition, Miss Shea has been training director for New York City Youth Board, Secretary of the New York City Commission for the Foster Care of Children and executive director of the Bureau of Child Welfare. Approximately 30 practitioners from the Family Service Center staff as well as workers from related poverty agencies will particiate in the Workshop. Fifty guests from neighbor- 1 rganizations, social agencies, community planning bodies as well as lay and community leaders have been invited to the luncheon. The- Family Service Center provides family counselling, day care, and family life education in the 15th and 18th wards.

It is sponsored by the Syracuse University School of Social Work, Syracuse Housing Authority and the United Community Chest and Council. The agency is guided by a board of directors predominantly made up of neighborhood people. Reuben Bitensky is executive director. i i 1 MISS M. C.

SHEA They Core--for CARE Cindy Levy (left) and Nancy Berger attended the Federation of Women's Clubs Christmas luncheon recently in Hotel Syracuse. The girls and their absent friend, Diane Skwish, sold candy to raise funds for CARE presented a check for $34 to Mrs. Fred Blackmer, president, who will forward it to the CARE project. j- McConaghys Plan Travelogue Genetaska Club of Syracuse will meet for a Christmas luncheon at 12:30 p.m. Wednesday in Hotel Syracuse.

A holiday program will be given by the Rev. Dr. William Mc- a and Mrs. McConaghy. They have traveled estensively in Europe and the Hearty Appetites Call tor Stew A black iron kettle of simmering stew cheered many a hearth in the days of early America.

With the plentiful supply of beef on today's market, stew is an excellent meat dish for homemakers with modern ranges and shiny cooking pans, too. There are several ways to make savory stew. Some cooks like to flour chunks of stew meat before browning them; others like to brown them "as is" in a little Thot fat. To bring out real meat flavor, add liquid in small amounts as it cooks away. Instead of water or bouillon, try tomato, carrot, mixed vegetables or pple juice for a change.

Seasonings such as salt and pepper, garlic, onions and Worcestershire sauce can be added at the beginning' of the cooking. Vegetables, have better texture and flavor when cooked for a shorter amoun' oC time. WEDDING INVStATIONS 24-Hour Sorvico THE PHOENIX PRESS 005-4711 Phoenix, Far East. They will show slides of the Holy Land. Mrs.

Boyd Brown, board member of the Civic Morning Musicals and member of the Pro-Art group, will be guest soloist, accompanied by Mrs. Claude Bush. They also will lead carols. Wives of foreign graduate students at Syracuse University will be guests of honor. Mrs.

John Touhey is chairman of the day. Heading committees are Mrs. Robert Doubleday and Mrs. Lester ellyn. Mrs.

Robert Roney is hostess and Mrs. Herbert Kaye will give the invocation. CONCERT Dec. 19-8 P.M. Lincoln Auditorium Adm.

2.00, 3.50,5,00 Tickets: Syr. Council Arts mxl Sciences ift JC. OnondaRaSt. Wilson's Lending Jewelers is lucky have.a woman who is so good to him, and besides, now that he isn't working he has time to see her. I can't compete with this woman, Abby.

I still love my husband, no matter what, and want him back. Please help me. CAN'T COMPETE "DEAR CAN'T: You are fighting a losing battle over what appears to be a doubtful "prize." You can't force a man to live with you, but the law can make him support you and your children. The apple (your husband) didn't fall far from the tree (his mother) and yours acts as though he was bruised in the fail. DEAR ABBY: I may be old-fashioned, think; it's in very poor taste to give money for Christmas.

My mother-in-law sends my child a check every Christmas, and I get furious with her. I have been so tempted to send it back or to send HER a check in the same amount. I feel if she can't take the time (of which she has plenty) to shop for her grandchild, she can just keep her money. My child would be more impressed with a candy bar sent by mail than he is with grandma's check. Should I tell her to forget it? NO NAME, PLEASE DEAR NO NAME: No.

You could explain to your child that die check is his to be saved or spent for something he wants. think it's preferable to giving a child a gift he neither likes' nor can use, but feels he must keep (or worse, yet, wear) because it's grandma's Christmas gift. One thing abputmoney, the color- is always right, and you don't have to worry about "fit." It fits into any pocketbook. DEAR ABBY: In reference to "HURT," whose husband went to an office party after telling her that no wives were invited, but she later learned that wives HAD BEEN invited. For a long time I believed those, stories about office parties, retirement parties, picnics, and.outings where no wives' were invited, only to find out that not only were they invite'd, but my husband had been escorting another man's wife and introducing her as his own.

Tell "HURT" to check to see if her husband didn't take some other "wife." EXPERIENCED CONFIDENTIAL TO "NO SAINT" IN LONG ISLAND: I'll say you're not. Your letter reminded me of the prayer St. Augustine addressed to heaven when he was a young man: "0, Lord, make me chaste--but not How has the world been treating you? Unload your problems on Dear Abby, Box 69700, Los Angeles, Cal. 90069. For a personal unpublished reply, enclose a self-addressed, stamped envelope.

Listen to "Dear Abby" from 11:55 a.m. to noon Monday through Friday on WHEN Radio. Organizations have scheduled the following events: Fere LeMoync Mothers' and Community Club Christmas program at 1:15 p.m. Wednesday. Holiday booths will be featured and Santa Claus will visit.

Opti-Mrs. Christmas party and workshop for gifts for the Girls' Club at 8 p.m. Wednesday at the home of Mrs. Carl Steigerwald II, Fayetteville. Mrs.

Gordon Pihlblad is workshop chairman. Miss Anne Babic will be guest speaker. Syracuse University Dames children's Christmas party at 6:30 p.m. Wednesday at the Church of St. Therese School.

Mrs. Larry Cagle and Mrs. Richard Baldwin have charge of the event. Puppet shows, stories, games and surprises are planned. Members are to take clothing, new toys or canned 'foods-for the Christmas Bureau.

Catholic Women's Club annual Christmas dinner at 6:30 p.m.. Wednesday at the clubhouse. Miss. Mary Fitzgerald is honorary chairman. Pre- dinner entertainment will begin at 6 p.m.

Miss Eileen Delbridge and Miss Viola Ludgate, chairmen, request reservations; be made at-the clubhouse by Lakesbore Road Elementary School Christmas operetta in three acts, "Mr. Grumpy's Toy Shop" at 7:30 p.m. Wednesday and Thursday at the school auditorium. The cast will include 34 students. Syracuse Chapter of American Society of Women Accountant meeting at 6:15 p.m.

Thursday at Miss Hazel M. Templar will discuss "Recent Changes in Individual Income Taxes." The GIFT Incomparable Our furs go to all lengths to please her from the luxurious brevity of the mink boa to the sweeping splendor of the full-length mink. Our full-length mir.ks are wonderful fashion investments, $1095 to $2995. The natural Emba Autumn mink stole will be her pride and joy throughout the year, $395 to $895. (Not shown, mink jacket, $595 to $1495).

The sleek black broadtail-processtd lamb jacket with mink-collar is fashion value at just $195. To top everything (coat, suit or even hat) give her the versatile mink boo, $39 to $139. i Fur Salon Second floor Mink Bmdtrt Atioc. Pun labtUd to Show Country of Origin of Imporitd I I I It I fc I ft 1 fl 1 John H. Koonce Weds Miss Helen Y.

Curran MRS. JOHN H. KOONEC THROAT HEALS HezeklX; Hubbard, 36, of 123 Bassett St. has been discharged from St. Joseph's Hospital.

Hubbafd cut his throat when his head rammed through the windshield of a car which struck a pole Nov. 27 in the 1200 block of James Street. The marriage of Miss Helen Curran of 989 James St. and John H. Koonce of Bin- gley Cazenovia, took place at 11 a.m.

Friday in Miss Rosenfeld To Be Married Mr. and Mrs. William Rosenfeld of 221 Briggs St. announce the engagement of their daughter, Miss Joan Lucille Rosenfeld, to Lawrence Joseph Epolito, son of Mr. and Mrs.

Lawrence F. Epolito of 406 Wheaton Road. A November wedding is scheduled. Miss Rosenfeld, a graduate of North School, is employed by Bond, Schoencck and King. Her fiance is an alumnus of Henninger High School and is attending Onondaga Community College.

Mr. Epolito is associated with la- cone Brothers. DeWitt Community Church. The ceremony was performed by the Rev. Alexander Carmichel.

The attendants were Mrs. Louis Washer of Richmond, Va. and Mr. Koonce's two sons, John H. Koonce Jr.

and Robert Koonce. Mr. Koonce is manager of service operations for the Carrier Air Conditioning Company and Mrs. Koonce is director of personnel for women at Carrier. A reception and wedding breakfast' in the Corinthian Club followed 4he ceremony.

Out-of-town guests were Mr. and Mrs. Washer, Miss Katherine Goepp of Rochester, Mr. and Mrs. John Koonce of Shreveport, La.

and their daughters, Diane and Lynda, and Miss Llewella Gain of Newark, N.J. Mr. and Mrs. Koonce will live at 989 James St. OPENING EVERY EVtNING 'TIL 9 P.M.

THROUGH DECEMBER 23rd AT HOME FOR THE HOLIDAYS A TENT OF GAY COTTON SATEEN A. ATTRACTIVE BUBBLE PRINT on combed cotton sateen. Made with split cardigan front zipper. With self belt to wear or not. Blue, maize or pink.

XL B. SPLASHY FLORAL PRINT on combed cotton sateen. Collarless, with zipper back, large patch pockets. orange. UXL Budget Dresses, Main floor; House and Town Shop, Sicond Floor; ALSO CAMILLUS PLAZA.