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www iMOLLY i MAYFIELDj PAGE 32 PITTSBURGH PRESS, JANUARY 22, 1953 Fashion-Head First Hubby's a Cut-up At Conventions And Wifie Says She Has Put Up With It for the Last Time Vr-r? 7V CHAIRMAN OF ORGANIZATIONS Mrs. Joseph J. Keenan, center, gets together with her committee for the Congress of Clubs donor luncheon March 26. Seated on either side of Mrs. Keenan, are Mrs.

Elmer L. Kaercher and Mrs. James King, behind them are Mrs. Carl W. Holmes and Mrs.

Donald F. Burr. Dear afrs. Mayfield: What: is there about conventions that drive some men nuts? What is it that makes them lose their control and throw refinement to the wind? Unfortunately, my husband is one of the "conventional coots." But I have put up with it for the last time. We have just come back from a recent gathering where he, my darling, dearest husband, put on a show to end all shows.

He got ripping, roaring skunk drunk, and then went into his little act The "act" lasted the entire week end. First, my little hunbie pie. stood on table In a tavern and recited bawdy poetry. Then he slid down the bannister from the mezzanine to the lobby, and nearly broke a leg. Then he pinched the elevator girl.

Then, when we finally got him to our room he succeeded in swinging from the door sill and shouting am king of the apes!" I think he is, and of the jackasses, too. For some young thing just back from years in service, okay, let him have his fling. Why not? But when a gray-haired professional man with a paunch starts acting like a wild baboon, well, that's different. As I have said, I will never put up with this again, never. But how shall I manage him? He'll see this letter, of course, and so will some of his pals.

If he's embarrassed, maybe he'll know how I felt. Mad Wife. Dear Mad Why don't you let your husband go to his conventions and enjoy himself? If he behaves perfectly respectably around town, why shouldn't he be allowed to cut up a little when he gets away with a gay group? You know. Mad Wife, you can't expect any husband, not even a gray-haired, paunchy, professional man, to mind his P'b and Q's all the time. A little fling now and then is good for him, relaxes him, and makes him feel a boy again.

Don't be stuffy about it. Or at least try not to. I know how you feel. No wife likes to watch her husband make a fool of himself. It's sort of painful, isn't it? My suggestion is that you let him go to the conventions alone and really enjoy himself.

Or else, if you insist on going with him, resolve to wear your thickest coat of tolerance. M. M. Note to Nervous Wreck: If you and the man you want to marry are always quarreling about your two-year-old son now, don't expect things to get better after the wedding. How can you possibly have a happy home under such circumstances? Better give this a little more thought before plunging into another marriage.

M. M. Dear Puzzled: Your husband and children deserve your first attention, rather than your parents. Didn't you promise to forsake all others when you took your marriage vows? It would be a sad mistake to Insist your husband give up his good job here to go back where your parents live. Especially when you say they never did get along together, are apart now, and that your father drinks heavily.

You married at a very young age to get away from this fighting -and unhappiness at home, you say. Why don't you arrange to go back for a visit? See for yourself how things are. A trip back would probably cure any pangs of homesickness you have, and might also settle a lot of problems that bother you now. M. M.

Note Worried Mom: What you learned by reading your daughter's diary is most distressing. If she is in the trouble you suspect, give her an opportunity to tell you about it herself. If she doesn't, then bring up the subject. Admit to her you did wrong to read her diary. But don't preach or scold.

What she needs more than anything else right now is sympathy, love and understanding if what she has written in her diary is true. M. M. Do you have a personal problem? Then write to Molly Mayfield, Box 476, The Pittsburgh Press. Federation Approves Resolution on Ballots County Group Hears Two Travelers AtWinter Meeting at Hotel Sheraton By GRACE PROVEN, Press Club Editor Allegheny County Federation of Women's Clubs members approTed a resolution presented by the North Boroughs Woman's Club yesterday.

The Federation's winter meeting was held at the Sheraton Hotel. The North Boroughs organization proposed that the Federation favor legisla- 1 II 4 Change of Hair Style Gives Woman 'Lift By LENORE BRUNDIGE Press Beauty Editor How long has it been since you changed your hair style? If you are over 40, chances are you have clung to the same style that looked right ten years ago or more. Young women tend to accept a change in hair styling more readily. But if you are over 40 and do change your way of wearing your hair according to new style trends, you are to be congratulated. The older a woman grows, the more important it becomes to have the hair complement facial changes, rather than call attention to sagging lines which invariably develop- with age.

Good Foundation Proper cutting and shaping are positively necessary in order to create a good foundation for styling. Equally important is a soft permanent. A tight, crimpy wave is what many women insist upon simply because they have grown accustomed to that kind. When you go to a hairdresser, choose one you have confidence in and don't start off by giving instructions how to style your hair. A competent, trained operator who knows his or her job will give you a flattering style If you don't Insist on the same old way you have always worn your hair.

In general, hair that sweepsxup and away from the face gives a "lift" that Is more youthful than dips over forehead and cheeks. Give ft a Chance Be open-minded about the new style. Give yourself a chance to grow accustomed to it. Chances are you should Shadyside Sisters Engaged Recently Announcement has been made of the engagement of two daughters of Mrs. Ernst Frederic Brand, of Shadyside, and the late Rev.

Brand. Marilyn Brand will become the bride of James Lampman, son of Mr. and Mrs. Clarence Lampman, of Sun Prairie, Wis. He is a graduate of La Crosse State Teachers College.

Her sister, Gertrude Loraine Brand, is engaged to John Allen Coburn son of the John A. Cobums, of Point Breeze. The bridegroom-elect is attending the University of Pittsburgh. The Misses Brand are alumnae of the Shadyside Hospital School of Nursing. CDA Card Party A card party will be held tomorrow evening by Court East Liberty, Catholic Daughters of America, at the May-Stem Auditorium.

CHILD GUIDANCE 4 1 'r I Masters School Sets Date Annual Luncheon To Be Held March 28 By ANNE WEISS, Press Society Editor A springtime date has been announced by the Masters Society of Pittsburgh for their annual luncheon which will take place March 28 in the Fox Cflapel Golf Club. Elizabeth Brooke Cochran, headmistress of the Masters School located in Dobbs Ferry, N. will share honors with a faculty member, Caroline Ward. Mrs. Kenneth Boesel and Mrs.

Theodore Radcliffe head the luncheon committee. The Masters alumnae has announced plans for Its June benefit. They will be the first to hold a theater party at the White Barn, near Irwin, In the 1953 season, as they have chosen June 6, the date for a preview of the first performance of the summer. Funds derived from the benefit will be used for alumnae charitable projects with a portion to be allocated to the school building fund. Mrs.

Daniel A. Herrick Jr. is chairman of the theater party, assisted by Mrs. James Marks Jr. and Mrs.

Rowland Erving. Elzaaor Hofock to Wed A small family breakfast in the University Club will follow the marriage of Eleanor Wishart Hallock and Robert Findley Arrott which will be solemnized Saturday in Heinz Memorial Chapel. The ceremony will be performed by Dr. Emory University chaplain. The bride-to-be is the daughter of Mrs.

John Wilson Wishart Hallock, of South Linden Ave. Mr. Arrott is the son of the late Mr. and Mrs. Charles Arrott.

February Nupiial Dot February 7 is the date named by Mary Louise Taggart for her marriage to Elliott Gene Garlock, son of Mr. and Mrs. Edward T. Garlock, of Ralston Place, Mt. Lebanon.

The marriage will take place In St. Bernard's Church, Mt. Lebanon. Miss Taggart is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs.

Edward T. Taggart, of Overlook Drive, Mt. Lebanon. Spring Weddnj A spring wedding is planned by Joan Linda Mottino, daughter of Mr. and Mrs.

Hercules J. Mottino, of Flushing, Queens, N. and Williamson Hedding, son of Mr. and Mrs. J.

Fred Hedding, of Pittsburgh. The bride-elect was graduated from Averett Junior College, Danville, Va and is a senior at Syracuse University. Her fiance is an alumnus of Culver Milflary Academy and Syracuse University. Points For Parents By EDYTH WALLACE Not This Mother: "You're acting like little baby. None of these boys cry every time they fall down.

Why can't you be a big brave boy like they are?" This Mother: "We'll go in the house and see how much you're hurt. Next time you fall down, 111 bet you'll be such a big boy you won't even cry. Shaming: a child before his playmates Is both cruel and ineffective. Day program Feb. 25 at the Boggs and Bulh Auditorium.

She also asked for a 10 per cent representation in blood donations, and the buying of at least one bond per month. Mrs. H. E. Reingrover, County welfare chairman, suggested sending books especially for boys from seven to 18 to those at the Thorn Hill Institution, and that club drama groups arrange for sketches to be presented at Easter- time.

Adult Education Mrs. E. O. Liggitt asked the women to consider in their programs adult education projects. Mrs.

Arthur M. Harrison stressed the need for warm clothing for Korean children and needles and thread in the packages sent overseas. District Club Chatter "Poetry and Its Composition will be the topic of Mrs. Ernest Waltz at a meeting of the Poetry Society of Great Britain and America the luncheon event will be held tomorrow at the Congress of Clubs Mrs. John L.

Koch of Sewickley will conduct a poetry contest. Guests of honor will be Mr. and Mrs. Frank Hawkins the former, a Pittsburgh newspaperman, recently returned from a trip to Europe and a visit to the United Nations. The Pittsburgh Unit, United Federation of Doll Clubs, will hear a talk on wooden dolls the program will be given by Mrs.

H. B. Thomson tomorrow at the Congress of Clubs. "Frontier Forts of Pennsylvania" will be the topic of Mrs. John Cochrane Daub at a meeting of Yohogania Chapter, Daughters of the American Colonists the women will meet for luncheon Saturday at the Twentieth Century Club.

Among the group's projects Is the collection of early records the documents are preserved after they are microfilmed they are available to those interested in research. A dinner and program is planned by the Pittsburgh Assn. of School Secretaries for their principals and administrators the function will take place tomorrow evening at the Emory Methodist Church. G. P.

Joan Mae Hartstein Will Be June Bride Announcement, has en made of the engagement of Joan Mae Hartstein, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. George Hartstein, of Longvue Drive, to Lyle Bergman, son of Mr. and Mrs. W.

H. Bergman of Hinkle Road. Both are from Ross Township. Mr. Bergman attends Geneva College.

The wedding is planned for June. These Women! "I do NOT spend money like water! Haven't you seen the water bill yet?" not a Ct5 ODGO MATURE WOMEN need hair expertly styled by a skilled hairdresser, more than a young woman does whose facial lines have not sagged with age. An upswept style "lifts" the face, top, above, as can be seen by the difference in the old style dips-and-waves so often favored by older women. also change the style of hat along with the style in hairdo. Before buying a new spring hat," have a new hair style first, then after you have gotten adjusted to the styling, look for a hat that goes with it.

Now is an excellent time for a change, before pur- chasing your new Easter bonnet. There is nothing like a becoming hair style, plus a new hat, to take years off your appearance p. and to make you feel like a new woman. 1 msmmmmmmmmmsmm Nancy Lee Zoffel Becomes Bride Nancy Lee Zoffel became the bride of William E. Haldeman on Sunday in Calvary Presbyterian Church.

After the ceremony, a reception was held in the Penn Lincoln Hotel. The bride is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Irvine R. Zoffel, of Wilkinsburg.

Parents of Mr. Haldeman are Mr. and Mrs. E. Haldeman, of Forest Hills.

Wilkinsburg will be the couple's home. Oakmont Girl Engaged Mr. and Mrs. Nicholas Ga-lardy, of Oakmont, have an-nouced the engagement of their daughter, Vicky, to Pvt. Samuel Shemaka.

He is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Sam Shemaka of Glenshaw. Borden's tastes so rich because it's 100 Pure Crystals of 100 Pure Coffee tion permitting the use of the absentee ballot. The resolution will be presented at the convention of the Pennsylvania Federation of Women's Clubs in Pittsburgh in May.

New Clubs Two new clubs were accepted by the County Federation. They are the Greentree Woman's Club and the Bellevue Outlook club. The two will lift the County's individual -membership total by about 70 women. Since the beginning of Mrs. John W.

Rehling's term as president, Federation has won four new clubs. The others are the Woman's Club of Over-brook and the Baldwin Borough Woman's Club. State Welfare Chairman Mrs. Earle A. Brown urged 100 per cent participation when tuberculosis X-ray mobile units are spotted throughout Allegheny County in March.

Bullziin. Contest The County publicity chairman, Mrs. Howard A. Irvine, announced the deadline for the club bulletin contest March 27. Junior and senior periodicals will be judged separately and on a point basis.

Speaker at the morning session was Carl S. Coler, West-inghouse engineer, who was sent to Korea as a representative of the Economic Co-operative Administration. Mr. Coler told of his experiences, sketching a picture of civilian life in the war-ravaged peninsula. Talk on Asia Afternoon speaker was Rev.

Paul F. Hudson, pastor of the Pleasant Hills Community Church. He too. is a traveler. His topic was "The Arab World and Israel Pertaining to the Point Four Program." Rev.

Hudson recently returned from a study tour of 18 countries in the Middle East, Africa and Europe. His motive was to evaluate world conditions as a representative of the American Christian Palestine Committee. Make Pleas During reports of other committee chairmen, several pleas were made for aid in County Federation projects. Mrs. Edwin Long, civil defense chairman, asked members to attend the Civil Defense Eastern Stai Party Oakland Chapter, Order of the Eastern Star, will hold a card party tomorrow evening at Serbian Halll blocnlob In eight I mm 12.00, $40.

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He is the father, of two little boys. 2- Waiting for him to answer, I thought, "How it would be for the children to, get out the country away from the slum orphanage where their father works!" Then my 'friend was on the phone to be "given my message. After I delivered it, there was a pause. Not a long one. A pause of about ten seconds.

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