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The Piiulun-gh Press 39th Annual Italian Days Open Sunday Mt1gj72 ISDA Fights Stereotype, Stresses Prid thing in American society. "They teach peo Friday, July 14, 1972 13 By PATRICIA FORD The era of epithets like "wop, guinea and dago" is over, according to an Italian community leader, who insists the group must still fight a stereotype. Guy V. Mendola of Carnegie, president of the Order Italian Sons and Daughters of America (ISDA), discussed problems still facing his group. Mendola is busy planning the 39th annual Italian Days celebration which will begin Sunday noon with a mass at the Pittsburgh Hilton Hotel.

'Mafia' Opposition Backed The president believes Joseph Columbo's efforts to have the word mafia taken out of the script of the "Godfather" were a "good approach." "We must fight this stereotype where people identify the word Mafia with Italians and organized crime," Mendola stressed. He added that even John Mitchell, former attorney general, saw the harm done to the Italian people. "Mitchell said the government would no longer use the word mafia because he realized the association." Mendola explained that the term comes from a secret organization in Sicily. "We here in America resent being identified with these night riders," he said. Mendola feels ethnic groups are a positive ple to be proud of their heritage, he said.

"America is a melting pot so why should we lose our identity?" Mendola also believes that ISDA is one of the closest-knit groups. "Of all the fraternal ethnic organizations, we a probably the tightest and most active. We get this support, because we are oriented to function for our people," he said. The Italian celebrations Sunday and Tuesday are full of tradition according to the president. "They are a derivative of the old block party where community activities would be held in the Italian ghettos," Mendola pointed out.

"The purpose of the celebration is to reaffirm our faith in America and in our Italian 'ulture, music and heritage." Outnj it Tuesdoy The events begin with a concelebrated pon-Mfical mass and luncheon at noon Sunday. The Italian Day outing at Kennywood Park will be Tuesday. Mendola noted that the ISDA will enter-ain orphans and displaced and retarded children at this outing. The ISDA folk music and dance group, "I Campagnoli," will perform at the park grandstand at 8:30 p. m.

The progrom will be opened by State Sen. Edward P. Zemprelli at 7:30 p.m. I 0 aI I irfItJ I ft Press Pnoio oy Eaward A. FronK GUY V.

MENDOLA President of Italian Sons and daughters. The Girls Hints From Heloise Hair Dryer Works On Sh oes, Too of the traveling cases, I check to see that everything is packed. Now I know no one will be provoked at having to mail me anvthing that I left behind. LIKE TO HELP -Press Photo by Kent Badoer HERE IT IS, FOLKS The famous chess chair. Bobby Fischer wouldn't move a pawn until this Herman Miller chair, designed by Charles Eames, was flown to Reykjavik, Iceland, for the match with Boris Spassky for the world's chess championship now in progress.

Fischer paid a wholesale price of $471 .60, ($524. retail) for it. Mrs. Cheryl Janusck of West Mifflin "models" the chair at Hende-Jon Galleries, Ross Street. Sponsors of the world match have now ordered one for Spassky also.

Dear Abby Your Mistakes Cost Others By ABIGAIL AN BUREN Dear Abby: In response to "Former Rewftr" and all others who insist that what they do with their bodies is "their own Yes, it's your business, provided no one else ever has to pay By HELOISE Dear Heloise: One morning I needed my tennis shoes for gym class. They were still wet and would be too uncomfortable to wear. So here is what my mother did that saved the day: She took the hood off her hair dryer and placed just the nozzle inside the shoe. Then she turned the heat control to give the maximum heat, and let the air blow inside each shoe for about five minutes. This dried the shoes beautifully and didn't harm them a bit.

(And just in time too). J. N. Rieed Added To Soup Dear Heloise: My children always eat the rice in chicken and rice soup, and leave the broth. Now I prepare the soup according tothedireetions, sprinkle instant rice in it and let it sit a minute or so.

There is only a little broth left and lots of rice. This can be done with other types of soup too. The children really clean the bowl this way. CHARLOTTE CHAMBL1SS Rash Cleared Up Dear Heloise: When we're That makes two of us. I can't remember how many times I've left something behind.

Never again will I he guilty, thanks to you, Net Protects Hair Dear Heloise: I use your wonderful nylon net for lots of things. But one thing I like best is to wrap my new hairdo in it instead of toilet tissue. And it lasts longer. In fact, the hairdo stays nice and the net lasts forever. MRS.

W. K. Tope Grips Grippzr Dear Heloise: I have found a neat way to put gripper-type fasteners on a garment. I hold them in place with cellophane tape while I tap them with a hammer. I save not only time, but my fingers as well.

MARILYN GRADY If you have a time or money-saving hint, send it to Heloise, smoother than when a regular deep sauce pan is used. I stir with a slotted spoon that I regularly use to stir gravv or white sauce. A READER A plastic pancake turner is fantabulous, ton. Memory Given Boost Dear Heloise: When traveling, have you ever stopped for the night, only to find you had left something where you stayed the night before? My answer is a big fat yes, and more than once. Now, when I get ready to leave, I pull up the bedspread and smooth it.

I fold all my clothes and lay them on the bed, ready to be put in the suitcase. With my train case, I drop each of my toilet articles into the case as I finish using it. Just before leaving, and before 1 have closed and locked anv "If you ask me, the relaxing part of painting comes when you give it up." financially, emotionally or otn- erwise for your rashness. So long as your parents are foot serving water. The National Association of Plumbing Heating Cooling Contractors says a thermostatic control on a shower saves $10 a year in water and fuel bills.

Having a leaky faucet fixed can save $30 a year on the water bills. A l-16th-inch leak wastes 3,000 gallons a month. Focus Being Put On Saving Water "Better water management" is a term you'll be hearing a lot this year. It refers to the need for water conservation and pollution control. Even if your area doesn't have water shortages, you can save money by con- ing your bills, your body is "their business," foul it up, and they must pay to straighten it and you out.

Even after you sever I cut one in half and used part at home and put part In the diaper bag. The pad can be washed and hung up to dry and it lasts a long time. SUSAN HARRIS iff ii Tubes Cut In Hail Dear Heloise: To get the last bit of hand cream from plastic tubes, cut the tube in two. Then you can reach with your finger into either half to get out all that goop. To reclose, simply shove one half of the tube inside the other half.

This way every smidgen can be used up. MRS. CHARLES WEBB Pfastfe Bags Washed Dear Heloise: I want to pass on to you my trick for drying plastic bags, which may be too good to discard after one use: I wash them in my clean, soapy dishwater, rinse inside and out, then hang to dry over two tall bottles. EDWINA BROWN Utter Of Thought Dear Heloise: I 1 1 came across this Roman saying and thought you and your readers might benefit from it: "When astranger cares enough to speak, he becomes a friend." Dick 'Fried' Pudding Smooth Dear Heloise: To hasten the cooking of pudding-type pie 1 1 1 i and for guaranteed smooth results, I use a 10-inch no-stick, coated frying pan on top of the stove. It will hold the contents of either size of pudding mix (large or small box), and stirs so much easier and turns out Box 776, The Pittsburgh Press 15230.

I id yt Abby cause his kisses are from hunger when you're hungry for kisses. Abby Sacked Dear Abby: I have news for Villanova C. P. Relationship, either by blood or marriage (or the absence of it) has absolutely nothing to do with dependency for tax purposes, Any C. P.

A. knows that one can claim a deduction for the first str-jger that comes down the street if he can prove that he provides more than 50 per cent of that person's support and he occupies his household. You were right the first time, Abby. If you don't have a legal spouse, you don't have in-laws. VILLANOVA LAWYER parental apron strings, if you foul up your body with alcohol or "drugs, or some other foolishness, and someone else (the public, your spouse or your traveling, I carry disposable diapers.

On our last trip, I noticed the baby had a slight rash when I changed her diapers. I realized she was too warm and was perspiring because I had put her rubber pants on over the plastic cover of the diaper. I just removed the plastic covering from the diaper, put on her rubber pants and, in a day or two, the rash had completely disappeared. GAIL Pad Good For Change Dear Heloise: Shortly after my baby was born, I came upon an idea I would like to pass on to other new mothers. The sponge or foam pad that comes with some Ironing board covers makes a wonderful pad for changing baby.

friend. I needed Thanks, that. Do you have a perplexing problem? Write to Abby, Box 778, The Pittsburgh Press, 152.10. I a stamped, self-addressed envelope for a personal reply. Keeping Posted On Etiquette Language Needs Word For 'Other Grandparents' By ELIZABETH L.

POST As you know, our language needs some additional words a word which would mean "my daughter's father-in-law" or "my son-in-law's father," both awkward. Recently my daughter-in-law's mother introduced me by saying "Mrs. Lewis and I share our grand- children) has to pay in money, hardship, or mental anguish, your body is not entirely your own business. I am fed up with paying taxes to support wives and children of alcoholics and drug addicts, and I'm tired of paying for public-sponsored medical and psychiatric treatment for people who have chosen to wreck their lives. I am fed up with paying high insurance rates because of drivers who are addicted to alcohol or dope, and with supporting enormous police forces a combat crimes resulting trQm such addiction.

Th only person whose body absolutely his (or her) own to treat fooiishly is one who is self-supporting, no relatives, no friends, no dependents and is completely exiled from civilization. AN OLD SQL' ARK I'm in all four of your corners. Htr Kiutr't Bed Dear Abby: I suppose to some my problem may seem funny, but to me it's no joke. Tve been dating this terrific guy for a few weeks now and we get along just great. He takes me to the best places, and he's a perfect gentleman, but the problem is this: He can't kiss.

He really turns me on and I'd love to kiss the guy, but he's such an amateur. I just don't know what to do. He has to be the worst kisser I've ever come across in my entire life. After a date, I dread going home because I know I will have to kiss him. It's getting pretty sickening.

I would normally tell any other fellow with this problem how I felt about it, but he is the nicest guy I've ever dated I don't want to hurt him. Don't tell me he will improve with time because my stomach isn't that strong. Please hurry vour answer. YICII You must tell him. From your description of the guy, he's too good to kiss off be children." It suited that occa sion perhaps someone else BimWomerfs Shoes 0.0 00 Our parents will shortly be observing their golden anniversary.

The children and their spouses are having an "at home" in honor of the occasion. Will you please tell us the order in which we will stand In the receiving line? Also, are corsages indicated up (Keg.n.95to1395) Selection of fine Casuals ii could use It. A. -1 thoroughly agree we very much need a word for the families of our children's spouses. The only language which has such a word, IQVQ 25...

Mrs. Post Char McNeil Signature Election (Reg.16.95to24X)0) C40 shoes by cn Inauer mcl leiL for any of the family women other than the honnree And should Dad wear a bouton-niere? A. Ordinarily, the host (and hostess) stand first in the receiving line in order to introduce people to the guest of honor. In your rase, have the oldest son and his wife stand first to greet the guests. Then, so that they will not be far down the line, place your parents next.

The other children and their spouses should follow but do not i ncl ud grandchildren. That would make too much of a crowd in the line and the young people will be much more useful as members of the house party. Only your mother should wear a corsage, but your father should certainly have a boutonniere. To make your wedding day the happy, memorable occasion you want it to be, my booklet "Your Guide to Formal Wedding Procedure" is just what you need. To get a copy, send 35 cents in coin to cover booklet and mailing expenses, to Elizabeth L.

Post, Box 476, The Pittsburgh Press, 1523S. as far as I know, is Hebrew, and the word is "machatoon-om. In Yiddish, the equivalent word refers only to the parents and is "machitunim." Your daughter or son's father-in-law ir your "machi-1 in," and the mother-in-law is "niachitainista." Sue Shymcr, in her very practical guide for mothers-in-law, "Keep Your Mouth Shut and Your Pocketbook Open," suggests a simpler neuter, derivation of the three, "mackitoons." Try it on your friends perhaps we can coin a word that has a very legitimate background. MONROEYILLE MALL 242-3900 American Express SOUTH HILLS VILLAGE 531-3910 Bank Americard having a song that means some-thing special to you. Master Charge.