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D6 Asbury Park PressSunday, October 7, 1990 A smile, a few minutes of conversation, an there's so much you can do COLUMBUS DAY Technology is making us uncivil By LEWIS BEALE Knight-Ridder Newspapers to help someone in the hospital. Volunteers at Jersey Shore provide an extra measure of care. SPECTACULAR SAVINGS ON: Watches Sample Select Leather Fall Shoes Coatsl Boots 29" 39" sugg ratal 79" Your talents can be put to valuable use helping with patients, the gift cart, the information desk or elsewhere. 23999 3999 sugg real 700" sugg ratal to 85" OCT 7th thru OCT 8th Quantities Sizes limited Do what you can to help, even if it's just a few hours per week. w1 Vw VOLUNTEER CALL 776-4177 i 7f JW1 in Kit CALL NOW FOR FREE ESTIMATE Jersey Shore Medical Center TOLL FREE FROM ANYWHERE 1 V-.

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NOTE TO READER: Please read entire ad tor possible additional dates noted In bold. OCTOBER 7 Italian American Club, Middletown 4th annual 50th Dance, Sat. 1013, 8pm. Hot cold buffet. $22person.

Music by Easy Street. Italian American Memorial West Endlndi-ana Long Branch. Info 741-2136, 671-2473, 671-8450 Jackson Township Mayor's Fall Flea Market, 8 a.m. -3 p.m. at Johnson Park (Cooks Bridge Rd.

Manhattan St.) All vendors welcome, must supply own table (food, Jackson vendors only). Space fee $5. Further info, 928-1200. ext. 255.

Lakewood Maennerchor Octoberfest, Sat Oct. 13th, 7pm. at Clubhouse, Lanes Mill Howell. Donation $6, Dancing to Norbert Ludewig Orchestra. German Food drink at reason-able prices.

Call Ed Friend. 922-9273 for Reservations St. George Greek Ladies Philoptochos of Asbury Park Fall Luncheon and Fashions by Angelic Tiger, Rumson. Ocean-Place Hilton Ballroom, One Ocean Long Branch, Sat. Oct.

13th, 11:30 AM. Donations $27. 774-6142, 222-7674. The Old Wall Historical Society Antique, Craft Collectable Show at the Allgor-Barkalow Museum, 1701 New Bedford Wall. Sat.

Oct. 13. Table space $10 (car length). 9 A.M. -3 P.M.

For info call 974-1393. Rain date 1014. The Spartan Booster Club of Ocean Township High School Annual Flea Market and Craft Fair. Middlebrook Shopping Center, Hwy. 35 and Deal Rd.

9am-4pm. Raindate. Oct. 14. The White Pine Twig of Community Medical Ctr.

aux. Is holding it's 21st annual home tour and boutique from 10-4pm. 1013. Tickets are $20, avail, at T. R.

Pharmacy, T. Clancys Pharmacy, Beachwood, The Jolly Tar, Bay Head. OCTOBER 14 Battleground Arts Center, "Imago" Masked theater at it's best, visual illusions, non stop fun for all ages, Marlboro High School, Rt. 79, 2 PM. Tickets $12, $9 $6 (children under 12).

SI more at door. Info A VisaMC over $20. 462-8811. Christian Brothers Academy, Uncroft. Annual open house, from for students entering 9th grade in Sept.

1991. They can register on Oct. 7 for the entrance examina-tion on Nov. 3. 1990.

For information call 747-1959. Juvenile Diabetes Foundation, Central Jersey Chapter, Walka-thon. On the boardwalk, Asbury Park to Spring Lake. 9 A.M Berkley Carteret Hotel. Line up sponsors, prizes based on amount raised.

To preregister call 842-8117 or 536-1639. Manasquan Elks BPOE 2534 Pancake Sausage breakfast, including scrambled eggs, juice and coffee, at the Lodge on Stockton Lake 8am until noon. Adults $3., children under 6 $1.50. Public welcome. Ocean County Camera Club Photo Flea Market, Sun.

Oct. 7, Lakewood High School Cafeteria, E. 7th 10 am-4 pm. Tables $20. Admission $2.

Early admission 16. All types of photographic equipment. 363-8099 or 270-6428 aft. 6 pm Parents Without Partners a singles organization requiring verification presents an open house, DJ dance at the Leisure Lounge, Rt. 70, Lakewood.

Orientation Dance 9pm-lam, Free buffett. Members $5. Public $8. 367-7566 Single Faces invites you on Oct. 7, 8pm to the sophisticated exquisite Hilton at Short Hills for an elite Columbus Day dance party.

379-0100 for directions or 238-0972 for info. Discount wad. Jackets req. Always over 400 singles. St.

Paul United Methodist Church Twilight Music Series at St. Paul's United Methodist, New York Embury Ocean Grove NJ. 4 pm. Recital of "Psalms Of David" by soloist from Chancelor Choir, Thelma Rainear Director. Public welcome.

The Wanamassa Fire Company will be holding a Fire Prevention Open House. The Open House will run from 12PM to 3PM at the firehouse located on the corner of Sunset Ave. and Wickapecko Dr. in Ocean Township. OCTOBER 8 "Over-50-Nifties Singles A super turnout every Monday night, 7-1 lpm.

Oakhurst Recreation Building on West Park Ave. (Vj mi. east of Hwy. 35, first street on the left). Dancing, buffet, live music.

$6. For 544-0222 OCTOBER 9 Bayville Elks Ladies Auxiliary, Flea Market, every Tues. Starts 9 a.m. 247 Route 9, Bayville. Bargains for everyone.

For info. call 269-0648 Ladder, ADD Parent Support Group meeting. Tues. Oct 9. Monmouth Regional High School.

Topic is Neu-rodevelopmental Testing: Diagnosis of ADD and a use of medication. Speaker is Joel Barry Edman. MP, pediatrician. Oakhurst Methodist Church, UMW is having its annual Fall Rummage Sale at the Church, corner Monmouth Rd. Lincoln Ave.

Tues Oct 9, 6pm-9pm Wed. Oct. 10, 9am-2pm. Everyone welcomed Single Sources (ages 30-50) presents Volley Ball, at the Chai Building, Marlboro Jewish Center, on Topanemus Rd. 8pm.

Admission $3. members; $4. non-members. For information call Bonnie 536-6536 or 536-4045. Georgian Court college 10th annual antiques show sale, Oct 13 A Oct 14, 11 6..

40 antiques dealers, glass repair on site. Admission $3.00. Free parking. Snack bar on premis-es. Tours of Gould Mansion (nominal fee).

364-2200, ext. 285. Ladies Auxiliary of the Middletown Twp. Fire Co. 1 Flea Market, Oct.

14th 9AM to 3PM. Hwy. 35 Longwood Middletown. For space call 291-3913 or 495-9131. United Cerebral Palsy presents Hot Cool Fashions by Mangos.

Oct. 14, 2 PM. Door prizes, cold buffet, beverages. Design Impressions Furniture Gallery, Rt. 35 North, Wall Twp.

Donation $25. Call 922-6363. Technology may be socially neutral, but it's being used in some mighty anti-social ways: People talk to you while working at their computer or watching TV. They use a Walkman to shut out the world and a car stereo to inflict their musical tastes on the rest of us. They clog your fax machine with self-serving and personal messages, maroon you on "hold," interrupt you for "call waiting" and pitch you helplessly into their labyrinthine telephone voice mail.

Cellular phone users among the newest New Rude even take calls while in the audience at movie theaters and at stage shows. And then there's everyone's favorite the movie theater chatterers, who insist on gossiping, reading subtitles out loud, and critiquing the plot in a bellicose manner. What's going on here? "People growing up around TV inappropriately duplicate behaviors they've learned from technology, especially from TV," says Conrad Kottak, a professor of anthropology at the University of Michigan whose book, "Prime Time Society" (Wadsworth Publishing, 1 3.S0), studies how watching television has affected public behavior. "People do all kinds of things while they watch TV," says Kottak. "Reading, talking, talking on the phone.

Because they've become so conditioned to doing things like that, they behave inappropriately in classrooms, theaters and concerts." Certainly these miscreants are symptomatic of changes that have taken place in the American social fabric. The decline of neighborhoods, coupled with increased geographic mobility and the growth of suburbia, means that our society is losing the tribalism that once bound us together. Too often, we don't know our neighbors, so we really don't care about them. Insensitivity and incivility are natural extensions of this. What once was common-sense etiquette is as threatened as the corner grocery and the neighborhood tavern.

"The basic etiquette is common sense, or lack of common sense. But common sense is not so common today," says Nancy "The Telephone Doctor" Friedman, a St. Louis-based expert on customer service training and phone etiquette. "There is no place you go to learn how to use a cellular phone or a beeper. And there is no place to go to learn common sense." "I don't think technology means good manners or bad manners.

It's how you use it, what you do with it," says Charlotte Ford, author of "Etiquette: Charlotte Ford's Guide to Modern Manners" (Clarkson N. Potter, 1 9.95). Ms. Ford feels people who misuse new technologies like cellular phones and call waiting do so "because it's a new toy," and that eventually they will learn to make the proper adjustments, "and the world won't fall apart." Luckily, folks fortified with a sense of propriety are beginning to fight back. A recent report from Miami told how several theaters, restaurants and other businesses are banning cellular phones because of customer complaints of impolite use.

Charlotte Ford believes there is no place for cellular phones in such public places as the theater, ballet or symphony, and adds that "if you're a doctor, and you go to the theater, you should go on nights you're not on call. If that's not possible, even a beeper is less offensive than a phone." When it comes to technology like call waiting, Ms. Ford has another common-sensical solution: "If someone calls in while you're talking to someone else, don't keep them on hold, tell them you'll call them back." The bottom line, of course, is the old Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Think how you would feel if some motor-mouth were blabbing away in the movie theater during an intimate love scene. Remember that human interaction is a lot smoother when it takes place face-to-face, rather than face-to-computer terminal.

Consider what mechanical voices attached to voice mail systems say about how much we value personal contact. And consider that new technologies offer their own solutions: You can use a vibrating pager instead of the kind that beep. You can turn off your watch alarms or pagers as you enter a public place. If that's not feasible if you really are a doctor on call you can turn them in to an usher or maitre d', identify where you're sitting, and have the staff contact you if you're paged. Those Walkman radios and car stereos? Take 'em off, turn 'em down, join the world.

Victims also can confront the oafs who commit techno-social gaffes. Just be polite, remind them where they are, and ask them to take their business elsewhere. If that doesn't work, have management take care of the problem. "We're not characteristically an uncivil society," says Conrad Kottak, "but I think we can say technology is making us uncivil. A lot of very narcissistic people are using technology inappropriately, and they don't realize how narcissistic it is to be doing what they're doing." -OCTOBER 16 NOW IS THE TIME TO ADD A BEAUTIFUL FOUR I JUl I SEASONS ROOM TO YOUR HOME.

ACT NOW 1 I AND TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THIS LNPRECE- r5 DENTED SALE! ACT f- (oTllSSSSaS 75 MAIN STREET MriWjl MATAWAN, N.J. I'lliliitiiian iiiiiiii 'i mi. So. of RR Station Outdoor Indoors'" 201-566-0680 I FREE liiZer FREE I FlneGifts I H. ZtJ week 3t HrzSf sale From Pine BrookDeborah Fall Harvest Festival.

Manalpan Mall, Rt 9 Symms Rd. 1016-1021; 5pm-llpm; weekend noon-11pm. Sat. 1020 Halloween costume contest 12-lpm. Orig.

Batmobile, lots of vendors. Adm. free. For info. 536-7842 19 St.

Barbara Greek Orthodox Church "Christmas In October" Chinese Auction, 7 pm (doors open 2200 Church Toms River. $4 per person, incl. Greek pastry coffee. More info: Vinnie 201-286-1714 or Cathy 609-971-8432 after 6 OCTOBER 20 Herbertsville Fire Co. Ladies Auxiliary annual Fall Arts Craft Show.

10am-4pm. $12per space for Crafters (Respond by Oct. 10). For more call 295-3142 or 609-698-6929 Saint Thomas the Apostle HSA, craft show sale. Sat.

Oct. 20, from 9-4 P.M. in the school auditorium, directly off Rt. 18 South, Oldbridge. Handmade handcrafted items only.

Raf-fles refreshments. St. Joseph's annual Holiday Potpourri Art Craft Show Oct. 20, 9-5pm. St.

Joseph's Church, Toms River. Entertainment books, raffles, lunch. Call 244-9823. OCTOBER 21 Brookdale Community College 2nd Annual Science Caper: A Day of Family Fun! Science assemblies, workshops, hands-on activities, more. llam-4pm.

Adults, $7 advance. $9 dr. Kids seniors, $4 advance. $6 dr. Gym.

842-1900 ext. 307. OCTOBER 27 The Hamilton Fire 10 Jumping Brook Neptune, Third Annual Halloween Benefit Dance, Oct. 27, 7pm 'till DJ, prizes, hot buffet. Donation $15.

Proceeds to benefit Kris Daly. Call 922-9568 for tickets. NOVEMBER 3 St. Brendan Pipes Drums, Annual Piper's Ball. VFW, Osbor-neville Brick.

7pm-lam. Cocktail hour, music Ian Gallagher Band, performance by Pipes Drums Step Dancers $15person. Call 609-693-6833, 201-892-6306 by Nov. 1. OCTOBER 10 Parents Without Partners 025 a singles organization requiring verification presents a DJ Dance at the Leisure Lounge, Rt.

70, Lakewood. Orientation Dance 9pm-12. Mern-bers $3. Yr. dues $25.

Info 367-7566 Quest-the Singles Alternative, for all the right reasons! Join us each 7:45, for discussion groups, special programs, thought-provoking topics, coffee hour, dancing, snacks, priz-es. 1st Unitarian Church. 1475 W. Front Lincroft. $5.

The Silhouette Singles will host a dance at the Knights of Columbus Hall in Freehold, every Wednesday except for the 3rd Wednesday of the month. 70 East Main St. (corner of Bennett). Free buffet. For more information call 542-5393.

LENOX Dinnerware 5-Pc. PI Set Does not include Ambassador, Debut, or dinnerware OCTOBER 11 ..40 Off Mfg. Sug. List ..30 Off Mfg. Sug.

List ..30 Off Mfg. Sug. Lis! ..30 Off Mfg. Sug. List Crystal Giftware Stemware NOVEMBER 4 The Allenwood PTG is sponsoring 2nd Annual Jersey Shore Antique Show at the Wall Twnsp.

Intermediate School, Allaire Wall. Sat. Nov. 3, 10am to 9pm Nov. 4, 10am to 4pm.

Admission $2.50. Children under 12 free. Refreshments. NOVEMBER 10 NORITAKE 5 PC. PL.


1 Fire Co. Auxiliary presents the 4th Annual "Fox" Male Revue, Nov. 10, 1990. Larsen New Prospect Donation $15. Call 367-9435 after 6:00 p.m.

for tickets or information by Nov. 1. 1990. 21 and over please. Spotswood High School DECA presents their 2nd Annual Holiday Crafts Fair.

Spotswood High School, Summerhill Spotswood. From 10am-3pm. Only hand crafted items. Spac-es $18. Call 251-6800 ext.

222. Reserve by Oct. 15. St. Aloysius Harvest Moon Ball, November 10, 1990, from 7-12 Midnight.

Catered, Hot Buffet and band. Singles $20. Couple $35. Call early for tickets: Charles 928-3145, or Dave 928-5417 Wall High School Band Boosters 5th Annual Country Christmas Boutique Craft Show, Nov. 10, 18th Ave.

New Bedford Wall Twp. $20 for 10' space. Reserve by Oct. 18. Spaces limited.

Call 681-1419 or 681-8530. OFF STEMWARE Mfg. Sug. List GORHAM, ONEIDA YAMAZAKI, COO, RETRONEU oUOoff REEDBARTON Mfg Sug List 5 PC. PL.

SETS SELECT PATTERNS FROM OUR FLATWARE DEPT. NOVEMBER 12 OceanMonmouth, NJ Women Business owners. Meeting Thurs. 6pm, Tesauro's, Pt. Pleasant Beach.

Michael Lereah'lnvesting for the 90's' RSVP dinner. 109th. 240-3188. members $20, non members $22, late $25. Parents Without Partners, Ocean Cty.

chapter 025 will hold a general meeting 8 P.M., American Legion Hall, Rt.9, Lakewood. Free activity refreshments provided. For information topic. 367-7566 Smokers Anonymous, free 12 step program for anyone desiring to stop smoking. 1 hr.

support discussion group meets every Thurs. at 8pm. at the Ocean Fitness Center, Rt. 35 South, Deal Rd. For more info call 776-8438 or 477-2582.

St. Joseph's PTA Fall Fling Chinese Auction, St. Joseph's Auditorium, Maple Keyport, 1011. Doors open 7pm, auction 8pm. Tickets $3person.

Big prizes VCR. Refreshments served. 12 Holy Trinity Lutheran Church, Main Osborn Manasquan. "A Wurst Fest" a German dinner on Friday, Oct. 12, 1990.

2 sittings. 5pm 7:30 pm. $9.95. Open to public. Call 223-0533 for reservations.

Advance ticket sales only. Singles AgainSingles '90-Terri, Dan, Diane Joe are just a few of the single guys girls you'll meet at this fun filled dance party. Add your name to the list! Palms, Rt. 70, Lakewood. GSP exit 88.

Orientation: 8Dance: 9. 928-2300 The Laurelton Art Society presents a demonstration on Oil Painting techniques color mixing by artist Dorothy Hamilton. Brick H.S. Cafeteria, 346 Chambers Bridge Brick, Free admission, 840-9188 United Methodist Women of Memorial Methodist Church, 101 West Sylvania Neptune City, Rummage Sale, Fri. 1012 Sat.

1013, 9-12. Light lunch Fri. Baked goods available. 13 Benevolent Protective Order of Elks will sponsor N.J. National Guard Day at the Military Academy, Sea Girt.

Oct. 13, 9am-4pm. demonstrations, displays of skill. Open house, everyone is welcome. Come support your N.J.

Guard. Central Schools Fall Festival, Saturday, October 13, 1990, Allenwood Rd. Wall Township, Come spend the afternoon craft show, hay rides, pony rides, childrens arts crafts, cook-off contest, food and much more! Christ Episcopal Church, Calico Fair, 92 King's Middle-town, Saturday, Oct. 13, 9am-4pm. Crafters, Books, Collectibles, Baked Goods Preserves, Plants, Silent Auction, Raffle, House Plants, Children's games, tour Old Christ Church.

Community Fire Company of Leonardo is having monthly Flea Market, at Fairgrounds, Hwy. 36 Appleton Leonardo. October 13, 8 am 4 pm. Rain date October 14. Vendors welcome.

For information, call 291-5749. First Presbyterian Church of Long Branch. Hoey Cedar Avenues. Annual fall rummage sale. Saturday, October 13th.

9-3. Coffee snacks available. Friends of the Middletown Library, 18th Annual Book Sale. Oct 13, 9am-5pm Oct 19-17, 9am-9pm. Used books magazines for children adults at very low prices.

55 New Monmoufn Rd. Happy Wanderers trip to Villa Roma, Nov. 12-16. Everything is included. 3 meals a day.

For information please call 458-8734. Reservation deadline September 21. 17 Clara B. Worth P.T.A., 57 Central Parkway, Bayville will hold their "5th Annual Craft Nov. 17, 10am-3pm.

6' table, $15. Handcrafted items only. Contact Gail Hickey 269-5596 or Dawn Pryce 269-3698 by Oct 7. Deal PTO is sponsoring its annual craft fair to be held on Sat. Nov.

17th at Deal School, Roseld Ave. in Deal. Spaces are $15. Call Sandy at 918-8191. Spaces must be reserved by Oct.

12 The Women's of St. James Church, Long Branch will hold: Holiday Bazaar on Nov. 17th, 10-4pm. Crafters are welcome! $15 per space reservation. Hot luncheon 12, lpm 5050 raffle.

Call Carloyn by Oct. 8th, 229-8663 after 1 P.M., SPECIAL FOR YOUR HOLIDA ENTERTAINING NORITAKE 92 PC. SETS OPEN STOCK VALUE $1000 3 PATTERNS: SEANCE, TAHOE, SILK GARLAND LIMITED STOCK NOVEMBER 24 I Brick Hospital Association is sponsoring it's 3rd annual Craft Festival at Brick High School, Chambersbridge Brick on Nov. 24 Nov. 25.

Call Janet 899-2039 or Association Office at 477-2202 for application by Oct. 24 40 OFF Mfg. Sug. List SUPER SPECIAL GARDEN HARVEST or SANTA FE FROM MIKASA DECEMBER 2. Brick Memorial High School Band Boosters' Annual Holiday Boutique Craft Show, 10 am-4 pm.

8' space, 6' table, $15. 8' space, without table, $12. Call Peg 458-3552 by Oct. 20. Congregation Sons of Israel, Gordons Corner Manalapan.

Annual Holiday Gift Fair, Sun. Dec. 2, llam-4pm. Tables for rent $30. Indoors.

Snack bar. Only new merchandise. Reservations by 1021. Call 446-7142 or 446-7461. CLIFTON AVENUE at SECOND IN HISTORIC DOWNTOWN LAKEWOOD OPEN MON -SAT.


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