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Asbury Park PressTuesday, July 13.1993 D7 Stepping Out PanoramaLifestyle By Alfred Shelnwold and Frank Stewart Pre-show party for cultural fund Ml I '(1 llMj Three-generation shtick A touch of New York's Lower East Side is billed for the Ocean County Fair. The Dial (908) on any touch-tone phone and enter one of the codes in the listing below. eheck out this hot ticket. The Garden State Arts Center Foundation is hosting a cocktail buffet before Tina Turner's performance Monday at the Garden State Arts Center, Holmdel Township. Tickets, $135, cover a pre-show party in the Robert B.

Meyner Reception Center at the Arts Center site and VIP seating for the rock star's performance. The concert, with guest Chris Isaak, will begin at 9 o'clock. Funds raised through sale of reception tickets support the Garden State Arts Center's Cultural Fund, which provides free programs for New Jersey school children, senior citizens and disabled and disadvantaged people. "It is a wonderful endeavor which we have been involved in for the past 26 years," says Lionel M. Levey, South Orange, vice chairman of the New Jersey Highway Authority and president of the Arts Center Foundation.

At the cocktail reception, there will be a raffle of such signed Tina Turner memorabilia as T-shirts and sweatshirts from her current tour. There will be door prizes, including round-trip air fare from Newark to London via American Airlines. Post-performance, guests will be offered one for the road creamy ice cream donated by Ben and Jerry. Time is of the essence. For information or reservations, call the foundation at (908) 888-5012.

kid she did her acts on the Ed Sullivan Show and with Arthur Godfrey on TV) will do her shtick of "Climb Upon My Knee, Sonny Boy" with Ariel perched in her lap. Mrs. Hahn, by the by, is a doctoral candidate at Columbia University and is an accomplished actress and director, who has starred on Broadway, off Broadway and on tour. 'Purely social' Ben Waldron, senior vice president of National Community Bank, Manasquan, and newly elected president of the Monmouth-Ocean Development Council, heads up the committee for the 6:45 p.m. July 23 benefit cruise on board the River Lady out of Toms River.

It's not just any old cruise of Toms River and Barnegat Bay; it's a dinner cruise melded with a murder mystery produced by Avis Anderson of Creative Consultants, Red Bank. Waldron describes the evening as "the first purely social event in several years to raise funds for the programs of MODC." Tickets, $75 per person, may be reserved by calling (908) 223-6632. Marguerite Henderson is a Press staff writer who has been covering the social scene for 20 years. Her column appears Sundays and Tuesdays through Fridays. ii in1 iwnrriirinni nrn Call the Talking Directory every day for the latest information about local merchants Adopted children are often slighted and services.

If your favorite business isn here, tell them they should be! The Talking Directory and PRESSTO sm are not pay services. Only standard NJ Bell toll charges, if any, apply iir ic i i 1 1 1 i lull iu uinuig place today through Saturday at the Robert Miller Air Park, Route 530, Berkeley Township. And MARGUERITE HENDERSON among all the fun and frivolity will be a three-generation appearance from 1:30 to 2:30 p.m. Thursday, of Elizabeth Eger-man, a resident of Holiday City, Berkeley Township (but formerly of New York City's Lower East Side), her daughter Pauline Hahn, Millburn Township, (who has been performing since age 2 and also got her start in New York) and Pauline's daughter Ariel, 9. Mrs.

Egerman a singer, stand-up comic and poet is thrilled to be invited back to perform at the Ocean County Fair. She's even more thrilled that her daughter and granddaughter will be on stage with her. Grandma will perform and act as master of ceremonies. And she expects her daughter, who is both ventriloquist and yodeler (as a EH23BZ By Abigail Van Buren portant to educate the public regarding the use of proper terms when speaking about adoption. I consider myself and my daughter to be very "natural" and "real." I have also been asked whether or not I have any children "of my own." My response is: "Are you asking if I have any children by birth?" I do not wish to discourage these GEMINI (May 21-Juim 20): Those who foolishly claimed you were a stick In the mud will have red faces and possibly choke on crow, stress Independence, originality, willingness to take risks.

CANCER (June 21 -July 22): Intuitive Intellect serves as accurate guide. Female family member needs attention following emotional outburst. Spotlight on finance and romance, added popularity. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): Individual In position of authority plans surprise for you.

Be gracious, avoid display of false modesty. If you don't blow your own horn, there won't be any music. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Study fine print, check references, reunite with Individual who helped you in past.

Be willing to tear down In order to rebuild on more attractive, sturdy base. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Emphasis on teaching, reading and writing, participating in exciting clash of Ideas. Money comes from surprise source, love plays role, marital status commands attention.

questions, and I am very sympathetic to the fact that most people simply do not know the proper terms to use, but I am concerned about how their questions sound to the adopted child. Imagine how you and your child would feel if someone asked you point-blank: "Do you know anything about her real mother?" Thanks for helping me educate a few people. Just call me "mom" DEAR MOM: You have made some excellent points. Thanks for educating the general public concerning adoption terminology. SCORPIO (Oct.

23-Nov. 21): Many doors, previously shut tight, will open almost as If by magic. Emphasis on music, art, luxury, love. Domestic adjustment relates to lifestyle, residence, marital status. SAGITTARIUS (Nov.

22-Dec. 21): Element of mystery will not frighten Instead you'll be Inspired and some will declare, "You are a magnificent human being." Stop blushing and move toward goal. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): You're called from the bullpen to save game and the day.

Focus on personality, sensuality, promotion, Intense love relationship. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Refuse to be limited by outmoded procedures. Break new ground, emphasize Independence, originality, daring.

Dark corners of your life receive greater light. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): Forces scattered and this works In your favor. Means keep plans flexible, options open. You'll be more popular, you could even win contest.

Sydney Omarr's syndicated column appears every day. ne of your gurus agreed to play Ion a team with Unlucky Louie. We figured that, if nothing else, we'd get plenty of column material. On the deal shown today, the contract was four hearts at both tables. The defenders took two spades and then led a club.

At one table, Louie won and tried to draw trumps with the A-K-Q. When East discarded, Louie couldn't afford to continue trumps since the defense would cash spades. Instead, he started the diamonds. West waited to ruff the fourth diamond, and Louie had to lose a club. Down one.

RUFF IN DUMMY: Declarer at our table fared better. He won the club at Trick Three, cashed a high trump and next led the ten! We took the jack, but were then helpless. If we led a spade, South would ruff in dummy, draw trumps, and run diamonds to pitch a club. "Why didn't you duck a trump to keep control?" we asked Louie. His answer was no surprise.

"When," he growled, "have I ever been in control of anything at the bridge table?" South dealer North-South vulnerable NORTH J5 V962 OQ9632 963 WEST EAST KQ92 A10864 5J873 V54 O105 087 Q82 107 5 SOUTH 73 VAKQ10 0AKJ4 AK4 South West North East 2 Pass 20 Pass 2 Pass 30 Pass 4 0 Pass AllPasd Opening lead DAILY QUESTION: You hold: Q92HJ873D105CQ82.Your partner opens one diamond, and the next player passes. What do you say? ANSWER: Bid one heart. When you respond with two four-card major suits, bid hearts first. Partner can raise with four-card heart support; otherwise he may bid one spade, and you'll raise him. Avoid a response of INT; look first for a trump suit.

Alfred Sheinwold and Frank Stewart's syndicated column appears every day. Readers may send questions or suggestions to columnists in care of the Asbury Park Press. By Heloise Cash belt thwarts thieves 01 a recent vacation the un- thinkable happened my 'Purse was stolen and we lost all of our credit cards and money. We were forced to return home early. Obviously, this ruined the vacation for everyone.

I want to pass along a warning to others to please keep close watch on your purse or wallet. Vianne Simpson, Philadelphia, Pa. We all think it won't happen to us! Thanks for the reminder. With summer in full swing and many families vacationing, please take the time to read the following: Don't carry excess amounts of cash! It's safer to carry traveler's checks. To keep pickpockets away, put mphey in a money belt inside your clothing, and don't flash your money either.

An automated teller machine (ATM) card could sure help out in a pinch. Call your bank to see if there are machines that will take your card where you are traveling. Take a few minutes and sort through your credit cards. Only take the ones that you know for certain you will use. Then divide the ones you are taking with your spousepartner.

This way if one purse or wallet gets stolen you will still have some cards. This could sure make things easier. Keep credit cards separate from cash. In the case of a theft, both won't be gone. I hope these will help one and all to have a safe and happy summer vacation.

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