The Salina Journal from Salina, Kansas on January 28, 1996 · Page 59
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The Salina Journal from Salina, Kansas · Page 59

Salina, Kansas
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Sunday, January 28, 1996
Page 59
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4 SUNDAY, JANUARY 28.1996 THE SAUNA JOURNAL T STAY CALM How to keep from stumbling as you walk down that aisle REV. JONES Bridal party would do well to heed minister's advice at rehearsal By SHERIDA WARNER The Salina Journal After performing 124 weddings, the Rev. Paxton Jones can suggest a few don'ts to the many couples who say their "I do's." As minister at Salina's Belmont Boulevard Christian Church, 2508 Belmont Blvd., he gives advice to brides and bridegrooms through premarital counseling and at their wedding rehearsals. "I always tell the groom and groomsmen not to lock their knees while standing at the altar. It cuts off the blood flow somehow and can cause them to faint. That often happens to military people standing at attention," Jones said. One unfortunate male wedding attendant missed the rehearsal and the warning. Sure enough, the heat and humidity of the outdoor ceremony combined with his stiff-knee stance were too much for him. The groomsman's eyes glazed over and down he went. "That was one of my most memorable weddings," Jones said. "It was a big wedding on a flagstone patio, and the sun was overpowering." Not only did the groomsman faint, but the bride also dropped her ring, and Jones introduced the couple by the wrong'name. Most of those attending laughed at the blunders, although the parents of the bridegroom were upset, he said. • Also during wedding rehearsals, Jones informs the best man about his duties and reminds the couple to kiss only briefly at the altar. "I tell them to keep it short because their honeymoon starts after the reception." Jones does this to avoid an embarrassing problem he encountered at a past wedding when the kiss lasted way too long. The reverend also asks couples to bring their marriage license to the rehearsal, so it's not forgotten on the crucial big day. "And I always tell them not to panic. If it's not a perfect ceremony, it's going to be beautiful anyway." Jones said he's seen plenty of couples who tied the knot in grungies, but the weddings by which he's most moved are those with handsome grooms and radiant brides "with looks of devotion on their faces." During one ceremony, Jones had to delay the service because the groom was so overcome by emotion that he couldn't say his wedding vows. "He was Mr. Macho before, but we had to wait for him to regain his composure. Afterward, he was Mr. Macho again." Jones puts his personal touch on most weddings he performs. "I use a different vow than most ministers. My father, also a Dis- for • WESTERN BRIDAL DRESSES •TUX'S-WESTERN& CONVENTIONAL • UNIQUE GIFTS • LUGGAGE HOURS: MON.-SAT. 9:00-5:30 THURS. til 8:00 118 NORTH SANTA FE SALINA, KS 67401 827-1462 • 800-227-1462 ciples of Christ minister, used it. It's a passage from the book of Ruth, Ruth 1:16," he said. "Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God." "Basically, it says the couple are becoming one," Jones said. He is careful to edit other language so it's not patriarchal. "I never tell the man he may kiss his bride. I say: The couple may kiss. And I introduce them as husband and wife, not man and wife." Often, Jones elaborates on wedding customs. For example, fathers give away their daughters because years ago they literally did so when they could no longer support the young women in the family. "Dowry systems were meant to entice husbands. When the father placed the bride's right hand in the groom's right hand, that handshake sealed the deal." Through today's premarital counseling sessions, Paxton tries to help couples ensure long-lasting marriages. He finds it encouraging that spouses now are more likely to work on saving a marriage rather than solving problems through divorce. "More married couples come to me for help than used to," he said. "The Boomer generation isn't hung-up about getting professional help like their parents were. It's OK now to tell people you're in counseling." taratiilatioiis! \ jet us clean, preserve, and box your wedding gown. Your wedding gown will be as beautiful when you're a grandmother as the day you wore it, if it is properly cleaned and stored. \ 820 E. Crawford Salina, KS 67401 913-827-9875 Larry 6-Judy Kmison-Managers Carroll's Hallmark Shop ' Precious Moments Wedding Figurines including Bridesmaids 6 Groomsmen* ' Wedding Invitations ordered and processed in 7 days or less. > Attendants' gifts "1995 ENESCO CORPORATION in M9M fmtom Marti hc,Ut Ennoa The Lord Bless You and Keep You " Downtown 827-2907 Central Mall 825-7046 Sunset Plaza 823-1697 On Her For A Picture Perfect Day We Can Arrange It All. Rental Items Available. Mowers m 2950 S. 9th. Mid State Mall 913-823-9191 Open: Mon.-Sat. 7:30 - 5:00 pm

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