The Salina Journal from Salina, Kansas on January 28, 1996 · Page 18
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The Salina Journal from Salina, Kansas · Page 18

Salina, Kansas
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Sunday, January 28, 1996
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88 J3UNDAY. JANUARY 2B. 1996 LIFE THE SALINA JOURNAL Potty / Girls easier to train than boys FROM PAGE B1 • While the average age for potty training is 2 1 A, the range varies wildly. "There are boys who are 3Va going on 4 who still don't (use the potty)," says Bey. "But I'd say after 4, I'd start being concerned." At that point, she recommends a medical checkup to rule out a physical problem. • Just because ^ your first child "You cannot speed up Trained, time. A new baby in the house almost always issues a setback. And the fear of flushing can stay with someone even into adulthood. "Sometimes you get a kid that says, 'I'm not going to go,' " says Bey. "And with a 3- or 4-year-old, they can't really tell you why. They don't know why. It requires a lot of patience." physical maturation. YOU doesn't mean the r . J . next one will be. just cannot -CMS tend to ^ be easier to train Marty Seyler than boys, therapist maybe because ^ they are taught ~ to keep' themselves neat and pretty while boys often are encouraged to play rough and get dirty. • There will be accidents, so plan on them. They usually happen when the child is tired or excited, insecure — perhaps about a new brother or sister — or just too busy to stop and walk to the bathroom. The authors of "What to Expect the Toddler Years" — the same folks who put together, the pregr nancy bible "What to Expect When You're Expecting" — acknowledge that parents feel like getting tough when their kid won't, or can't, cooperate. But getting tough is exactly what they shouldn't do. When the are all this patience, they often drive themselves batty with guilt. Is this going to ruin the kid for life? What have I done wrong? Will he ever use the toilet? That's when you need to realize this is a toddler, not a baby, and he's trying to be a grownup, even if that means not cooperating. "After you've had this beautiful baby that depends on you for everything, suddenly they're their own little person," says Seyler. It may be hard to remember — especially with an angry 2-year- old screaming and refusing to sit on the toilet — but toilet training is a development stage, not simply a learned chore. It shouldn't be rushed. Experts say backing off is in order if the child resists. "A lot of it has to do with maturation," says Seyler. "And you cannot speed up physical maturation. You just cannot." Training guidelines Some things to keep in mind: family becomes obsessed with toilet training, that's a pretty clear signal everyone should relax. "The most important thing is your relationship with your child," says Seyler. '"WX'ff)-'" • >" ^.^ IS The easy child: Your daugbter.started telling you .when, her diaper was wet So you bought a potty chair and, after a few weeks of regular visits to" the bathroom; she's trafned."Congratu'latlonl;; K ., • The not-so-easy child: Your son showed some interest In using . the toilet, so you started sitting him on it every day. Sometimes he remembers to use it, but" often he-doesn't, Patience, a sense, of humor and more patience are in order. Consider the child's reactions and emofions, and try to respond from-there. Is he afraid of the flushing? Use a potty chafr. Does he; have" a bowel movement everyday when'you're' taking ah afternoon Walk? Adjust your schedule to be home then. • " ' ' Some-parents swear by rewards such as.stickers or candy. If he '« continues to resjst, just quit trying for awhile. , ; * \{ The toilet-resistant child: Experts say.any child who is not us-- ing the toilet by the age of 2Va,— after several months of .trying —, is toilet resistant. More'practice jams are' not needed; your kid's** control is already quite impressive. This'is a child who needs to-be', •given full responsibility, up-his"messes.'Have ' one last talk, explain this is his decision, then try to ignore it/Ohbe " the hoopla stops; he might decide to<use the potty on his ,own. - ; ' The bed wetter: This may be hereditary;;small bladders tend' to run in families. During the day, encourage the child to urinate, infrequently; this will stretch the bladder. Discourage drinks before bed- ' time. Respond positively to dry nights and don't scold after accidents. Bed alarms will wake "a child when urination begins, so he can get up and use'the toilet. Ask a. pediatrician or therapist for help. • ! ,''/.'• " '' " "" ' . ' "- ' Sources: Kathleen Bey f psychotherapist with the Center for Family Services; Marty ^Seyler, therapist at the Parent-Child Center of the Palm Beaches; Your Child's Health;'What to Expect the Toddler Years. . • '<*'••',•', '=• .'•, ' - A son, Adam Pochop Stolfus, was born Jan. 13, to Salinans Valyne Pochop and Alan Stolfus, 211 W. Beloit. Grandparents are Victor and Lucy Pochop of Atwood and Ted and Dora Stolfus of Bonner Springs. *«>* A son, Matthew David, was born Dec. 13, 1995, to Tech. Sgt. David Vance and Donna Vance of Tucson, Ariz. Grandparents are Salinans Gladys Edwards, 217 S. Fourth, and Paul and Cecelia Vance, 1210 Highland. *** A daughter, Allison Kate, was born Dec. 19, 1995, to Doug and Leanna Heinen of Tonganoxie. The mother is a former Salinan. Grandparents are Gary and Barbara Beach of Salina and Vern and Peggy Heinen of Tonganoxie. Great-grandmothers are June Schelhouse of Estancia, NM and Anna Heinen of Seneca. «•«> + A son, Samuel Lincoln, was born Jan. 25 to David and Andrea Ottley of Victoria. Grandparents are Donald and Betty Janicek of Pine Bluffs, Wyo. and Salinans Ken and Julie Ottley, 736 Wood Ave. Great-grandmothers are Julia Snead, 1325 Faith Dr., and Agnes Lukesh of Sidney, Neb. LEARN to DRIVE Teens - Adults Driving Lessons In Salina jCittle Apple DRIVING SCHOOL Manhattan, KS 1-800-3034881 913-53M881 ! Dignity Care Home Celebrating 3 Years of Service To The Salina Area. Dignity Care Home would like to take this opportunity to thank the Doctors, Nurses, Social Workers, and Families for their role in our growing success. 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