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B8 Aabury Park Press, Tues. June 19. 1979 Advice BridgeAlfred Sheinwold Why Grow Old? Josephine Lowman Young Summer Guest Shows Consideration NORTH 10862 VKQ OJ984 A52 Are you one of those who "hang your clothes on a hickory limb" and never go near the water because you do not know how to swim or do not swim well? Do you loaf at poolside on even the hottest day, never dampening your swimming gear to cool off? If so, you are missing a lot of fun, and also the coolest, most luxurious, easiest way possible to Improve your figure. Even if you are a good swimmer you can profit by some spot reducing water exercises. The water adds just enough resistance to make the exercises especially effective.

I am spending more time than usual this week, on exercises because this season is conducive to exercising. It's fun to go through the motions in your backyard, or on the beach or by the pool before swimming. Here are two water exercises from the President's Council on Fitness and Sports. Stand in water waist to cnest deep. Jump as high as you can, keeping your feet together.

Continue bouncing up and down with the pushoff coming from your toes. This is a good warmer-upper. Stand in water waist to chest deep. Swing your left leg forward-upward with a stiff knee and bring your right hand toward your left foot, left arm moving backward. Return to starting position.

This time raise Hints from Heloise Many young people are going to be someone's guest this summer, living with a family, either as a guest, as a foreign exchange student, as a working intern, or as a jobholder in a summer resort. Whether this young person pays for his or her room or board, or whether he or she is invited as a guest, the rules of consideration to follow are identical. This young person is in someone else's home. It's an intrusion, an invasion of the family privacy, an interruption to their usual routine. There are three principles, If you are that young visitor, to keep in mind: What can I do to help? When should I use the facilities to fit in best with their existing schedule (and that includes everything from the shower to the washer and dryer)? And how can I reimburse them for my share, including everything from their food, laundry detergent and telephone charges to the gasoline I consume when borrowing their car? The family with whom you are staying may have a hot water problem.

They may have to use it sparingly because of an insufficient tank. If this is the case, and you are the kind that habitually takes long showers and washes your hair every day, either change your habits or find a friend with an unlimited supply of hot water. If you share the family's food, take sparingly of it when it comes to refirgerator-raid-ing time. That cake may be meant for tomorrow's tea party; that chicken leg might be meat for little Johnny's lunch box tomorrow. If there's only a little orange juice left, let a member of the family consume it.

If you are a soda guzzler, buy it by the case and stock the household with it, so they won't resent your addiction. If you don't like the family's food you share, say nothing abot it. Don't try to buy or cook other things; just take it on the chin (or is it in the stomach). Just think how stylishly thin you might become over the summer, and you can always choose not to come back next year. Always ask what you can do to help.

It may mean making an extra run to the market or liquor store. Or taking the family car Health Dr. Peter Dear Dr. Steincrohn: I know it isn't my imagination my doctor dislikes me. He tries to cover it np with an occasional smile, but I have a deep feeling that I'm certainly far from a favorite patient of his.

I wonder why. I try to cooperate. I pay my bills on time. I've even referred many patients to him. Why should a doctor not like his patient? Mrs.

N. DEAR MRS. I could try to reassure you by saying it really is your imagination. Some patients are quite sensitive to their physician '8 reactions. I recall a patient whoasked me one day, "Don't you like me any more, doctor? You seem so serious.

Where's your usual smile?" That day I was suffering from a monu Melendez-Walker FAIR HAVEN Rose Lynn Walker, here, became the bride of Ricardo Alfonso Melendez, Eatontown, Saturday in the Episcopal Church of the Holy Communion, here. The Rev. Robert Magnus, rector, officiated. The bride is the daughter of Mrs. Harriet Walker, 73 Navesink Ave.

The bridegroom is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Juan Melendez, Belize City, British Honduras. Bernard Higgins was best man. The bride is a graduate of Rumson-Fair Haven Regional High School.

She attends Brookdale Community College, Middletown Township. She is employed by Wendy's Restaurant, Tinton Falls. The bridegroom was educated in schools in British Honduras. He is employed by Bradley's Service Station, Tinton Falls. After a trip to Quebec, Canada, the couple will live in Red Bank.

your right leg forward and bring your left hand toward your right foot, right arm swinging backward. Return to starting position. Continue, alternating. This one will slim the abdomen. Hang onto the side of a pool (back toward the side of the pool) or the end of a rowboat with both hands.

Raise your left leg forward. As you lower the left leg raise right leg forward. Continue, one leg moving up as the other moves down. Do this fairly briskly and be sure to keep your knees stiff. This exercise is corrective to a flabby inner thighline and a bulge on the outer thigh-line.

Again turn your back toward the side of the pool or the end of a boat and hold on with both hands. Float your legs out in the water in, front of you. Keep your knees straight as you swing your legs apart as wide as comfortable. Swing them together. Continue.

The resistance of the water makes this a very effective exercise. For a more complete set of exercises to do in the pool or lake this summer you may want a copy of the leaflet "Water Exercise." If so send 10 cents and a 15 cent stamped, self-addressed envelope along with your request to Josephine Lowman in care of The Asbury Park Press. children from these outdated slacks. Zippers can be salvaged from discarded garments and elastic could be used from ruined panty hose. Being a depression baby I utilize everything that has any possible use.

I'm not so old that I've forgotten what a struggle it can be feeding and clothing a family when just starting on the road of life. I hope this idea will help some young mothers and grandmothers who like to sew. Grandma B.G. Conservation and thriftiness continue to be the name of the game. Thanks, Grandma, for giving ns one more way to stretch that ever-so-tight dollar.

Heloise need an operation. I'm ready to go Into the hospital. But my husband Insists that I get a second opinion. Is thst essential? Mrs. T.

DEAR MRS. When there Is time to review all the conditions, I think it makes good sense to get a second opinion. But many patients, like yourself, seem to dislike asking for consultation. The Health, Education and Welfare Department has mounted a campaign to get patients to seek second opinions on surgery. Yet is hasn't been a success.

For example, out of 20,000 Blue Cross Blue Shield subscribers in Illinois who underweent surgery recently, only 14 asked for second opinions before their operations even though it would have cost them nothing. KEENE-LOCANTORE PER-1 -When Paul Miller, president of Pacific Lighting, recently got an award for vation of energy, I thought of a hand he played a few weeks ago. The average spendthrift would lead a spade from dummy and waste tons of energy trying to guess whether to play the king or jack of spades. No guesswould help him. Saved Ergs Miller saved all those ergs by playing the hand properly.

He took the ace of clubs, drew two rounds of trumps and ran the hearts to discard a club from dummy. Then he led a club. West had to win and then had to lead spades (since a heart or a club would let dummy ruff while South discarded a spade). The energy Miller saved (or perhaps his winnings on this hand) would pay the average family's annuaw gas bill' Daily Question You have opened with one club, partner has bid one diamond, and the opponents keep passing. You hold: SAQ, H7632D6.

CK 10 9 8 6. What do you say? Answer Bid two clubs except with a partner so expert and so reliable that he will never raise hearts (your secondary suit) without four-card support. With the average PetsDr. Michael DEAR DR. FOX: In response to your column about cats liking household cleansers, we would like to relate an experience with our two cats.

One used to go crazy over cleansing powder with chlorine and would lick the top of the cleanser can or a sink or tub I had cleaned. Eventually, be had to be treated for a hormone imbalance. He also went bald and developed diabetes. Nevertheless, he lived to be 14. We have a female kitten now who loves all cleansers, hand lotions and salves.

If I have lotion on my hands, she will try to lick and bite my fingers. J. A. K. DEAR J.

A. It has recently been reported that a number of common products, from hand creams to junk foods, contain a chemical identical to the potent signal substance that is present in the urine of a cat in heat. It is therefore quite possible that other chemicals, which naturally have a profound effect on a cat's behavior, are present in certain household products. BE EXTREMELY CAREFUL to keep all such stuff away from your pet; other ingredients in them could be poisonous. Sweet-tasting childrens' aspirin, for example, can kill a cat who gets turned on by the taste! DEAR DR.

FOX: All her life, oar terrier-Pekingese has had trouble breathing because her nose is very small. Lately it has gotten worse. When she sleeps she jerks and wakes up gasping for air. Help! M. V.

DEAR M. This just makes me sick! So many snub-faced dogs suffer from upper respiratory and eye problems. Many pekes Weddings Hagaman-Docimo BRICK TOWNSHIP The June 2 marriage of Eva Carmela Docimo and Robert Allen Hagaman, both here, took place in Visitation Roman Catholic Church with the Rev. Francis Piccolella officiating. The bride is the daughter of Mr.

and Mrs. Robert Docimo, 80 Jib Lane. The bridegroom is the son of the late Mrs. Margaret Hans. Honor attendants were Michelle Sarro and Frank Hagaman, brother of the bridegroom.

Mr. and Mrs. Hagaman are employed by Standard Keil Hardware, Allenwood, Wall Township. The bride is a graduate of Brick Township High School and Ocean County Vocational School. Her husband attended Brick Township High School.

The couple will live here. MRS. EDWARD R. KOENIGSFEST JR. Hi lSr DEAR HELOISE: This is for mothers and grandmas who sew.

Don't get rid of those pants or pant suits you no longer wear. Carefully cut apart along the seams and you'll have plenty of fabric to make toddler's pull-on pants. Fold the pants pattern down the front to show where the crease should be. Then, when cutting out the pattern, line this crease in the pattern with the stitched-ln crease on the pants. I've made several pairs of toddler pants with the stltched-in crease already done for me! Just don't be careless like I was once and cut the back part from the precreased front of the ladies' pants.

Even jumpsuits can be made for small whether this dislike can be used as a diagnostic tool." In conclusion, the doctors say (in part): "Unfortunately, there are no formal studies about what makes a patient hateful or a problem in the eyes of the physician. Furthdr studies are necessary to determine whether this association between physician dislike and patient organicity is widespread." Your problem remains, Mrs. N. Does he dislike you? Ask him. If he's frank he'll tell you.

If his answer is vague and disconcert-ting, you have the right to consider a change of doctors. Mfdlralettei (Replies to and from readers) Dear Dr. Steincrohn: My doctor says I Locantore-Keene LITTLE SILVER Catherine Margaret Keene and Stephen A. Locantore were married May 26 in St. John's Episcopal Church.

The Rev. Ronald P. Janes, rector, officiated. Parents of the couple are Mr. and Mis.

D.H. Keene, 47 Arlene Drive, West Long Branch, and Mr. and Mrs. Rocco Locantore, Bridgewater, Mass. The bride's sister, Susan R.

Keene, and David S. Warner were honor attendants. Mr. and Mrs. Locantore are graduates of Rutgers College of Engineering, and both are employed by McDonnell Douglas Long Beach, Calif.

The bride Is a graduate of Shore Regional High School, West Long Branch. Her husband was graduated from Butler High School, Bridgewater. The couple will live in Long Beach. 9ON LIVING TODAY Tish Baldrige and waiting in the gasoline line. It may mean washing and chopping tonight's salad fixings, or running an extra load in the clothes washer, or emptying the dishwasher.

It may mean taking the family dog for a walk, or the smallest child for an icecream. Keep the bathroom spotless and your room so neat and straight, your own parents wouldn't believe it was yours. Don't leave any of your possessions, whether it's a tennis racket or a briefcase, lying around the house. Always leave a written message by the telephone saying when you will be home and where you can be reached. It is irritating for the person who answers not to have any information on your whereabouts.

Instruct your friends not to call you before a certain hour or after a certain hour, so as not to disturb the family peace. Never tie up their telephone either. Go to a pay telephone if you have to have a langorous conversation! Leave the family newspaper in such perfect condition, no one will know that anyone has even read it. If you are reading it and one of the parents comes to the breakfast table, hand the entire paper to him or her. (Don't keep the sports section that might be the section the other one always reads first, too.) Whether you're a paying or non-paying guest of a family this summer, say goodby to them with a gift and a nice letter.

After all, you were in their home, not yours, and they deserve to be thanked even if you feel they should be thanking you. (And maybe they'll send YOU a thank you note.) J. Steincrohn mental toothache. When I convinced her that my apparent lack of usual interest was not based on any personal dislike, she felt much better. But I'm in no position to adequately Judge your own relations with your doctor, Mrs.

N. Surprising as it may seem, it's possible that he doesn't like you. This will come as a shock, as the shoe is usually on the other foot. What we hear about most Is "patients' disliking their doctors." The opening sentence in a recent article in JAMA (3-16-1979) reads: "It is an open secret that physicians dislike certain patients." The purpose of a study by Dr. Jean M.

Goodwin, and associates was "to determine some of the characteristics of patients disliked by their physicians and to examine MRS. RICARDO MELENDEZ SAVI TO WALK SIO COOKMAN AVE. ASBURY PARK 775-6715 is rst-. tu v. the discount There old designed beach evening Terry look WEST A S77632 06 10 9 8 6 EAST 97543 S79854 052 73 SOUTH KJ A 10 7 3 J4 North East South West Pass Pass 10 2 3 0 Pass 5 0 All Pass Opening lead partner a rebid of one heart is an invitation to disaster.

Pocket Guide to Bridge" written by Alfred Sheinwold is available. Get your copy by sending $1.25, including a stamped, self-addressed No. 10 envelope to Sheinwold on Bridge, in rare of The Asbury Park Press, P.O. Box 1000, Los Angeles, Calif. 90053.) Fox and bulldogs spend their entire lives panting and gasping for breath.

Surgery might help correct a distorted or narrowed nasal septum. Removing the soft palate if its too long (as it often is in snub-nosed dogs) can prevent the dog from choking and suffocating. Let's stop this gross inhumanity by not buying brachycephalic (snub-faced) breeds! Then maybe breeders will start to select for sounder stock. DEAR DR. FOX: Once a month, my 8-year-old mare becomes mean and hard to handle.

In a few days she gets over it and Is once again her nice self. Also, when I ride ber, she listens carefully to me. Should one of my brothrs or sisters try to ride ber, she won't even move, but starts to buck and kirk. Is it because I'm the one who cares for her and feeds her? L. C.

DEAR L. Monthly heat cycles are generally not a problem in mares, so yours could possibly have a hormone problem. Cysts on the ovaries, for example, can cause marked changes in temperament, sometimes cyclical in frequency. Another possibility is that your mare is sensitive to body odors. A variety of species do behave quite differently towards human females when they are menstruating.

Some of the secretions produced by humans are very similar and some are identical to those produced by animals. These are called pheromones and can trigger very specific reactions, including courtship and aggression. This may explain your mare's reactions to you and your brothers and sisters. Koenigsfest-Williams MORRISTOWN Carol Ann Williams and Edward R. Koenigsfest Jr.

were married May 25 in the Governor Morris Inn. The bride's uncle, the Rev. R.C. Williams of St. Peter's Episcopal Church, Thomaston, and the Rev.

Denis O'Brien of St. Margaret's of Scotland Church, here, officiated. The bride is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. John H.

Williams, West Orange. The bridegroom's parents are Mr. and Mrs. Koenigsfest 19 Aspen Circle, Barnrgat Township. Honor attendants were Donna Dietrick and Charles Riechman.

The bride is a nurse at Columbus Hospital, Newark. The bridegroom is executive vice president, Diplomatic Protection Service, a division of Ciro Brooklyn, Y. should contact Susan Thorns Demarco, 458 Surf Belford, or Barbara Giaimo Johnson, 53 Highland Leonardo. LONG BRANCH Members of Long Branch High School Class of 1967 will hold a class reunion in November. Class members needing information may contact Jean Addio Guzzio, 320 Ynrke West End, or Judy Epstein Bodnovrich, 113 Bimbler Ocean Township.

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July 14 at Manasquan Elks Club. Class members planning to attend should contact Edna Larsen Jacques, 114 Broadway, Point Pleasant Beach, before July 6. MIDDLETOWN TOWNSHIP Members of Middletown Township High School Class of 1959 are making plans for a 20th reunion on Nov. 3. Class members planning to attend Outlet Irving Shoehot, Pro.

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