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Living Today Rio, (Texas) NEWS HERALD, Tuesday, October 25, 1W3-3 DEAR Abby BY ABIGAIL VANBUREN Husband's Dirty Magazines Are Soiling His Marriage DEAR ABBY: What can a wife do about a huflband who constantly buys porno magazinps? I don't mean just Playboy and Hustler, I mean magazines with onp nude picture after articles at all. We've had many fights about this. It's been gmng on for five years. I've threatened to leave him, then he promiHes he won't buy any more, but I keep findinf? them hidden all over the house. I even found some stashed under his car seat.

We have three kids, and when I think of how much money my husband has spent on this filth when it should have been spent on the kids, 1 could cry. I am not bad-looking, Abby. I'm 27, have a good figure and I'm still asked for my II) when we go out. I even get whistles from guys when I'm in the car or walking by myself. Why does my husband keep buying this filth? He knows how much it hurts me.

He will get up in the middle of the night to read these magazines, then he wakes me up for a little fun. I feel so used. What can I do? He says he loves me just the way I am. HURT AND BETRAYED DEAR HURT: Believe it or not, your husband's preoccupation with nude pictures has nothing to do with you. If he loves you and wants your marriage to survive he will see a therapist about hii it is a problem if it's damaging your marriage.

See a family therapist with him. You both need to understand why your husband needs these magazines. Share this letter with him today. It could save your marriage. DEAR ABBY: Please answer this in the paper because there are some folks who need to see it.

I am a widow, 85 years old. I just had a wedding anniversary, and not one friend or relative sent me a card or wished me a happy anniversary It was just like I never had an anniversary to remember. I always remember them on their anniversaries, but if they keep forgetting mine, they are going to get exactly what they gave They think that just because my mate is gone that date doesn't mean anything to me anymore Well, they are wrong It still means a lot to me. HURT IN LEXINGTON DKAR HURT: I'll print your letter to let those who ignore the wedding anniversaries of widows know that their remembrances are missed. In most cases, however, the date is not forgotten; friends and relatives think they're being kind by not reminding the widow of her loss.

DEAR ABBY: I can't agree with your advice to "Morn ings Are Murder," who had trouble getting her husband out of bed in the morning. You said, "Let him oversleep, and when he misses enough appointments, he will manage to drag himself out of bed." Maybe so. But if he dragged himself out of bed and into his car, the consequences could well be tragic. Difficulty in getting out of bed in the morning may or may not be a result of habit, as you suggest. Anyone with excessive sleepiness should see a doctor; he or she could be suffering from any number of sleep disorders, including sleep apnea (repetitive breath-holding), which is often associated with heavy snoring and can be a life-threatening condition.

It is the belief that excessively sleepy people could stay awake if only they tried hard enough that keeps many people feeling guilty and embarrassed when they could be receiving help. I would have advised the husband of "Mornings Are Murder" to see his family doctor, or seek help at one of the sleep disorder centers accredited by the Association of Sleep Disorders Center. A list of those centers is available from: ASDC, P.O. Box 2604, Del Mar, Calif. 92014.

BOYD HAYES, RESEARCH ASSISTANT, STANFORD UNIVERSITY DEAR MR. HAYES: Thanks for a dandy eye- opener. Readers: This is a non-profit association, so if you write for the Hat of sleep disorder centers, please enclose a long, self-addressed, stamped (20 cents) envelope. If you put off writing letters because you don't know what to say, send for Abby's complete booklet on letter-writing. Send $2 and a long, stamped (37 cents), self-addressed envelope to Abby, Letter Booklet, P.O.

Box 38923, Hollywood, Calif. 9O038. Pretty styles for business hours By Florence De Santis NEW YORK (NEA) The pump is undoubtedly the best shoe for suits, tailored separates and dresses in a woman's business wardrobe Shoe designers have come up with interesting new pump styles that keep this classic shoe from being a bore Most business pumps take no tacked-on trims Instead, texture, color and mixes of leathers tell the story, as in Arlene La Marca's printed suede and reptile pump Gray leads in colors, sometimes alone, as in Lifes- tride's pump with smooth leather upper and patent sole rim, or Kinney's patent- striped suede open-toe pump. In combinations, gray appears with burgundy on a pump by Eclisse. or black pinstriping on La Marca's pump.

Classic colors get contrast heels, such as the blue wedge on Charles Jourdan's black suede pump, or the taupe heel on Joan Helpern's black patent Oscar de la Renta combines black patent back and heel with scallop-edged vanilla suede for the front Business pumps can be chosen in fashion colors as well as basics Danelle chooses royal blue for a low- heeled pump while De Liso gives a black heel to its red pump La Marca likes iridescent patent for a high- heeled style and Naturalizer shows that amethyst is the right soft purple for this pure-line shoe Heel heights vary, with higher, more slender heels returning However, choose pumps for easy walking, as the teeter-totte'r look doesn't suit the business image Low and geometrically-shaped wedge heels are equally available Open-toe styles have returned, with the question of whether they look right with business clothes For suits, the closed-toe pump is probably the better choice, but with a dress, an open toe style can look well for both office and dinner later Also good for office-to-date are pumps with instep straps, such as Cole Haan's mauve suede on a stacked heel. (NEWSPAPER ENTERPRISE ASSN i CHOSEN Business pumps chosen by the Footwear Council include closed and open toed styles. Left, Lifestride's spectator with smooth leather upper and patent sole rim Right, Kinney's patent-stiped suede. Both in gray. Halloween party for Story Hour at County Library Wednesday HJNTS FROM Hdoise Story Hour at Val Verde County Library Wednesday will become a Halloween party for the children.

Gloria Cyprian, children's librarian, will appear as a pumpkin; the children are also invited to wear their Halloween costumes. Treats at the party will be provided through DEAR HELOISE. If you live in a neighborhood where there are cats, always toot your car horn before starting the engine. It will chase any small animals out from under the car. Cats love to hide under the hood and so many are mangled by the fan blades.

It is also a warning signal for children who might be playing near the car. A Reader EtaidqE Of course, be considerate of your neighbors and don't honk your horn lor long too early in the morning. Heloise LEAF CLEAN-UP Dear Heloise: It's that time of year again beautiful leaves everywhere. While raking and getting nowhere, I decided to use a push broom. Fantastic! The bristles are stiff and the broom is 15 inches wide so there was very little backtracking.

I pulled the broom instead of pushing it and got great results. But oh, the comments from friendly folks passing by. "Amazing!" and "Just like a woman!" Nancy Betza CUTTING FELT Dear Heloise: Here's a hint for craft lovers. Trying to cut out small features from felt can be a big problem. I used to pin the pattern pieces to the felt but the pins got in the way.

So then I tried taping the pattern pieces to the felt with a piece of clear tape. It worked beautifully. Have a hint for Heloise? Send it to: Heloise P.O. Box 32000 San Antonio, TX 78216 Social WEDNESDAY The Fine Arts Club will meet at 4 p.m. in the San Felipe Country Club.

The program will be presented by Mrs. David Winters and Mrs. Bill Cauthorn on the theme, "The Art of Entertaining. Hostesses for the afternoon will be Mrs. W.H.

Allen, Mrs. Bill Cauthorn and Mrs. 7ohn T. Mayfield. the courtesy of local merchants and mothers of the children attending Story Hour.

The activity begins at 10 a.m. on Wednesday. In addition to the Halloween party for the children, a program will be provided for the parents. Lt. Daniel Cruz of the Del Rio Police Department will present the program on Halloween safety for children.

Scarey bookmarks are available free at the library as well as a list of scarey books for children and adults. BEAUTY Tips Here's a homemade recipe for a hair gel that works just as well as the ones you can buy. Mix one cup of water with one tablespoon milk, comb a small amount into hair and set Or combine one tablespoon plain gelatin with one cup of boiling water; apply and set Another great way to add volume to your hair is with hairspray. Hold up sections of your hair with a brush, then spray as they fall Or spray a bit on your brush and gently run it though hair Hairspray on the brush you use to blow dry helps keep waves where you want them. Know your experts NORTH K76 VA 1064 A964 10 10-25-63 WEST 10843 4)Q7 J754 EAST J92 VQ985 1053 498 SOUTH AS VK73 Vulnerable: Neither Dealer: South Wesl North East Pass Pass 3 NT Pass Pass Pass Opening lead: By Oswald Jacoby and James Jacoby The correct way to play today's club suit is pretty well known.

If you are a good player you should know it. Thus, when we watched a young player who was supposed to be good, we promptly gave up on him when he led a club to dummy's queen at trick two and wound up losing a club trick. When his partner chided him, South argued that the 10-spot finesse would have cost him a trick if clubs had broken 3-3 and East held the jack. That statement is correct, but his play was bound to lose against all 4-2 club breaks while the 10-spot finesse would succeed any time West held J-x, J-x-x or J-x-x-x in clubs. Of course, the 10-spot finesse would also cost him a trick against a singleton jack in the East hand.

Incidentally, our young hero got his trick back later. When West scored his club jack, he led the spade queen, which was allowed to hold Then when South cashed his spade king and the good clubs, East was squeezed in the red suits and declarer made five-odd. Of course, some of the real experts found that same squeeze after proper club play and made six no-trump, out five no-trump wasn't a bad score (NEWSPAPER ENTERPRISE ASSN I NAME. ACE (ART HALLOWEEN COLORING CONTEST! child in crayon or colored pencil only. 1.

Decision of 2. Entry must 3. One entry by child 4. Entries can not be returned 8. Wal-Mart employees children ineligible 8 Entry must be submitted by Oct.

28, winners announced 'October 29th at 3:30 p.m. 7. Age groups (3-8 yra.) (8-8 yrs.) yrs.) 8. Each Age Group priiea $28. $18 $10 in Mdse.

ADDRESS PHONE NUMBER WAL-MART HALLOWEEN COSTUME CONTEST 1. Decision of judges is final 2. Entry must be in halloweon costume or halloween make-up Wal-Mart Associates children ineligible 4 Judging will be at 3 p.m. October 29th 5. Age groups (3-5 yrs.) (8-8 yrs.) (9-12 yrs.) 8.

Each Age Group prizes $25, $15 A $10 in Mdse. WALMART AOVCIITIStO HtHCMAMOISi POLICY-" WAL-MART em til pm Men. 12 til 2401 Ave. (Mwy. 90 Thru tat.

6pm. West) Kiln i -'i 1.