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Project Benefit New Park Marlboro Hospital Auxiliary. View Slides on Birds After the business meeting Audu- ALLENHURST The Grow and Show Garden Club elected Mrs. Nicholas Novak as its new president and made plans for its new project of providing the for the entrance to Allaire State Park at a meeting Tuesday night in the Allenhurst National Bank building. Officers, will, be installed at elected 1 were: Mrs. Robert Connolly, first vice president; Mrs.

Charles Schock, recording secretary; Mrs. Cooper Y. Schuyler, corresponding secretary; and 1 Mrs. G. William MacDonald, treasurer.

group planned a bird walk at Allaire Saturday morning. Members will inspect the entrance of new state park and determine the plan for the planting. Mrs. L. A.

Follansbee reported on the party given for patients at Marlboro State Hospital of which she and Mrs. Joseph R. Richards were in charge. It was announced that the club would make the flower arrangements for Hartshorne House, Middletown Village, when the house 1s open to the public for the Maytime tour of historic Monmouth County homes being planned by the bon Soeicty color slides were shown. They dealt with ways of attracting birds to the home garden.

The color scheme for the decoration of the tea table was gray and yellow. A gray linen cloth was used and the centerpiece was of yellow forsythia, daffodils, and pussywillow in a gray container. Brass candlesticks of varying heights held chartreuse candles. The table was decorated by Mrs. F.

H. Walker who served as chairman of the hostess committee. She was assisted by Mrs. Follansbee and Mrs. Schock.

Katy-Dids Plan Dinner BELMAR The Katy- Did Coot- lettes met Monday at the Municipal Building and appointed Mrs. Edward Veron and Mrs. Henry Mackiewicz co-chairmen of the sixth anniversary dinner to be held at the Stage Coach Inn, Wanamassa, May 12. Mrs. George Bruton, Mrs.

Lawrence Braly, and Mrs. Albert Dumont were elected delegates to the Grand Crawl convention at Wildwood June 27. Mrs. Elsie Giglio, Mrs. Mattie Lewis, and Mrs.

Alice Worthley were guests. Mrs. Fred Tilton and Mrs. Edward Hepp were hostesses. It was announced a testimonial dinner will be for grand commander Ted Hazzard at Regan's Hall May 18 at 4 p.m.

Shore Students Guests at Tea LONG BRANCH The Shore Group of the Elmira College Club of New Jersey held a tea for prospective students recently at the home of Miss Dora Davis, 98 Norwood Ave. Hostesses were Mrs. George A. Schuetz, Middletown; Q. Umberger, Holmdel, Mrs.

Freder1ck Messina, Shrewsbury; Mrs. Lloyd Harding, Brielle; Miss Kate Helen Jones, Asbury Park: Miss Ethel Osmun, Point Pleasant, and Mrs. E. E. Ostrander and Mrs.

Margaret Kemp, Little Silver. Auxiliary to Home Convenes at Church ASBURY PARK The Auxillary to the Methodist Home for the Aged in Ocean Grove, of the First Methodist Church, met at the church Tuesday. Miss Bessie Spitt used as her topic for devotions, "Accept God's Appraisal of Yourself." Mrs. Charles A. Sayre played the piano.

Miss Alice Burgoyne presided at the meeting. Sarah Lee reported there wMrs. persons present at the patch party held at her home last week. Hostesses were Miss Agnes Day, Mrs. Lloyd Gundaker, Mrs.

Edward Honer, Mrs. Frank Post, Mrs. Adolph Burkhardt, and Mrs. F. Leland Burt.

WSCS SPEAKER-Mrs. Anna B. Chaffin, Washington, a retired missionary from Korea, admires dress made by Lakewood group for missionary distribution. Mrs. Harry Zane (right), Atlantic Highlands, vice president of the New Brunswick district of WSCS, discusses the project with Mrs.

Chaffin, guest speaker at the session. (Press Photo) Missionary Relates Problems in Korea OCEAN TOWNSHIP Mrs. Anna B. Chaffin of Washington, a missionary in Korea for 45 years, emphasized the need to train leadHers the in that annual country spring as she meeting spoke of the Woman's Society of Christian Service of the New Brunswick District of the Methodist Church yesterday in Oakhurst Methodist Church. During the Korean War most of the Korean educators, preachers, and medical personnel who had been trained by missionaries were killed or taken by the North Koreans, she said.

More than of them have never been heard from since. For the 1,000 Methodist churches which had been established in Korea, there are now less than 300 fully trained ministers, she continued. Mrs. Chaffin arrived in Korea only 30 years after the country was opened up to Western ideas. "I won't say opened up to eivilization, because, like China, Korea already had a highly developed culture of its she said.

Retired, Called Back Mrs. Chaffin was associated with educational projects in Seoul: with the training school set up for Sica Infant Is Christened TOMS RIVER Jacqueline Eileen, infant daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Frank Sica, Holly Lane, was christened Sunday at St. Joseph's Roman Catholic, here.

The officiating clergyman was the baby's uncle, the Rev. Archangel Sica, of the Franciscan Order, St. Anthony's Church, New York. The godparents are Miss Eileen Chapek, Astoria, N. and Louis Menno, New York.

A reception and buffet for 125 guests family home followed the ceremony. Entertainment was provided by Jack Barrett and Mrs. Miriam Chapek, both of New York, and Peter Rubino and Verne Reynolds, here. Regional PTA President Resigns STAFFORD TOWNSHIP Mrs. James Bower, president of the Southern Regional PTA, resigned at a meeting held recently at Southern Regional High School.

Manahawkin. L. Wagner McCullough was named to fill her unexpired term. Mrs. Grace Inman, secretary, also resigned.

Mrs. Rush Steelman was to fill the term. appointed, Nevins presented Bower with a gift and thanked her, on behalf of the members, for her work for the organization. The program was based on the theme "Around the World in 80 Foreign exchange students were introduced and talked about education abroad. Folk songs and dances of various countries were presented.

GRAND FESTIVAL CONCERT by the United New Jersey Singing Societies Sponsored by the LAKEWOOD MAENNERCHOR For the Benefit of the PAUL KIMBALL HOSPITAL YMCA and YWCA PROGRAM Elizabeth Liederkranz Elizabeth Ladies' Chorus Perth Amboy-Plainfield-Lakewood Mixed Chorus Director: Professor Fredric Grauert The Lakewood Chamber Music Orchestra Conductor: Murray Glass SOLOISTS Soprano Solo Miss Edith Vanderwall (The Westchester Nightingale) Piano Solo with Orchestra Miss Anita Langbein Tenor Solo Mr. Werner Reuss Formerly of Opera and Concert Stage: Vienna, Berlin, Wuerzburg DONATION $2.00 Don't miss this unique offering Never has a concert of this kind been held in Lakewood. SATURDAY, APRIL 19 AT 8:30 P.M. AT GEORGIAN COURT CASINO Flowers Feature Of Tour MARLBORO Geraniums will mark the roadways and frame the doorways to the homes on the Maytime of, Monmouth, County homes 6 p.m. tour, It is sponsored by the Marlboro state Hospital Geranium plants will be Bernadotte Farm, Tinton Falls, owned by Mr.

and Mrs. Charles F. H. Johnson Jr. and at the home of Mr.

and Mrs. Paul Switz, Blossom Cove Middletown Township. Other homes on the tour are Festoon Farm, Scobeyville, owned by Mr. and Mrs. Allison L.

S. Stern; the old Hartshorne homestead. Middletown, owned by Mr. and Mrs. Edward Rogers; Greenfields, the farm of Capt.

and Mrs. James Purdy, Holmdel; and the modern home of Mr. and Mrs. Norman Badenhop, Locust. Mrs.

Lewis Webster Jones, wife of the president of Rutgers University, is donating geranium plants for the sale. She raises the plants. Local florists and growers also are contributing plants. Mrs. John Green, Locust, is, in charge of the sale, proceeds of which will be used to help patients at the hospital.

She will be assisted by Mrs. Royal Gibson, Mrs. John Hemleb, Mrs: Laurence E. Manning and Mrs. Charles V.

Thackara. Tea will be served at the Switz home. Mrs. Mark McClain, Middletown. is general chairman.

The ticket committee includes Mrs. Morton Weiner, Red Bank; Mrs. Joseph Barnarr, West Long Branch; Mrs. Ernest 0. Kahn, Rumson; and Mrs.

Elna Anable, director of volunteers Marlboro State Hospital, and all auxiliary members. Joan Lewis Has Wedding At Freehold FREHOLD Miss Joan Marie Lewis, 34 First Freehold, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Richard Lewis, Gloversville, N. became the bride of M.

Thomas Giberson, Lakehurst, nephew of Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Dean, Lakehurst, Sunday, at 3 o'clock in the First Baptist Church. The Rev. Robert B.

Rose officiated. The bride wore a pink afternoon dress with matching accessories and a pink carnation corsage. Mrs. Eleanor Drum, Freehold, was the bride's only attendant, wearing a pink afternoon dress, pink accessories, and a pink carnation corsage. Hendrickson, Freehold was the best man.

A reception was held at the home of Mr. and Mrs. John Borchers, 34 First after which the couple left for a trip to Washington. They will reside on Star Route Rd. Mrs.

Giberson was employed by the Brockway Glass Company, Freehold. Mr. Giberson is employed by the N. J. State Highway Lakehurst.

Aliyah Tag Days Helpers Named TOMS RIVER Mrs. Martin Poretskin, chairman of the Youth Aliyah tag days to be held tonight and tomorrow under the sponsor-, ship of the Toms River chapter of Hadassah, has named her sistants. They are Mrs. Irving Drucker, Mrs. Eric May and children, Mrs.

Albert Kushinsky, Mrs. Herbert Dinerstein, Mrs. Lionel Dinerstein, Mrs. Robert Glorsky, Mrs. Herbert Resnick, Mrs.

Schechter, Mrs. Ann Handler, David Hyman, Presslaff, Mrs. Milton Hecker, Mrs. William Friedman, Mrs. David Wallach and children, Mrs.

Bennett Wexler, Mrs. Heinz Guenzberger and children, Mrs. Irving Rosen, Mrs. Lawrence Simpson, and Mrs. Lester Glenn and children.

BEST IN SHOW-Mrs. John Langenberger (left), Navesink, and Mrs. John J. Mulligan, Brielle, judges, check best in show arrangement at 5th district flower, Manasquan Woman's Club. The arrangement of sweetheart rose, ivy and leucrone flowers was made by Mrs.

Geodge A. Doolittle West Allenhurst, of the Jersey Shore Woman's Club. (Press Photo) Parish Fete Will Benefit New School A POINT PLEASANT BEACH The parish council of St. Peter's Roman Catholic Church is making final plans for the gala second spring dinner-dance and raffle, to be held at the Spring Lake Golf and Country Club Saturday. Prizes to be raffled off are on display at the parish school, and winners will be announced at the dance.

The affair will benefit the building fund of the new school. Mrs. M. Ray Steger, TW 2-4014, is in charge of reservations. The following have been named to serve as members of the reception committee: Mr.

and Mrs. Robert Morris, Mr. and Mrs. Charles Merz, Mr. and Mrs.

Harry Ball, Dr. and Mrs. Leon J. Dwulet, Mr. and Mrs.

Dominic Palumbo, Mr. and Mrs. Clarence Taylor, Dr. and Stanley Jurewicz, Mr. and Mrs.

J. W. Lawrence, Mr. and Mrs. Robert Doherty, Mr.

and Mrs. Joseph Forsyth, Dr. and Mrs. Daniel Doherty, Mr. and Mrs.

Charles Rogers, Mr. and Mrs. Samuel Tomaino, and Mr. and Mrs. John Ballou.

WSCS Nets $609 on Sale NEPTUNE CITY Miss Barbara Adams led devotions and Mrs. Charles Eberly led meditations at the meeting Monday of the Woman's Society of Christian Service of the Memorial Methodist Church in Fellowship Hall. It was announced the recent rummage sale netted the group $609. Future events announced were, study group meeting at the home of Mrs. Warren Matson, 74 Laird to review "Cross and Crises of and a spring luncheon at the church May 6 for the Auxiliaries of the Home for the Aged in Ocean Grove.

Hostesses were Mrs. Chris 01- sen, Mrs. Chris Sharin, and Mrs. Andrew MacCallum. I NEWSWOMEN VISIT MORVEN PRINCETON Members of the New Jersey Daily Women's Assn.

Newspapers of Mrs. Robert B. Meyner yesterday at a tea at Morven, the governor's mansion. Twenty-seven members of the group representing 23 daily newspapers of the state were escorted through the official residence of the state's first family, which was The erected group in 1701... organized a year ago, following the appearance of four members on a television program with Gov.

and Mrs. Meyner. Mrs. Miriam Rockafeller of the Asbury Press is president Other of the Press staff association. members wow attending were Mrs.

Margaret Strunce, member of the association's board of directors: Mrs. Edith C. Hickman, and Mrs. Kay Jones. Little Silver Club Names New Officers LITTLE SILVER Mrs.

William Gardella was elected president of the Little Silver Junior Woman's Club Monday night at the clubhouse. Mrs. James Wilde presided. Others named were: Mrs. Raymond Sergeant vice president; Mrs.

Frank Arnone, recording retary; Mrs. R. F. Fouratt, corresponding secretary; Mrs. M.

P. Bivona, treasurer; and Mrs. R. L. Richeal, assistant treasurer.

Mrs. Gardella is accepting reservations for the state convention at Atlantic City May 16-18. Mrs. Charles Kasse reported that the club will participate in the Junior Club Music Festival at the Asbury Park Woman's Club May 2. The Mother Daughter banquet will be held at Buttonwood Manor May 22.

Mrs. B. C. Feiring is chairman assited by Mrs. Vivona in charge of reservations and tickets, and Mrs.

Edward Conway flowers. Ten new members will be accepted at the banquet. BAKERY SPECIALS FRIDAY ONLY SATURDAY ONLY Pecan Cinnamon Fresh Apple Whipped Danish PIES Cream COFFEE Reg. 1.00 Reg. 75c Watch for our Asbury Park Days "Surprise" Special REGENT 721 ASBURY Cookman Open daily 7 to 7, Wed.

to 9:30 PRospect 5-1235 you're more welcome than ever! Won't you come visit the new Miles, now at 560 Cookman Avenue. We're just about a block away from our previous locationright next door to Lerner's and opposite Steinbach's. Your familiar friends will be on hand to give you the warmest welcome and show you Miles newest fashions. You'll be glad to see the prices are Miles-low as always. Rememberthe new Miles is right down the block.

Come in! Miles "the fashion shoe priced for you" 560 Cookman Avenue, Asbury Park ASBURY PARK EVENING PRESS, April 17, 1958 Flower Show Winner Namedat Manasquan MANASQUAN Mrs. George Doolittle Jr. won best in show yesterday at the flower show held in conjunction with the New Jersey State Federation of Women's Clubs fifth district music festival at the Manasquan Woman's Club. Mrs. Doolittle was first among 20 entrants.

Mrs. Michael Pizza, fifth district music chairman, in charge of festival which was built around the theme "The Flowers That Bloom in the Spring, Tra La" Mrs. Robert Connolly was flower show coordinator and Mrs. Joel Parker was ticket chairman. Flower show judges were Mrs.

John Mulligan and Mrs. John Langenberger. Mrs. George Buckelew, president of the Manasquan Woman's host club, welcomed those attending. Mrs.

William Gruler, southern music vice chairman, led the National Anthem, accompanied by Mrs. George Jorgenson. Several Sing Mrs. Carleton Wharton led the Keyport Literary Club in choral renditions of "In My Garden" and Victor Herbert's "Italian Street Mrs. Gruler sang "April Is a Lady" and "Colombetta" as solos, accompanied by Mrs.

Evelyn Schenone. Robert Williams of Manasquan High School played a trumpet solo. Mrs. William Trippe played violin solos accompanied by three, Mary Foster. Tom Mesher of the high school played a clarinet solo.

Mrs. Edwin F. O'Hanlon sang "Kiss in the and Mrs. Frank Foss played an original piano medley. Mrs.

Group Hears Plans for Tea SPRING LAKE Members of the Manasquan River Art Group welcomed Carol Archer, Neptune, as a new member at a meeting held in the Spring Lake ette Day the portrait Community recently. NanHouse, group. tea Miss Myrtle Watts announced the a sponsored Point Pleasant Hospital Guild at Sea Girt Inn, April 29 at 2 p.m. The tea will introduce the book, "Jersey Shore Cooks and Artists" and is illustrated by members of the group. Miss Watts, president, appointed Mabel Burr and Ruth Vail as a committee to select art books for a memorial to deceased members in the Point Pleasant, Manasquan, and Spring Lake libraries.

Janet Markle and John Browning gave reports. Muriel Kent and Ruth Bockius were hostesses. Mr. and Mrs. Clyde Snyder will entertain at the next meeting, May 2.

Thomas Purcell performed a program called "Springtime in and the Manasquan Woman's Club presented a choral arrangement of "Trees" and other numbers under the direction of Mrs. Roderick Bennett. Literary Club Holds Session At Keyport. KEYPORT Mrs. Harry S.

Willey, president, conducted the reg ular meeting of the Keyport Lit erary Club at the Reforme Church house, Friday afternoon. Mrs. Frederick Noble, Holmde Township, was hostess, The pre gram was under the direction the Music Department, with Mrs. Edwin 0'Hanlon as chairman. Guest speaker was Mrs.

Hermi na E. Browne, supervisor of music therapy at the New Jersey Neuro Psychiatric Institute, Princetor. and formerly employed in the sam capacity at Marlboro State Hosp. tal. Delegates and alternates wer named for the New Jersey Stat Federation of Women's Clubs cor vention at Atlantic City May 13-1t Mrs.

Edward E. Florian and Mis Jessie Stevens were named dele gates and Mrs. Daniel Barnett an Mrs. George C. Totten alter nates.

Mrs. Everett Silcox and Mr. William R. Craig presided at th attractively decorated tea table. Guests were Mrs.

George Cherry Mrs. Silcox, Miss Peggie Wille; Mrs. Seabrook Schanck, Mrs. Mar Myer, and Mrs. William R.

Crai; The next meeting will be hel Friday at the Church House. Th meeting was advanced to enabl the members to attend the Fift District Drama Festival at Sprin Lake. Hostess will be Mrs. Totter The Legislation Department wi' present the program. Koreans and with the woman's college.

She also taught in the Methodist seminary. She was retired in 1952 but was sent back a year later to continue her work and to supervise 35 orphanages, with 4,000 children, for the Methodist Committee for Overseas Relief. Getting food and clothing for the children was a major problem. "You'd see a little boy in a sweater down to his ankles because it was the only thing she said. Mrs.

Chaffin said of the children had been separated from their parents during the evacuation of Seoul in 1950. She, herself, was evacuated with less than an hour's notice. Another major problem in Korea today is resettling people who were driven from their homes during the war. She spoke of seeing one old couple on an apparently bare hillside, with no houses in sight, digging up the cooking utensils they had buried in their former home before fleeing south. "How are these people going to live?" she asked.

Mrs. Chaffin plans to return to Korea this summer for several months to see how the church can best continue its work. She urged the society members to encourage young people who feel they are called to missionary work. Officers were installed during the meeting, which more than 200 persons attended. The Rev.

Champion Goldy, pastor, led devotions. Mrs. Ernestine Krill received an adult life membership. Auxiliary to See Stage, TV Shows LAKEHURST Members of the Fleet Reserve Assn. Auxiliary at their recent meeting made plans for a trip to New York May 14 to see the stage show, "My Fair and the TV show, "The Price Is Right." Plans were also made for a food and.

handmade, articles Union food sale store, May Toms River. Three new members were accepted. The group met at the Chief Petty Officers' Club at Lakehurst Naval Air Station. Mrs. Veronica Monroe presided.

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MISS MARILYN NEAPOLITAN Students Engaged ASBURY PARK Mr. and Mrs. Daniel Neapolitan, 706 4th announce the engagement of their daughter, Marilyn, to Walter James Sorensen, Deal, son of Mrs. Oliver Sorensen, Mitchell, S.D., and the late Mr. Sorensen.

A June wedding is planned. The bride-elect was graduated from Asbury Park High School. She is attending Monmouth College, West Long Branch, and is employed at Shore Dairies Loch Arbour. Mr. Sorensen is also attending Monmouth College.

He is employed by the Deal Police Department. First Aid Squad Has Demonstration MIDDLETOWN TOWNSHIP The Lincroft First Aid Squad displayed equipment and gave demonstrations, of at the emergency meeting care of Tues- the Lincroft-Everett PTA. Daniel McClintock spoke on the functions and finances of the squad. George Fehr answered questions from the audience. John Niles, John Flockhart, Robert Goddard and Elwood Brandt demonstrated the use of the resuscitator, respirator, oxygen equipment, fracture equipment and stretchers.

Neil Malloy showed a film on bicycle safety. Mrs. Ernest Liman was program chairman. Named to a committee on nominations were Mrs. Leslie Moran, chairman, Mrs.

Frank Braun, Mrs. Carl Rosen, Mrs. Edgar Fitzgerald, and Mrs. Joseph Scott. Mrs.

Leon Zuckerman read the new by-laws which were approved. Mrs. Paul Stryker, by-laws chair. man, will submit the new laws to the state Congress of Parents and Teachers for approval. Mrs.

Herman Kurre announced that the family square dance will be held April 26 at the Lincroft School. Frustrated Wife Feels Resentful By MARY HAWORTH Dear Mary Haworth: My husband and I have been married 15 years. We have been mildly successful in making a go of things. But recently pent-up fears and resentments have begun to dominate my feelings and I need advice as to a course of action--or rehabilitation, as the case may be. George has provided well for me, and our wonderful children.

In his way I am sure he loves me, though I wonder if he is capable of loving anyone wholeheartedly, I adore him--or would if he'd give me a chance. But he is reserved, to put it mildly. Recently he was ill and suffered emotionally. Once or twice in this time he dropped his reserve and seemed to need me, for comfort and encouragement. Despite the tragedy, I was actually happyreally elated to feel that he needed me.

But now that he is better we are back on the old basis. Surely I've earned the right to be recognized and appreciated as a helpmate-to have a vital place in his heart and his future. Yet I feel thrust out, rejected. He seems to resent my ideas or sug. gestions; and disdains my inquiries our financial affairs or any aspects of partnership.

If I ask how he feels, he is almost surly. George was orphaned at an early age and brought up by a series of persons--relatives and othersof whom he apparently has very fond memories. He has several sisters but no brothers. I am an only child, and my parents were warmly affectionate with each other and me. Mother died three years ago and I am forlorn without her encouragement.

Do I need to mature, so that I disregard George's dourness and count my blessings? I give. myself pep talks constantly, but gradlually despair is engulfing me. Breyer-Fisher Troth Announced SOUTHAMPTON, Mass. Mo and Mrs. Robert Breyer, here, al nounce the engagement of the daughter, Miss Joan Elaine Bre; er, to Robert George Fisher, so of Mrs.

Hazel B. Fisher, Islan Heights, N.J., and Dr. Samuc Fisher, Emlenton, Pa. Miss Breyer is a graduate the University of Massachusett: She is employed as Rensselae County assistant 4H club agent Troy, N.Y. Mr.

Fisher was graduated Mt. Hermon School, Mt. Hermor and will be graduated from Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute Troy, in June. Plans have been made for a wet ding on June 21. How can I acquire a better outlook, and do some constructive thinking to improve myself and our marriage? There are times when I might be more pleasant too; so it isn't all one-sided, you see.

P. Y. Face-Saving Rigidity Dear P. Would George insist using a vintage motor carupon, Model-T Ford, made in 1920 -as the family car, all through his married life? Of course not. But in effect, he is doing something just as eccentric in regard to his family relationship.

He insists upon sticking to emotional reflexes, in relation to his wife, that were a militant face-saving device when he was a kid -trying to hide his heart hungers, and beggarly plight in respect to love, from his caretakers of that era. Remember, he was orphaned at early age, and passed around, from, person to person, in getting his growth. Thus unconsciously he learned, in defense of pride, not to let down his guard. So, to some extent, his attitude towards wifely love is understandable, in terms of our seeing how he got that way. I think you will have to accept him as is-to arrive at a real relationship.

To do that: 1. Stop identifying him with, or comparing him to, your unconscious image of the Ideal Man. Your dad? 2. Stop quarreling with him in your thoughts, on the silent complaint that he doesn't behave as you think a lovting husband should. 3.

Invest your surplus emotional energy, your tenderness, your ardor, service to humanity--in benevolent care of the aged, the indigent, and, neglected children. In short, as you say, grow up. M. H. Mary Haworth counsels only through her column, not by mail.

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