The Advocate-Messenger from Danville, Kentucky • 20

20 THE KENTUCKY ADVOCATE Danville Kentucky Sunday January 27 1985 Woman undecided about pregnancy Announcements Williams Williamson Dear Abby By Abigail Van Buren The Williamsons Paraffin can relieve arthritis pain By Dr LI Coleman Mr RK Nevada Brackett Budd Child benefits from relationship with father verbal SUNDAYS Me A TRADITIONAL BOOKSTORE 25 All Calendars My Canon Personal Cartridge copier is just terrific 328 Main St Danville "Across from The Courthouse" MOVIE Canon PC 20 VCR RENTALS WKLO AM 1OOO Mary Michelle Myers Paul Joseph Borek Earl Trent of Junction City and Ora Lee Richie of Lexington an nounce the engagement and for thcoming marriage of their daughter Angelia Louise Trent to Ronald Dean Coffman son of William Coffman and Mildred Coffman of Junction City SHOP NAME BRAND SHOES AND BOOTS Copyright 1985 Universal Press Syndicate THE GUEST ADE COMING! Teresa Brackett and Ted Budd DEAR ABBY: I live in lorida which is a haven for retirees I happen to be one of them Whenever I go to a shopping mall I see many little old men driving with their nice little old wives beside them in the passenger seat I suppose it makes a man feel more macho to drive rather than let his wife drive but he realize that he is doing her a terri ble disservice Women whose husbands have always done the driving are usual ly not very good drivers Women need practice to drive confidently on highways in congested areas in heavy traffic and on country roads They need to know how to Copyright 1985 by King eatures Syndicate Inc Don and Eva Brackett of Junc tion City announce the engage ment and forthcoming marriage of their daughter Teresa Kay Brackett to Theodore Scott Budd son of Herman and Esther Budd of Toledo Ohio The bride elect is a graduate of Boyle County High School and at tended Berea College Budd is employed by Iron workers Local 55 in Toledo A wedding is planned for 4 pm eb 14 at Danforth Chapel at Berea College Spera of Sunrise la of the bridegroom was Speaking of your health are always done If these tests do not satisfy the doctor the surgeon and the anesthesiologist elective surgery is always postponed Elective surgery is that kind of surgery which is not urgent or a matter of emergency When there is any suspicion in the history that there is a bleeding tendency special studies are made on the coagula tion mechanism There are now many exact ways by which are recogniz ed There are also many excellent techniques by which defects in the bleeding time and coagulation time can be controlled When there is any known bleeding tendency patients must inform their doctor of this in order to insure maximum safety Are there any tests that are made before an operation to be sure that the patient is not a bjeeder? We have two bleeders in our family state of consciousness is a poor candidate for fatherhood Think about it Danville Office EQUIPMENT CO Matt cousin the ring bearer A reception was held at the church fellowship hall after the ceremony After taking a wedding trip to the Hall of ame Bowl in Birm ingham Ala and to Orlando la the couple is living in Tor nado WVa Cynthia Gayle Williams daughter of Mr and Mrs Robert Williams of Burgin and Timothy Alan Williamson son of Mr and Mrs John Spera of St Albans and the late Lt Comdr Ronald Williamson were married Dec 28 at the Burgin Baptist Church The Rev Steve Hadden officiated Debbie Amburgey of Lex ington was the maid of honor The bridesmaids were Valarie Bruce of Lexington Bar bara Horne of St Albans and Meika Sheridan of Clemson sister of the bridegroom The junior bridesmaid was Laura Lee Currens of Har rodsburg The flower girl was Lyndsey Speakes of Harrodsburg Ron Williamson of St Albans served his brother as best man The ushers were Steve Williams and Rusty Williams both of Burgin brothers of the bride Mark McCallister and Sam Call both of St Albans and Michael Bishop of Winchester cousin of the bride Dickie Bishop of Win chester cousin of the bride was the junior groomsman By REDBOOK A Hearst Magazine Active fathering produces hap pier fathers emotionally healthier children and more relaxed mothers than occur in families with do nothing dads The problem is getting men to assume that role according to an article in the ebruary issue of Redbook because they are afraid of it relate to it or believe it is is some evidence children with strong relationships with more than one adult have more resilience and relate well to a wider range of adults than do children with single at said Milton Kotelchuck PhD assistant pro fessor of health policy at Harvard Medical School DEAR ABBY: I am a US soldier stationed in the Republic of Korea I work in an office with a 35 year old technical sergeant named Harry one swell guy but he never gets any mail He once said he would even welcome a bill rather than face another empty mailbox If some of your readers would like to cheer Harry up and send him a letter or even a postcard it would make his day His address paraffin is retained for a long time and brings soothing relief Paraffin is not a form of treat ment that should be used as a substitute for the drugs that are now available It can be used as an extra source of comfort for some painful types of arthritis I must reiterate a warning: Be careful not to burn the skin with paraffin that is too hot This technique should be used only with the permission of the doctor Dear Mr Before any surgery either ma jor or minor is performed in any hospital complete blood studies Dear Mrs Many years before cortisone and ACTH and gold treatments were used for some forms of ar thritis pain was relieved by the use of ordinary paraffin This waxy substance is similar to the kind used to preserve jams The paraffin is melted and allowed to cool to about 150 degrees Special care must be taken because hot paraffin can be deceptive and cause painful burns The outer layer may seem to be cool but the underneath portion may be extremely hot The painful arthritic hand or foot is first covered with a thin THE MOVIE HUT VIDEO RECORDING SERVICE Someone once told me that you once wrote about using paraffin to give relief for the pain of arthritis I save many of your articles but I find this one Mrs DY Vermont layer of mineral oil and then dip ped in the warm paraffin When the hand or foot is taken out and exposed to the air the paraffin becomes firm This can be repeated a number of times until a heavy layer surrounds the hand or foot The basis for this effective pain reliever is that the heat of the would no more become involved with their kids than walk on all fours and often up to the wife to lead her husband into active father according to clinical psychologist Judith Wallerstein Ph executive director of the Center for the amily in Transi tion in Corte Madera Calif and senior lecturer at the University of California at Berkeley School of Social Welfare mothers should keep one eye on the baby and the other on how to foster the bond between father and she said Dexter lorshelm Nunn Bush rench Shriner Clark Red Wing Carolina Georgia Joy Step Bass Polly Preston Converse Texas Dingo Acme Abilene Soft Spots Wlmzee Capezio Armadillo Roc Sport I ml art ridge ipying I and Simple or The Best in Sports Read The Advocate could see them fixing lunches hoot and holler Other men Osherson said parenting a demanding role that requires skills they think they Some men are not scared just disinterested lot of fathers simply feel very little motivation to be involv ed with their said Joseph Pieck PhD researcher at Wellesley College Center for Research on Women know other men who are Their own fathers So these men read a road map and maintain a car in case they become widowed one day as many do ortunately my husband made me do 50 percent of all the driving He also made me learn as much about a car as he knew At the time I felt put out but now I realize that he did me a big favor He died last year and thank God now I can get into my car and drive anywhere with confidence Please print this Abby It may wake up a lot of people YOUR AN IN LORIDA DEAR AN Your suggestion is excellent but it should be extend ed beyond a expertise in driving Because one elderly mate must eventually leave the other all men should know how to cook a meal do the laundry keep house and sew on a button And all women should know how to change a tire balance a checkbook and a budget read an insurance policy and look after their own finances And the time to teach each other is now There also are indications that nurturing fathers can help in crease their math and IQ test scores But it always easy to get dad moving very hard for men to find a way of relating to a very young said Sam Osherson PhD research psychologist at Harvard University Health Services The difficulty applies even as the children get older the back of their Osherson said men feel that if the guys back at the gym HOLIDAY PLAZA 150 BY PASS 236 1191 is: Harry Nevins TSgt PSC Box 1576 APO San rancisco 96366 0006 Thanks Abby Sign me or JOHNNIE DUDZ1K DEAR JOHNNIE: After this hits print your pal Harry will be so cheered up he be able to handle the mail so please ask him to share it with some of his equally neglected buddies DEAR ANONYMOUS: You are wise to ask However no medical expert would venture an opinion without having examined your husband thoroughly Much would depend on his general health the extent of damage he has already sustained and the degree to which he is ad dicted to cocaine quaaludes am phetamines etc If it is determined that the use of drugs could "affect the health of your it may be nature's way of giving you an important message: A man who spends much of his time in an altered inally a copier for the most important person in mv life rom irst Quality to Reconditioned Town Country Shoe Hwy 27 South Lancaster Ky Mon Sat 9 6 DEAR ABBY My husband is in volved with drugs and I want to have a baby Will you please check with your medical experts and let me know if his involvement with drugs could affect the health of my baby? I have never used drugs of any kind but my husband has smoked marijuana for about 15 years and he still smokes it daily He also uses cocaine quaaludes am phetamines etc Please let me know ANONYMOUS Canon PERSONAL COPIERS 1 7 vw? xrQ tn Trent Coffman The bride elect attended Boyle County High School Coffman is a graduate of Dan ville High School and is employed by Whirlpool An open wedding is planned for 7 pm eb 14 at the irst Chris tian Church of Junction City SUNDAY 1 5 MONDAY SATURDAY 10 10 REE MEMBERSHIP o( DISCOUNT PRICES! 233 Main Phone Ted Baker Danville 236 6618 Myers Borek Mr and Mrs Robert Myers of 600 Grabruck Drive announce the engagement of their daughter Mary Michelle Myers to Paul Joseph Borek son of Mr and Mrs Walter Borek of Chicago The bride elect is a graduate of Danville High School and the University of Kentucky She is a certified training manager for Paul Harris Stores Inc at Water tower Place in Chicago Borek is a graduate of Dart mouth College and a member of the Theta Delta Chi fraternity He is assistant to the deputy commissioner of the Department of Planning for the city of Chicago A wedding is planned for 4 pm June 29 at SS Peter and Paul Catholic Church Ifl rZ 77 07 777 I I iSBa wli I I Compact 'let efficient hi 3 business With the addrt of automatic papU copies a.