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DEMOCRAT AND CHRONICLE. ROCHESTER. N.Y., FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 28. 1984 3C Stone-Toland's frontier festival offers taste of the 1800s By Kay Flh Democrat and Chronicle Want a taste of what Aaron Burr and Lafayette might have seen and heard on their visits to Rochester in the early 1800s? The Stone-Toland House, one of Rochester's earliest pioneer homes, this weekend will be the scene of a bustling, foot-stomping frontier festival. The festival, which will run from noon to 5 p.m.

Saturday and Sunday, begins with a parade of the C.A. Palmer Fife and Drum Corps of Palmyra. The route is from the Baptist Temple Church on Clover Street to the Stone-Tolan fairgrounds, 2370 East Ave. This year's festival will feature old-fashioned music, early American crafts' demonstrations, military drills re-creating the life of early 19th century soldiers on march, a public market and tours of the house. Fairgoers can choose an English-styled ploughman's lunch of fresh-baked bread, cheese and apple with cider or coffee or a Frenchmen's the son of a Revolutionary War captain.

The home is thought to be the oldest surviving structure in Monroe County. The house served both as a homestead, on a 210-acre farm, and as a wilderness outpost where traders, trappers and surveyors could rest and partake of an evening meaL Visitors to the house included Burr, Lafayette and Louis Philippe, later a king of France. The Landmark Society of Western New York, which hosts the fair, acquired the site in 1956 from the family of John Tolan, the home's second owner. Pre-fair tickets are on sale for $2, $1 for senior citizens and 50 cents for children at Stone-Tolan, other Landmark Society properties and Village Green Boostore, 766 Monroe Ave. Weekend admission at the site will be $3, $1.50 for seniors and 50 cents for children.

Fair visitors may park free at Baptist Temple Church, 1101 Clover and on nearby side streets. Proceeds are used to maintain the museum house and to continue its restoration. lunch of croissant, cheese, grapes and palmier, a hard French cookie, with beverage. An old-world market will feature herbal bouquets, baked goods, antiques and collectibles, fruits, vegetables and juice products, wheels of cheese, and a collection of items from museum shops around the country, including tin whistles, maple fifes, books on cooking arts, hand-blown glass, flasks, cider mugs and ink wells. Mitzie Collins will perform traditional music on a hammered dulcimer Saturday, and the Wakefield Dancers will ask visitors to join them in a country jig Sunday.

There will be Punch and Judy shows, horse-drawn wagon rides, and re-creations of early military life by members of the Thompson's Rifle Battalion and 34th Regi-. ment of Foot, who will encamp on the grounds for the weekend. New to the festival will be demonstrations of how a frontier farm was readied for the winter. The Stone-Tolan house was built in 1792 at the intersection of two Indian trails by Orringh Stone, a pioneer settler from Massachusetts and Sheridan, Mary D. Wednesday, Sept.

26. 1984. Survived by her daughter, Miss Mary Lou Sheridan; her son, John P. Sheridan; 2 sisters, Mrs. Helen Fleegle and Mrs.

Elizabeth Igniatus; 5 grandchildren; several nieces and nephews. Funeral service and interment in Holy Sepulchre Cemetery, will be held at convenience of the family. In lieu of flowers, friends wishing may have Masses offered. Reference, Vay-Schleich Meeson Funeral Home Inc. Trim, Roderick On Sept.

26, 1984. He leaves his wife, Madeline (Comstock) Trim; son and daughter-in-law, Roger L. and Shirley Trim; son, Kevin R. Trim; 6 daughters, Pamela Trim, Mrs. Marvin (Beverly) Brockman, Debra Trim, Sandra Trim, Mrs.

John (Lynda) Zam-patori, Brenda Trim, a loving friend like a daughter, Madeline Acito; 3 brothers, Marvin, Carl and Alvin Trim; 2 sisters, Mrs. Marge Gustlaw, Mrs. Glenn (Roxanne) Winters; 7 grandchildren; several nieces and nephews. Calling hours will be held at the Spalding Funeral Home Saturday 7-9, Sunday, 2-4, 7-9, Malone, NY. Interment, St.

Bernard Cemetery. Saranac, NY. Those who wish may attend a Memorial Mass on Sat. Oct. 6 at 10 a.m.

St. Anthony's Church, Rochester, NY. Arrangements. Roncone Funeral Home, Inc. Weidenborner, Helen Gertrude 81.

of Melbourne, FL and a former resident of Rochester for over 80 years, died Sept. 25, 1984. Survived by husband, Henry 2 daughters. Sr. Marlene H.

Weidenborner, O.S.F. and Mrs. Carol O. Kaufman; 1 sister, Mrs. Elsie Favreau; 2 grandchildren; Jen-niter Kaufman and Molly Kaufman.

Funeral Mass will be celebrated Friday Sept. 28 in Melbourne, FL. Entombment, Fountain Head Memorial Park. Tough Mondale, soft Reagan could keep Soviets guessing ART DUCIU7ALD Mondale: I'm still willing to sit -down but we have to talk about substance. I will never fear to negotiate, but I will not negotiate out of fear.

Gromyko: So how can we reduce tensions if the Democrats get into power? Mondale: That's up to you people, not to us. Gromyko: Do we have to have all these television cameras while we're talking? The light hurts my eyes. Mondale: I want the American people to know where I stand when it comes to relations. If. you came to win me over you are sadly mistaken.

I'm much tougher The only danger I can see from Fritz Mondale meeting with Soviet Minister Andrei Gromyko this week is that the Democratic candidate may want to show the American voters how tough he can be with the Soviets. Since Mondale is going to meet with Gromyko first, the press will be watching for any sign of weakness. The conversation could go something like this. Mondale: Welcome to America, Mr. Foreign Minister.

How is everything in the evil empire? Gromyko: I thought this was a friendly visit Mondale: How can it be friendly after what you people did in Afghanistan and the Los Angeles pics? Let me give it to you straight If I am elected president, I'm going to take a harder line toward the Kremlin than President Reagan. He's been pussyfooting with you people too long. Gromyko: I can't believe I'm hearing this. You have said in your speeches that you were willing to sit down and talk to us. When words Every once in awhile, I think mothers should go through their repertoire of speeches and toss out all those that don't work anymore.

Parental lectures are like anything else. They become obsolete. Kids outgrow them. They're used too often and lose their effectiveness. (When the kids recite it along with you, it's time to phase it out) And face it! Some of them don't work.

They've lost it The speech that never worked for me was, "I've never asked you for much, but I'm begging you now." Actually, I put a lot of myself into that lecture. My shoulders slumped, my eyes became dull and sometimes I cried. I even choreographed it, dragging across the floor and coming to rest on a kitchen chair where I fail you, maybe you need a A reluctant Bardot turns 50 today Agence France Presse ST. TROPEZ, France Former French movie idol Brigitte Bardot turns 50 today having become a reclusive resident of this Riviera resort town whose fast-living reputation she once helped forge. Since her retirement from the movies in 1973 after starring in her 45th film, the actress has lived alone, surrounded by a menagerie of animals and avoiding crowds.

In a recent interview she was quoted as saying: "Turning 50 is no fun." Death Notices Within Monroe County INDICATES THE FIRST APPEARANCE OF A NOTICE IN THIS NEWSPAPER. Bentley, Beverly J. Of Clarkson, suddenly Tuesday, Sept. 25, 1984. She is survived by her husband, Roger D.

Bentley; her mother. Mrs. Hilda E. Webber of Rochester; her sister, Mrs. Larry (Vivian) Miller of Hilton, NY; several aunts and uncles.

Friends may call Thursday, 2-4, 7-9 p.m. at the DiPonzio Funeral Home, 219 Spencerport Gates. Funeral services Friday afternoon at 1 o'clock in the funeral home. Interment, Riverside Cemetery. Buchholz, Ralph C.

Sept. 22, 1984. Survived by his son and daughter-in-law, Douglas Willeen; grandchildren, David, Larry and Danielle; brother and sister-in-law, James Jeanette; sisters, Mrs. Alma Jung and Mrs. Marianne Johnson; several nieces and nephews.

Friends are invited to attend a Memorial Service 11 a.m. Saturday, Sept. 29th at Summerville Presbyterian Church. Interment at the convenience of the family. In lieu of flowers contributions to People Against Chemical ExcessfP A C.E.)co Dallas Ster-rett, 3773 St.

Paul Roch. 14617 or the General Memorial Fund at Summerville Presbyterian Church. Arrangements, Far-rell Brothers. Dennie, Clara (Haldoupis) On Sept. 26, 1984.

She is survived by her sons, Niketas Haldoupis and his wife, Laura, John Haldoupis and his wife, Joan, all of Webster; her daughters, Dorothea McGuire and Catherine Chapman; 9 grandchildren; 7 great-grandchildren; a brother, John Zeitvogel and a sister. Ruby Cum-mings; several nieces and nephews. She was a member of the Greater Rochester Area Penmen and the International Assoc. of Master Penmen Engrossers and North American Benefit Assoc. Friends may call Thursday, 7-9 p.m.

and Friday, 2-4, 7-9 p.m. at Hedges Memorial Chapel, 770 E. Main St. (at Alexander) where a service will be Saturday at 1 1 a.m. Interment, Mt.

Hope Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, those wishing may contribute to American Diabetes Assoc. in her memory. Dewey, James F. On Sept.

26, 1984. He is survived by many friends. Friday 2-4 friends may call at Miller Funeral Homes 1625 Mt. Hope Ave. Saturday at 10 a.m.

friends are requested to meet at Blessed Sacrament Church for his Mass of Christian Burial. Interment, Holy SepulchreCemetery. Eaglestone, Ethel Age 84, of St. Petersburg, FL, born in England, formerly of Rochester, NY, died Friday, July 20, 1984. Survived by daughters and son-in-law, Irene and Fergus Hegan, Winifred and the late Lawrence Phillips; grandchildren, Robert and Lorene Hegan, Maureen and Donald Herring, Susan Hegan and Diane and Clive Rees; great-grandchildren, Peter and Christopher Hegan.

Patrick and Matthew Herring and Russell Salamone and Stephanie Rees; 3 sisters in England; 1 brother in Australia. Friends are invited to a memorial service at John Knox Presbyterian Church, 3233 Ridge Greece, NY. Tuesday, Oct. 2 at 7 p.m. Those wishing may contribute to John Knox Church Memorial Fund.

Hill, Raymond D. On Sept. 27, 1984. Survived by his wife, Nellie; 2 sisters, Mrs. Wilbur (Myrtle) Brown of Sacramento, CA, Mrs.

Edward (Ruth) Smith; brother, Gordon Hill; several nieces and nephews. Mr. Hill was a Veteran of WW II. Friends may call Friday 2-5 and 7-9 at Bonus Son Funeral Home, 899 Hudson Ave. Services Saturday 9:30 and 10:00 at St.

Casimir Polish National Catholic Church. Interment St. Casimir Cemetery. Kenny, Jessie M. Wednesday.

September 26, 1984. Survived by her son, John R. Kenny of NC; her daughter, Mrs. Robert (Linda) Steidle; 2 brothers, John Shear of N. Rose, NY and William Shear of Wolcott, NY; her sister, Mrs.

Eleanor Chapman of VA; 7 grandchildren; several nieces and nephews. She was a member of the Greece Grange. Friends may call Friday 2-4, 7-9 at the Vay-Schleich Meeson Funeral Home 2692 Dewey Ave. where services will be held Saturday at 11 o'clock. Interment, Falls Cemetery.

Friends wishing may make contributions to the Greece United Methodist Church or to the Greece Grange in her memory. Osman, Glenn M. Glenn Osman, on Sept. 27, 1984. He is survived by his wife, Mrs.

Jeannette (Pille) Osman; a son and daughter-in-law. Grant and Sandy Osman; 3 daughters and sons-in-law, Suzanne and Edward Wlodarski, Judith and Jack Thompson and Karen Simpson; 12 grandchildren and 1 great granddaughter; a sister, Mrs. Beverly Perell of FL; many nieces and nephews. Friends may call at the George J. Funk Funeral Home, 1119 Joseph Ave.

at Norton 2-4 and 7-9 p.m. Funeral services Saturday Sept. 29, 1984 at 9:30 a.m. from the Funeral Home. Interment Irondequoit Cemetery Pusateri, Maria Sept.

26, 1984. Survived by her son and daughter-in-law, Cosmo and Josephine; her daughters and sons-in-law, Sara and Sam Passafiume, Letitia and Robert Crum, Salvatore D'Angelo; 14 grand and 7 greatgrandchildren; nieces, nephews. Calling Thursday and Friday 2-4, 7-9 at the Falvo Funeral Home 1395 N. Goodman St. Funeral service Saturday 9 from the funeral home, 9:30 at Christ the King Church.

Interment, Holy Sepulchre. Schulick, Walter J. Wednesday Sept. 26. 1984.

Survived by his wife, Patricia (Laragy) Schulick; son, Peter Schulick; daughters and sons-in-law, Christine and Duncan Brown, Roseanne and Charles Carpenter, Marie Schulick; 2 brothers, William of NYC and Alexander Schulick: sister, Mrs. Mary Birmingham of FL; 2 grandchildren, Jacqueline and Stuart; several nieces and nephews. He was a retiree of Eastman Kodak Co. Friends may call Friday 2-4. 7-9 at the Vay-Schleich Meeson Funeral Home.

2692 Dewey Ave. Mass of Christian Burial Saturday at 9 o'clock at Our Mother of Sorrows Church. Interment Holy Sepulchre Cemetery. In lieu of flowers friends wishing may make contributions to the Greece Volunteer Ambulance or the American Heart Assoc. Reader asks for reprint of dad's letter after than I look on the evening news.

Gromyko: Mr. Mondale, if you feel this way, why did you ask to see me? Mondale: Because I wanted you to take a message back to Moscow. Tell them this country has only one president at a time. When I get to the Oval Office my finger will be just inches from the button, and if you people think I won't push it, just try me. Gromyko: Is that all you have to say to me? Mondale: There's one more thing.

Your fly is open. While my biggest fear is that Mondale will take a hard line with Gromyko, President Reagan will lean over the other way to show the voters he is a man of peace. Reagan: Comrade Gromyko, what a pleasure to meet you at last. I hope the wheat we're sending you is satisfactory? Gromyko: Yes, it's good. Thank you for filling our order so speedily.

Reagan: What are friends for? As long as I'm president I will never allow a Soviet citizen to go hungry. Another one that was a total flop was, "Never mind, I'll do it myself." It was from my "Guilt Sampler." Friends of mine used it effectively for years, so it must have been my delivery. Whatever, I always ended up with the kids saying, "OK," and making a fast exit Saying goodbye to parental sermons is like bidding adieu to old friends. How I miss "Do you want Mommy to cry?" Few speeches since have made them feel so rotten. "You will never see another cookie as long as you live," was a wonderful soliloquy until the kids became independently wealthy and found out they could buy their own stash.

Others I was glad to unload. I felt like a fool when I was delivering them. Every time I gave the own. Until then, trust me. Your Father Dear Ann Landers: When I read the letter in your column about the man who said he loved the aroma of women's feet, I thought you had made up that letter.

It seemed so goofy. After reading this enclosed item in the paper I never will doubt you again. Boggled In Connecticut Dear Bogg: I received several copies of that clipping and can't understand why so many people were dumbfounded. By now it should be apparent that nothing is so weird that somebody, someplace isn't doing it. Here's an abbreviated version of the news story: MINEOLA, N.Y.: A minister's son who allegedly climbed into second-story windows in the middle of the night to tickle young women's feet and steal their shoes was charged Monday with burglary.

Richard Hunter, 20, suspected of plied to the skin, the kind injected into the skin, or the oral form. About 85 percent of people with li chen planus have it clear up in about 18 months. However, relapses can occur, so there may be more than one bout with this irksome skin disease. Dear Dr. Donohue: "Incomplete right bundle branch block." I went in for an EKG and I was found to have this.

I was told not to worry about it because it is not serious. It sounds serious. I am told that many people have it Please comment Should something be done about this condition? A.R. Your heartbeat is triggered by a little blip of electricity from the pacemaker, a group of special cells at the top of the heart The blips get to the bottom of the heart by way of two cables of a sort Those are the right and left bundles. In your case, the current is flowing a little more slowly than normal down your right cable.

Nevertheless, it gets there and your heart responds by dutifully beating. It does its job just as effectively as do other hearts. An incomplete right bundle branch block is nothing to stew over. You don't need to do anything about it It's not true, as you imply in another (edited) part of your let Gromyko: Shall we talk about how we can stop the arms race? Reagan: Of course we can. But first a toast to peace.

Gromyko: We have to get back to the tables in Geneva. Reagan: That's exactly what I was telling George Shultz. The Americans have been intractable on arms negotiations, and it's gotten us nowhere. We have some great new ideas we'd like to put forward and I don't mind telling you that when your people hear them, you'll know we're giving up a lot more than we're getting in return. Gromyko: You can't be serious.

Reagan: Andrei, we're superpowers. You cheat, we cheat, but what difference does it make as long as we can live together side by side in harmony? Gromyko: You really mean you don't want war? Reagan: With Grenada, yes, the Soviet Union, never. Gromyko: Is that all you have to say? Reagan: That's a nice suit you're wearing. new speech "One of these days you'll thank me for being so strict" speech I knew I wasn't being convincing by the way they looked at me like I was headed for paper shoes city. Naturally, a parent never wants to let her repertoire run low.

You have to work all the time to replace old speeches with new ones. I'm getting a lot of mileage out of "Would it kill you to get married and make me a grandmother?" I also like "If you don't want to tell me what's bothering you, just drop it and I'll understand." (Allow three days to deliver this one.) I tried one the other day that I thought was a winner. "What do you want me to do, keep my mouth shut and say nothing?" I won't go into details but it needs work. clipping stolen five similar break-ins, "just likes women's feet," said Detective Lt Louis Fucito. "Some people like other parts of the female body, and he just likes the feet." "If he saw some girl who he thought had nice feet, he would go to her house," said Detective Jerry Wright Hunter, of Roslyn Heights, was arrested Sunday, arraigned Monday and released in his parents' custody on the condition he get psychiatric help.

Young Hunter is a suspect in five similar break-ins in the area since last year, some of which also involved the theft of shoes, said Fucito. And now, Bogg, if you will permit a personal observation, this young man does not sound like a winner since he seems to enjoy looking de-feet in deface. Send your questions to Ann Landers, P.O. Box 11995, Chicago, III. 60611.

Please enclose a self -addressed, stamped envelope. ter, that your doctor is just trying to make you feel good. He's telling you the truth. Lots of people have what you have. Dear Dr.

Donohue: I am a clean person, bathing daily and extremely germ-conscious. However, several years ago my hus- band and I both discovered we had crab lice. I know I've never been with anybody else and I'm sure my husband hasn't either. We both were treated and got rid of them, but I still don't go a day without wondering where these little pests came from. I've waited to read something about them in your column, but so far it seems we are the only people concerned.

J.M. You may never find out where the critters came from. Here's the crab lice story. It may be of particular interest to you to know that the crab louse can be transmitted from inanimate objects, such as clothing, bedding or towels. This is also one infection you can possibly get from a public toilet It is not spread only by sexual contact although you or your husband may have passed it on from that Does this put your mind at rest after all these years? Send your questions to Paul G.

Donohue, M.D., P.O. Box 11210, Chicago. 111., 60611. i Wheeler, Donald A. NORTH CHILI: On Thursday.

Sept. 27, 1984. He is survived by his wife, Joyce; 2 sons, Donald, Jr. and Douglas, both of North Chili; 2 daughters, Cathy M. Korn of Gates, and Cindy of North Chili; 3 grandchildren; 1 son-in-law, Daniel Korn of Gates; 1 daughter-in-law, Wanda of North Chili; 3 brothers.

Dale of Birdsall, Robert of Clarkson, Glenn of Bergen: 1 sister, Louise Wood of Scottsville; several nieces and nephews. Friends may call Friday 3-5 and 7-9, at the Fowler Funeral Home, 52 State Brockport. where a funeral service will be held Saturday, Sept. 29 at 2 p.m. Interment Lake View Cemetery.

Friends wishing may make contributions to the North Chili Ambulance Corps. Williams, Evelyn V. Sept. 26. 1984.

Widow of Roy A. Survived by son and daughter-in-law, L. Robert and Charleen of Clarkson, NY; daughter and son-in-law, Jacqueline and Lee Watts of Hemet, CA; 2 sisters, Nellie and Edith of Cananda; 6 grandchildren; 7 great grandchildren. A Memorial Service will be held Monday evening at 6:30 at Holy Cross Church, Rochester. Friends wishing may contribute to the American Cancer Society.

Area Deaths Outside Monroe County Taylor, GeraldineE. CLIFTON SPRINGS: Geraldine E. Taylor, Sept. 24, 1984, in Clifton Springs Hospital after a long illness, 71 years of age. She is survived by 4 sons, James of CA, Ronald and Gary of Clifton Springs, Thomas of -Rochester; 1 daughter, Mrs.

Mary F. Legg of W. Germany; 3 sisters, Mrs. Edna Brown of MO, Mrs. William Dunk of Canandaigua, Mrs.

Zelma Hood of Palmyra; 3 brothers, Ira Elliott of FL, Eldon Elliott of Palmyra and John Elliott of FL; 12 grandchildren; several 1 nieces and nephews. Mrs. Taylor was a Social Worker at the VA Hospital in Canan- daigua also taught in the Seneca Falls Waterloo School System. No prior calling. Funeral services and interment at the convenience of the family.

Memorials may be made to Hope Lodge, 1400 N. Winton Rd. Rochester, NY 14609. Arrangements: Cady Mate Sinclair Funeral Home, Palmyra. Linton, Leo L.

E. GROVELAND: Sept. 26, 1984, at age 81 years. Survived by his wife, Marion (Leiblee) Linton; 3 sons, Stephen of Gainesville, FL, David of Geneseo, Thomas of Greece; 10 grandchildren; 1 brother, George of Sun City, FL: 5 sisters. Mrs.

Marion Marshall of Avon, Mrs. Evelyn Adamson of Groveland, Mrs. Evangline Bartholomew of York, Mrs. Betty Swerger of Geneseo and Mrs. Norma Lokken of Dade City, FL; several nieces and nephews.

Calling hours will be Friday. 2-4, 7-9 at the Rector-Hicks Funeral Home, Geneseo where funeral services will be Saturday at 2 p.m. Burial, Lakeview Cemetery, Grov- eland. Memorials may be made to the E. Groveland Methodist Church or the Gene-seo Ambulance Fund.

i Sandler, Jake LAKEVILLE: Sept. 26, 1984, Jake Sandler" of Lakeville Park. He i survived by his wife, LaReta; children, Linda of W.Virginia, Mark and Paula of Chicago, Wendy and Jack, Jr. a of PA. Friends may call Saturday, 7-9 p.m.

at the Stephenson-Dougherty Funeral Home, 350 Genesee Avon where service will be held Sunday at 2 p.m. Interment. Avon Cemetery. Wagner, Clara B. 26, 1984.

Survived by her husband, Henry 3 daughters, Mrs. Julius (Marilyn) Kayser and Mrs. David (Helen) Strasenburgh of Rochester and Mrs. John (Janet) DeAngelis of Huntington, LI; 1 sister, Ms Helen Hartnagel of Clifton Springs; 9 grandchildren; 3 great grandchildren; sev- -eral nieces and nephews. There are no calling hours.

A Memorial Service will be held Saturday at 2 p.m. at the Lyons United Methodist Church. Memorial Contributions may be made to a charity of one's choice. Arrangements are by the Boeheim-Pusateri Funeral Home. Lyons.

MANCHESTER: Suddenly on Sept. 26. 1984 at the age of 59. Formerly of the Rochester Police Dept. and currently employed as Patrol Judge of Finger Lakes Race Track.

He is survived by 3 daughters' and 1 son-in-law, Allan and Gloria Plever, Farmington, Paula Casserino, Fairport, Darcy Ann Cassarino, East Rochester; his mother, Josephine Cassarino, Rochester; 2 brothers. Ben, Canandaigua, Joseph, Web- ster; one sister. Frances Encao, Rochester, several nieces and nephews. Friends may call at the Halsted-Patrick Funeral Home, 19 N. Main Manchester Thursday, 7-9, Friday, 2-4, 7-9.

Mass of Christian Burial St. Dominic's Church Sat- urday 10 a.m. Interment, Holy Sepulchre Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, friends wishing may make contributions to the Shortsville or Canandaigua Volunteer Emergency Squads. Decker, Lena M.

27, 1984. Survived by 1 son, Lawrence of Marion; 1 foster son, Robert Bartha of Newark; 1 grandchild and 2 great granchildren; several nieces and nephews; 2 sisters. Mrs. Anna Tellier of -Rochester and Mrs. MaryScofield of CA.

There are no calling hours. Funeral services will be held at the convenience of the family. Memorial Contributions may be made to the Newark-Arcadia Ambulance Fund. Arrangements are by the Schulz- Pusateri Funeral Home. Newark Dear Ann Landers: Quite a while ago you printed a letter from Ricardo Montalban to his son that appeared in Family Concern, Wheaton, 111.

I carried it in my wallet and planned to read it to my twin sons when they reached their 12th birthday. (They are now 10.) My wallet was stolen yesterday on a crowded bus. I don't care about the money, but I was upset about losing that clipping. Is there any chance that you will run it again soon? Thanks. D.R.L.

In Manhattan Dear Here it is but please don't wait until the twins are 12. Read it to them now. It's not a minute too soon. Dear Son: As long as you live in this house, you will follow the rules. When you have your own house, you can make your own rules.

In this house we do not have a democracy. I did not campaign to be your fa- -ther. You did not vote for me. We are father and son by the grace of God, and I accept that privilege and EMIA D0T.1DECK shredded my nose tissue. I'd finish the phrase off with, "Please take out the garbage before it attacks us," or "Stay off the phone until the doctor calls me with my test results." It should have moved them to tears, but it never did.

AriN LANDEHS awesome responsibility. In accepting it, I have an obligation to perform the role of a father. I am not your paL Our ages are too different We can share many things, but we are not pals. I am your father. This is 100 times more than what a pal is.

I also am your friend, but we are on entirely different levels. You will do, in this house, as I say, and you cannot question me because whatever I ask you to do is motivated by love. This will be hard for you to understand until you have a son of your PAUL G. D0IJ0IIUE be put on cortisone as a last resort Please comment CP. Lichen planus is the eruption of flat, slightly violet bumps on the skin.

The bumps may be so close together that they seem to coalesce. It can appear at any age, but the patient usually is between 30 and 70. We don't know the cause, but a self-allergy situation is suspected as part of the picture. Wrists, forearms, neck, lower back, thighs, legs and ankles are the most common sites. In some, mucous membranes can be affected (as in the mouth and genital tract).

Treatment of mucous membrane eruptions is more difficult than of those elsewhere. Itching is a prominent feature. Steriods are the mainstays of treatment in the form of creams ap- i Clipping tissue under tongue rarely done anymore I Dear Dr. Donohue: My daughter is tongue-tied. It used to be the practice to clip it in the nursery before the baby was discharged.

When I questioned my pediatrician about doing it he said that they don't do it because the condition doesn't cause speech impairment What is your opinion on this? G.P.A. I agree with your pediatrician. We all have a strand of tissue extending from the floor of the mouth to the underside of the tongue, the frenulum. In some babies it may extend right up to the tip of the tongue. is seldom, probably never, a cause of faulty speech development The tissue tends to stretch with time.

Clipping, that is cutting that strand early, can be dangerous for the baby. There can be bleeding and infection. In the extremely rare instance when it is necessary, clipping is done after 8-10 months. I haven't heard of clipping being done in many, many years. Your pediatrician will watch the baby's progress in this regard for you.

Dear Dr. Donohue: I was told I have lichen planus, but that it would go away on its own in a few months. But I have new breakouts. Is this normal? I have it on my arms and legs. It is very ugly to look at and very itchy and uncomfortable.

I was told I could.