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8B Seen and Heard Be mflcral mi5 (Mmnxtlc Conversation Page ROCHESTER, N. SATURDAY, JUNE 17, 1967 'Time Wounds All Heels' HELP! Readers Ask Today's Starter Si i 1 'Hopefully Is Hopeless Case I I 1 May Ann Call an, a former newspaperwoman who is now working for Pitzer, is Mrs. Wagner's liaison with the outside world. Rose Princess Ages in 1967 She'll Be Festival Queen Q. will there a rose princess coronation this year at Jackson Perkins in Newark? If so, when will it be held? -B.

A. PALMYRA A. The royaltyVill be a little older this year, B. A. B.

She'll bj a queen, a high school junior from one of Wayne County's 12 school districts. Rose princesses were 6 years or younger. The queen will be chosen and crowned Saturday, June 24, when the nine-day festival opens. The Newark Chamber of Commerce, contest sponsor, said the queen will ride on a Jackson Perkins float in the Rose Bowl Parade at Pasadena next New Year' Day. By JACK SMITH L.A.

Times Service PITZER COLLEGE, a girls college in the group at Claremont, has an English teacher who is fighting a hopeless but honorable battle against the corruption and debasement of the language. "If this usage (hopefully) continues," says Miss Callan, "and a perfectly usable and convenient verbal construction is scrapped to make way for a loathsome thing without a name, since 'hopefully' in the usage here discussed cannot properly be called an adverb or indeed anything at all except a monstrosity, then Mrs. Wagner will be among those last seen fighting at the forts of 0 Mrs. Esther Wagner, professor of English at Pitzer, has set her hat in specific ally against the current use of "hopefully" Pi to mean "it is hoped." A lie nuiu uvpiuiij I 1 Q. Is there an age at which a child may decide which parent he chooses to live with? My son has been in his mother's custody since our divorce but now wishes to live with me permanently.

We both have remarried. -C. AIRPORT A. There's no fixed age, a lawyer told us. But we will assume both parents are judged fit parents.

All other things being equal, the court in any custody dispute probably would give great weight to the child's preference. 1 Mrs. Wagner points out, I "does not mean 'I hope.Vhe 'we a hope' or 'they hope'. It Jack means in a hopeful frame Smith of mind." "AN INDIVIDUAL WHO SAYS, 'Hopefully I am going to the is not saying that he thinks he will go but may be prevented from going," says Mrs. Wagner.

"He is saying that he is going in the hope that something good will be accomplished at the meeting." Mrs. Wagner points out that, several "responsible mentors of the English language have recently remonstrated with the American public" about this misuse of hopefully, including John Updike and E. B. White. But the tide does not turn.

"Some neologisms," Mrs. Wagner concedes, "are of course acceptable and welcome." i BY NOW MRS. WAGNER PROBABLY has given up on hopefully, but hopefully she contines to hold off the Brinkley 1 1 and the rest by warning the young women in her charge against the evils of what she calls "slopbucket English." Miss Callan reports that Mrs. Wagner is making a collection of slopbucket English which is to be published with the subtitle, "Words and Phrases from Urps. ville, U.S.A." "Students will be encouraged to listen carefully for these usages," says Miss Callan, "so as to develop sensitivity and, I hope, aversion.

Hopefully they will go into the presence of their elders. Hopefully, I join Mrs. Wagner's crusade. Down with escalate. Down with" tremendous, charismatic, image, commitment, involved; down with that ubiquitous pest of a phrase "You know." Hopefully, our vigilance will prevail.

I hope. You hope. We hope, a MRS. WAGNER, LIKE A COMPANY of French legionnaires against the heathen riff, is holding her doomed little oasis with spirit and aplomb. But she is outnumbered.

What chance does a girls college English teacher have against a David Brink-ley who tells 10 million people, "Hopefully, the situation in the Middle East will be Mr. Brinkley means, of course, that he hopes, you hope, we hope, the world hopes that the situation will be resolved. What he is saying, though, in English, is that the situation itself is full of hope that it will be resolved. (All situations, I have found, are hopeless.) Q. Is there some way to identify bus routes by putting numbers on the sides of buses? Seldom do you approach a bus from the front and when you do they generally are lined up so tightly that the route destinations cannot readily be seen.

This is hard, for the elderly, who aren't so nimble. ROCHESTER A. Running to the front of a bus to read the route name takes one's breath away, all right, R. A. and Rochester Transit Corp.

said it will continue to try to improve this situation. But on the new buses, side numbers aren't practical. RTC said it tried putting route numbers on the backs, but this didn't work. One drawback to side or rear numbers is that several buses have more than one destination: Lake Avenue may go to Kodak, Charlotte or Island Cottage. So a side number wouldn't identify the.

destination exactly. feedback If 12-year-old J. R. has any more questions about bow making or archery, he should try to attend the Rochester Bow Hunter's open house from 2 to 5 p.m. Sunday, June 25, at the range, 265S Ridgeway Ave.

For information about lemonwood staves, contact Tony Peres at 254-7205. How about YOU? Do you have a problem or a question that's been bothering you? Then write for SHE IS NOT AGAINST THE COLLO- quial; but she deplores corruptions whicn kill a word. Now that "hopefully" means what Brinkley and his listeners think it means, she points out, its real meaning for which there is no other word is lost forever. By HENRY W. CLUNE AT A CRITICAL juncture of World War II, Winston Churchill remarked, "I have not become the King's first minister to preside over the liquidation of the British Empire," and the late Stanley Woodward said, in substance, when ordered by his bosses to use a story of a women's social golf tournament, "I have not become the sports editor of the New York Herald Tribune to promote the deterioration of the sports' department." The employe challenged the employer and the latter picked up the gage.

Refusing to allow his own high standards of excellence to be compromised or to permit his integrity to be Impugned, Woodward walked jobless into the street. Presently the newspaper was sold to John Hay (Jock) Whitney, who promptly restored Woodward in his old job. In his phoenix rebirth he wrote, for his first printed line, "As I was saying when I was so rudely interrupted 11 years ago. Someone asked him if he was resentful of the people who had fired him. "Time," Woodward answered succinctly, "wounds all heels." ALTHOUGH IT HAS BEEN SAID THAT YESTER-day's newspaper is the only thing more dead than a dead newspaperman, Stanley Woodward, who died in November 1965, has achieve for one of our craft, an perpetuity.

For one thing, he has put a couple of words into the language. He coined the phrase "Ivy League" as the identifying symbol for eight prominent colleges and universities in the northeastern section of the country. He made bon mots a little in the manner of the recently deceased Miss Dorothy Parker that are still repeated and chuckled over; he did a good deal to take the jabberwocky out of sports writing, and he wrote a book, "Sports Page," which is professionally looked upon as the bible on how to operate a newspaper sports desk. Later, Woodward wrote a book of newspaper reminiscences called "Paper Tiger," and a third, "Sports Writer," which was published posthumously. "Stanley was ill when he finished 'Sports and it needed some editing before it was submitted," Mrs.

Woodward said yesterday. "That was done by Frank Graham son of the late Hearst sports columnist. Red Smith wrote the preface." WOODWARD, WHO IS CONSIDERED ONE OF the great sports editors of American journalism, was more than 6 feet tall and weighed 230 pounds. His widow, a tiny, alert, dark-haired woman was the guest this week of her old roommate at Russell Sage College, Mrs. Herbert W.

Boylan, and Dr. Boylan, of Scottsville. Motoring into Western New York from her home in Brookfield Center, Mrs. Woodward stopped on the way to lunch with Andy Kerr, the octogenarian former Colgate football coach, and to visit with Ken Smith, who wrote baseball for the defunct New York Mirror and who is now custodian of the Baseball Hall of Fame at Cooperstown. She implied that she frequently has contact with the sports world friends of her late husband.

A man of positive opinions and great force of character, Woodward strove zealously to make his sport pages the most interesting in New York and he so fully believed that his department was the heart of the newspaper that he cried out in horror, "Why bury a good story like that?" when a managing editor suggested using ah exclusive sports piece on Pagel. HE FELT THAT THERE WERE ONLY FOUR worthy sports, baseball, football, boxing and horse-racing. He was scoffing of several others, particularly basketball, which he termed goonosphere, auto racing and skiing. His knowledge of football, his great love, was said to be comparable to that of the most skillful coaches, and because of the authoritative manner in which he wrote about the game he was known widely as Coach Woodward. One time when the Army's coach.

Col. Earl Blaik, studying the films of a severe beating administered to his eleven by Michigan, propounded the notion that defeat would have been averted had the center put a half twist on the ball as he snapped it to the T-form'ation, Woodward destroyed the alibiing theory with a single sentence. "That," he wrote, "is like blaming the Johnstown flood on a leaky toilet in Altoona, Pa." Inside Report Rocky Revival Worries GOP Democrat and Chronicle, Rochester, N.Y. 14614 By ROWLAND EVANS and ROBERT NOVAK THE UNCANNY RISE of New York's Gov. Nelson A.

Rockefeller from the national political ash-heap is causing more anguish than jubliation in the upper reaches of the Republican party's moderate wing. The reason is that most, though certainly not all, moderate Republican strategists be Readers Ask Ann Landers Tip to On': from the fast that Romney just has not caught on with the moderates. In turn, all the talk about Rockefeller makes Rom-ney's job all the more difficult. The two developments feed on each other. The Romney camp is well aware of this.

Leonard Hall, Romney's chief strategist, made a special mission to Oregon's Gov. Tom McCall after McCall indicated support for Rockefeller. To some members of the Romney high command, Mc-Call's position was more a matter of being anti-Romney than pro-Rockefeller. The real worry of many moderates is what could happen if Romney is cut down by Nixon in New Hampshire's first-in-the-nation primary next March. They fear Romney's fall would move Rockefeller toward the direction of an open candidacy.

Because Rockefeller remains anathema to regular Republicans west of the Hudson River, they fear this could guarantee Nixon's nomination. The possible backup candidate for the moderates in the event of a Romney collapse with the widest backing in the party would most likely be Sen. Charles H. Percy of Illinois. But Rockefeller has never forgiven Percy for deserting him in 1964.

His strong backing for Romney might not be transferred to Percy. For these reasons, some thoughful moderates are coming to the view that Romney, with all drawbacks, may be the only hope to keep the nomination away from Nixon. From their standpoint, the return of Rockefeller to the nation's front pages is bad news indeed. support of Rockefeller recently, Hinman succeeded at least for the time being in restraining Levander. But these restraints are considerably less than effective.

Listeners at the Republican State Committee meeting heard Rockefeller's cheerleading for Romney with yawns (and Rep. Paul Fino, the Bronx leader, shortly thereafter blasted Romney and boosted Rockefeller). Levander is still for Rockefeller in Minnesota. And in Maryland, Gov. Spiro Agnew's ardor for Rockefeller hasn't cooled as a result of calculated rebuffs from Albany.

THUS, ROCKEFELLER'S resurection cannot be explained away as the product of Nixon's secret agents or Les Slot's cryptic remarks. It derives mainly lieve it next rillr OH 8 nr -q; 11..: nc ft' or lit. impossible i tor i Rockefeller txrin ffio rrociHon i a 1 nomination. I Listen to Parents 4 1 Thus, the rising Rockefeller for IK president 1 1 el only erodes sup port of the moderates behind 1 Gov. Romney of Michigan.

Mo reover, if Rom- DEAR ANN LANDERS: I am a teen-ager who is sick and tired of my parents. What I need is less criticism and more sympathy. My grades aren't so hot because I am a nervous wreck from getting yelled at all the time. All I hear from morning till night is, "Take a bath. Stop smoking, Get rid of that beard.

Get off the phone. Hang up your clothes. Stand up straight. Get a haircut. Don't be so mouthy.

Apply yourself." Any THEY'D GET OFF MY BACK Dear Wish: Yes, I have some advice. Take a bath. Stop smoking. Get rid of that beard. Get off the phone.

Hang up your clothes. Stand up straight. Get a haircut. Don't be mouthy. Apply yourself.

Rowland Evans ney's candidacy collapses next Erma Bombeck Is Little League Exercise? A PHYSICAL FITNESS re-port on Little Leaguers by a Maryland doctor has raised an interesting question. How much exercise do little boys get playing ball? According to the survey, "Youngsters who play Little League baseball are getting so little exercise the physical fitness LI aspect is mini-I mal. It consists a I ore of dual nt er, shrinks in the dryer, and comes with a hat that has legs. A father sees him as an item in the factory news with the words "Big Leaguer" in the headline. A grandmother sees him swathed in bandages in the -hospital, holding an autographed ball from Willie Mays for his pain.

A grandfather sees him as a boy wonder, sought after by both leagues. A coach sees him as a pair of shoulders supporting a coach on them at the close of the season. A CONCESSION PROPRIET-or views him as his winter in Florida! GRIN AND BEAR IT Few of them visualize a small boy running, sliding, jumping, laughing, hurling, shouting, arguing and rolling in the dirt. If parents do not leave the playing to the children, it is possible some day children may point to their feet and say, "Mama, what are these things?" And Mama will answer patiently, "They are feet, dear." And he will say, "But what can you do with them besides cover them with shoes and socks, balance youself on an escalator, put them on furniture and press them down cn accelerators in automobiles?" And mother will smile with nostalgia and say, "People used to walk places on them, but that was many years ago." By LICHTY WOODWARD HAD ENORMOUS RESPECT FOR the English language, which he used with grace and style, believing as Mark Twain did, that the difference between the right word and the almost right word was the difference between lightning and the lightning bug. He hated bad writing, sham, duplicity and pomposity and he always stood up to be counted.

It was Woodward who hired Red Smith from a Philadelphia paper and put him into New York and national circulation. He also engaged the late gifted Joe Palmer, whose copy was often spotted with classical allusions, to write racing. Of Woodward, Palmer wrote, perhaps to encapsulate the character of this strong and vital man, who twice left his beloved sports desk to accompany our soldiers in Europe and land with them on Pacific atolls: "He was often contemptuous of superiors, barely tolerant of equals and unfailing kind to a hing and waiting." Baseball is, at ifj hpqf rof an active game. I have seen sandlot games where the i rd baseman whiled away a whole in ning picking bubble Erma Bombeck year, the Rockefeller boomlet could actually reduce the prospect of the moderates uniting behind a successful backup candidate. THE OBVIOUS BENEFICI-ary of Rockefeller's rise then would become Richard M.

Nix-. on, candidate of the party regulars and most of the conservatives. Indeed, some of the Rockefeller talk earlier this year could be traced directly to the Nixon camp. There is continued suspicion currently when -one highly conservative congressman intimately connected with Nixon privately boosts Rockefeller's stock to newsmen. Rockefeller drumbeating is also coming, though quite subtly, from a member of his own executive staff.

Press Secretary Les Slote does to discourage Rockefeller for president talk. When asked privately whether Rockefeller will go for the big prize, Slote replies cryptically, in words to this effect: "Why do you think I'm here?" But a far more influential member of Rockefeller's inner circle talks quite differently. George Hinman, Republican national committeeman from New York and the Rockefeller man most respected nationally in party ranks, is adamant a a i Rockefeller's trying again. The fact that Rockefeller has committed himself so strongly to Romney in public statements, and has done everything asked of Romney men, is attributable to Hinman's influence. FOR EXAMPLE, IT WAS AT Hinman's urging that Rockefeller delivered a rousing endorsement of Romney at the State Republican Committee meeting in New York City June 8, both at the private luncheon session and the public evening banquet.

And when Gov. Harold Levan-der of Minnesota was on the verge of openly announcing his THE GIRLS By FRANKLIN FOLGER Dear Ann Landers: Our son who is 19 has been going with a girl for two She is now 18. Last summer the girl had a baby which she put up for adoption. During all this trouble the girl stayed in the city (the baby was born in a local, hospital), and she and our son continued to see each other and date as if everything was normal. Now our son and his girl are planning a white wedding with all the trimmings, followed by a lavish reception.

The talk has barely died down and my husband and I are sick to think it will start all over again. Don't you feel it would be better to have a small, quiet wedding with only the immediate family present? Please give us your opinion. OLD FASHIONED Dear Old; Of course it would be better if they had a small, quiet wedding, but the decision is up to the bride's family since they are putting on and paying for the affair. By this time you are probably experts at holding your heads up and playing deaf, so resign yourselves to another stint, folks. And remember that wise adage "And this, too, shall Derr Ann Landers: Mary and I have been married It months and one thing still puzzles me.

Maybe you can help. When Mary gets upset with me, why does she clam up and give me the silent treatment instead of coming right out and telling me what is bothering her? Sometimes her stone-faced silence goes on for two days. If I ask her what is wrong she says, "Nothing." When I get angry I tell the person I'm angry with what'i wrong and them I'm over my mad. I feel a lot better after I get my gripe off my chest, and so does everyone else. My.

mother treated Tny dad the same way Mary treats me and he never found a solution. Can you help me? WANT A GOOD MARRIAGE Dear Want: You are not the one who needs help. It's Mary. The best way to dissipate hostile feelings is by talking out the problem. Boiling in silence and keeping anger bottled up does nothing but build an ulcer.

Mary should begin promptly to ventilate her feelings for her sake, if not for yours. 1 1 Confidential to One Whose Ship Never Came In: Are you sure you sent one out? Too many people sit around waiting for something good to happen when they haven't done anything to deserve Do you have a question for Ann Landers? Send it to her in care of The Depiocrat and Chronicle, Readers Service, Box 1582, Rochester, N.Y., 14603. Tin t' cr K. gum off his upper lip, the shortstop kept awake by making patterns in the dirt with his cleats, and the outfielders stood comatose. The situation has not improved since adults entered the game.

-x- TO ILL USTRATE, THE other night a youngster took four balls at the plate. Yet he made no motion to take his walk to first base. Spectators could only surmise from this that the kid was waiting for a car pool to take him there. Parents have often excused themselves from meetings and gatherings to run their children up to the school in cars a distance of only four blocks, so the youngsters could "warm up" for the game. Ironically, no one can visualize a Little Leaguer or any other child ballplayer the way he should be seen.

A mother sees him as a uniform that fades in the wash "OK, dear! All this time I've been liking Charles de Gaulle I should have been standing up to him!" And before the auditors could discover how deep I had dipped into the petty cash, I bought the company!".