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2D THE PALM BEACH POST SUNDAY, DECEMBER 7, 1997 F Liz Smith Son overstaying Condom story has truth to it Teach puppy not to steal food It's about Time': his welcome Magazine hits 75 Dear Abby: Until two years ago, I thought I had a marriage as good as it gets after the honeymoon. We had some problems, but a Dear Dr. Fox: My 1-year-old beagle-mix, Cocoa, is very playful, has a great disposition and gets along with my 11 -year-old springer, Casey. But she has one very bad problem she steals food off the counter. Dear Ann Landers: I've been reading your column for many years, and every now and then, 1 detect a letter I believe you "invented" to add a little excitement. The one about the condom that whistles "Dixie" strained credibility. ' Funny, yes, but it certainly was ' ADIO CITY Music Hall is certainly hot right marriage without some problems doesn t exist pa now. First came the news that the great Art The real problems began when my wife's son (1 11 call him Paul) came to din m Deco entertainment palace has been leased to the owners of Madison Square Garden, adding to ner and stayed. He is 40. 1 am 75, and getting older by the too far out to be genuine. You ,' invented that one, didn't you? ; Hrw ahnut 'fessino nn? Tn. . MSG s huge franchise of showbiz entities. Now comes word that on March 3, 75 years to 1 . 1 ledo Reader the day since Time magazine was first published, minute. This "boy" was coming off a failed relationship and needed a nlarp rn rracri Hie mnthpr invit. I've tried all kinds of ways to stop her, but nothing works. S.R. Dear S.R.: Your beagle-mix is young and would benefit from some obedience lessons, such as learning to sit and stay. Such training will not only help you control her, but it will also help her acauire some self-control in Radio City Music Hall is to be transformed into a ..n - v gala dining and dancing extravaganza of unprece dented magnitude, bo elabo rate that for the first time ever, ""liL-l ec "m t0 stav with us without I consulting me. That was her l first mistake. I didn't object. wear luieuu; mere is no . way I could make up letters that ; compare with what crosses my ; desk every day. Keep reading for one that should clear the air .' regarding "Dixie." ; Dear Ann Landers: I read ; the 6,500 Music Hall seats will be covered with a temporary Ann Landers floor to accommodate a sit- Dear Abby Abigail Van Buren down dinner and special Time That was MY first mistake. Abby, I am not heartless. I figured Paul would stay maybe a month or two. A year went by while he "looked for work." (He program. H A H V.. Special indeed! Time's managing editor Walter Isaac rarely left the house.) Our home is small, with only one bathroom. son tells me that among the participants will be President The two bedrooms are only 10 feet apart. You can bet I was annoyed, but I thought the arrangement Clinton ... Mikhail Gorba Luce chev ... Steven Spielberg was temporary. I naively believed he would leave when he found a job. .'. . Dr. James Watson (who with British biophysi- Ask response to your verbal the Vet instructions. Dr. Michael Fox However, as I pointed out, smummm Cocoa is still young and very active and curious, so until she's 2 or 3 years old, she's not likely to become less active and stop getting into everything. In the meantime, if you become very impatient, you could try ambushing Cocoa by putting an item of food on the counter and, as soon as she jumps up, coming out of hiding and yelling, "No, down!" Or you could attach some food item to a piece of string that is also tied to a pile of empty cartons. Then, when Cocoa takes the bait, the cartons will come tumbling down on top of her harmlessly, of course, but startling her so that she may be less inclined to steal again. Dear Dr. Fox: My 24-year-old daughter allows her indoor cat to eat with her from her dinner plate. Need I be concerned about this habit? R.S. Dear R.S.: Allowing an indoor cat on the table to share dinner is perfectly acceptable, in my esti cist Francis Crick deciphered the structure of Paul has had a job that pays well for more than a UNA) ... Bill Gates ... Alvin Alley's Judith Jamison. And that's just for openers. Invited year now, but he can't seem to find a house or apartment he likes better than our home. My wife has said nothing to him to indicate she is unhappy guests include Time cover subjects over the de cades movie stars, world leaders, politicians, with this state of affairs, but I told him he has to get on with his life, and let us get on with ours. lie agrees, but doesn't move. journalists, dignitaries some of the most important, glamorous people of our era. This will be a night to remember, THE event of 1998. (It will Short of forcibly ejecting Paul, I'm at a loss what probably be one of those things where if, you're not invited, it s best to leave town.) to do except leave. I have roots here and a ton of emotional and material baggage, and hate the idea of pulling up stakes at this time in my life. But the And, to cap it off, next spring the U.S. Postal Service will issue a stamp of the magazine's co-founder, Henry R. Luce, to celebrate the 100th possibility becomes more probable every day. mation. Many people sleep next to their cats, so why not eat with them? Most cats have better table Abby, what s a guy to do about a stepson who anniversary of his birth. manners than a lot of people I know. has long overstayed his welcome? At My Wit's End in Denver I AM glad to see women in their 70s receiving their romantic due. What a big kick for the popular Of course, if the cat is sick with the flu or has Dear At Wit's End: Enough is enough. You a, your column about the tune-; playing condom in the San ' Francisco Examiner & Chronicle. I am the attorney '. who obtained the patent for my client, Paul Lyons, ! who invented it. ; I have one minor correction. You stated the ; patent was "recently issued." Actually, the patent ' was issued in 1992. Sincerely yours David' Pressman, Intellectual property law, San Fran-; Cisco, Calif. Dear David Pressman: I stand corrected.; Thank you for taking the time and trouble to write. ' I have received dozens of suggestions for tunes! that would be "appropriate," but none were suit-,' able for a family newspaper. Dear Ann Landers: I am a Middle-America, ; Wisconsin teenager who has grown up reading' your column. I would like to say something about! people who take their own fives. You dealt with this : recently, and it made me remember something that; happened in our town last April. One of my fellow classmates committed suicide. The girl was only 13 years old and in the! seventh grade. She thought her parents hated her; and decided life wasn't worth living, so she killed; herself. The whole school and half the people who live in Wausau, Wis., mourned for weeks. Ann, please tell your readers that suicide is NEVER the answer. Sign me Thirteen is Too, Young to Die Dear Thirteen: Thank you for a thoughtful and compassionate letter. You are wise beyond your years. I have been telling my readers for a very! long time that suicide is a permanent solution to a: temporary problem and invariably creates more; problems for the survivors. Dear Ann Landers: I was upset by that rude! reader who said she didn't want to read another; boring "how we met" letter. Well, too bad. We love; those romantic stories, especially when we hear that half of all marriages today end in divorce.! Those "how we met" letters in your column give us hope. Ignore that grouch. Boston ; Dear Boston: I intend to. Thanks for the; encouragement. B Ann Landers' column appears daily. Write to her in care of The Palm Beach Post, P.O. Box 24700, West Palm Beach, Fla. 33416-4700. diarrhea, eating arrangements should be changed San rrancisco millionheiress Denise Hale to find herself linked as a valentine with her pal Don until the cat has been to the veterinarian and is well again. and your wife are doing Paul no favor by allowing him to be dependent on you. Explain that to your wife, and ask her to help you find an adequate, Johnson. And what a hoot for Don. There is about The mam risk in someone's sharing a dinner plate with a cat is that this might spread harmful bacteria from contaminated uncooked meat, fish furnished apartment her son can live in while he's looking for one he likes. Put a deposit on it, and tell Paul the time has come. and poultry which has been fed to the cat. These bacteria are then transmitted to their owners, caus If he can't swing the first month's rent, offer to ing them to get llu-uke tood poisoning and loan it to him, and give him a deadline to be in his new place. Help him to pack his belongings, and worse. So never feed pets raw meat! offer to assist on moving day. Here are some more names from readers: From M.L.C.: "My sister's last name is Geist. Dear Abby: In response to the query, "How do you define elderly?" I figure it must be beyond "middle age." She happens to have a friendly, pure white cat that 'haunts' her house. So naturally, she named the cat a 30-year difference in age, but who's counting? These are just two people who happen to like each Other and enjoy socializing together. Denise was married to the department store heir Prentiss Hale and before that to the great movie director Vincente Minnelli. She cuts a wide swath through Los Angeles and San Francisco society. She and Don admire each other. Men and women of differing ages can be friends. But a "romance"? Please! QUENTIN TARANTINO'S Jackie Brown opens Monday night at the Ziegfeld in New York. A Tarantino movie is always an event and always attracts a hot crowd Janeane Garofalo, Kevin Kline, Mira Sorvino, Rosie Perez and Bridget Fonda are expected. But the hottest star for sure will be Pam Grier, the black movie goddess of the '70s, making her Tarantino-orchestrated comeback. She still looks great and is said to sizzle in Jackie Brown. I m 63 and feel 35, and I define "middle age" as Polter full name: 'Poltergeist!' " anyone 15 years older than I am. From G. & S.S.: "When we got our mixed- Thanks for years of entertainment. Robert breed puppy 11 years ago, we named her Seiko, our 'watchdog.' Several years later, after she had ex Goulet, Las Vegas Dear Robert: No, no. Thank YOU for years of pensive surgery, friends suggested we change her entertainment! name to Rolex. We didn't." 0 Dear Abbv aDnears dailv. Write to her in rare nf Dr. Fox's column aDnears Sundav. Write tn him The Palm Beach Post. P.O. Box 24700. West Palm in care of The Palm Beach Post P.O. Rrv 947nn Beach, Fla. 33416-4700. West Palm Beach, Fla. 33416-4700. Horoscope by JOYCE JILLSON marriage is revitalized when you travel together. Singles will find new love with an Aries or Aquarian. Start recog nizing your personal needs. Immature friends encourage you to do some and ml When Experience thing crazy. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21) Now is the time to capitalize on old skills. Start a new business. Stop waiting for your partners unless they are Scorpios or Geminis. 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Actor C. Thomas Howell is 31. If today Is your birthday: You are tough and won't take no for an answer. This brings fantastic job offers to you in the next three weeks. Seek the highest position, and settle for the one just beyond your qualifications. Aries (March 21-April 19). Self-improvement programs are successful. Your parents will help you with financial problems. A hobby, talent or interest is suddenly hip. Work goes better when you have sorted out your priorities. Taurus (April 20-May 20). Children benefit from more responsibility. A romance moves into high gear. Rumors hurt your family, so use discretion. You'll find luck when you act on a whim. 1 Gemini (May 21-June 21). Fire and enthusiasm accompany your desire. Respect others' boundaries because you'll want the same from them. Your promises mean a lot to your family. Guilt hurts all relationships, so stop feeling so bad! Cancer (June 22-July 22). Focus on love without forcing new developments. You'll find fantastic networking opportunities during the day! A happy marriage should not depend on how you feel about your financial conditions. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22). Branch out, and make bold moves. Important friendships are developing, so be gentle. You are freed from carrying others' burdens. Long-distance relationships reach a turning point. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). A talented friend offers you a job. You'll make money from work done on speculation. Rush to see a current love as you have more competition than you realize. Romantic passion ignites with Aries or Leo. Libra (Sept. 23 Oct. 23). Your instinct for supplying what's needed is uncanny. Get yourself to take action for your highest good. More support comes from Taurus or Capricorn than from Aries. Self-discipline means not blaming others. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Your sary, and expect the best. Luck and advantages come when you are being both tactful and frank. Don t take casual remarks seriously. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Sin gles are dynamite when caught off guard by potential new loves. Assess your stock portfolio and assets. It's a lucky money day. Your relatives need Q. What are varicose veins? A. Varicose veins are veins that have experienced a breakdown in the return pump valve, which in turn triggers subsequent swelling so extensive that blood circulation through them becomes impossible. Once a vein becomes varicosed, it is no longer functional in terms of blood to hear from you. "Recent studies conclude that varicose veins are more than just a cosmetic challenge for men and women. In mild to moderate cases, varicose veins can cause pain, swelling, fatigue and restlessness. In severe cases, they may lead to ulcerations, superficial thrombosis, or even deep vein thrombosis. " Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20). Life is bubbling with possibilities. Previ ously hidden blocks and barriers be gin to lift. An unpopular stance brings you pride and influence. 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Individuals determined to end the misery of heavy, unhealthy legs soon discover that after sclerotherapy, their legs feel and look great! Many of my patients are thrilled to wear shorts and bathing suits, again, something many have not done for years! '2 Ik t a flow for the benefit of body's circular tory system. Q. Will treating varicose veins help the way my legs feel? A. Absolutely! Most patients notice a dramatic improvement after only a few treatments. Q. How can varicose and spider veins be removed without surgery? A. Sclerotherapy is the non-surgical answer. A specialized medical team uses a small gauge needle to inject saline solution directly into the non-working vein. This process backwashes the blood pooled in the vein. The walls of the veins then stick together, causing it to collapse. The remains of the vein are then absorbed through the body naturally. Q. What happens after treatments? A. You can resume your normal activities immediately after treatment. Q. Will surgery be required in removing my varicose veins? A. The majority of patients will only Dear Heloise: My children are in high school, yet they still look forward to Christmas. This year, as I began to think of Christmas decorations, I was unsure whether I should hang stockings. The children don't eat a lot of candy and there really isn't much that you can put in a stocking that is worthwhile. Then I got a great idea for stocking stuffers trial-size products. I bought a bunch of them and I know they will be appreciated. Jackie Treat, Montrose, Colo. Conrad Goulet, M.D. President and Medical Director Dear Heloise: Like most, my address book is full of names. In order to make things a bit easier for my son and daughter when "that time" comes, I have put a star against the names of those people who should be notified and those who would care to know of my passing. Bettie Zimmerman, Scotch Plains, N.J. ; V, r.'--Vi For over twenty-five years, the Guylaine Lanctot Cliniques have been successfully treating varicose and spider veins. We offer several treatment options for our patients. One of those options is sclerotherapy, the recognized treatment of choice for varicose and spider veins. Hints from Heloise knitting yarn. It is a must to have matching dye-lot numbers to complete a project, and getting the stickers off almost always disturbs the print underneath. J.L. This a good Sound Off! This is why it is good that some of the large yarn companies now make yarn with no dye lot. Sure makes things a lot easier. Heloise Dear Heloise: To make a large tunnel funnel, clean thoroughly a gallon-size bleach or vinegar container which is of heavyweight plastic, then cut off below the handle section be sure to retain the handle! A no-bottleneck funnel. Kay Fuller, Nixa, Mo. Dear Readers: Did you know that last year hospital emergency rooms reported nearly 17,000 eye injuries caused by toys? Toys are the No. 1 cause of eye injuries in children, according to Prevent Blindness America (also known as National Society to Prevent Blindness). With the upcoming holidays children may be at risk. Prevent Blindness America is offering free information to help people choose toys that are safe for children. Here are two of the many safety hints they suggest: 1 Take special notice of the suggested age level on toys and buy accordingly. 1 Don't buy toys that shoot or have parts that fly off. They can be quite dangerous for children. To receive a free copy of Tips for Choosing Safe Toys is call Prevent Blindness at (800) 331-2020. A minute making a free phone call just may save your child's eyesight. Heloise B Write to Heloise in care of The Palm Beach Post, P.O. Box 24700, West Palm Beach, Fla. 33416-4700. Palm Beach Gardens 561-624-5347 North Miami 305-936-5347 Boca Raton 561-998-8869 South Miami 305-666-5347 Guylaine Lanctot Cliniques Varicose and Spider Vein treatment Complete Skin Hearth Services and Products Visit our website at: www.veinsgl.com mmmmmmmammmm How thoughtful of you. Many times the address book is the first thing one looks for. One hint I've learned is to place a legal pad by the phone to keep track of who has been notified and who has called. Heloise Dear Heloise: This is in response to your request, "How do you make overnight guests' visits pleasant?" I do the things mentioned towels on the bed putting out a small bag with toothbrush, toothpaste and shampoo. Also, I place a small fruit basket along with peanut-butter crackers, etc. (Being hypoglycemic, I learned the hard way.) Sarah Phillips, Middletown, Ohio Dear Heloise: My pet peeve is stores that put the price stickers over the dye-lot numbers on Get fired up with the great recipes in Thursday's Food & Dining section in The Post.