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2P THE PALM BEACH POST FRIDAY, DECEMBER 5, 1997 w S C Liz Smith Abused by one's own siblings Dear Ann Landers: I applaud you for addressing the issue of child abuse in your column, but you have not written about young girls being sexually abused by their brothers. I am sure a certain amount of "playing doctor" leaves no permanent damage, but what I am Kids often have food allergies Dear Dr. Donohue: From time to time, my 3-year-old coughs and wheezes right after eating. I suspect he might have a food allergy. Do children this young have food allergies? What should I do? K.L A: Actually, food allergies Ways to escape brutal step dad Dear Abby: My mom got married about four months ago, and although it has been only a short time, it's all gone haywire. Her husband has an awful temper, and he's hit her several times. We have even had to leave Auction helps Literacy group I HOPE my readers aren't getting tired of my mentions here for Literacy Partners, which is one of my pet charities. But then I can't recall anyone getting mad at Walter Winchell when he used to flog the Damon Runyon Cancer Fund. our own home to get away from Anyway, our auction of from famous people and fine i ee '.i. tr mm Decause ne is so Druiai. iei V 4 my mom keeps going back to 1 him. ! V v-V r begged her to get the po f sjf , 1 writers weni on wiin a Dang ai 4 'fz' Christie's this week. Bette talking about is actual sexual abuse. I was the victim of sexual abuse by not just one but two brothers. Now, at age 66, 1 still bear emotional scars from which I have never fully recovered. When I asked my mother for help, she blamed me and called me names I couldn't understand. My father was a kind and are more common in young children than they are in adults. Cow's milk, eggs and peanuts top the list of children's food allergies. About 8 percent of all children have a food allergy. In adults, the number drops to between 1 percent and 2 percent The reason is that many children become tolerant to allergy-provoking foods as they get older. IfMWIVI CU1U VIUIIV WO WW J VI ed and put a little spice into the proceedings. Bette pulled down lice involved, Dut sne woman t. Finally one night, after he had broken her wrist and thrown me out of a chair, he left We didn't hear from him for three days. Then he came back during Ann one of the largest amounts of- Your Hearth Dr. Paul Donohue Landers Dear Abby Abigail Van Buren L 'I fered for her missive. Before J I bidding began, the tiny star rose I ' to her full height and cautioned Midler the audience, Dont shame me!" They didn't Her note went for $4,600. Instead of a letter, Sawyer offered a "literary weekend" with a stack of books and a bottle of wine. That went for a bundle $3,500. Lena Home, Aretha Franklin and Joan Rivers' letters were also winners. But the big, big winners were former president George Bush ($5,200) and director Mike Nichols ($5,000). Bush's letter was bought by Ron Boss, head of Cross Pens, which sponsored our event. DOMINICK DUNNE suffered the terrible loss of his daughter, Dominique, some years back when she was murdered by her ex-boyfriend. (The killer spent a shockingly brief time in jail.) That tragedy, however, resulted in Dunne's applying himself to ".more serious writing and investigative journalism. Now, just as his new book, Another City, Not My Own, lands on the bestseller lists, tragedy has struck Dominick once again. He has canceled his book tour because of his nephew's death in a private plane crash (the son of Dominick's oldest brother, Richard). . ' But the man who covered the O.J. Simpson trial with such vigor, and who stood up so strongly for the victims, did receive a wonderful rave fan note from George Bush. The ex-prez opened his . Salutation with "Dear Gus," which is what Dominick calls himself in his semi-fictional pages. Nancy Reagan also chimed in to tell Dominick cshe liked his book. THE L0CKH0RNS bunny hoest and johnreiner mmmmm the night and tried to break in. My sister called the police and we had three weeks of freedom until my mom dropped the charges against him. My siblings and I were scared and angry, yet Mom brought him back on my sister's birthday. Now that my stepdad is living with us again, I am scared, and I don't want to live with my mom if she's going to let him stay here. My dad died, so I can't live with him. I have considered running away, but I would like to know is there a better way? Please help me. Nowhere To Turn in Arizona Dear Nowhere: You appear to be intelligent and strong, and deserve to be commended for seeking advice from an adult. You should not have to run away in order to get away from your stepfather. There are two ways to handle this: The first would be to go to a teacher or counselor at your school and repeat what you have told me. It may be easier to clip this letter and take it with you. Should your stepfather become violent before you can talk to a trusted adult at your school, you and your siblings should get out of the house and go to a neighbor's home to call for help. Ask the telephone operator to connect you to the 24-hour Child Protective Services Hotline. It is staffed seven days a week and will send the police to remove you to a safe place. Please write again and let me know how you are. Meanwhile, you are in my prayers. Dear Abby: What is the advantage, and to whom, of an envelope with a window in it? Half the time, I get my reply in backward, and I'm sure that my wasted time is typical. Who benefits? Gerald Strohm, Fresno, Calif. Dear Gerald: You do. It takes only a moment to ensure that your reply is placed in the envelope correctly. It would take more time to address an envelope. With a window envelope, there is no chance of making an error in the name and address. B Dear Abby appears daily. Write to her in care of The Palm Beach Post, P.O. Box 24700, West Palm Beach, Fla. 33416-4700. caring man, and lm sure he would have helped me, but I didn't ask him because I was too afraid of my mother. I didn't know I could find help outside the home. Please spotlight sexual abuse by brothers against their sisters and vice versa. Let the victims know that if they can't get help within the family, there are others who will listen and help them. No Name, No Initials, From Your Home State of Iowa Dear Iowa: Children who have been sexually abused often try to abuse other children. An alert teacher can spot these young people, and when they do, they should make an effort to get them into counseling. It is not easy to broach the subject with a parent (there may be vehement denials), but it is well worth the effort. Consider it an act of compassion and courage. Dear Ann Landers: May I respond to "The Other Woman and Not Ashamed"? I was once in her shoes, feeling sorry for an attractive, trapped married man. I made the mistake of encouraging him to divorce his wife and marry me. After 15 years, during which I helped him raise the children he had with his first wife, I learned he was running around on me. He finally left me for another woman. I have just one question for "The Other Woman" because I have been asking it of myself: Why do you think he is attractive and wonderful when you know he is running around on his wife? And why does he blame his wife for the lousy marriage when she is at home with the children and he is out with you, cheating on her? The really wonderful married men are at home, enjoying their wives and children. They are not sneaking around with dummies like you and me, I might add. Been There, Done That In Jacksonville Dear Jacksonville: It took courage to write that letter, and I thank you for it. I'm sure you opened a lot of eyes today and possibly put the dead hand on several illicit romances. Congratulations. B Ann Landers' column appears daily. Write to her in care of The Palm Beach Post, P.O. Box 24700, West Palm Beach, Fla. 33416-4700. - The exception to that rule is peanut allergy. The signs of allergy range from hives, to sneezing, to vomiting or diarrhea. Asthma the wheezing you describe is another prominent sign. Keep a record of what your son eats to see if you can establish a pattern of a particular food inducing his symptoms. Better yet take him to an allergist for testing. ' Since his symptoms come with such frequency and since they always follow a meal, the suspicion of food allergy is based on solid ground. I'd appreciate hearing the results of your son's tests. Dear Dr. Donohue: My brother drinks three to four cups of tea a day, using two tea bags for each cup. Could strong tea cause him to have kidney stones twice in one year? M.S. A: The most common kind of kidney stone is composed of calcium oxalate. Tea does have oxalate in it. Your brother is getting a whopping oxalate dose with his double-bag brews. So, yes, the tea could have contributed to his kidney-stone episodes. He ought to cut back on his oxalate intake. If he wants to drink tea, have him use only one bag that he lets steep for 1 minute only. He also should limit his tea drinking to one or two cups a day. Dear Dr. Donohue: Several years ago I had a hip replacement. I ride a bike and walk often. My doctor failed to mention it but I have heard that these prosthesis wear out and may need to be replaced. How long does an artificial hip last on average? A: Artificial hips last anywhere from 10 to 25 years. Since artificial-hip candidates usually are of a fairly advanced age, their bodies often give out before their new hips do. Each year, more than 120,000 artificial hips are substituted for painful and damaged natural hips. Of that number, 90 percent are never replaced. B Write to Dr. Donohue in care of The Palm Beach Post, P.O. Box 24700, West Palm Beach, Fla. 33416-4700. ' "SURE, m FIT AS A FIDDLE. I COULD BUY A STRADIVARIUS WITH THIS BILL. Horoscope by JOYCE JILLSON K ... ,.j Holidau Entertainment X For The Whole Family KRAVIS CENTER MMUNIT CO fusion is rather pleasant if you don't take it seriously. Sagittarius (Nov. 22 Dec. 21). You find yourself in the position of peacemaker. Draw strength from your inner reserves. A lingering problem at work is finally resolved. An imminent separation seems like a melancholy occasion, but it will be great for your self-esteem. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Love needs ambiance; work at romance. A fellow Capricorn helps a business venture by making a referral. Ideas are lucky. Present them with gusto, but do your homework first. New friends will arrive tonight. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). It's easy to misunderstand instructions; double-check to make sure. Time spent outside works wonders for your spirits. A sudden flash of insight enables you to close a deal to everyone's advantage. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20). Brilliant money-making ideas come from seeing a movie or reading. Your moods may endanger a close relationship. Set high standards for yourself, and those around you will follow suit. Today's birthdays: Senate President Pro Tempore Strom Thurmond, R-S.C, is 95. Singer Little Richard is 65. Actress Morgan Brittany is 46. ' Country singer Ty England is 34. If today is your birthday: You find windows of opportunity where others see only closed doors. Do everything in your power to inspire yourself in the next three weeks, even if it means spending money on classes or seminars. ,', , Aries (March 21-April 19). A bright Sagittarius wants to help you. Socialize with optimists. If you are married, you will be so attractive to the opposite sex that you may find your mate jealous. - Taurus (April 20-May 20). Moves are likely. A wild antic endears you to a rich, eccentric individual. A lover receives a promotion or even a change of job. A fresh environment stimulates creative energy. Gemini (May 21-June 21). Financial gains are in store. Take up a new sport or hobby. Pressure from your family builds, but a confrontation clears up the misunderstanding. An old friend appears to complete your emotional security. Cancer (June 22-July 22). Happy associations and a reputation as a great pal take you to the top. Children, dogs and old friends are lucky. Avoid spending money, or at least don't spend much, until next week. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22). Shared morals make a beautiful bond. No matter how hot the tip, don't bet on it. Enjoy popularity, and use it to further your goals and promote personal growth. A new love appears and is probably a Gemini or Virgo. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Blessings come in the form of cash from those who can afford not to be paid back. As for work, you coast through difficult assignments. Another bonus comes because your boss is afraid of losing you. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Others cater to your whims (finally). Your sympathy and selflessness do not go unnoticed. An afternoon meeting proves emotionally valuable. Address old obligations. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Just look confident and all will be fine. Put a meeting off until next week, if possible. You draw inspiration from an unexpected quarter tonight. Con ,x.. V' CAROL Thursday, December 11 From 7:00 pm to 9:00 pm In the Gosman Amphitheatre t Sheinwold's bridge by FRANK STEWART The Kravis Center invites you and your family to join us for a FREE and festive holiday concert under the stars. Bring a blanket or lawn chairs, picnic baskets and sing along as some of the area's finest choral groups lend their distinctive styles to holiday favorites that capture the warmth and magic of the season. ' Program Masterworks Chorus of the Palm Beaches Acreage Pines 5th Grade Choir Women of Note The Coastmen Goldcoast Show Chorus Sweet Adelines Sing-a-long caroling Costumed Characters From Bears, Seals and Reindeers to Ms. Flo Mingo (our Florida SnowBird). Pus Honest-to-goodness Florida SNOW FLURRIES and other surprises. Call 56 1 -832-7469 for more information. South dealer N-S vulnerable NORTH A53 J86 010942 AJ76 WEST EAST 8762 4QJ9 5J42 OK5 OQ763 494 Q 108 SOUTH K104 PAQ10 OAJ8 4K532 South Weit North East INT Pass 3 NT All Pass Opening lead V5 701 Okeechobee Boulevard West Palm Beach, Florida 33401 can't lead a heart effectively; if he leads a spade, South wins in dummy, leads a diamond to the eight and cashes the ace. The queen doesn't fall, but South next leads the king and then a low club, winning three clubs and two tricks in each of the other suits. DAILY QUESTION YOU HOLD: 48 762 9753 OK 5 9 4. Dealer, at your left, opens one club. Your partner doubles, and the next player raises to three clubs. What do you say? ANSWER: Your opponent's raise is weak and preemptive; he's trying to shut you out. Since you probably have nine trumps and about half the deck in high cards, you should compete with a bid of three hearts. If your eight of spades were the ace, you'd jump to four hearts. South won the first heart with the queen, cashed the king of clubs and finessed with the jack. East was only too happy to win an early trick in order to return his partner's heart lead. South played the 10, and West won and led a third heart, dislodging the ace. South then had eight tricks, but West was sure to get in with the king of diamonds to run the hearts. Down one. DIAMONDS South can surely win nine tricks by establishing the diamonds as well as the clubs; but since the defense will try to set up West's hearts in the meantime, South must first attack a suit in which he won't lose a trick to East South should lead a club to the ace at Trick Two and return a diamond to his jack. West wins but -1 BABY BLUES RICK KIRKMAN AND JERRY SCOTT Picture Your Classic (ar Here I 1 THAT WAS J W66flTAf(JtoDlAisr tbirJ&lMMAMMieJcftft? ,FAmw ir---"V BCD. SotW. EiWJiiumn.il nun .hi ..n.m.'.i .ii.iiiii. ii mi, m.ii,.. Classic car owners, take note: On April 5, DriveWays will introduce a feature, "Classic Car of the Week" in its new Saturday edition. Want to show off your most treasured possession? Send us a photo (non-returnable) of the car and all the details to: Russ Heaps, Marketing Dept., The Palm Beach Post, P.O. Box 24700, West Palm Beach, , . FL 334 1 6. 1 frJWm ftwjiflr "i il HiM. PIS 1 taw i

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