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W4a Palm Beach Post-Times, Saturday, Nov. 16, 1968 9 View From The Kitchen HOMEMAKING -- It's An Art! By SHEILA TRYK Staff Wrlur '-- )f x X nil gram will be "Music, Our American Heritage" presented by Walter T. Locke, program specialist in vocal and general music for Palm Beach county schools. The three top reiaxers from District IX will also be chosen. A relax-er is a song or skit put on by one member or a group to relax the audience at various times -during the day. The three top reiaxers will go to the State F.H.A. meeting. Any student enrolled in a home economics class or who has been enrolled may become a member of this national organization. F.H.A. does not stand for a home loan organization but for an organization that has a lot to do with the home Future Homemakers of America. Future Homemakers, 1500 ot them, from Broward, Collier, Dade, Glades, Henry, Monroe, and Palm Beach Counties will gather this Saturday, Nov. 16, at the Bibletown Auditorium for a District IX meeting. The theme of the conference is "Citizenship F.H.A.'s Challenge." The highlight of the day's pro 11 1 7 ) i ? I 1 ' t v- v t hr.i, my it. I ft 5 (A HONORING HERITAGE The love and appreciation of music, one of the pleasures of a home, is a focus of FHA. At Belle Glade High School are Linda Reeves, Mrs. Hazal Litchfield and Lucia Garcia-Imequez. J v. " ij I Joys, Jolts Of Retirement Senior Citizens Looking For Pension Legislation ;. .- --"' " ----- ... MEETING SPECIALISTS - One of the Joys of a Future Homemiker is meeting specialists like Walter T. Locke, (left), program specialist In vocal and general music for the Palm Beach county schools, and Edie Maxwell, a district FHA advisor. The girls are Janet Williams, 16, and Lee Diamond . 15, both of Lake Worth. After a five-day training course, older citizens are hired to stay with hospital patients as if they were members of the family. The "patient sitters" render helpful little services and provide companionship If you ask me, our high school English classes have been letting us down. They're Just not preparing young girls for all the thousands of letters they're going to have to write after they leave home. But perhaps the task is too enormous. In one respect, the girls who live in the same towns as their parents and in-laws have it easy. They, at least, don't have to write all those family letters. In fact, if family relations are normal (i.e. strained) they may not even have to SPEAK to relatives for long periods of time. Many girls may trace the beginning of their problems to the thank you notes written for wedding presents. But that's not accurate. Thank you notes are different, in a separate category. (Speaking of those, they're really an acid test of a girl's thoughtfulness and consideration of others. Too bad a young man has to wait till AFTER the wedding to conduct the test. ) When a girl starts moving around the country to school, on her job, with her husband that's when the real trouble begins. She has to write Mom and Dad, naturally. And when Sissie gets married, she has to write her, so they can compare notes about Yreka and Ocala. Then when Sally herself is married, she is likely to hear from Roy's mother, who is slightly ticked off at how little her son writes her NOW THAT HE'S MARRIED. So hastily, our heroine grasps the hint and takes over that chore. We mustn't forget Gramma Hawkins, either. She likes to write weekly complaints to Sally about her arthritis, Grampa's drinking, and how Aunt Mildred hogs the TV set. Sally has to maintain a tactful correspondence there after all, Grampa has 500 shares of Xerox. As years go by, there are more and more letters to write, it seems. Housewives must be adept at writing: business letters (Dear Sir: Two weeks ago I purchased your Unbreakable, Gua-ranteed-for-Life, Glow-Ever flashlight. . .), political letters (Dear Senator: Before election day, you promised to put an end to. . .), pleading letters (Dear Dr. Grimsnort: I realize that Jeffrey has not been doing well as he could this semester, but. . .), invitations (Dear Mr. and Mrs. Deadhorse: Ever since our Billy told us that he had married your daughter last month on the reservation, we've been anxious to meet you. . .). Many a housewife manages to inherit her parents' and in-laws' correspondents as well as the secretarial duties for the entire family. Job applications, resumes, appeals to the Bureau of Internal Revenue, arguments with college registrars, draft boards, and the local social security offices, requests to ministers and bishops, and hassles with mindless computers in magazine subscription and department store offices are all part of the mature woman's daily grind. When Debbie goes off to college, Jeffrey to Fort Benning, Mother MacGregor to Geriacres Rest Home, and Buddy to a remote village in southwest North Africa, and Sally herself goes out to work at the offices of the Volunteer Police Department, she may try typing carbon copy letters. A logical solution, and one that goes over like a lead balloon with all the relatives concerned. And what about Sally's own friends her pals from school and college days, the old chums from when she lived in Pahokee, Passaic, or Petuluma? Well, they usually take a back spot on the desk while the more urgent affairs of life get straightened out, but as Christmas nears, the annual messages must get written. After all, the girls want to compare notes. The trip to Acapulco, the first baby's first tooth, the big move to upstate South Carolina, the first divorce, all must be described as delightful, enviable events, occurring in the best-heeled social circles. (Some girls resort to the mimeographed Brag Letter, but this is poor, as it lacks the confidential belie ability of the personal note.) Never may Sally admit that in Acapulco Roy disappeared for three days while she had hysterics, or that the baby looks like Uncle (Ugly) Osgood, or that Roy's transfer was a major step down the corporate ladder, or that the divorce is because Sally has gained 157 lbs. since her wedding day. Obviously, most girls are entering life with only the haziest notions of the vast amount of creative writing they're going to have to do in the years ahead. I say that our high schools are falling down on the job! Our gallant English teachers must meet the urgent need with intensified courses in Letter Writing for Future Housewives. If nothing else, this ought to stamp out teenage marriage. SIGNER PROMINENT 9 DE PATT Competition For Affection Means Trouble ERN your weekly HIGH-STYLE pattern feature DIAGONAL DRAMA FOR 1969 A bill that would have permitted pension plans to require different retirement ages for men and women almost got through the last Congress. Only a few private pension plans set different retirement ages for men and women, yet some powerful employers urged Congress to let them continue this form of discrimination, which Is now against the law. The measure was enacted by the Senate but died in the House of Representatives. Efforts may be made to enact it next year. Congress also failed to enact amendments to the Older Americans Act that would have liberalized Its financial aid to State and local programs benefiting older people. The amendments would also have authorized a new program of "Service Roles In Retirement." NEW As explained by HEW Secretary Wilbur J. Cohen, the "Service Roles in Retirement" legislation would provide "new opportunities for older citizens to give of their skills and talents to their communities and the enrichment of the lives of neglected children and less fortunate older people through thelreftorts." Congress seemed to be willing to start the new "Service Roles in Retirement" program. However, a squabble among government agencies seeking to run the new program halted progress ol the legislation on Capitol Hill this year. In a new Congress and a new Administration, the important improvements in the Older Americans Act like many other measures, have a better chance of making their way through Congress and to the White House for the President's signature. SENIORS SALUTE . , . ... the Patient-Sitter Service organized by the Senior Citizens Services of Metropolitan Atlanta, Inc., the Georgia State Employment Service, the American Red Cross Home Nursing Staff and the hospitals of the Atlanta area. By THEODOR SCHl'CHAT WASHINGTON (NANA) Senior citizens are counting on the new Congress to complete action on several measures left unfinished by its predecessor when it left Washington to face the voters. The most important legislation beiore the new Congress, In the opinion of many retirees as well as younger people, will be improvements In the Welfare and Pension Plans Disclosure Act. The outgoing Johnson Administration proposed that Congress strengthen this important statute by outlawing various financial shenanigans that enable unscrupulous trustees to loot some pension plans with impunity. Although approved by the House Education and Labor Committee, this bill went no further in the past Congress. It is sure to be pushed vigorously next year, however. In the last two years, the Ninetieth Congress did enact several measures that are dear to the hearts of most retirees. Social security benefits and veterans' pensions were raised, for example, and a law put on the books to outlaw age-discrim'nation in employment. The last Congress also changed the tax law to encourage self-employed people to put away more money toward their retirement, and the new President was directed to call a White House Conference on Aging in 1971. But the outgoing Congress did not enact the legislation that would have reduced or ended Federal income taxes for two-thirds ot the taxpayers over age 65. Before he leaves office, President Johnson is expected to propose a new version of this measure for the new Congress to consider next year. The old Congress also authorized a board study of auto insurance, including the touchy question of the reported reluctance of some firms to write policies for older drivers. The new Congress may well have to write some legislation in this field. Parent By IIKNKIETTEKI.SII Nt-.'W YORK (W.NSl In many families there is a middle-aged or older woman unmarried, or married and childless. Often she is the favorite aunt of her brothers' and sisters' children. Sometimes it can turn into an uncomfortable situation for her. Sometimes she doesn't heed subtle warnings of trouble ahead. "I wish my sister had children of her own," a woman complained to me. "It's got so my lli year-old daughter thinks she's the one person in the family to confide in. My daughter tells me that her aunt 'digs' her generation better than I do. How can she, when she's only two years younger than I? I feel she's ursurping my place with my own child." It seems natural for women without offspring of their own to feel close to children bound to them by family ties. They find it easier to look at the youngsters and their growing pains with an unbiased, unafraid eye when they don't have the full responsibility. In the presence of her mother, a child introduced one of her friends lo her father's unmarried sisters. Both are much younger than their years in looks and in outlook. "I wish I had young aunts," the other little girl said enviously. "Mine are so old." The aunts appreciated the tribute, hut they looked at each other apprehensively. Being "young aunts" with some modern ideas about children might easily cause fric- Good Advice Well Heeded BRUSSELS. Belgium (WNSt Snack bar owner Kmllie Ruhn, .'i", tried to improve service by hanging a sign in the kitchen, "Do Better .Todav Than You Did Yesterday." She took the sign down after two weeks. "I lost three waitresses and my best cook, who took the advice of the sign and found better jobs," she explained. GIST tion with their niece's mother, whose Ideas were set in the pattern of her own upbringing. Kven where there hasn't been competition between the adults, the child itself outgrows some of the closeness. That can come as a shock. A devoted aunt made a dreadful fuss when her niece eloped. "Without even telling me one word!" she kept saying through her tears. "1 can'i understand it!" The girl hadn't told her parents one word either but it didn't seem to occur to the aunt that she might now be in the same category. Aunts "in name only" are in for similar disappointments. Among my friends is a woman in her Ms who has been "aunt" to her employer's 11-year-old son since babyhood. I'ntil recently there was a comfortable relationship between them. He invited her to bis birthday parties. She took him out to lunch when his father brought him to the office for the day. Suddenly the snapshot she carried in her wallet Isn't passed around proudly to all newcomers. She realizes that the child has grown old enough lo put her In the same class with other adults In the family circle whose devotion Is taken for granted. Nice but a bother to a boy reaching out for new contacts. The moral is that the feeling of being special to a child has to he savored w hile it lasts. If it lasts into adulthood, so much the happier. But aunts, like parents, have to he ready for the break. And. meantime, they must tread softly and on no one's toes. SAT. SUN. 9-7PM BANKRUPTCY HIGH FASHION WOMEN'S DRESS SHOP HAVING DECLARED BANKRUPTCY IS SELLING All ASSETS. SEVERAL HUNDRED GARMENTS SIZE 3 TO 14 PLUS A FEW LARGER SIZE ON SAlE 40 TO 80 OFF. STYLES OF MIAMI, NEW YORK, CALIF. All STORE FIXTURES MUST AISO GO. (FIXTURE LIST POSTED IN STORE) mi tun. in to mi i'oii PM V M -Jl JJannatj 236 Origin a f Mature Son Wants Her To Share Hurt By MURIEL LAWRENCE DEAR MRS. LAWRENCE: I've been advised by my brother-in-law to place mv 15- ff SALVAT18SI ARMY ' J PICK UP YOUR SAIVAGE FURNITURE, CLOTHING t APPLIANCES. PHONE 832-2835 year-old boy in military school instead of making a home for him as planned. Three years ago I divorced his father, who at once remarried. At the time I was so emotionally overwrought that I sent the boy to live with my sister, her husband and his two cousins. I felt that their lovely home could give him a security I couldn't offer him. PRINTED PATTERN IF IT WRAPS, IT'S RIGHT IN FASHION that's the phrase to remember for Winter-Spring '69. Harmay wraps the coatdress on the diagonal, and gives the hemline a sudden upswing. Note the flare of the skirt beneath the contour belt it indicates the feeling for fit and motion important now. The Original of Printed Pattern M2IJ6 is chocolate brown with a sky-blue dickey dramatic peeping out above the neckline of your winter coat, smart by itself when spring comes. Choose silk and worsted (fabric of the Original), flannel, knit, tissue faille. Printed Pattern M2.'56 is available in NEW Misses' Sizes 8, 10, 12, 14, 16. Size 12 (bust .14) requires 3'H vards 45-inch fabric. Send ONE DOLLAR for Printed Pattern M236 to The Palm Beach Post-Times, Pattern Department, P.O. Box 59, Old Chelsea Station, New York, N.Y. 10011. (Add 15 cents for each pattern for first class mailing and special handling.) Please print plainlv YOUR NAME, ADDRESS with ZIP, STYLE NUMBER and SIZE. SEE THE NEW DETAILS, DRAMA, SHAPES OF FASHION in our NEW 1969 COUTURE PATTERN BOOK! Top-designer dresses, costumes, sports clothes create a wardrobe everyone will admire. Plus 50 cents Free Coupon apply to an v $1 pattern in Book. Send 50 cents. New INSTANT SEWING BOOK helps you to wear tomorrow what you start sewing today. 500 illustrations. Only $1.00. self half-know and are afraid to w holly know? I bet I am. So stop your running away from this child's need to discover if you can feel hurt or whether you can't. Let him know how you've been hurt. Tell him how it was to lose your man. Who is better equipped to understand than this son who has lost his mother for three years? Tell him, you proud woman, you. Then he won't have to hurt you any more to find out whether you can experience pain or whether you cannot. "Firmer discipline," huh? Do you know the definition of the word? It means "instruction." And no military school on earth can instruct your son in the knowledge that mother, like him, is capable of lonely suffering. You alone can be this most important of instructors the teacher of your common hu-manness. God help us, what barriers we erect between the children and ourselves! But he has become very antagonistic to me, going so far out of his way to hurt me that his uncle thinks he needs firmer discipline than he'll take from me . . . ANSWER: Why do you suppose he's so intent on hurting you? It couldn't be, could it, because his own hurt Is so deep and so lonely that he wants it shared'.' Possibly. Probably. Eor it is not entirely rapturous, you see, to live in a "lovely" home that belongs to other children right after losing your own. It Is not rapturous to sense thai home's contempt for your father's absence from your life which is implicit in its father's presence in its life. No, not rapturous at all but most hurtful, so hurtful that you're compelled to hurt your mother In the hope she will feel how your hurt feels. I know not a thing about military schools. What's more, I don't want to. What I want to know is this: Am I putting into words for you what you your SMART DONATE PLASMA YOU CAN EARN s30-$100 Per week in your spare time. 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