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2D THE PALM BEACH POST MONDAY, DECEMBER 1, 1997 F The Soaps Medicare pays for skilled care A safe getaway for the abused Hu leaves 'Beach' Love is strange -read on for proof Dear Readers: Last week, I printed several letters about men who had married older women and vice versa. You may recall that some of those marriages worked out well. Others were disastrous. Well, folks, the mail continues to be overwhelming. I had no idea for role on 'Bridges' uestion: I have a chronic disorder. Can I ear Abby: "Larry" and I married five years jf qualify for Medicare's home health care cov- J ago after a whirlwind, passionate courtship. He said I was his dream come true. By Nancy M. Rekhardt Special to The Palm beach Post . erage? Answer: An old myth in the Medicare program is that a person with a chronic disorder cannot As I think back on those words, I become ill. Why? Because from the day we married, my life became a living nightmare. It In her new role as police officer Michelle Chan on the CBS Friday night series Nash Bridges, Kelly qualify for home health coverage. This myth persists today but has no basis in " Hu (ex-Rae Chang, Sunset Beach) recalls how began on our honeymoon. I committed she was dunng her training. talked to another man, and Larry got so angry he slammed the law. The issue is whether the "There was so much for me to learn," says Hu. 4 it' , "Learning to shoot guns. Learning to ride, a motorcycle again. It was incredibly intimidating my face into the wall and broke my nose. I should have left individual needs skilled care, not whether the disorder is thpn hut I hflieved him when because the bike was so big. And riding a jeep. 1 M I chronic or acute. drive a stick shift so that was a little easier except - J he said how sorry he was - the subject would be of such intense interest. Keep reading for more: From Somewhere in Oregon: I am 15 years older than my husband. I resisted his advances because of the age difference. He insisted it meant nothing to him, but it still bothered me a lot. I had two adult children and was told I could never have any more. My husband said it didn't matter. Lo Answered by C. Mi coming to a stop on a mark. I don't think Don (co- I that it had been an accident and J chael Shalloway, West star Don Johnson) trusted me with my driving I would never happen again. Palm Beach skills. And smart man he was, she says, with a laugh. The Law And You Ann Landers Dear Abby Abigail Van Buren Question: What is a cohabitation agreement? Over the last five years, Larry has broken my wrist by throwing me down the stairs. He broke my shoulder when he To help in her transition, Hu found a supportive cast. "The guys have been really good," she says. "They've taken me under their wing and are helping to guide me. Intimidated is not a word that pertains to Hu's character. As the lone female officer, Michelle finds herself at odds with her fellow officers. "She's got to prove herself all the time," says Hu. "It's neat that the audience feels that they know her as a person instead of just a cop. During one of their initial meetings, Johnson Answer: For one reason or another, people often live together without benefit of marriage; however, financial and other issues may occur that can be settled by a document known as a "Cohabitation Agreement" . The agreement can address any of the following issues: how joint property is to be divided if the couple separates; how one party is to be provided for in the event the other parties dies; how the living expenses of the couple are to be shared; how one party is to be compensated for the care heshe has given to the other party in the event they separate; and how one party can obtain an injunction to evict the other party, if in the event of a falling out, the other party refuses to leave the residence. Answered by Amelia E. Pohl, Boca Raton Question: I live alone and take care of myself. I have long-term nursing home insurance and always offered hints about Michelle. and behold, at 51 years of age, I became pregnant That child is now nearly 3, and he is the light of our lives. We are crazy in love and couldn't be happier. Billings, Mont.: I was 50 (but looked 40) when I met a tall, handsome man of 33. We had a terrific romance, but he caved in to the pressure of family members and stopped seeing me. Today, he is engaged to a woman who is five years his junior. I have two children older than his fiancee. I was really crazy about him and am sure we could have made it if he hadn't listened to the busybodies. Sun City, Ariz.: I was swept off my feet by a man who was 20 years my senior. He was widowed, and I was starry-eyed. Soon after we married, he retired, and his income was cut in half. He began to drink too much and stay out late with "the boys." We've been married for 18 years because I've worked so hard to keep us together. If I had it to do over again, would I? I'm not sure. Monroe, N.C.: I hope that lady in Harrisburg, "Don gave me an idea of how he'd like to see her," says Hu. "He really wants Michelle to be his female sidekick sort of a younger version of pushed me out of a moving car, and he has beaten me so badly I've had to hide in the house for days to keep the people I know from seeing the bruises. We have two children. We would have had three, but Larry kicked me in the stomach when I was four months pregnant and I had a miscarriage. Maybe it was a blessing because our children have a terrible life. They're scared to death of him. I am desperate to leave, but I, too, am scared. When I tell him I want a divorce, he threatens to kill me. Is there any hope? Living a Nightmare Dear Living: There is always hope. Reaching out for help is the first step, and by writing to me, you have taken that step. It is reported that more than 4,000 women are murdered each year by their abusers. Battered women's advocates tell me that the most dangerous time for a battered woman is when she decides to leave. Statistics show that a woman who leaves her batterer is far more likely to be killed than those who stay. This is not intended to discourage leaving, however, but to emphasize the importance of a clearly conceived escape plan. Most women can leave safely with careful planning. Your first step is to create a safety plan for you Nash. She reminds him a lot of himself. When asked about a possible romance on the show, Hu adds, "Whether there's going to be a romantic interest, they haven t mentioned it. I know Michelle, in a future episode, will go on a date. But it doesn t say when she 11 hook up with pay the premium when due. I am worried that if I become ill I might forget to pay the premiums. Is there something I can do to prevent this from happening? Pa., goes for it. Twelve years ago, my sister, at age 50, started to date my brother-in-law, who was 67. 1 the other guys on the show yet. It s a little early. Hu adores Johnson and fellow co-star Cheech Marin. ;:.";-- "As a person,' Don is an incredibly sweet and generous man," says Hu. "He's shown me nothing but kindness. He'll work with me and if he feels it's net right, he'll give me as much time as I need to get it right He's been awesome that way. "And having Cheech around, you're in stitches all day," she adds. "He has such comedic genius . " Answer: Yes. You can add a third-party notifi did not support the relationship even though they were introduced by his father. I just didn't think they were right for each other and said so. As we prepare to celebrate their 10th wedding anniversa cation provision to your policy, also known as an "unintentional lapse" provision. It allows you to appoint a person to be notified by the insurance and your children while you are still living with Larry. If youjdecide to leave, this plan should also be designed so that he cannot find you. ry, I am feeling ashamed of myself and slightly "out of the loop." They are extremely happy. I should have heeded your admonition to MYOB. company in case you fail to make timely payments of the premium. I recently received a 50-page booklet called Striving to Be Violence Free ... A Guidebook for Answered by C. Michael Shalloway, THE LOCKHORNS bunny hoest and john reiner Cincinnati: When I was 19 and a junior at Ohio Creating a Safety Plan. It is written and published West Palm Beach State, I met "Reginald." He was 37, established in business, attractive and attentive. My mother said by an award-winning, nonprofit agency called Per Note to readers: Don't forget the Palm Beach spectives Inc., in St. Louis Park, Minn. County Bar Association's free seminar from 6:30-8 It contains several checklists that will help you he was "very nice" but too old for me. I wouldn't listen. When Reginald gave me a diamond engagement ring the size of a hen's egg, I dumped my 22- explore your options and make sound choices. p.m. Wednesday at Northwood University. Topics include will and estate planning, the 1997 Taxpayer Relief Act, and general insurance coverages. Res To order this guidebook, send $4 to: Perspec year-old steady and married Reggie. After a year of tives Inc., 3381 Gorham Ave., St. Louis Park, Minn. heartache and regret, I divorced him and married ervations are required. Call 687-2800. 55426 (Attn: Guidebook). Include your name and address clearly printed on an address label, 3-by-5 my old boyfriend, who was really my true love. Six months later, Reginald married my mother. Embar card or a sheet of paper. Allow four to five weeks The Law and You appears Mondays and pro rassing? Not at all. We often double-date and get along beautifully. for delivery. vides general answers to simple legal questions. 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ANSWER: You have no ideal call. A "trap" pass with no strength in clubs won't get you anywhere, and you can't overcall INT with no club stopper. A takeout double is possible, but you'd much prefer to have at least one I AVEST ;Q9642 .9J84 98 EAST J1073 V1096 0754 AJ2 "I won the first spade," a pupil told me, "and led a club to dummy's king. The ace won at my right, and I took the spade return and led another club. When left-hand opponent played low, I started to think; but the other guy took me out of my misery by showing me the guarded jack of clubs. The defense got two clubs, three spades and a diamond. "My partner said he'd attack diamonds first because that suit is solid. Wasn't I right to set up my longest suit?" HEART BREAK South was wrong, but so was North. If South can bring in the clubs with one loser, she has nine tricks. If South attacks diamonds first, she's sure of three tricks there but will also need a 3-3 heart break. South must start by testing the hearts. 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