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; 1 l-tm Prf-ach Post, MonJay, Nov. 4, 1368 1 Dating And Going Steady THE ONLY MAN IN THE DISTRICT 3 COUNTY COMMISSION RACE WHO HAS PLEDGED FULL-TIME SERVICE TO YOU. How Do You Tell If It's Really Love? By DR. THOMAS C. MeGINN'IS Of course, nobody believes the story of Cinderella. It Is fairyTale. We know that a sudden, miraculous change from a drab existence In which we A .V . . 4 4 feeling that he or she is "used" or "exploited" by the other. It involves realities. The lovers usually see no obstacles to prevent their love from reaching a permanent state of marriage. If any problems exist, they feel capable of solving them and usually by their own efforts. Neither do they usually minimize the seriousness of their problems. Two high school students in love will strive to finish their education before they marry, because they are realistic enough to know that their marriage will be stronger If It Is based upon a solid educational foundation. Because they feel secure with each other, they do not think that they must act quickly before the spirit of love leaves them. Of course, you believe that your loved one Is the Ideal companion for you and you recognize his good qualities. Yet you also are aware of shortcomings or weaknesses he may have. You try to understand why he acts as he does and you make allowances for ways of acting which do not conform to your own. may feel unloved to one which is all glamor and beauty, and in which the one of our fondest dreams suddenly falls in love with us, does not happen In real life. We say we do not believe it, but many of us do not quite disbelieve it either. That some teen-agers girls think that maybe the Cinderella story could happen to them is suggested by the way they often develop crushes on boys or men they have not known very well, or think they are in love with someone after one or two meetings. Does this mean I doubt that one can fall in love at first sight? Yes, it does. Perhaps in one case in a million love is there from the instant boy meets girl. But I doubt that it happens more than that. It is possible to "like at first sight," and even to "like very much." You can feel strongly attracted to another person just by looking at him. And it is likely that most woman liked the looks of their husbands when they first saw them, although I know of happy marriages among people who admitted that they "couldn't stand the sight of each other" the first time they met. But even if you like someone the instant you see him, you still one of Florida '$ Largest Selections of SHIFT DRESSES All Sizes and Colors '11.88 AND I P dm m we had In the past. We Just have a feeling about it. Bit by bit, perhaps after many experiences which start out with appearance of love, but fail to grow into anything meaningful, there may gradually develop an awareness that love consists of much more than the mere striking of sparks at the first meeting. If there is nothing more than sparks, the fire soon goes out. What is needed is careful, patient tending ol the blaze until it grows into a warming fire with the possibility of lasting a long time. Another word for "false love" Is Infatuation. My dictionary defines it as being "completely carried away by unreasoning passion or attraction." Infatuation has seven main characteristics: 1. It happen; suddenly. 2. It involves physical responses. 3. It centers on what it does for you. 4. It disregards realities. 5. It involves superlatives. 6. It thrives on daydreams. 7. It fails to withstand the test of time. Love differs from Infatuation in almost all particulars. As I use the term, love means that there is a greater appreciation and Interplay of personal qualities kindness, tenderness, understanding, dependability and somewhat less emphasis on physical attraction, even though the lat have a great distance to travel before you love him and he loves you. Why is it that you can look at a boy you have never seen and like him right away, while you look at the next boy and don't care if you never see him again? Why do many people claim that they are "good judges of character" and can tell at a glance whether they like someone or not? This question Is worth exploring, because the answer not only will help you understand better why you react to different boys differently, but will also help you In your relations with girls and, in fact, with everyone you meet. We all start life with a blank slate. We have no built-in ideas about character or personality. But as babies .then small children, then as older children, we have experiences with different kinds of people. We remember some of these experiences with pleasure and some with pain, and deep in our minds we associate the pleasure or pain with persons responsible for It. We begin to build what Is known as a response pattern. When we see someone who reminds us of our satisfying experiences in the past, we tend to be attracted to him. When we see someone who reminds us of bad experiences, we feel repelled. Often, we are not aware that we associate him with the pain ter is always persent and Important. There are some of the qualities of love: It develops slowly. You cannot tell really what a person is like on first sight, or even after a few meetings. Therefore, you cannot fully understand him until you know him better. Many people "wear a mask" with a stranger and try to be on their best behavior to Impress him. They do their best to. be pleasant and agreeable and they keep such reactions as anger under control. Only after they feel they can relax and be themselves do they reveal their true natures. That is why it sometimes take months, even years, for true feelings of love to develop. It revolves around "us" or "you" instead of "me." 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