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: 2D THE PALM BEACH POST WEDNESDAY, MARCH 25, 1998 W S C Kids lose out in Liz Smith Premarital sex upsets daughter AIDS test does not use saliva Dear Dr. Donohue: Enclosed is an article on the new AIDS test, using a toothbrush-type swab to collect fluid from the mouth. The article says the results are as accurate as a blood test. Does this mean there is new evidence that AIDS can be spread through casual contact with custody games Dear Ann Landers: I married a wonderful man ; last spring, and he has two charming little ; girls, ages 11 and 6. "Fred's" ex-wife (TU call her "Amanda'O divorced him five years ago. I get ' along well with Fred's daughters, and they are al-: wavs well-behaved in our home. : .ear Abby: My young-adult daughter, "Ellen," Jdated for several years before meeting 'Tom," to whom she is engaged. Before she fell in love with him, Ellen cut short several relationships because the men wanted to have sex, and she was We'll see 'Colors' at '99 Oscar show I T'S NEVER the cheater that goes to hell; it's . I always the person they cheated on," says Kathy Bates in Primary Colors, which has a fantastic screenplay by the genius Elaine May. I think this Mike Nichols film, based not-so-loosely on Joe Klein's novel, which is based not-so-loosely on Bill Clinton's first presidential campaign, is one of the best movies ever made. I'd put it right up there with my favorites such as All About Eve, Tootsie and Gone With the Wind. The if,, saliva.' im coniuseu. .. Answer: Yours is a common misconception. The new test does not use saliva for AIDS detection. A cotton pad, attached to a Amanda has custody of the ; children, and Fred has minimal ; visitation. He has never been '. late with his child support! checks, and he is a very good fa-; ther. He never says anything ; negative about Amanda in front of the girls, yet all they hear : from her is how awful their fa-: ther is. At any given whim, ; Amanda takes Fred back to saving herself for marriage. Tom and Ellen's wedding is in two months, and we just received a letter from her informing us that she is pregnant! In her letter, she said she would understand if we wanted to disown her. I called her immediately and told her that we love her, we know she loves Tom, and everything will be all right Although I know she heard me, she still seemed upset A -n - nylon stick' 1S P'aced between KA. i the gum and cheek and left Xf-w there for two to five minutes. I il in in i The naH Hrawe fluid from blood Ann Landers Dear Abby Abigail Van Buren Your Health Dr. Paul Donohue !". J'"" " " w vessels in the mouth lining. In essence, it is a "bloodless" way of checking the blood. Saliva contains onlv small emphasis on true Southern behavior is incredible. The movie is a morality play about how morals shift, not from white to black, but from white to gray to black and back. How nobody is all good or all bad. And I hope Academy Award voters will be remembering Bates' performance when 1999 rolls around. She is just tremendous. It is also a wonderful movie ... J j Bates "i"""1"" court to ask for more support money or to cut back on his visitation privileges. : If Fred arrives at Amanda's house five minutes early to pick up the girls, she makes him wait on the porch while they sit and watch him out the window until the exact time arrives. She has told the girls to call their father "Fred," and they must call their new stepfather "Dad." We have all been in counseling. Amanda and . Fred took co-parenting classes, and Fred and I are seeing a marriage counselor. The children are in family counseling, and I am seeing a therapist; While all this has helped me and my marriage, it's been a colossal waste of time for Fred and Amanda. Nothing has changed between them. If anything, it's gotten worse. My parents divorced when I was young, and I know the pain these girls are experiencing. Do you have any advice? Second Wife In Dallas Dear Dallas: If you and Fred are seeing a marriage counselor and you are seeing a therapist, I don't believe you need much more input from me or anyone else. I would urge you, however, to con tinue to be supportive of Fred and kind to the girls. ; Dear Ann Landers: I imagine youll get a lot of heat from some clergy and others for your realistic solution to the problem of safe sex. However, as a clergywoman, I want to say "hooray!" I do not think there is any sin in masturbation. The sin is in abusing our God-given bodies by exposing them to disease. The sin is exploiting God's children with our needs for sexual gratification. The sin is bringing more children into this world than the Earth can support or than human families can love and nurture to adulthood. Masturbation and other alternatives to intercourse can be that responsible solution. Thanks for daring to say so. The Rev. Christine Robinson, Unitarian Universalist minister, Albuquerque, N.M. Dear Rev. Robinson: I have always had the utmost respect for the Unitarian Church, and your letter is yet another example of the good, common sense it espouses. : to look at. There are many fine performances John Travolta as a kind of idiot-savant manque '. charismatic . . . Emma Thompson as a wounded : pragmatist . . . Larry Hagman as an all-too-human : politician . . . Adrian Lester as an innocent in : ; : idealist plunderland . . . Billy Bob Thorton as the '. ; down-home, top-gun guru, who seems a lot like : James Carville. MATT DAMON'S former flame and Oscar-: nominated Good Will Hunting co-star, Minnie ; Driver, is doing everything she can to avoid : : running into Matt. Theirs was a bitter split. Minnie : : and her parents walked out of the British Academy ' Awards ceremony in L.A. on Saturday after they : spotted Matt. And though invited, Driver didn't ' show up at all for Miramax's big pre-Oscar bash on : : Sunday, which was said to be the most fabulous, : : "fun" pre-Oscar event. Matt showed up with : Winona Ryder, looking smitten and telling pals he : was "madly in love" with her. Today's birthdays: Former astronaut Jim : Lovell is 70. Feminist author Gloria Steinem is 64. ; Singer Aretha Franklin is 56. Singer Elton John is : 51. Actress Sarah Jessica Parker is 33. : : THE LOCKHORNS bunny hoest and john reiner Abby, I have never shared this with my daughter, but her father and I made love before we were married. He has been the only man in my life, and I never felt hypocritical teaching Ellen to wait for sex until after marriage. Now that I see how bad she's feeling, I'm wondering if it would make her feel better to know I understand more than she might guess. Should I tell her? Wants To Help Dear Wants: Since your husband is half the equation, ask him if the "secret" should be revealed to your daughter. I'm not at all certain it would make your daughter feel better to hear that she had been held to a standard that you didn't meet. Before reaching a decision, read on: Dear Abby: I'm writing this letter for all of those well-meaning people who subscribe to the notion, "What he or she doesn't know, won't hurt them." After my father was killed at his restaurant during a robbery (at age 48), my mother and I were at his attorney's office to start proceedings, and the question of "date of marriage" came up. Mom said, "Aug. 23, 1925," and I said, "No, Mom it's 1924." She turned to me and said, "Hush. Well talk about this later." I was 22 years old when I learned I had escaped illegitimacy by just 34 days! First I felt betrayed, then foolish because in mom's large family, I was the only one who was unaware of this fact of my birth. When I asked her, "Why, Mom, why?" she said, "Because Dad made me promise you would never know of it in his lifetime." Apparently this proud man could not bear the thought that I might consider him imperfect It was easy for Mom to go along with it because she always tried to protect me by withholding unpleasantness. Abby, all this happened 50 years ago, and I have long since forgiven them. But I have not altogether forgotten that I was deceived by those I trusted most Can't Forget In LA. Dear Forget: It is for that specific reason that I advise parents never to lie to their children. numbers of the AIDS virus. Of the more than 500,000 AIDS cases in the United States, only one has involved deep kissing. In that case, one partner had bleeding gums. Even though the chances of saliva transmission are close to nil, deep kissing an AIDS-infected person is discouraged. Dear Dr. Donohue: My blood test revealed an abnormal glucose reading of 76 and an LDH level of 242. The doctor did not make any reference to these abnormalities. Should I be concerned? M.H. Answer: Your blood sugar reading of 76 is not a concern. Normal values usually are quoted as being between 75 and 110. Lactic dehydrogenase is an enzyme found in so many body tissues and organs liver, lung, heart and muscle that the LDH test is almost useless. Normal LDH values vary from lab to lab. For many labs, the upper normal limit is 190 units per liter. Your reading of 242 might appear tremendously high, but it isn't. For example, a bump to a leg muscle could raise the LDH level to 242. However, to be on the safe side, have another LDH level drawn in a month or two. If the reading remains elevated, then pay more attention to it. At that time, a search for the multitude of causes for elevated LDH readings would be reasonable. Dear Dr. Donohue: Many health-care employees are told to be careful of blood and needle sticks because of AIDS. What about those who work emptying bedpans and changing soiled linen? Can you get AIDS from urine or feces? I read you can't. Anonymous. Answer: There have been no reported cases of acquired immune deficiency syndrome from urine or feces. All health-care employees need to be cognizant of the rules regarding handling of any body secretion. Your hospital undoubtedly has a handbook with specific instructions on dealing with such issues. Don't be shy about asking to see it. Write to Dr. Donohue in care of The Palm Beach Post, P.O. Box 24700, West Palm Beach, Fla. 33416-4700. mhosl aoJ.com " Ann Landers appears daily. Write to her in care of The Palm Beach Post, P.O. Box 24700, West Palm Beach, Fla. 334164700. Dear Abby appears daily. Write to her in care of The Palm Beach Post, P.O. Box 24700, West Palm Beach, Fla. 33416-4700. "THE DOCTOR SAID I WAS READY FOR SOLID FOOD, BUT NOT THIS SOLID!" Dour 'Mabel' struggles gamely for cheer Horoscope by JOYCE JILLSON : If today is your birthday: .Your inner radiance brings luck " irt business and family matters when you let others share a heavy responsibility. Being free to do as you please is expensive, but the rewards are high. MACK AND MABEL Where: Royal Palm Dinner Theatre, 315 S.E. Mizner Blvd., Boca Raton When: Through May 31. B Tickets: $36-$51, including dinner. Call (800) 841-6765. The verdict: Silent movie days saga told with a tuneful, dramatic score and a weak, downbeat script, saved by two strong performances in the leading roles. : : Aries (March 21-April 19). Waiting for others to make the first move gives you the upper hand. Being late alienates impor- 4. 1 former love could become a wonderful friend. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Check over a business partner's calculations just to be on the safe side. Loyalty should be your first priority. Others judge you based on how you end a current relationship. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Colleagues are the source of important invitations; you can utilize social connections to reach a higher political plane. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Entertain tonight. Encourage youngsters to excel at school. Sincere flattery smoothes over problems with a former adviser or employer. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20). Attend anniversary parties, and you'll make needed business contacts. Play hard to get in love. Defend a child's actions. your behalf. Reasonable remarks provoke anger; be sensitive to the feelings of others. Put a stop to neighbors' intrusions. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22). Threats are meaningless. Stop looking at children through rose-colored glasses. Try again with a Libra love. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Spend money, as this gives you an incentive to develop your latent abilities. Failure to disclose your intentions could bring romantic disappointments. , Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You have marvelous talent in all games and with sports. You finally have the confidence to win. Visit parents. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You will be held responsible for the advice you give to others. Intangible rewards come from your spontaneous generosity. A soundstage production numbers that are so relentlessly cheery, you'll want to take an insulin shot ( Wanna Make the World Laugh, Hit Em on the Head and the repetitive, overly insistent Hello, Dolly.'Mame number, When Mabel Comes in The Room). To call the show schizophrenic would be, an understatement. ', Sit back, don't analyze the show too carefully and enjoy the leading players. Adjan, who earned a Carbonell nomination, a few seasons back as Fanny Brice in Funny Girl, gives a similar spin to Mabel, another dynamic show biz performer spurned. Adjan sings and clowns ably and the Royal Palm should keep her in mind for future productions. There is an art to playing as irascible a character as Sennett without turning off the audience. Fionte manages the trick, juggling the silent film impresario's callous gruffness with the performer's warm, sweet tenor voice. Although a positive resolution is discounted from the start, we still find ourselves rooting for it. Chances are you'll be rooting for the show as well, faults and all. It is not really solved yet but you have to admire Herman for his musical experimentation. - Taurus (April 20-May 20). lighten up on yourself now, and you'll get a ton accomplished. A lover serves as a welcome distraction from work. :': Gemini (May 21-June 21). Von are being manipulated in ; love; decide if you truly want this. Turn a mistake into a major triumph by opening yourself up '. to those in authority. ; Cancer (June 22-July 22). A ; loved one is honestly acting on By Hap Erstein Palm Beach Post Theater Writer BOCA RATON The leading lady becomes addicted to drugs, gets accused of murder and her rocky romance ends when she dies at an early age. Mack and Mabel is hardly the usual chipper Jerry Herman musical, but that's what makes it so interesting. And that's probably part of the reason why it has never been as popular with audiences as Hello, Dolly! and Mame have. Since 1974, when it ran only two months on Broadway, Herman has been trying to soften this downbeat history of movie director-producer Mack Sennett and his hand-picked star of two-reeler comedies, Mabel Normand, and turn it into something upbeat. As you might imagine, that is a tug-of-war that has given the musical battle fatigue. The script by Michael Stewart is cobbled together from fact and musical comedy fancy, but the score is arguably Herman's best. The two don't always fit together neatly, though those songs certainly deserve a listen. And once heard, don't be surprised if you leave the theater humming them. This is particularly likely at the Royal Palm Dinner Theatre, where they are delivered winningly by John Fionte (Sennett) and Irene Adjan (Normand). Stewart and Herman want to celebrate the early days of moviemaking, when Sennett rose to mogul status by inventing the Keystone Cops and the Bathing Beauties, supplying the world with laughs and something easy on the eye. He also plucked a plucky lass named Normand out of a Brooklyn deli and made her a movie star. So you would think they wouldn't have much trouble steering their lives toward the happy ending that audiences so desperately want. Unfortunately, Sennett was a workaholic grump who didn't have a romantic bone in his body and Normand's resulting un-happiness led her to escape into a drug vial. Herman captures the difficulties in their relationship beautifully, with Mack's anthem of indiffer Sheinwold's bridge by FRANK STEWART South dealer Both sides vulnerable NORTH J64 ?872 OAQJ72 A5 ence ( Won 't Send Roses), Mabel's drugged-out torch song (Time Heals Everything) and Mack's final unfulfilled pledge to Mabel ( mm Promise You a Happy Ending). 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