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The Palm Beach Post from West Palm Beach, Florida · Page 55

West Palm Beach, Florida
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Wednesday, September 15, 1999
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2D THE PALM BEACH POST WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 15, 1999 Liz Smith Surgeon's wife awakens to shock Set limits or take the consequences Brain stem stroke a different kind Pear Dr. Donohue: Six months ago, I suffered a brain stem stroke. My legs are weak and my balance is poor. I had rehabilitation exercise and now exercise at home. I live alone and am eager to improve. I cannot find information on , ear Ann Landers: Three or four times a year, ear Abby: My husband is a well-known surgeon, and we have two beautiful children together. One morning we awoke and made I my wife and I get together with my daughter, her friend and the friend's two teenagers. It love. is too much work to prepare a dinner for six, so we take them to a nice restaurant My daughter's Then he went off to the hospital and I left to do Emmy broadcast entertained us lI 0TE T0 the Prducers of the annual two- I vl our Tony Awards take a look at Sunday ; "1 l night's three-hour Emmys for an idea of how ; Jan awards show - some extraneous silliness not- 'withstanding can really move and entertain. Or ! 'at the very least, not send you into a coma. I know : -this flies in the face of the Emmy win for the di- Erector of last year's Tony Awards, but that show had Rosie O'Donnell, who invests so much energy jand commitment into hosting duties. (Maybe Fox ; 'should pick up the Tonys and give it a three-hour slot as well?) ' On the griping side of Emmy, I must again say . '' -f - " ; . "f..' brain stem strokes. Can you enlighten me? LV. Answer In one sense, brain stem strokes are like any other kind of stroke. They occur because of interrupted blood flow. it. - : friend and her children always order the most expensive items on the menu, sometimes, two beverages apiece, and invariably, a rich dessert. They pick at everything but the dessert, and what is left over, they take home. My daughter does not do this. She takes her cue from what WE order, as she was taught to do when she is an in some errands. When I returned later in the day I was shocked to find that our house had been burglarized the furniture, artwork, electronic equipment had all been taken. I called my husband's office to tell him the bad news, and his receptionist told me my husband was not available and gave me the number of his attorney. When I called the lawyer, I was told to come to the "ZZ ' Without a blood supply, brain l "V" A ces a strke- LA Wli The brain stem is a very Ann Landers Your Hearth Dr. Paul Donohue special area within the brain. It's about the size of an adult thumb. Small as it is, it is packed with important brain Dear Abby Abigail Van Buren that I think after a certain number of consecutive wins. U' actors should gracefully de- i rlinp nnnrhpr nnminarinn Did r ,.W..,.W J ' FV 0 ; id Dennis Franz and Helen Hunt both of whom are spectacular actors really need a fourth Emmy? Especially Hunt, whose show is gone and who will now probably concentrate on her big-screen career. And, on the subject of Mad About Franz You, I find it shameful that Paul Reiser didn't walk "away with an Emmy. He's been as good as Hunt over the years and the show was his baby, after all. He deserved to be acknowledged. But who wants to gripe, when my friend, the superb actress Holland Taylor, finally walked away with Emmy for her role on The Practice. I love how she held her statuette aloft and said, "Overnight!" Holland has given so many splendid performances, on TV, in feature films, onstage; she has often turned dross to gold. She never fails to make good material superior. Now, a little glitter for her ; mantle. No one deserves it more. Today's Birthdays: Comedian Norm Crosby is 72. Baseball Hall-of-Famer Gaylord Perry is 61. Football Hall-of-Famer Merlin Olsen is 59. Opera singer Jessye Norman is 54. Actor Tommy Lee Jones is 53. Movie director Oliver Stone is 53. Rock musician Mitch Dorge (Crash Test Dummies) is 39. Football quarterback Dan Marino is 38. Rap DJ Kay Gee (Naughty By Nature) is 30. THE L0CKH0RNS bunny hoest and john reiner vited guest I am not cheap, nor am I hard up for money, but I don't want to be taken advantage of. My daughter's friend is an educated businesswoman, who I'm sure has an expense account and is old enough (42) to know better. She works with my daughter, so I don't want to embarrass her and create a problem. Any suggestions? A Midwestern Dilemma Dear Midwestern: If you don't want to be taken advantage of, TAKE CONTROL When you treat your daughter's friend and her teenagers to dinner, order for the table giving the guests a choice (YOUR choice) of two or three items. Also, ask what beverage (singular) they would prefer. By now, you know the young guests have not been taught manners, so, you shouldn't be surprised when they behave like slobs. Dear Ann Landers: "Second Banana in Oklahoma" told you that for four years, she has been seeing a 39-year-old man who takes care of his mother. "Banana" felt slighted. You suggested Mama's apron strings might be too tight. This man is not a mama's boy. He is making sacrifices to ensure that the woman who gave him life is properly cared for. I know this from personal experience because I spent the past five years doing the same for my mother. She passed away last November. I will never do another job (and yes, it IS a job) as stressful and demanding as caring for her was. Yet, I don't regret a second. Taking care of an elderly person full time can be debilitating. Mental health counseling can be a godsend. There are times when you just don't believe you can make it through another day. Tell your readers if they know someone who is taking care of an aging or sick relative, to offer a hand, or. an ear, or a hug - and a word of appreciation and praise. Beaver Falls, Pa. Dear Beaver Falls: The only people who can understand what it is like to take care of an aging or ill relative are those who have been there and done that. Obviously, you qualify. There are no medals for you heroic individuals, just the satisfaction of knowing you did the decent thing when the situation demanded it and that should be reward enough. You won't regret it Trust me. B Ann Landers' column appears daily. Write to her in care of The Palm Beach Post, P.O. Box 24700, West Palm Beach, Fla. 3341&4700. cells, brain centers and nerve cables. It's the Manhattan Island of the brain. A stroke in the brain stem can produce a puzzling assortment of symptoms. The left leg and left arm might become quite weak, and the right side of the face and tongue share the same weakness. Your lingering leg weakness and loss of balance are not unusual symptoms from a brain stem stroke. At one time, thinking had it that people regain all the function they ever would within one year after suffering a stroke. After a full year, improvement would be slight, at best. Thinking has become more optimistic. Other parts of the brain take over for the part done in by the stroke. This takes time more than one year. Don't give up. You're only six months removed from having had a stroke. You can pretty well bank on continued improvement. Stick with the exercises. If readers wish to learn more about stroke, they can order the stroke report by writing: Dr. Donohue - No. 31, Box 5539, Riverton, NJ 08077-5539. Enclose a self-addressed, stamped (55 cents), No. 10 envelope and $3. Dear Dr. Donohue: I have been having quite a lot of flatulence, and it is causing me some concern. What can I do to stop it? - Anon. Answer Intestinal gas comes from intestinal bacteria feasting on food that the body cannot digest. Undigested carbohydrates are particular favorites of the bacteria. Foods with an abundance of indigestible carbohydrates are the notorious bean, cabbage, cauliflower, broccoli, Brussels sprouts, apples, melons and grapes. For some, bagels and pretzels are their undoing. You can add to the list any food you find that generates gas. Everyone has his own idiosyncrasies. Milk and dairy products often cause many people gaseous grief. The reason is that those people lack an enzyme needed to digest milk sugar. The enzyme is lactase, and milk sugar is lactose. If you fall into this group, you can solve the problem by purchasing foods pretreated with lactase. Or you can buy lactase pills to use when consuming dairy products. B Write to Dr. Donohue in care oThe Palm Beach Post, P.O. Box 24700, West Palm Beach, FL, 334164700. "" office to sign some settlement papers there was a check for $20,000 waiting for me that I could have if I agreed to give up custody of the children. When I called my husband's parents, who are prominent people in this community, they urged me to take it and leave the state so my husband could have a happy life with a new wife. Needless to say, I was in shock. When I tried to hire a lawyer to represent me, I discovered that my credit cards had been revoked and our bank accounts had been cleaned out Abby, I never saw this coming. Do you think I'm right to stay and fight for my children? In Shock and Heartbroken Dear In Shock and Heartbroken: You have my respect for deciding to fight for your children against such odds, and I hope you prevail. Your husband must be a brilliant surgeon to have amputated a beating heart and left the subject viable enough for a custody battle. Dear Abby: "RJ.P'd Off in Walla Walla, Wash." complained that his father's grave has only a military marker and no gravestone. He also stated that the marker was sinking. He felt the fact that his father didn't have a gravestone was a sign of disrespect, but was unsure about approaching his mother about it. Abby, the bronze marker he referred to was provided by the Department of Veterans Affairs. Those markers are attractive. When my mother passed away, we purchased a bronze marker for her that matches those of my father and brother both veterans. If the marker is indeed sinking, he should contact the caretakers of the cemetery. A Veteran in Arizona Dear Veteran: A number of veterans wrote to tell me that the bronze marker provided by the VA is a type of gravestone, and one which "RJ.P'd Off' should be proud to have adorn his father's final resting place. Thank you for pointing out that the responsibility for maintaining the gravesite belongs to the cemetery caretakers, including resetting the markers when necessary. B Dear Abby appears daily. Write to her in care of The Palm Beach Post, P.O. Box 24700, West Palm Beach, Ma. 3341&4700. j 1 "WOULDN'T IT BE CHEAPER TO BUY A PAIR OF TWEEZERS?" Horoscope by JOYCE JILLSON " has heen a real partner in the true sense of the wordl" TV. i want to dump their problems on you are not doing you any favors. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You deserve to be in love with someone who isn't stingy with money or affection. A beautiful environment is a necessity. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Put dreams into motion by visiting a mentor. Select the right idea, and you can strike it rich. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Problems in your work environment quickly become yours. Your ideas about right and wrong are expanding to include a lot of gray area. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20). Indulge by spending money on yourself for a change. Home businesses have enormous financial potential. If today is your birthday: ' Your optimistic sparkle attracts the new and exciting to your ; life. Your sphere of influence ; begins to grow this month; feed ! creativity by exploring different ; cultures and art forms with a new love. I Aries (March 21-April 19). The fastest way to success is to team up on a creative project. ; You'll enjoy golden romance : and lasting love when you are ; ready to accept it. Taurus (April 20-May 20). Accept help from someone who ; disappointed you before; one .; more chance is in order. Wait to ' invest; spend time researching. : Gemini (May 21-June 21). ; A lover will devise simple tests ; to determine the depth of your feelings. There are benefits to f hanging out with a strong-willed friend. Cancer (June 22-July 22). News of money on its way is true. Divide household chores more equitably now; later, it will be too late to fix resentments. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22). The rewards of an investment include a romantic perk. Love may come from an overseas visitor. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Work you are proud of is taken to an even higher level when you make minor changes at the request of a critic. Libra (Sept. 23 Oct. 23). Return favors out of the blue aside from the satisfaction you get, the good press is enough to put dollars in your pocket further on down the road. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). A good friendship requires thoughtfulness and snared activity people who merely hi -,r"7 ft5 C "-Trriimr, r i i ". ..we are proud to say that our presence on Palm Beach Interactive has heen instrumental in obtaining our goals as a local leader in online hanking." Community Savings Sheinwold's bridge by FRANK STEWART Juanita Swinton Vice President Marketing Manager South dealer Both sides vulnerable NORTH 87432 ?J52 OAJ72 45 EAST Q 1065 OQ 108654 87 WEST AKJ9 ?A96 093 KQ 10 2 X Community s- Savings www.communitysavingsxom the ace and a low trump, South loses two clubs and goes down. Yes, South would be wiser to bid an unrevealing five hearts over four spades instead of telling West about his second suit. DAILY QUESTION You hold:AKJ9?A964 9 3 4KQ10 2. Dealer, at your right, opens one diamond. You double, the next player bids one heart, and your partner bids one spade. The opening bidder passes. What do you say? ANSWER: Partner has a few values; your opponent's bid of one heart relieved him of his duty to respond to your double despite weakness. Still, he'd compete at the level of one with only she points. A raise to two spades is enough. Some of us don't need to worry about avoiding temptation but opening leaders must avoid the temptation of an "obvious" lead. Maybe you wouldn't have bid as West did, but what's your lead against five hearts doubled? The actual West led the king of spades to see dummy. He saw it and also saw South ruff. South then took the ace of clubs, ruffed a club, came to the king of diamonds, ruffed a club with the jack of trumps and led dummy's last trump. West took his ace and led another spade, but South ruffed, drew trumps, lost a club and claimed, scoring 850 points. West knew South had a distributional hand, and North had heart support and not many clubs. West must resist the temptation to "cash" a spade and, instead, lead trumps. 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