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THE PALM BEACH POST FRIDAY, JUNE 4, 1999 3F TODAY No problem: Let Mom do it Workshop on relationships with Barry Spilchuk, author of A Cup of Chicken Soup for the Soul, today and Saturday at Faith Lutheran Church, 555 U.S. 1 (at Ebbtide Drive), North Palm Beach. Registration required. Call Les Abromovttz will discuss his book You Can Retire While You're Still Young By Mary Jo Kochakian The Hartford Courant Obstacles stymie growth Enough To Enjoy It at 7:30 p.m. at Liberties Fine Books, Mizner Park, 309 Plaza Real, Boca Raton.

Call (561) 368-1300. The Mai Show Trio, 8-11 p.m.as part of Jazz in Jupiter at I doubt whether anyone really changes much during their lives, unless, perhaps, they undergo some profound experience that shakes them to their core. A near-death experience, a devastating loss, a har rowing combat incident, being stranded alone on a desert island for she months, these might change you. But even in those cases, mv V. L-l 1 guess is that the Ll chanee vou would see it in a child who is under stress, but adults can also regress.

Positive change is growth, as when you add a new skill, meet a new challenge or ascend to a new level of emo- tional maturity. Living demands this of you, but not everyone accomplishes it Growth is natural, but many of us have obstacles, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, obstacles made of fear, anger, hurt and inertia are prevalent for many of us. They interfere with necessary and healthy growth as we move through life and encounter new challenges. The key to removing them is awareness.

If we can see these obstacles for what they are and watch the way they hold us can break through to a new freedom. Obstacles are kept in place by superstition, ignorance and stubbornness. Look at them closely, and they will often just melt away. Dr. Hugh R.

Leavell is a marriage and family therapist with offices in Jupiter and West Palm Beach. Call him at 471-0067. bprazzo restaurant, 201 N. U.S. 1, Jupiter.

No cover charge; reservations recommended. Call 575-9509. Evening on the Avenues featuring the Jason Colannino Band, 6-10 p.m. on Lake and Lucerne avenues in downtown Lake Worth. Also features crafts, classic cars and food.

Call 585-3777. Jump N' Jive, part of NationsBank Summer Music Series, 7:30 p.m. Friday at Mizner Park Amphitheater on Federal Highway just south of Glades Road in Boca Raton. Free. Call 393-7827.

Palm Beach Maritime Museum, on Peanut Island (take ferry from Currie Park, 2300 Flagler Drive, West Palm Beach), Wednesday through Sunday. Tickets are $10 adults, $7 students, $25 family. Ferry leaves from Currie Park at 10 a.m., 11:30 a.m., 1 p.m. and 2:30 p.m. Call 842-7607.

One-Minute Therapist Dr. Hugh Leavell undergo would be growth, or maybe regression, not real change. You would still be you, even though you might seem different or feel different. You don't change your basic personality. Most of what we call change is either growth or regression.

Regression is moving backwards to an earlier, less challenging stage of development We Even just a year ago, it seems, life was less punishing. On a typical Sunday: 2 Pull up to church and discharge kids to Hope no one is expecting to see me. Drive to the bac of lot cover head with blanket sleep for 1 hour. On a typical weekday: One kid home sick with a bad' cold. One kid to be picked up at preschool at 1 p.m.; It; is now noon.

I can probably manage to pick up pre- 'n scription, then run to bookstore to get the book my ailing son wants, and still get there by 1. SJ Need coffee. Go to drive-through to obtain coffee It hits edge of window. Entire cup of coffee (large) A spills on lap. Indeed, McDonald's coffee is very hot I Have enough brains to remove sodden, hot sweat- pants.

On the bright side: Deeply grooved floor mat performs as promised. Holds about a quart without; spillover. Better yet I had on a long a really long ljt sweatshirt. Tell the girl at the window to hold on minute. Mop up a bit.

Tell girl that the lid wasn't need another cup. She gives me another. Still think i can get prescription and book. Pants have probably cooled off by now. Put on cold, sodden sweatpants to run into phar- macy.

Line too long to possibly commit to. Run back out to get to bookstore. Run into bookstore. os They don't have the title that my boy is so impa-tient to read. I am tense.

The nice woman at the regis-, ter can see this. "Be right with you in just a she says. I feel like gnawing on my arm. I confess to' her that I'm running too hard. She says she some- times finds herself rushing, but then she takes a deep breath and tells herself, "Relax.

You have plenty of -time." Entertain this for about a fifth of a second. Not ar'; plicable. My problem is that I really do not have plenty1 of time. Pay for item and run out I'm late. Read in Newsweek that Tipper Gore feels she can guard against relapse of depression, which runs in her fami ly, even while campaigning.

She says she knows her limits. How do people figure out their limits? Need day off. A rare treat This will be a day of art and culture, To the city. It's so nice to be out of the suburb. Forgot what it was like to be downtown (New Haven, at Yale.

Feel, briefly, urbane. Enjoy seeing art. Even 71 find a little thing to buy so as to brighten home. Hus-" band, as usual, does not get it. He hisses.

By the end of the week: It's not just me. Everyone must feel like this. Too much coming in. Stop Shop intolerable. Too much junk.

Too many stimuli. Can't do it. Kids can eat eggs for supper. COMING SATURDAY Children curious about sex Question: I have a very bright 6-year-old daughter, who seems to be very inquisitive about sex. I don't know how to handle her questions, because a simple answer will not satisfy her.

I must admit I am uncomfortable with this. Are there some good books on Puppet Punchlines With Sam Friends, featuring ventriloquist Sam Lamerson and his puppet friends, 11 a.m. and 2 p.mat Puppetry Arts Center in Gulfstream Mall, 3633A S. Federal Highway, Boynton Beach. Admission is $3.50.

Call 737-3334. Summer Bash '99, 10 a.m.-2 p.m. at Roosevelt Elementary School, 1220 15th West Palm Beach. Features student's performances, foods, bake sale and rummage sale. Tickets $5 advance, $6 day of event Call 820-8200.

Nickelodeon's Game Lab, 45-minute' shows with audience participation, noon and 2 p.m. Saturday at the Rapids Water Park, on Military Trail north of 45th Street, West Palm Beach. Park entrance is $20.75, plus tax, per person. Call 848-6277. 19th Annual Take a Kid Fishing Day, 9 a.m.-noon at Lake Ida Park in Delray Beach.

All Children under 15 and their families can particpate for free. Trophies and door prizes. Call 742-6230. Early Summer Antiques and Collectibles Show, 9 a.m.-5 p.m. Saturday and 10 a.m.-4:30 p.m.

Sunday at South Florida Fairgrounds, 9067 Southern West Palm Beach. Tickets: $6 daily (seniors $5) children under 12 free. Call 793-0333. yw this subject? Answer This is a time of childhood when many children begin to ask such questions. They need honest answers that they can understand.

Mary Calderone and James W.Ramey wrote an excellent book Talking to her. It isn't surprising that children today want to understand sexuality. They surely have plenty of that thrown at them by the media. That's why it's important to keep communicating with your daughter. Question: My daughter has stayed dry through the night consistently since she was potty-trained, four months before her third birthday.

Recently, however, she has had several accidents at night and during nap time. Is this an indication that something is troubling her, or is it purely physical? Answer: I would certainly rule out any physical reason by having her urine checked by her M.D. But the possibility of this being a regression due to some new event or new spurt in her development is a likely one. Something may be troubling her, and I'd watch for signs of this. Don't make too much of it, nor let her feel too guilty about regressing.

Ask her if she would like to wear diapers or pull-ups at night for a while until she's sure of herself again. Don't treat it as a problem. T. Berry Brazetton LOOKING AHEAD Can't safely turn on radio or TV. Too much hype, too much bad stuff.

Until last year, even, there was noj Starr Report, no Howard Stern show on major TV net, work, and though there had been Jonesboro, there had not yet been Harris and KLebold. And I'm in a cushy spot No reason to complain, Need sensory deprivation tank. Do those still ex- ist? Nah. I'd have to get in a car and drive to it. Need dark.

Need quiet. Need nap, with blanket overhead. Your Children about Sex (Ballantine Books, 1994) with questions and answers for surprised parents like you (and me). Be ready willing to answer such questions and gear them to her age. I'm happy she's so open with you.

Rather than feeling you must "tell" her, learn to listen to her questions and to respond to A Salute to Women Composers, finale of the Roots of Classical Music series, 3 p.m. Sunday at Unitarian Universalist Fellowship, 2601 St. Andrews Boca Raton. Tickets $10; under 18 free. Call (954)762-5645.

Sixth Annual Sandcastle Building Contest, 2-4 p.m. Sunday at Carlin Park Beach in Jupiter. Nurse learned firsthand the barbarity of war when the doctor brought them out of it often, they could see (or walk)." When the war in Europe ended, she was transferred to a hospital in Reims where she cared for displaced persons and prepared to go to the Pacific theater. But the war ended, she came home and was discharged in January 1946. The veteran took a job at New Rochelle Hospital, started dating and caught up with friends, but the searing experience of war would not leave her.

She entered the convent in March 1946 and uses language she heard much later from a speech by the Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. to describe her motives, she said. "We must oppose physical force with soul force," she recalled King saying in the '60s. That was how I was feeling." NUN From IF The ministry of the Cenacle provides a place of reflection and prayer." The Cenacle is a religious order for women founded in, 19th-century France.

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The years have dulled recollection of exact times and places, the names of units, hospitals and the soldiers she treated, but war's horror is still vivid. She arrived in England in January 1944 and was stationed in a hospital near Gloucester until D-Day. She cared for veterans of the Italian campaign and fliers, both British. Everyone knew the invasion was coming. It became obvious when planes and gliders filled the sky during the night of June 5.

The next day, Hillmann was detached from her unit, sent to a town whose name she never knew, to a hospital she remembers only for its blood and the scent of death. For two months, she worked 20 hours a day in a 30-bed surgical ward filled with the human debris of Normandy's beaches. "I remember standing in a field yelling at God," Hillmann said. "Then, in desperation, I remember yelling the Apostles' Creed as a way of claiming faith no matter what" In late July or early August she was shipped to Normandy, to a field hospital set up in tents near the town of Ste. Mere Eglise.

She worked in a psychiatric ward. She was moved to Paris within a day or two of the city's liberation and occupied a building that had been used as a hospital by the Germans. She worked there until war's end in May 1945. Her ward was overrun with the wounded during the Battle of the Bulge in December 1944, she said. Soldiers suffering battle fatigue often had psychosomatic paralysis or blindness.

Hillmann worked with psychiatrists using medication and hypnosis to plumb traumatized minds. "The men would relive their terror, yelling everything that happened," she said. Then, f) SUMMER CAMP at The Progressive School tana, organizing 41,6 408 the center's schedule for the six resident sisters and guests. "There is always hope in her life, said colleague Sister Mary Sullivan. "No matter what happens, there's an expectation, child-like, that it's always going to be better and better.

She only seems to see good in people." That virtue was tested in the worst days of the war when she found rampant cruelty on all sides of the struggle, Hillmann said. But in the beginning, the war was the honorable place to be. A billboard clenched what had been a growing inclination in the young nurse to enlist. The huge outdoor sign caught Hill-mann's attention each day as she went to work as a nurse at St Vincent's Hospital in New York. The billboard boasted a soldier, sailor and an air corps pilot pointing at a nurse.

The caption said, "We need you." Two brothers and four cousins were to serve in the military. Everybody was enlisting. Hillmann signed up in August 1943. There was a cry for nurses," she said. The young woman from a solid Roman Catholic family had mused about becoming a nun as many Catholic girls did, but she never took it seriously.

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