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IOWA LIFE Wednesday, February 19, 2003 Page 3E DAILY ADVICE Dear Abby 77 Husband is on active duty: In-laws actively ignore her Czech out kolaches Prep work: Mildred Riehle wraps dough around apricot filling. i' 7 1 Dear Abby: For the two years IVe been married to "John," I have known his parents wished he had married someone other than me. They have never accepted me or tried to get to know me as a daughter-in-law. Family is important to me. All I ever hoped was that they'd give me half a chance.

I've told John how I feel. He has yet to stand up for me. What upsets me is his mom and dad are nice to my face and in John's presence, but when he isn't around they ignore me. It's like I'm invisible. My husband is in the military.

During the past year he has been away on active duty, his parents have never once invited me to spend a holiday or any other time with them. I am always the one to reach out. John is due home next month, and I know my in-laws will try to "make nice" with me for his benefit but it's all fake. I am sad, hurt and angry about the way IVe been treated in my husband's absence. I love him more than anything, but my biggest fear is that when we're reunited, my feelings toward his folks will affect Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.

our marriage. What can be done? Miserable daughter-in-law in Norfolk, Va. Abby says: When your husband returns, impress upon him the fact that his parents never called or invited you to join them in his absence. It's a shame to have to put him in the middle, but these are his parents and if they'll listen to anybody, it's most likely him. In the meantime, develop other emotional resources with other military families.

Other wives (and husbands) can appreciate how you feel. Perhaps you can support each other. km 1 ii 'i Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, Calif. 90069.

1JLi -V Today's Movie Times By HARRY BAUMERT REGISTER STAFF WRITER Spillville, la. Mildred Riehle once won grandhampion honors at the Iowa State Fair for her day-old kolaches. You should taste the fresh ones. This Czech community of 400 people in extreme northeast Iowa is known for its museum of clocks, ornately carved from wood by the late Bily brothers, and for St. Wenceslaus Catholic Church where 19th-century composer Antonin Dvorak performed.

Riehle's kolaches help preserve another part of Czech culture. She has been making dozens of the pastries each week in her home for decades. About 30 years ago, a friend coaxed her into selling some for a family celebration. She's been baking and selling ever since. Riehle, 78, rises at 4 a.m., sometimes six days a week, to mix and bake the dough in a process that has become second nature.

She prepares her own poppy seed, apricot, prune and cherry fillings. Husband Raymond, 81, helps with bagging and cleanup. They finish well before noon. Riehle bakes all year but reserves summer Wednesdays for a round of golf at the country club. "I will bake, but I don't care to," she said.

"I'm done in time, but we tee off by 1 o'clock and I get too tired. I dont have a chance to take a nap. My golfing is bad enough without that." Major holidays, weddings and graduations bring the biggest demand for kolaches. It's common to bake 13 dozen in a morning. "There are lots of 50-dozen weddings," Riehle said.

"You just kind of bake all week and put them in the freezer." Word of mouth has brought orders from across the country. "I ship them UPS all over California, Dakotas, Washington, Texas, New York," she said. "One day a guy came from Des Moines. He had a family party that night, and he drove up for I don't know how many dozen kolaches, and he turned around and went right back to Des Moines. "Just made a special trip.

Can you imagine? Would you do that? I wouldn't." Kathy Bakken, 58, has been buying Riehle's kolaches for 25 years. "I have bought them for family occasions when I wanted to represent my Czech heritage," said Bakken, who lives in nearby Decorah. "I tried to make them myself, but they're not the same quality." Friends persuaded Riehle to enter the 1985 Iowa State Fair baking contest. She reluctantly packed kolaches in a shoebox and sent them to Des Moines for next-day delivery. The day-old pastries won grand prize.

Years earlier, she won highest honors in a 1979 "Bake It With Lard" competition at a county fair. She hasnt entered a major contest since, content to quit at the top. "I figure some of these other bakers might beat me," she said. "Then what? I'd feel terrible." 4I 1 :45, 3:50, 7:1 0. Copper Creek 4:45, 7:35.

Silver 3:10, 5:10, 7:10. Southridge 1 :45, 3:50, 7:1 0. Wynnsong 1 :45, 3:50, 7:10. The Lord of the Rings: The Two Towers (PG-13, 2h59m) Merle Hay 7:30. Southridge 1, 4:30, 7:55.

Wynnsong 1, 4:30, 7:55. Maid In Manhattan (PG-13, 1h45m) Billy Joe's Pitcher Show 5, 7:15, 9:30. Nova 7:20, 9:25. National Security (PG-13, 1h30m) Nova 5:40, 7:40, 9:45. My Big Fat Greek Wedding (PG, 1h35m) Sil-yjf 2:55 5:05 7:20.

The Pianist Varsity 7, 9:35. The Recruit (PG-13, 1h55m) Cobblestone 1:05. 3:40, 7, 9:30. Copper Creek 4:40, 7:20, 9:45. Silver 3:55, 6:50, 9:15.

Southridge 1:05, 3:40, 7, 9:30. Wynnsong 1:05, 3:40, 7, 9:30. Shanghai Knights (PG-13, 1h47m) Cobblestone 1:20, 4:05, 7:10, 9:40. Copper Creek 4:40, 7:30, 9:45. Silver 4:1 5, 6:45, 9:05.

Southridge 4:05, 7:10, 9:40. Wynnsong 1 :20, 4:05, 7:10, 9:40. Talk to Her (R, 1h56m) Fleur 5:20, 7:30, 9:45. 25th Hour (R, 2h14m) Fleur 4, 7, 9:35. Two Weeks Notice (PG-13, 1h41m) Cobblestone 9:20.

Southridge 9:20. Wynnsong 9:20. The Wild Thornberrys Movie (PG, 1h28m) Nova 5:30, 7:35, 9:30. J1 si HARRY BAUMERTREGISTER PHOTOS Variety. Raymond Riehle helps his wife, Mildred, bag freshly baked kolaches in their home in Spillville.

The morning's batch added up to nine dozea Mildred Riehle's kolaches PES MOINES AREA About Schmidt (R, 2h4m) Fleur 4:30, 7:05, 9:30. Sierra 4:20, 7, 9:25. Adaptation (R, 1h54m) Copper Creek 4:30, 7, 9:30. Fleur 4:45, 7:10, 9:20. Wynnsong 1:20,4:05, 7:10, 9:40.

Biker Boyi (PG-13, 1h51m) Copper Creek 9:40. Silver 4:10, 9:30. Southridge 1, 3:40, 7:15. 9:45. Wynnsong 7:15, 9:45.

Catch Me If You Can (PG-13, 2h20m) Cobblestone 12:55, 4:10, 7:10. Silver 6:40. Wynnsong 12:55, 4:10, 7:10. Chicago (PG-13, 1h53m) Cobblestone 1:10,4:10, 7:10, 9:50. Copper Creek 4:25.

7:10, 9:30. Silver 4:05, 7, 9:25. Southridge 1:10, 4:10, 7:10, 9:50. Wynnsong 1:10, 4:10, 7:10, 9:50. Confessions of a Dangerous Mind (R, 1h53m) Wynnsong 3:45, 7:10, 9:50.

Daredevil (PG-13, 1h43m) Cobblestone 2, 4:30, 7, 9:1 5, 1 1 :30. Copper Creek 4:30, 7, 9:25. Silver 3, 5:15, 7:30, 9:45. Southridge 2, 2:45, 4:30, 5, 7, 7:30, 9:15, 9:45. Wynnsong 12:30, 2, 2:45, 4:30, 5, 7, 7:30, 9:15, 9:45.

Darkness Falls (PG-13, 1h15m) Silver 9:20. Southridge 1:05. Wynnsong 1:30. Deliver Us From Eva (R, 1h45m) Southridge 3:55, 7, 9:45. Wynnsong 1 :05, 3:55.

Die Another Day (PG-13, 2h9m) Nova 4:45, 7:10, 9:35. Dmmllne (PG-13, 1h50m) Nova 4:50, 7:15, 9:40. Final Destination 2 (R, 1h40m) Cobblestone 1 2:55, 4, 7:20, 9:35. Copper Creek 4:45, 7:30, 9:40. Silver 4, 7:15, 9:40.

Southridge 4, 7:20, 9:35. Wynnsong 12:55, 4, 7:20, 9:35. Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets (PG, 2h30m) Nova 4:55, 8. Gangs of New York (R, 2h40m) Nova 4:50, 8:15. The Hours (PG-13, 1h54m) Sierra 4:30, 7:20, 9:40.

How to Lose a Guy In 10 Days (PG-13, 1h53m) Cobblestone 12:55, 3:45, 7, 9:35. Copper Creek 4:25, 7:10, 9:35. Silver 4:20, 7:05, 9:35. Southridge 12:55, 3:45, 7, 9:35. Wynnsong 12:55, 1:25,3:45, 4:15, 7, 7:25, 9:35, 9:55.

I Am Trying to Break Your Heart (not rated, 1h32m) Sierra 4:40, 7:10, 9:15. The Jungle Book 2 (G, 1 hi 2m) Cobblestone 1 3, 5, 7, 9. Copper Creek 5, 7:20, 9:10. Silver 3:05, 5, 6:55, 9. Southridge 1 3, 5, 7, 9.

Wynnsong 1 3, 5, 7, 9. Just Married (PG-13, 1h45m) Nova 5:10, 7:05, 9. Wynnsong -4, 7:05. 9:30. Kangaroo Jack (PG, 1h26m) Cobblestone Beat together until creamy: 8 egg yolks 1 stick butter heaping cup lard 1 cup sugar ANKENY Times listed are for the Springwood Theater.

Adaptation (R, 1 h54m) 4:30, 7, 9:30. Biker Boyz (PG-13, 1h51m) 9:40. Chicago (PG-13, 1h53m) 4:25, 7:10, 9:30. Daredevil (PG-13, 1h43m) 4:30, 7, 9:25. Final Destination 2 (R, 1h40m) 4:45, 7:30, 9:40.

How to Lose a Guy In 10 Days (PG-13, 1h53m) 4:25, 7:10, 9:35. The Jungle Book 2 (G, 1h12m) 5, 7:20, 9:10. Kangaroo Jack (PG, 1 h26m) 4:45, 7:35. The Recruit (PG-13, 1h55m) 4:40, 7:20, 9:45. Shanghai Knights (PG-13, 1h47m) 4:40, 7:30, 9:45.

Add cup instant mashed potatoes dissolved in one cup hot water. Add two cups instant dry milk and two tablespoons salt dissolved in four cups warm water. Beat in cup instant dry yeast with eight cups flour. Beat three minutes. Add three more cups flour.

Beat three minutes more, or until smooth and shiny. If too thin, add flour. If too thick, add warm water. Put in greased bowl and cover with plastic. Let rise 30 minutes or more, then punch dowa Let rise 20 minutes more.

Put on floured board and flatten with hands or rolling pin to thickness. Let rest five minutes. Cut into two-inch squares with pizza cutter. Stretch each square slightly before adding filling (apricot, poppy seed, prune or cherry). Add one tablespoon of filling to each square, then stretch opposite corners, pull and pinch together on top of filling.

Leave openings for filling to show. Place on baking pans, cover with plastic and let rise 45 minutes. Bake about eight to 10 minutes in 400-degree oven. Remove from oven and brush with melted butter. Makes eight or nine dozen.

Note: All ingredients should be at room temperature. INDIANOLA Times listed are for the Paramount Theater. Daredevil (PG-13, 1h43m) 4:25, 7. How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days (PG-13, 1h53m) 4:30, 7:10. Shanghai Knights (PG-13, 1h47m) 4:40, 7:20.

Today's Horoscope Joyce Jillson Your 2 Worth Calendar WHERE: Southbridge Mall, Mason City WHEN: March 7-9 DETAILS: Call (641)423-6688. you generate in the name of productivity. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): After the effort you made over the last few days to stretch your self-definition, there's nothing wrong with a little bit of cocooning.

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): You're so aggressive about career matters that sometimes socializing seems too frivolous. Mix the two together by planning fun that furthers your work goals. CAPRICORN (Dec.

22-Jan. 19): A beautiful new someone makes you stand up straight, trying to impress. The adrenaline rush will help you get even more done than you would have. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb.

18): A flash of inspiration is followed by a sudden turn of events and a breakthrough. Change doesn't have to be a long process. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): There is so much going on in your world now, you'll find others are attracted to the whir of activity. a thin layer of rubber coating on the metal trigger.

That will work to ground them. Des Moines man If the bald eagles are protected, why are we letting them eat fish out of our polluted rivers and streams? Polk City guy I don't see why everyone has to be so negative about the Iowa Events Center. All they care about is money spent now, not the events or money it will bring in the future. Perry man To my daughter: Thank you for giving us a beautiful grandson. East-side mom CREATORS SYNDICATE ARIES (March 21 -April 19): When it comes time to choose what you want to do, be very careful because you can create just about anything.

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East Des Moines man What kind of loser takes his boys to a basketball game with his girlfriend while his wife is at work? What is this world coming to? Concerned Ankeny parent If we go to war with Iraq, Vietnam is going to be overshadowed by all of the deaths of American boys and women. Boone Vietnam vet To solve the problem of static sparks blowing up gas pumps, put WHAT: Gaelic Gallop 8K WHERE: Dyersville WHEN: 10:30 a.m. March 15 DETAILS: Call (319) 875-2727. 7-8 p.m. Beginning Lindy Mop, West Des Moines Community Center, 217 Fifth West Des Moines.

$20 per person, $35 for couples. 274-4676. 7:30 p.m. ISU Jazz Ensembles I II, Martha-Ellen Tye Recital Hall, Iowa State Center, Ames. Adults $3, students $2.

(515) 294-3831. 8 p.m. Sean Flanigan, trombonist, Jordan Stage in Sheslow Auditorium, Old Main, Drake University, 25th Street and University Avenue. Free. 271-3975.

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