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THE STAR DEMOCRAT Friday, January 25, 2002, Page 13A Dear Ann Landers: I have fallen in love with my parish priest and need to know what to do. Of course, I talk to anyone about this, so writing to you. I have been separated from my husband for over a year and am getting an annulment. I am deeply religious and am being counseled through the church. As a result, I often chat with Father X.

Ann, I believe this man is my true soul mate. He possesses so many wonderful qualities, and I love being around him. Since he is counseling me, I cannot avoid him. However, I know my infatuation is wrong, and I want to do the right thing. Can you help me find a way to let go? Feeling Guilty in Boston Dear Feeling Guilty: It is not uncommon for women to fall in love with their doctors, lawyers, therapists and religious counselors.

Catholic priests are the No. 1 targets because they are available for consultation as part of their calling, and are considered a for the troubled. Also, some women are attracted to priests because they are You need to find someone else to counsel you. If there is another Catholic church in your area, ask if someone there is available. Also, your doctor can refer you to a therapist.

It is not necessary to tell your parish priest the reason you are no longer seeing him. It is imperative, however, that you put some distance between you and Father and the sooner the better. Dear Ann Landers: learned a lot over the years by reading your column. Today is Consider this a huge to both you and H.N. in San Francisco, who wrote about people who make personal comments regarding the physical appearance of strangers.

They are ignorant clods, and glad you told them off. I am 4 feet 10 inches tall and weigh 100 pounds. Of course, I look young for my age. Not a day passes without somebody commenting on how I am. Worse yet are people who say, old are you? You look about For years, I have blown off these remarks with a meek smile and silence.

Now, I would love to have a snappy comeback for these rude morons. Could you supply one? A Runt in Burlington, Vt. Dear Vermont (I refuse to call you had enough of Comments noting that a person is shorter, taller, heavier or thinner than average are rude and almost always hurtful even though they are accepted with silence or a lame smile. The best response is NO response just a look that conveys the message, are an followed by a change of subject. Dear Ann Landers: My cousin has been engaged to since June.

They planned an October wedding, but called it off for one reason or another. Five days later, they set a new date. I bought a dress and shoes. Now, the wedding has been postponed again. What do I do when they set another date? At some point, I will have to purchase airline tickets, make hotel reservations, arrange for a baby-sitter for the weekend and buy them a wedding gift.

I would hate to spend all that money only to have them call it off again. What do you say? Melbourne, Fla. Dear Melbourne: Decline the of attending. This couple sounds flaky, and I would not invest another dime on their upcoming plans. Plead a previous commitment, and make one immediately.

To find out more about Ann Landers and read her past columns, visit the Creators Syndicate web page at www.cre- ators.com. ANN LANDERS (R) COPYRIGHT 2002 CREATORS SYNDICATE, INC. Make quick effort to end infatuation with priest GOOD ADVICE Ann Landers OBITUARIES EASTON William S. Brown died on Wednesday, Jan. 23, 2002 at the Memorial Hospital of Easton.

William was born on May 18, 1938 in Carmichael to the late Charles and Frances Brown. He was raised in Carmichael and attended public schools in Queen County. After marrying the former Gertrude Warrick, he relocated to Easton. William was a truck driver until he became disabled. He loved being a truck driver and meeting new people.

William is survived by his wife, Gertrude; one daughter, Angela Brown and son-in-law, Sammy Brown of Longwoods, Easton; two sons, Curtis Brown and daughter-in-law, Cherly Brown of Hillsboro and Mark Brown and daughter-in-law, Valerie Brown of Elkridge; one brother, James Brown; two sisters, Eleanor and Martha Brown; four granddaughters, Catonya, RoShanda, LaCree, William D. Brown CAMBRIDGE Lillie S. Butler, formerly of Easton died on Jan. 22, 2002. Graveside services will be held on Jan.

28 at 10 a.m. at Woodlawn Memorial Park, Easton. Arrangements are by Fellows, Helfenbein Newnam Funeral Home, P.A., Easton. Lillie S. Butler LaQUINTA, Calif.

Jean Patchett Auer of LaQuinta and West Hampton, Long Island, died Tuesday, Jan. 22, 2002 at LaQuinta. She was 76. She was born Feb. 16, 1925 in Preston, the daughter of the late J.

Frank Patchett Sr. and Mary Ward Patchett. She was a Preston High School graduate Class of 1941. She attended Goucher University in Baltimore. She was a model for Ford Modeling Agency in New York and a homemaker.

She is survived by her husband, Louis Auer of LaQuinta and West Hampton, Long Island; a daughter, Amy Auer of West Hampton; a brother, James Patchett Jr. of Federalsburg and a sister, Dorothy King of Georgia. She was preceded in death by a son, Bart Auer, and a sister, Bette Wilson. Memorial services were held on Thursday, Jan. 24, 2002 in LaQuinta, Calif.

Jean P. Auer NEWCOMB Louise A. Buchmoyer of Newcomb died on Monday, Jan. 21, 2002 at Memorial Hospital at Easton. She was 82.

Born Aug. 18, 1919 in Hubbell, she was the daughter of the late Emil and Celima Perrault DesJardin. She graduated from Lake Linden High School in Lake Linden, Mich. For most of her working years she resided in Wheaton until moving to Newcomb in 1993. Her husband, Edward C.

Buchmoyer died in June 1983. Mrs. Buchmoyer is survived by four children, Rose A. Buchmoyer, of Newcomb, Mark E. Buchmoyer of Silver Spring, Jeanne L.

Barb, of Winchester, Va. and Alice Courtney of Front Royal, five sisters, Helen McCormick of Hyattsville, Theresa DesJardin of Washington, D.C., Anne Ullery of Hubbell, Madonna Kajander, of Lake Linden, Mich. and Agnes Ahola, of Dollar Bay, two brothers, Joseph DesJardin, of John Day, Ore. and William Paul Desjardin of Richmond, Va. five grandchildren, Damon, Derek, Gretchen, Zachary, and Katherine and one great-grandchild, Christina.

Services will be private. Memorial donations may be made to your local Habitat for Humanity. Arrangements are by Fellows, Helfenbein Newnam Funeral Home, P.A., Easton. See www.fhnfuneralhome.com. Louise A.

Buchmoyer OXFORD Erica Boardman Woodman, of Oxford, died at Memorial Hospital at Easton on Tuesday, Jan. 22, 2002. She was 85. Born Mary Boardman in Muskogee, Sept. 3, 1916, her name was later changed to Esther at the request of her paternal grandmother.

While one of three children of the late Arthur Gerry Boardman and Mary Tallman, she lost a younger sister, Jeannette, at 15 months. She spent some of her childhood in Chicago, but went with her parents to Europe while she was quite young so that her father could study voice in order to sing opera. She was educated at various schools in France. Erica grew up in Europe and changed her name in the 1930s from Esther to Erica. She returned to the United States as a young adult and began working in New York for Pan American Airways.

She met and eventually married Dr. DeGraaf Woodman, and, as she put it in a letter to a friend, I was from a mundane job at PanAm by one DeGraaf Woodman, eventually marrying him, making my life a very exciting experience, for which I am Mrs. Woodman was a longtime member of The Audubon Society and Alcoholics Anonymous. Mrs. Woodman is survived by her stepson, John Woodman and his wife, Lynn of Ellicott City; two grandchildren and their spouses, Joe and Marla Woodman, Meg and Marty Rhodes; two great-grandchildren and a brother, Arthur Boardman and his wife, Patricia, of Deming, N.M.

A Memorial Service will be held on Friday, Jan. 25 at 2 p.m. at Fellows, Helfenbein and Newnam Funeral Home, P.A., Easton. Burial will be private. In lieu of flowers, please make contributions to the Eastern Shore Chapter of the Association, 212 W.

Main Salisbury, Md. 21801; the Humane Society of Talbot County, P.O. Box 1143, Easton, Md. 21601 or your favorite charity. Erica B.

Woodman More obituaries on Page 14A MONTGOMERY, Ala. Charles Paul Nordberg Sr. formerly of Preston died Monday, Jan. 21, 2002 in Montgomery, Ala. He was 78 years old.

Mr. Nordberg was born Aug. 31, 1924 in Baltimore Co. He was the son of Rev. Charles August Nordberg and Grace Skipper Nordberg.

He grew up in Preston and graduated from Preston School. While serving in the U.S. Air- force, he was stationed in Goose- bay and completed his service in Alabama. Mr. Nordberg was an assistant Pastor of the Seibles Road Church of Christ in Montgomery, Ala.

and served as Pastor of the Church of Christ in Opp, Ala. for several years. He also owned and operated an auto sales and service and welding business. Mr. Nordberg had been a patient at the Crowne Health Care Nursing Home in Montgomery for the past few years.

His wife, Bertha Thompson Nordberg died in 1999. Mr. Nordberg is survived by a son, Charles P. Nordberg Jr. of Lincoln, two stepsons, John Thompson and his wife Sandy of Ala.

and William Thompson of Georgia; a step-daughter Sara Ellis of a sister Ruth Johnson of Cambridge; a sister-in- law Rena Nordberg of Denton; several grandchildren, great- grandchildren, nieces and nephews. A brother, David L. Nordberg of Denton, preceded him in death. Funeral services were held Tuesday, Jan. 22 at 2 p.m.

in Montgomery, Ala. Burial was at Rainer Cemetery. C. Paul Nordberg Sr. FEDERALSBURG Steven Victor Adams of Federalsburg died Wednesday, Jan.

23, 2002 at Easton Memorial Hospital in Easton. He was 48. He was born on March 27, 1953 in Caroline County the son of the late George and Golda Handy Adams. He graduated from Colonel Richardson High School. He was an electrician who worked in building maintenance.

He loved to fish and was a true outdoorsman. He also loved country music and dancing. He is survived by his wife of 20 years, Christine J. Adams of Federalsburg; two daughters, Nicole Adams of Delaware, Kelsey Adams of Federalsburg; a son, Clint Adams of Federalsburg; three brothers, Georgie Adams of Selbyville, Larry Adams of Seaford, and Marvin Adams, of Sunrise, three sisters, Delores Beebe of Farmington, Jeanie Reed and Vivian Adams, both of Hurlock. A brother, Gary Adams, preceded him in death.

Graveside services will be held on Sunday, Jan. 27 at 2 p.m. at Bethel Cemetery, Oak Grove, Md. with Rev. Diane Melson officiating.

Memorial contributions may be made in his memory to Caroline Hospice Foundation, P.O. Box 362, Denton, Md. 21629 or to the American Cancer Society Caroline Co. Unit, Mrs. Belke, P.O.

Box 515, Denton, Md. 21629. Funeral arrangements entrusted to Framptom- Hawkins-Eskow Funeral Home, P.A. in Federalsburg. For more information or for letters of condolence, please visit www.Del- marvaobits.com.

Steven V. Adams and McCall; two grandsons, Travis and three brothers-in-law, Stewart, Charles and Joseph; four sisters-in-law. Mazie, Amelia, Juanita and Viola; a devoted niece, Zena and nephew-in-law, Edmond Chance of Philadelphia, and a host of nieces, nephews, cousins and friends. Services will be held at St. Matthew United Methodist Church, Longwoods, Easton.

The viewing will be held on Friday, Jan. 25 between 6 8 p.m. and Saturday, Jan. 26 between 11 a.m. and 1 p.m.

with funeral services to follow immediately. Internment will be at Woodlawn Memorial Park. Funeral service by Bennie Smith. EASTON Dorothy M. Lyons, of Easton, died at the Memorial Hospital at Easton on Wednesday, Jan.

23, 2002. She was 88. Born in Cordova, Sept. 27, 1913, she was one of 10 children of the late Peter P. and Florence A.

Cannon Councell. After graduating from the Cordova High School in 1931, she, in March of 1932, married Charles R. Lyons Sr. of Easton, a Talbot County farmer and timber cutter. They made their home in the Easton area where Mr.

Lyons died in July of 1996. A member of the Easton Church of The Brethren and the Flower Committee of the church, she was also a former member of the White Marsh Homemakers Club. Mrs. Lyons is survived by a daughter, Elizabeth Lednum of Easton; two sons, Charles R. Lyons Jr.

and William Harold Lyons, both of Easton; a brother, Marion A. Councell of Chestertown; 13 grandchildren, 25 great-grandchildren and one great-great grandchild. Two other great grandsons, Michael and Matthew, are deceased. Funeral services will be held on Monday, Jan. 28, at 11 a.m.

at The Easton Church of The Brethren. Burial will be at Spring Hill Cemetery, Easton. Friends may call on Sunday, Jan. 27 from 2 to 4 p.m. at the Fellows, Helfenbein and Newnam Funeral Home, P.A., Easton.

Memorial donations may be made to the Easton Church of The Brethren, 412 S. Harrison Easton, Md. 21601. See www.fhnfuneralhome.com. Dorothy M.

Lyons RIDGELY Weaver Kenneth Lord, 86, of Ridgely died Wednesday, Jan. 23, 2002 at his home. Born Dec. 27, 1915 in Concord, he was the son of the late Alfred and Annie Weaver Lord. He married Emma (Hutson) Lord on June 23, 1948.

Mr. Lord has lived in this area his entire lifetime and attended Greensboro School. He was a World War II Veteran serving four years in the U.S. Army. Mr.

Lord was a member of the Greensboro VFW Post 7937 and the Harrington Moose Lodge He was an avid hunter and sportsman, and he also raised harness racers. Mr. Lord retired from Breyers in Salisbury in 1976 after 50 years of employment. He and his wife owned Market in Ridgely for 22 years. He is survived by his wife Emma Lord; one brother, Donald Lord of Cheswold, Del.

and one niece Mary Ann Lowe of Bridgeville, Del. Services will be held on Satur- Weaver K. Lord day, Jan. 26 at 2 p.m. from Fleegle Helfenbein Funeral Home, Greensboro.

Visitation will be held at Fleegle-Helfenbein Funeral Home, P.A. on Friday from 7 to 9 p.m. Burial at Ridgely Cemetery. Arrangements by Fleegle Helfenbein Funeral Home, P.A., Greensboro..