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I FOUR POUGHKEEPSIE NEW YORKER MONDAY, OCTOBER 20, 1952. Twentieth Century Club Lists Program for Season This season, the Twentieth Century Club of New Hamburg has chosen for Its study graphies of Great Americans and interesting A Sketches will be on "Historical Dutchess County," and for roll call, there will be quotations appropriate to the month. Miss Alethea D. Halliday 1a club president; Mrs. Donald Lockwood, vice president; Mrs.

Cheater H. Golding, secretary: Miss Edna Goring, treasurer: Miss Elizabeth Parmele and Mrs. Walter B. Tongue, members of the advisory board; Mrs. Harry Dessoir and Miss Jenny M.

Wickes, entertainment chairmen and Mrs. Nelson W. Hulst, press chairman. The club opened its fall session on Oct. 16.

when the members met with Mrs. Robert J. B. Wright, here. Mrs.

Tongue gave a paper on "Autobiography, Benjamin Franklin." Mrs. Howard 1 G. Winne's sketch was on 'First Settlements." The schedule for the remainder of the season includes: Nov. 20, hostess, Mrs. Frederick Piggott; sketch, "old Churches," by Mrs.

Arthur Swenson and "New Orleans, La." by Mrs. 'Hulai; Dec. 18, hostess, Miss Edna Goring: sketch, "Early Hotels and Inns," by Mrs. Dessoir and paper, "Autobiography of Edward Bok," by Miss Wickes. Jan.

15, hostess, Mrs. Horace M. Divine: sketch, "Roads," by Mrs. Wright; paper, "Charleston, 8. by Miss Mary C.

Goring: Feb. 19. hostess, Mrs, Lockwood: sketch, "Historical Poughkeepsie." by Mrs Piggott; paper, Man Called Peter." by Mrs. Frank S. Roberts Jr.

March 19. hostess, Mrs. Dessoir: sketch, "Private Schools." by Mrs. Golding: paper, "Salt Lake City, ing: sketch. "Old he Doorways." by Utah;" April 16, hostess, Mrs.

GoldMiss Lockwood, paper, "Biography of Daniel Boone." Mrs. William Workman. May 21, hostess, Mrs. Arthur Swenson: sketch, "Mesier Homestead," by Mrs. Martense H.

Cornell; paper, Wash." by Mrs. Frank H. Lacy and June 18. sketch, "Early Homes," Divine. hostess, Mrs.

Howard Adis. Winne: and paper, "Autobiography of Margaret Banger," by Miss Parmele. Sarah Jones Bride Of Richard Haines Miss Sarah Jones, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. William Jones, 93 Smith street and Private Richard Haines, son of Mr.

and Mrs Harry Haines East Park, were married, 2 o'clock, Tuesday afternoon, in the Washington Street Methodist church. The bride, given in marriage by ber father, wore a gown of white book with white rose markers, taffeta and net and co carried a prayer The matron of honor, Mrs. Caroline Liguori, sister of the bride. WAS attried in an orchid colored gown with matching headpiece. The bridesmaids included Miss Janet Haines, sister of the bridegroom and Miss Louise Rexhouse.

They wort ping -taffeta gowns with bouquets matching of headpieces and carried pink roses, Clyde Haines, brother of the bridegroom, served best man Fred Liguori and Harry Haines ushered. Margaret Ann Price, cousin of the bride, was the flower girl. She wore an aqua dress and carried a basket of yellow roses. The bride's mother chose for her daughter's wedding a purple dress velvet accessories and corsage of white roses. Mrs.

Haines wore navy blue dress with black accessories. Her corsage WAS of a white roses. After the ceremony there was reception for 150 guests at the Crum Elbow Sportsmen's association hall A buffet luncheon was served and music for dancing was provided by John Kutarnia and his orchestra. The couple left there for a wedding trip. For traveling the bride selected pink dress with black accessories and a corsage of white roses.

Upon their return Mrs. Haines will reside with her parents while Mr. Haines in the service. The bride is employed by Wire-0 Co. Mr.

Haines la in the Army Signal Corps stationed at Camp Gordon, Ca. He La home on 30-day leave before being assigned to overseas duty. be exercised over them. The situayoung people, some to discipline must tion as presently handled is unfair you, your husband, and especially to the youngsters. The girl should be either in school or working: the boy definitely should be contributing something to your household.

If he makes a small salary, sum would be a small one, but at least it would establish him' as a responsible person, not a parasite. DEAR MISS DIX: 11 possible for older people really to fall in love? I know a woman who is spparently very much in love with man she has known for years. She La widow, he's a widower. They are frequently in each other's company. Is friendship and companionship best for them, or would they be happier if they married? A.LJ.

ANSWER: Who would be so presumptuous to put an age limit on love? It may take different forms at different ages, or with difterent people, but folks are capable of loving all their lives. The mutual devotion of older people is a perfect foundation for marriage: it will prove just deeper manifestation and extension of their present friendship. DEAR MISS DIX: I'm a girl of 23, painfully shy. I suppose I have an inferiority complex because 1 always imagine people are better than I am. Although I'm told by my friends that I'm pretty, still can't get along with people.

With my intimate friends, I'm full of life and fun. but with strangers I'm completely tongue- tied. MILDRED O. ANSWERED: The best way to get over shyness among strangers is to get out among them more. Perhaps this sounds paradoxical, but it is only the initial plunge that hurts.

Group activity of any kind is what you need. Before you go out, prime yourself with a few observations on current topica. They'll serve as an opening wedge, then les the other party do the talking. You just listen attentively. (Released by The Bell Syndicate, Inc.) Mount Holyoke Club To Hear Horace H.

Corbin fessor of psychology, Mount Holyoke college, will be the guest speaker at the luncheon-meeting of the Hudson -Valley Mount Saturday. Smith Brothers. Luncheon is scheduled at 1 o'clock. Mr. Corbin joined the college faculty in 1947 and in addition to his teaching duties he has served with the research staff of the PsychoPhysical Research unit and is presently director of the unit.

He was graduated from Cornell university, and received M.A. and Ph.D., degrees at Columbia university. Prior to joining the Mount Holyoke faculty. Mr. Corbin taught in Columbia university, City College of New York and Queens college.

Mrs. Edgar M. Clarke Milton, president, will preside at the luncheon. Other officers are Miss Marjorie Gunther, Poughkeepsie, vice president; Mrs. Ethan Allen, Miltoh, secretary, and Miss Janet Jenks, Millerton, treasurer.

Horace H. Corbin, associate Miss Marion R. Fratz, member of the faculty of the Arlington Grade school and second vice president of the Arlington PTA, who is serving as membership chairman of the unit for the 1952-53 season, has made known that the membership now totals 300. She is striving for a 100 percent membership and to make parents more PTA conscious Highway display boards have been obtained Routes 44, 55 and on Raymond avenue. Miss Fratz Chairman Of PTA Membership Miss Barbara J.

Anderson, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Adolph Anderson, Sharon, WAS married Saturday, Oct. In the Christ Episcopal church, Sharon, to Arthur 'Frederick Hall. He 1s the son of Mr.

and Mrs. Harry Hall. Stanfordville. The was decorated with baskets gladioli church, Albert Roose, Danbury, organist, played traditional wedding music. Given in marriage by her father, the bride wore a gown of white satin trimmed with Chantilly lace Her vell of nylon tulle was caught to Jullet cap.

She carried cade of white pom pons. Mrs. John Pacocha, Kent, was the matron of honor. She wore a gown of blue nylon trimmed with lace and carried bouquet of yellow pom pons. The other attendants, attired in gowns of shrimp nylon tulle, trimmed with 'lace, were Mrs.

Sally Platt, Sharon; Miss Joan Francis, Millerton; Mrs. Jack Anderson, Sharon and Miss Grace Matheson. New York City. They carried bouquets of bronze pom pons. Henry Eberhardt, Millbrook, served at the best man.

Ushering were Alfred Henry, Henry Frank, Irving Mosher, Stanfordville and Jack Anderson, Sharon. The bride's mother chose for her daughter's wedding a grey dress with navy blue accessories. Mrs. Hall wore grey dress with red accessories. For traveling the bride chose navy blue suit with red accessories.

After a wedding trip to Florida the couple will make their home in Stanfordville where Mr. Hall is engaged in farming. Hall- Anderson Marriage Announced Warring PTA Unit Schedules Tea Party Plans have been Warring PTA for o'clock, Wednesday library. It is to members. Carol E.

will be guest speaker. Arlington Grade School Plans Kindergarten Tea completed by the tea, 3 to 4:30 in the school honor the new Lewis, principal, Tea There will be a kindergarten tea, 3 o'clock, tomorrow afternoon, in the Arlington Grade school, sponsored by the kindergarten mothers and teachers of the school. The teachers include Mrs. Gertrude L. Smith, and Mrs.

Rosemarie Cornell. The room mothers are Mrs. Horace Beatty, Mrs. Edward Ireland and Mrs. William Sunbloom.

Mrs. Anne Cabot Needlework Here 1s quilt Grandmother would be proud to have in her collection. Each block is 12 inches square; start to make one now and watch it STOW into one of your most prized possessions Pattern No. 5311 contains quilt pattern pieces, material 'requirementa, diagram and complete making and finishing directions. Send 250 in COINS your name, address and the PATTERN NUMBER to ANNE CABOT.

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PERSONAL umbia street, observed birthday on Saturday. Miss Berge, daughter of Mi. and Mrs. Arnold Berge, 291 Mill street, has returned to the Traphagen School of Fashion, New York where the will continue her studies this winter, majoring in costume design and illustration. Miss Rosa Holde, 52 College avenue, will enter hand embroidered picture in.

the embroidery divison of the International Federation of Hand Arts at the -29th annual Women's International Exposition. The Exposition is scheduled at the 71st Regiment Armory, New York City, Nov, 1 through 8. Serving aboard the aircraft carrier USS Kearserge with Fighter Squadron 11 is James H. Millard USN, son of Mr. and Mrs.

Millard, Pleasant Valley. Mrs. Joan Proctor Friable, Albany, has been visiting for a few days with friends in Poughkeepsie. Mr. and Mrs.

Lloyd Wible, '196 Grand avenue, have been entertaining Mr. and Mrs. John Ashman, Miss Jessie McGraw, Altoona, Pa. and Miss Helen. Hill and Mrs.

Sarah Poltz, Harrisburg, Pa. Miss Gloria F. Betros, of this city and Brooklyn, has been spending hotel, several Atlantic days at the Ambassador City. She also to visit her sister, Mra. Jimmie Zain, the former Miss Josephine Betros, in Charleston, West and befcre returning home, she will go to Cleveland, to visit another sister, Mrs.

Richard Garrick, the former Miss Lindy Betros. William P. Leahey, 20-B Spaulding avenue is patient in Vassar hospital. He is employed by IBM. Mrs.

Elmer Carlson, 53 Beechwood avenue, is a patient in Vassar hospital. Mrs. Martin J. Brogan, 36 Conklin street, is (visiting relatives in New York City and Brooklyn. Recently graduated from the Aviation Machinist's Mate school Naval Air Technical Training Memphis, Tenn.

was Robert C. Sells, son of Mr. and Mrs. Emerson R. Sells, 84 Innis avenue.

Robert V. Russo, son of Mr. and Mrs. John E. Russo, Hopewell Junetion, has enrolled as a freshman in the aeronautical engineering course at Rensselaer Polytechnic institute, Troy.

Miss Elizabeth Mylod, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Frank Myled. Beechwood and Miss Rita Hall daughter of Mr. and Mrs.

Hall, Dover Plains, will be invested with academic caps and gowns as freshmen at the College of New Rochelle, tonight. Thomas J. Ringwood, 66 Delafield street, has returned home after bea patient in St. hospital. Helen Fridstrom's Engagement Announced Mr.

and Mrs. Arne Fridstrom, Hopewell function, announce the Helen Virginia, to Palmieri. engagement of their, daughter, He is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Ralph Palmieri, 43 Gifford avenue, Poughkeepsie.

Both are employed by the Westem Printing and Lithographing Co No date has been set for the wedding. Beatrice Along! Elected President Beatrice Alongi was elected president of Chi Omega Nu sorority at Its first meeting recently in the PAL clubroom. Others chosen are Rosemary Sherlock, vice president; Judy Longi, secretary: Joyce Longi, treasurer; Lamarian Cronk, reporter and Eleanor Ball, sergeantat-arms. Plans were made for the initiation of new members. The next meeting is scheduled for 7:30 o'clock, tomorrow night, in the PAL clu broom.

Ruth Millett We, the Women doormat than a perfect wife." MAMA SPEAKS UP Not long AgO I heard a mother of A young wife whose husband will soon return from Korea and who apparently wants him to come home to a "perfect wife," says in her letter to me: "If my marriage is to be of the happlest kind, selfishness cannot enter into My reply may sound like disillusioning advice to a 22-year-old who yearns to be perfect wife, but "Don't try too hard to be a perfect wife. Don't worry too much over your supposed faults. No man marries an angel. or A perfect wife. A man marries a woman because he loves her, faults and all.

"And don't fall for the mistaken notion that to be a good wife you have to be completely unselfish. A woman who never thinks of herself, of what she wants out of Me. but forever and always puts her husband and children first is more likely to become an unappreciated four say without apology: "I've told my family this is going to be MY year. This year I'm going to do some of the things U've wanted to do and kept putting off because whenever it came to choice always Agured my husband's and children's Interests were more important than mine." Is that woman being selfish in Anally deciding that she has much right as any member the family to having some life of her own? of course, she isn't. She is being wise.

She will be a happler, more interesting person for insisting on having some time for herself. And therefore she'll be a better wife and mother. She will gain new respect from her family, too. We don't expect husbands and children to be compietely unselfish, do we? why should we expect it of ourselves? (All rights reserved, NEA Service, Inc.) Golf Club Supper, Dance To Take Place Saturday More to Attend Holy Trinity Show. Additional reservations bave been made for the fashion show and entertainment, 8:15 o'clock, tomorrow night in Arlington High school, under the 'sponsorship of the Women's society of Holy Trinity church.

Among those attending will be Mrs. Kenneth Dickinson, Mrs. WIlliam J. O'Brien, Mrs. Daniel Aurrichio, Mrs.

Edward Schneyer, Mrs. George T. Willson, Mrs. John Rittinger, Mrs. Michael Ryan, Mrs.

Lawrence Riley, Mrs. Anne Rogers, Mrs. Alvin Schomer, Mrs. Agnes Schultz, Mrs. Charles L.

Stanley, MIAs Joan Stanley, Mrs. George Wolf, Mrs. Robert Poster, Mrs. William Gekle, Mrs. Joseph Hines, Mrs.

Tony Leo, Mrs. Charles DeStefano, Mrs. George Carr, Mrs. Joseph Clark, Mrs. Harry Cook, Betty Kelly, Miss Yolan Kelly, Mrs.

Albert Moore, Mrs. Joseph Erts, Mrs. Bertha Cruthers, Mrs. Gus Gallante, Mrs. Donald Gemmel.

Mrs. Marie Thompson, Mrs. James Morrison, Mrs. Susan Faulkner, Miss Constance Faulkner, Mrs. Charles Miller Mrs.

Edward Barry, Miss Doris Lowe, Miss Lillian Leonelli, Mrs. John Davis, Mrs. Herbert McClellan, Mrs. Frank 11- lustrato, Harold Denning, Mrs. Harold Denning, Mrs.

Robert Helmeyer, Frank Mackey, Mrs. Durward Hutchings, Mrs. Morrell Knapp, Mrs. Joseph ph Falbo, Mrs. Wallace DuBois, Mrs.

William Hurlihe, Mrs. Walter Botsford, Mrs. Kay Doremus, Mrs. Henry Huto, Mrs. Patrick Kennedy, Mrs.

Harry Lane, Mrs. Leonard Alello, Mrs. Albert Mrs. I Marie Triola, Miss Dolores Alello, Mrs. James Cullen, Mrs.

Mason Kantorvitz, Mrs. James Davis Mrs. Frank D'Luhosch, Mrs. Edward Del Ross, Mrs. Charles DeMask Mrs.

J. Kenneth Donohue, Mrs. Anna Lafko, Mrs. Charles Lottin, Mrs. John Luhman, Mrs.

Elizabth Lynch, Mrs. Edward Lickona, Mrs. Russel McDermott, Miss Shiela Wallin. Mrs. Edmund Miller, Mrs.

William Southworth, Mrs. Helen Condron, Mrs. Arthur Travis, Miss Helen Travis, Miss Charlanne James, Mrs. Matthew J. Mullen, Mrs.

Thomas Mylod, Mrs. Joseph I McCabe, Mrs. Leonard Corcoran, Mrs. John Paroli, Mrs. George ber, Mrs.

Eileen McDonough, Mrs. Miles Adams, Miss Mary Adams, Mrs. Joseph Kelly, Mrs. Charles Connevey, Mrs. John J.

Paulus, Miss Margaret Collier, Mrs. William Collier, Mrs. Helen A. Connevey, Mrs. George Croshier, Mrs.

George HedInger, Mrs. Frank De Paolo, Mrs. John Freni, Mrs. George Ludovici, Mrs. Clarence Traver, Mrs.

George Emery and Mrs. James McGrath. Shepherds of Bethlehem Make Plans for Social Mrs. Ella Faust is chairman for social of Pride of the Hudson lodge, Shepherds of Bethlehem, at 462 Main street, 'Nov. 7.

Plans for the social were made when the met Friday night. Mrs. Jennie Baker lodge had charge of a card party after the meeting. Eleanor Roosevelt My Day NEW YORK-1 attended meeting the other night in the Washington Irving High school that was sponsored by students. I am partic ularly glad that students are taking such An Interest in this election campaign.

At the meeting short and very good movie was giving scenes of Governor Stevenson's campaign and some excerpts from his speeches. Elmer Rice was there to speak also, and he was kind enough to let first because I was in mauappear Next week, on Oct. 23, most of the universities and colleges in this area will hold some kind of celebration to mark the coming of age of all those who will vote year for the first time. I think this is An important event, and I wish on that day some of our most important speakers would take note of the fact and make special reference to the new voter. We should make great deal more of this first vote, for the time when you are able to take an active part in your government not merely through your influence with others, but through your own vote, 18 a great and responsible time.

I happen to believe that the age should be lowered to 18. But it still is held at 21. and up to now that has always been considered the time when a man actually comes of age and can assume all his legal responsibilities. It 1s day which. for men and women both, should be marked with some solemnity.

The young people who come together on that day to celebrate their frat vote should think of their heritage as members of this great democracy. OUR FOREFATHERS could have had little idea when they founded this nation how great it would become in such a short span of years. They felt heavily the responsibility of making life possible for those who had come to settle the 13 colontes. Sometimes in certain areas these settlers nearly died of famine. Transportation was 50 poor and dangerous that one settlement often would not know what was happenthe in another.

Today, when trans. portation and communication are so rapid, it is our responsibility to know what is happening all over the world as well as at home. The first voter has a great responsibility for his country. But since his own country tied to all the other nations of the world, he has to take broader view than did our forefathers and he bears an even greater responsibility. It 1s wonderful time to come of age this year- to make up one's own mind what is best for one's country in a Presidential election, to feel free to as one believes and to know that by being active in one's own environment one can contribute something to the solution of questions at home and abroad.

May the celebrations held on October 23 to, commemorate the coming of age of new voters in 1952 serve to inspire every young citizen to socept full responsibility as a citizen of this democracy. E. R. (World copyright, 1962, by United 'Feature Syndicate, reproducMon 1 in whole or in part Plans 'have been completed by members of the entertainment committee of the Dutchess Golf and Country club for a supper and "hard dance, Saturday night tr the clubhouse. for members and their guests.

and Supper will will be served at 7 o'clock there be dancing from 9 to 1 o'clock. Those serving on the entertainment committee include Dr. Archie L. Neighbors, chairman, Mrs. Neighbors and Mr.

and Mrs. I Lewis. M. Shaw. They will be assisted by Mrs.

Harry Lyman, Mrs. Robert Hoe Mrs. Charles Daniels, Mrs. Matthew H. Dietschman, Mrs.

Edgar Petrovits and Mrs. Gordon Plass. Supper reservations may be made at the clubhouse not later than Friday. GUEST SPEAKER for the luncheon -meeting of the Hudson Valley Mount Holyoke club, Sat-. urday afternoon, will be HORACE H.

CORBIN, associate professor of psychology at Mount Holyoke Margaret Connell Honored at Shower Miss Margaret Connell, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Paul Connell, 364 Mansion street, was honored at surprise kitchen shower, Oot. 15. Mrs.

L. Dykeman, Ruskey lane, Hyde Park, was hostess. Decorntions were in blue and white. Miss Connell will be wed to Charles Donion, son of Mrs. Alice Donion, Hyde Park, Oct.

25. Among those present were Mrs. Mary Connell, Mrs. Alice Donion, Mrs. Hazel Rogers, Mrs.

Florence Lamn, Mrs. Shirley Kipp, Mrs. Rachel Kipp, Mrs. Bromley, Mrs. Mae Ward, Mrs.

Theresa Ward, Mrs. Bertha Oles, Mrs. Alice Klopping. Mrs. Florence Robins, Mrs.

Virginia Kilmer and the Misses Marlyn Connell, Jeanette and Bernice Laffin, Eleanor Rogers, Eunice and Mildred Browning. Calendar TONIGHT Poughkeepsie Vassar club, Vassar Alumnae House, 8 o'clock. Zonta club, Nelson House, 6:15 o'clock. Violet Avenue PTA, Dad's Night program, at the school, 7:30 o'clock. Book club, of Vassar Temple Sisterhood, Mrs.

Kurt Holzer's home, 20 Gardeld place, 8:30 o'clock. Circle Trinity Methodist church, Mrs. George T. Wilson's home, 13 Mack road, 8 o'clock. Pleasant Valley PTA, at the school, 8 o'elock.

TOMORROW Women's society, of Holy Trinity church, fashion show. Arlington High school, 8:15 o'clock. Poughkeepsie Day Nursery 8880- clation, annual Jelly Tea, Mrs. Theodore Bowman's home, Freedom Plains road. PTA, at.

the school, o'clock. WEDNESDAY Poughkeepsie branch, American Waldensian Aid society, First Presbyterian church, o'clock. AAUW Study group, Mrs. Nathan home, 161 Academy street, 8 o'clock. THURSDAY Dutchess County Women's Republican club.

campaign dinner rally, Nelson House, 6:30 o'clock. Dutchess County branch of the Albany State Teachers college, dinner meeting, Wendover Farms, 7 o'clock. FRIDAY United Council of Church Women, devotional "coffee hour" service, YWCA, 1:30 o'clock. St. Francis' hospital Women's guild, card party.

Poughkeepsie Tennis club, 8 o'clock. SATURDAY Supper-dance, Dutchess Golf and Country club, at the clubhouse, 7 o'clock. IBM Foot lighters, installation dinner, Talbot's inn, Pleasant Valley. Alicia Hart Beauty Hints You may have a drawerful of buttons that you have been saving and adding to each time you snip the button off discarded garment. These buttons can have a far more a glamorous use than merely serving as pile from which to choose replacements for junior's corduroys.

You can make chic at -home skirts and stoles with the buttons as your inspiration. First, sort them out so you will know exactly how many good ones you have and how many of each type. With new or leftover piece of material for your skirt or stole and some imagination to work out a decorative plan for your buttons, you can get to work at once and have a new outfit in no time. Here are some examples of what you can do: Get piece of bright red chints and a couple of yards each of black and red velvet ribbon. Look through your pile of buttons to see If there are dozen or so rhinestone-centered buttons, some with black and some with white centers.

Make yourself full skirt from the chintz. Interlace the black and red velvet to form a square and sew it sidewise on your skirt as checkerboard patch pocket. Then you can sew the buttons on different squares and you will have gay checker game in progress on your skirt. You can make very. smart skirt by sewing three black pockets down the sides of a -white minutely checked skirt.

Use small white buttons in rows across your frat two pockets. Sew the same kind of buttons in larger size on your center pockets and sew still larger white buttons on your pockets near the hem. A gala evening shirt can be made from richly textured piece of material that you can pick up tively cheaply at An upholstery remnants counter. Ice-blue antique satin is one gestion. You could stitch leaves on the skirt with green thread and outline the leaves with silver thread.

Strew some flower petal buttons among the leaves. With it wear cummerbund fastened with stone buttons. The "sliver' grass" quilting will keep the skirt from sagging as well as look exotie. Germantown Recital Planned by Dr. Tidmarsh -Dr.

Elmer A. Tidmarsh, director of music and organist at Union college, Schenectady, who also is director of the Euterpe' and: Singers clubs, in this city, will present a recital on the new Baldin electronic organ in the. Germantown Methodist church at 7:30 o'clock, next Sunday night. Dr. Tidmarsh recently returned to this country from tour of Europe where, he played in the Notre Dame cathedral.

RECENT BRIDE is Mrs. ARD HAINES, the former Miss Sandra Jones, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. William Jones, 93 Smith street. The wedding took place on Oct.

14. Dorothy Dis Letter Box DEAR MISS DIX: Bill and have gone with each other for two years." During the past six months. we have talked of marriage and have decided to wait until we are both 21, which will be in two years. Our parents approve- or did, until my Dad suddenly asked me to measure my love for Bill. I told him thing like that couldn't be measured.

He said It could, by a year's separation during which we would have no communcation with each other. pointed out the fact that since we live in the same neighborhood miles apart, in fact--it would be rather dimcult. Dad said we could manage to keep apart, nevertheless. I'm not afraid of Bill's love, or mine, fading. but am worried cause this seems such difficult thing to be forced to do.

V. B. ANSWER: Your father is very foolish, to put it mildly, to force this "test" separation. Since you and Bill were planning to forego marriage for another two years, and have quite evidently matured beyond the impetuosity of adolescence. you seem capable of managing your own affairs, The two- year waiting period should be sufficient test of your affections.

PROJECT MAY BACKFIRE Experimenting with love is a dangerous thing, and has an unhappy faculty of backfiring with tesults that are offtimes tragic. Your Dad's efforts to maneuver your lives into the grooves he selecta may be well intentioned but they are woefully Ill directed. The emotional strain of being held incommunicado from someone you are bound to see in the normal course of day's events, and being forced to meet new men Just to satisfy your father's theories, would be enough to break any spirit. Bill, course, being made and possessed patience than you, la more vulnerable. Regardless of how much he loves you, loneliness la a most difficult condition to fight.

You are both placed in position where, lacking the security of loved one's presence, you are open to the temptation of other dates, with a consequent, and unjustined, mutual loss of confidence. Of course, con highly probable that since you are both young people of high principle, sincerely in love and determined to do the right thing, you will get through the year without undue stress. After all, year la a relatively short period. To prove something that ently is already well established, namely, the fact that you and Bill love each other, Dad is taking rather an unnecessary risk with his theories. A -minded parent is most difficult person to convince, but I do hope that some persuasion can be used to convince your father that he is wrong.

DEAR MISS DIX: About two months ago my husband stopped giving me his pay check. He doesn't like my tolks and says that until I give them up completely he won't give me any more money. We have three children. 8. T.

R. ANSWER: See the Family Court in your city. Your husband cannot stop supporting his family simply because he doesn't care for his inlaws. DEAR MISS DIX: After going with me for two years, my boy friend has suddenly decided he wants to go with a variety of girlssome nice, and some not so nice. Are these Ideas normal for boy of 16, or do you think it is an cuse to get rid of me? J.

M. ANSWER: What constitutes normalcy in an, adolescent boy? Volumes would probably required to cover all the facts of such question. In your friend's case, he has probably acquired some older and bolder friends who have given him ideas too advanced for his years. I'll warrant if his family hears of them, speedy measures will be taken to quell the young man's independence. Don't be hesitant to let him see your disapproval his friends, and let him know that.

if he keeps quest onable company. you will have nothing more to do with him. DEAR DOROTHY DIX: My band and I have been married three years; we are both 25. Soon after the wedding, his sister and brother moved in with us. She's 17 and he 18 19.

Even though she has quit school, she won't even try to get job, nor will she help me around the house. (The boy works but gives me nothing for room and t-ard. My husband says we shouldn't expect anything from them. B. T.

A. ANSWER: Your husband couldn't possibly be more wrong I. The worst Injustice he can do his brother and sister in to permit them to grow up with no feeling of responsibility. since you and your husband are netAng in of parenta to these SERVING ON COMMITTEE for the supper and "hard dance at the Dutchess Golf and Country club, Saturday night, will be Mrs. EDGAR PETROVITS.

Dr. Archie L. Neighbors is chairman of the entertainment committee. Thistle Club Meeting Slated at Dressel Home Members of the Ladies Thistle club will meet 8 o'clock, tomorrow night, at the home of William Dressel, 24 Woodlawn avenue. Todd, Mrs.

Wilson and Mrs. Hostesses compelped -Mrs. Frazer Alexander Anderson. Mrs. W.

Irving Clark will preside at the meeting. Others to Attend Vassar Club Meeting Others having made reservations for the meeting of the Poughkeepsie Vassar club tonight in the Vassar Alumnae house are Mrs. Wallace C. Bedell, Miss Eleanor A. Gumbinger, Miss Ruth Halstead, Mrs.

Arthur Jones, Mrs. Hilda Lane, Mrs. Harry Shayo and Dr. Barbara Stimson. Arlington Reformed Church Plans Turkey Supper, Bazaar Plans have been completed for the turkey supper and bazaar, day night, at the Arlington ed church.

Mrs. Carl J. Snyder is chairman of the supper and Mrs. Clayton Seeber, chairman of the tickets. Mrs.

Watson Santord and Mrs. Irwin Travis, are co of the dining room assisted by Miss Doris Nichols, Miss Joan Dingee, Miss Betty Yerry, Mrs. Harold Storm, Mrs. Erwin Coons, Mrs. George Relyea, Mrs.

Ethel Nielson, Mrs. Wilton Broas, Mrs. Robert Sackett. Others assisting include Mrs. Leonard Dingee; Mrs.

Ray Yerry, Mrs. Willard Vrooman, Mrs. Joseph Daley and Mrs. William Hendrick, kitchen committee: Mrs. Irving McCandlish, Mrs.

Atherton Marshall, Mrs. John Schmalberger, Mra. Samuel Rightmyer, Mrs. Danlel Sanford and Mrs Rosa VanVliet, bazaar committee; Miss Mary Overocker Miss Sara VanVoorhis, dessert and Irwin Travis, Watson Sanford and Ray Yerry, coffee. Anne Adams 4871 SIZES 6-14 Busy mom look! Sewing is simple, and just count all the ways to vary this outfit for school days and Sundays! Make the jerkin and skirt in tartan plaid, blouse in contrastcolor cotton.

She'll love the entire ensemble! Pattern 4871: Girls' Sizes 6, 8, 10, 12, 14. Size 10 jerkin and skirt, 24 yards 30-inch; blouse, yards 35- inch. This pattern easy to use, simple to sew, la tested for nt. Has complete Illustrated instructions. Send Thirty cents in coins for this pattern--add 5 cents for each pattern if you wish 1st-class mailing.

Send to ANNE ADAMS. care of Poughkeepsie New Yorker 138 Pattern 243 West 17th St. York 11, Y. Print plainly NAME, ADDRESS with ZONE, SIZE and STYLE NUMBER. No.

Sine Name Street Address City State Muriel Lawrence The Mature Parent On our radio, feminine voice said, "Yes, in my new book, I come right out and warn girls that they will lose men's respect if they go in for heavy necking before marriage. I think The volce was snapped off. "That old line!" said a young guest disgustedly. "Why should men lose respect for girls for doing something before marriage- and keep respect for us for doing the same thing after marriage?" Ann is 16. I said, "Would you feel happy and comfortable making love to man you weren't married to?" My young guest wriggled.

"Well she began. She has no mother and so I made relittle speech. comfortable- I said, or you "You wouldn't wriggle at the idea. The answer to question is that men lose respect for girls who engage In sex activity before marriage, not because they have engaged in sex ACtivity, but because they have cooperated in a sneaky, defant experlence. What loses the respect is not sex activity, but the fact that the girl has shown herself to be an uncertain person who others make up her mind for her." "A man would lose some respect for.

you, too. you. told. him you were on diet -and then let him persuade you into eating two banana spilts. There's nothing the matter with men that isn't the matter with us, too.

We can't rerespect people who believe one thing -and do another. Neither can they." Someone has given Ann the 1m- pression that sex activity in itself means loss of male respect. So she is a little defiant on the subject. This impression often makes girls unhappy. 80 we should Young, great care to point out that this loss of male respect occurs only when two people do not take legal and moral responsibility for the sex activity.

We don't want to confuse them by implying that the sex activity is the bad thing, when the bad thing the refusal to take proper responsibility for it. Sex is not the enemy of our girl children, but Joy and communication. The enemy is terror of uncertainty, secret defiance and the romantic imaginations that express themselves in irresponsible behavior, as well AS premature sex activity. These are the real destroyers- -and wise sex instruction must make this clear. 80 I said to the child who has no mother, "Men keep their respect for us when we make love after marriage because marriage enables us to take responsibility for the lovemaking.

We have earned the Joy and so we can make love openly, proudly and decisively." Time was when parents thought It sufficient to say, "Don't let him go too far making love to you--or he will lose respect for you." That not sumelent, for we cannot vide sex morality from other morality like that and expect to make any sense. Our sex instruction has to be part of all our moral instruction, so that we say, "Don't let anyone at all go. too far in persuading you to forsake what you know 1s good and responsible for you to do." (All rights reserved, NEA Bervice, Inc.) Fraternal Calendar 5311 TONIGHT Ah Theres, 244 Church street, p. m. 31st anniversary.

Ladies' auxiliary of Lafayette post, American Legion, post home, 8 Hallowe'en party. Alice Cary Risley tent, Daughters of Union Veterans of the Civil war, 19 North Clover street, 8 p. m. Social. Obed lodge, Free and Accepted Masons, Masonio temple, 7:30 p.

m. Second degree. TOMORROW Poughkeepsie lodge of Odd Fellows, 201 Main street, 8 p. m. Poughkeepsie lodge.

Free and Accepted Masons, Masonic temple, 8 p. m. John 'Livingstone American Legion post, Hudson River state hospital, post home, 8 p. m. Shekomeko chapter, Order of the Eastern Star, Pleasant Valley, Masonic hall, 8 p.

m. Hudson Valley Rebekah lodge, Hyde Park, 1007 hall, 8 p.m. 8 and 40 society, installation dinner, Smith Brothers, 6:30 p.m. Poughkeepsle Chapter, Toastmasters; French Pastry shop, 6:15 p. m.

Lafayette Rebekah lodge, Wappingers, TOOP hall, 8 p. m. auxiliary, City of. keepste post, Veterans of Foreign, Wars, 220 Mill street, p. m..