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III 11 iH.h i Itam wrriBilhi lwNiiiif ourcr Classifieds inside vr. PoucihUcepsic 3ournal LIFE Advice TV listings Comics RAY FASHONA, LIFE EDITOR 845 437 4883 riashoria0oughkeepsiejOumal.com SATURDAY; NOVEMBER 26, 2005 OUR TURN How you live is how Getting himself dressed, hitting a baseball arid adding, two arid two. just a few of the things tried to teach my son, Nate, with varying degrees of success over his first three years of life. Obviously, that's abig part of being a parent teach ing your children. Not just teaching them to do things on their.own, $iit teaching them the ways of the world, So.when it was time to rake, the leaves on a recent Sunday morning, Nate came put to help.

We talked about getting all the leaves into a pile in the middle of the yard and then bagging As I gathered jeaves in one corner of the yard and began pulling them joward the middle, Nate was working in the opposite direction. His head was down, his lit' tie fake scraping the ground, as he kept saying, "This is hard work This is hard work," in a voice that spuridr ed as if he was really straining to doit. He wasn't learning, to rake the leaves to the point where J. could have gone inside for another cup of Coffee; But hewas learning the value of hard work, if nothing else. When we made 6tr way to pur.

small front yard; where the bulk of the fallen leaves were, we; quickly gathered them in a pile and he fan and jumped into the pile over and over. I stood by, tending to the pile after each jump so he always had a soft landing. He was soon worn put arid we sat on our front steps for abreak But the little, gardening shovel on our porch caught his eye arid he decided he was. going to dig around in the garden a bit. Hedug up clumps of dirt, looking fof worms.

'TWs is hard work. This is hard work," he said under his breath. Then, he suddenly looked "Daddy, we. work hard because rhe arid you are men," he said. Forging a bond That a son was trying to be like a father is no surprise.

That we seemed tp be forging this bond around work' irig together made me; feel proud. that feeling was quickly dashed, when he added, "Mommy and J.psie are women" and they can't work hard." As temptirigas it was for moment to jort of beat my chest and begin the "Men, men; men men! Men, men, men, menl" chant, I Josie, his riionth old sister, can't work because she's just a baby, I explained. Mommy works yery hard, T.iold him; as do plenty of Pther'wpnien. Being a man of a worrian a concept he is really just starting: to grasp has nothing to do with being able to work hard, or achieye anything in life. Thfere was no visible evidence to verify, he understood no shirt pulled over his head, no ball whizzing past me for a clean hit arid no hand holding four fingers 1 to tell me the answer.

a parent, sometimes you just have to sort of close your eyes and hope that what you say and do are enough to show the difference between right and wrong. Our Turn appears Satur dayslriLife.li'smeanitocap tufe the lifestyles of twenty? and thirty somethings. This edxtioriofOurTumisbyJour county government reporter Anthony 'Farmer. He can be reached at apfarm erpoughksKJournalc6m. Start holiday festivities tonight Visitors tour Cold Spring by candlelight By Angela Batchelor For the Poughkeepsie Journal; Kick off the holiday season in a scenic arid historic village at the third annual Cold Spring by Candleiight celebration Saturday from 3 tp8p.m.

puring the event, subtitled Holiday; arid Shopping on Main Street America, stores stay open late, restaurants offer specials arid self guided tours are offered of five historic hoiis1 "We've created a destina tion eVerit that people can attend eyery Rand ptten, of development; for Partner, Achieve, Reach, organizes the celebration. "It's one open hpUse. in Gold Spring, worideffully collaborated between the. village, chamber of trpmrnerce, arid PARC Proceeds from the event go to PARC, a nonprofit organization providing programs and services for deVel' Opmeritally; disabled children and aduhs, inPutriafri County. Visitors can park free "throughput the.

village arid WalkarourkL Sites not revealed Locations of historic houses are not released to visitors until the day of the tour, arid attendees will not know until Saturday which homes they will tour; I iowever, one site visitors can expect to seels the Hudson. House tnri, the oldest operating iri New York state. Owner Regina Bei said guests Will take a Walk through the property, see original pictures of the inn and hear a brief talk; ab6ut it. "We have participated in the tours very year," Bel said; "AMe give put complimentary hot cider and arid visitors rnill around andcari have a glass of wine. It's great turnout," At Cold Spring Ice Cream next to the Depot Restaurant, visitors can purchase raffle tickets to win a five dayfour' night Fall Foliage Getaway to The Lamp Light Inn Bed BreaWast in Lake Luzerrie.

"Unique historic homes, unique gift shops, all decorated like a Currier lyes print; plus our small town hospitality, will make'Cpld Spring by Candlelight an authentic; holiday said Jonathan Kruk, a well known local storyteller who will be part of this year's event; City shows Spirit tp IB Wfflm What: Cold.Spring by Candlelight, holiday celebration featuring historic house tours, storytelling, music and more, Where: Main Street, Village of Cold Spring, PutnarrvCourify. When: Today, 38. p.m., tickets: $25; $20, senior citizens; $15, kids under age 10 Information: Visit www.PktnamARC.6rg or call 845 278 PABC (7272) ext.287. The last flower? HH 'ir: i Actor wha starred in Karate Kid? dies The Associated Press Actpr: Pat Morita, whose portrayal of the wise and dry witted Mr. Miyagi in "The Karate Kid' earned him an.

Oscar nomination, has died He was 73. Morita died Thursday at his home in LasVegas of natural causes, said his wife of 12 years, Evelyn, She said in: a statemient that her husband, who first rose to fame with a role on "Happy pays," "dedicated his entire life, to; acting and comedy." In 1984, he appeared in the role that would define his career and spawn countless imitations. As Kesuke Miyagi, the mentor to Ralph Macchio's "paniel san," he taught karate whale trying catch flies with chopsticks arid offering such advice as "wax oriwax off to guide Daniel throilgh chores to improve his skills. He lost the 1084 best supporting actor award to Hairig S. Ngor, who appeared in "The Killing Fields." For years; Morita played, small and sometimes demeaning, roles in such as Thorbughly Mod erri' Millie" and 'TV: series such as "The' Odd and "Green Acres." His first breakthrough came with "Happy Days," and he fol lowed with his own brief series, "Mr.

and Tina." Worked with Swank The Karate Kid," led to three sequels, the last of which, 1994's. ''The Next Karate Kid," paired him with a young Hilary Svyarifc Morita was prolific outside' of the "Karate, Kid" series as well, appearing in "Horiey A 'a The Associated Press Pat. who died Thursday, was 73, rnoori in ''Spy Hard? "Even i Cowgirls Get the Blues" and 'The Center of the World." "He also provided the voice for a charactr.in the bisriey movie Bom in northern California on June 28, 1932, the spri of 'migrant fruit 'pickers, Morita spent most of his early years in the hospital, with spinal tubefculosisiHe later recovered onlyto. be Seiit to a Japanese American internment camp in Arizona dur "One day I was an invalid," he recalled in a 1989 interview, "The next lay I was public enemy No. being escorted to an iiiternment camp by an FBI agent wearing a After the war, Morita's family, tried to repair; their finances by operating a Sacramento restaurarit.

It was; there that Morita first tried Ws Comedy on patrons. Morita is survived bv his wife and three daughter from previous marriage. John, partner will tie civil knot at eetemoiiy Spencer AlnsleyPoughkeepsie Opurrial Despite; recent cold nights across. the: Hudson Valley, a tbne daisy; struggled earlier this week to; reach the warm rays of the sun. near Route 9 in Poughkeepsie.

Rock star Elton John says he and his partner David Furnish plan a small, private ceremony next month to seal their civil partnership under; new British legislation offering gays many of legal protections available to married heterosexuals. "It'll be. a very small family affair, and.then in the evening there'll be a soiree spmewhere, which we have yet to work out," John said. "But the ceremony itself will be David's parents and "my parents and the rwo.of us. They'll be pur witnesses.

That's the way we want to do The cererriony will; be held Dec 21, the effective date of the legislation creating civil partnerships. FurriisH, a Canadian born filrrimaker, and John have been together for 12 years. The Associated Press Pet of the week Nancy Best Kittens in alt colors are available for adoption at the SPCAshelter in Hyde Park. If you would like to add playful addition to your home, call. the shelter at 845 452 7722.

For a look at the many other dogs and cats that call the shelter turn to page 2D, GOODUFE IN THE MID HUDSON VALLEY isyp''' "a Hi'9BiCrS I I II. I I I llll Mil'" ppapMMiiiiiiiiwiM Tnirrrii Miiii i nrr rrr A Landers gathering Four generations of the Lander farnity gathered recendy during a get together in Marbletown; Attending the Landers blowout were, from left, Kenneth Carl Lan ders III, Kenneth Carl landers Carl E. Landers and Kenneth Carl LaridersSr. They Uve in Staatsburg and own Landers Construction. Students' raise trip money Chancellor Living School fifth graders will hold a fundralsing spaghetti dinner Dec.

3 at the Church of the Messiah parish hall, Montgomery Rhinebeck, from 5 to 8 Cost is $5 for children under $12. All proceeds go to the class whale watch trip. Call 845 876 8818, Good Life is a collection of observations about life itt the mid Hud' son Valley. Your comments are welcome. Call 437 4979, This Good Life by Journal staff.

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