Carrol Daily Times Herald from Carroll, Iowa on March 30, 1976 · Page 14
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Carrol Daily Times Herald from Carroll, Iowa · Page 14

Carroll, Iowa
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Tuesday, March 30, 1976
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More Single lowans Adopt Children, But Find Process is Slow-Moving By Chris Wagner (Drake University Journalism Student) DES MOINES — Brian is an adopted 12-year-old boy without a mother. But he doesn't seem to mind having one parent. His father said Brian is just as happy as a child with two parents. 4-H News TEMPLETON — The Templeton Trooperettes 4-H Club met in the school cafeteria Wednesday evening March 24 at 7 p.m. Pledge of Allegiance was led by Janice Sturm. The 4-H pledge was led by Tammy Irlbeck. Roll call was answered with "My Favorite Color Combinations." Illustrated talks were given by Marci Klocke on "A Look of Line in Nature," Kathy Bueltel on "Variety of Shapes and Forms in Nature," Joleen Brian's father, who will be referred to as Mr. Patterson because he did not want his real name used, was one of 11 single lowans to adopt a child in 1974. He had a hard time adopting Brian, however. It took him 10 years. Why so long? Patterson, who is now in his 40s, said he Irlbeck on "A Look at Balance and Proportion." Lauri Bueltel gave a talk on "Color in the Home," Connie Irlmeier on "Related and Contrasting Color Harmony," and Jo Ann Stevens on "Rhythm and Emphasis in Furnishings." Demonstrations were given by Julie Balk on "Making a Nature Collage," and by Gina Rupiper on "A Look at Texture." Slides on "Awareness in Environment" were shown by Mrs. Tom Schmitz and Narrated by Mrs. Gary Rupiper. Hostesses were Janice Irlmeier and Sharon Stevens. Bowling Results CITY LEAGUE Team Standings Points Knights of Columbus 67 Coon Bowl 62V: Pin Oaks 61'/j Kelly Coin 60'/j Carroll Bowl 59'/j Quandt Junkers 58'/j Dearduff's 57 Budwelser 53 Deckers 53 Schlitzers 4l'/i Little Gus's 41'/2 Mr. D's 41'/2 Schroeder Carpet 30 Rotert Construction, 12 High Ind. Single Game- Mai Foley 225 Jack Carlson 224 Dan Quandt 221 High Ind. Three Games- Steve Quandt 609 Mai Foley 606 Gary Quandt 601 High Team Single Game— Quandt Junkers 973 Quandt Junkers 963 Kelly Coin 952 High Team Three Games— Ouandt Junkers 2774 Kelly Coin 2757 Carroll Bowl 2673 EAGER BEAVERS LEAGUE Team Standings Points Carroll Lumber 78'/j Sir Patrick's 76 Elks 75 Bauer Livestock 73 Whaley Chevrolet 69 Olsen & Muhlbauer 59V; Dearduff's 55 Kerp's 52 Tony's Lounge 47 Gold Crest 45 Schlitzers 45 ServiceMaster 41 Ed-Mar 40'/j Petersen Motors 27'/2 High Ind. Single Game- Pat Ruhde 204 Eileen Petersen 201 Elva Bernholtz 200 High Ind. Three Games— Elva Bernholtz 561 Polly Hathcock 554 Pat Ruhde 532 High Team Single Game— Olsen & Muhlbauer B80 Schlitzers 856 Whaley Chevrolet 855 High Team Three Games- Bauer Livestock 2471 Olsen & Muhlbauer 2453 Schlitzers 2412 Latex Flat Enamel the ultimate in wall decor • One finish for walls, trim and doors| —use in any room • Gives you the durability and wash ability of an enamel in a flat finish • Professional-looking results—flows on smoothly with no streaking • Hundreds of unique and distinctive colors Now Only Ml.50* gal. White and standard colors. Custom-mixed colors slightly higher. * Savings based on manufacturer's suggested retail price. NOW Ml 50 Save $3.00 Bierl's East Edge of CARROLL, Hwy. 30 Ph. 792-4318 was discriminated against because he was a male and a single parent. "Most of the people who interviewed me were elderly women," said Patterson, who teaches retarded children and lives on a small farm near Des Moines. "I think they had closed minds to begin with." Patterson recalled how one Iowa adoption agency said it would have to be scraping the bottom of the barrel before it would let him adopt a child. No one was able to give him a good reason for not being able to adopt a child, he said. Most people don't think a man can raise a child alone. Patterson said, adding that men should be given a chance to prove otherwise. v Patterson said he can provide just as good a home as two parents can because he is financially able to care for a child and can offer a good living environment. "I have ponds to fish in, woods to hunt in and animals to care for," Patterson said. Miriam Turnbull, director of adoptions for the Iowa Department of Social Services, said, "I would not refuse to consider an adoption request from a single parent but I would rather place a child in a two-parent home because I think a child needs two parents." Single-parent adoptions are increasing in Iowa. In 1972 there were five single-parent adoptions, in 1973 there were six and in 1974 there were were 11. But many adoption Tlmei Harold, Carroll, la. Tuesday, March 30, 1976 14 agencies still feel that single people should not adopt a child. Ann Kopf, an adoption specialist for the state, said some discrimination exists against single parents. "I think adoption agencies ideally are looking for two-parent families. Single parents are at the bottom of the list and if they do get a child, it is usually one that is in the hard-to-adopt category." Why do most single people want to adopt a child? Patterson said he decided on adoption after he took care of a boy from a broken home for a year. "I just wanted to feel loved and needed and I thought a child could make me feel this way," he said. Betty Wilson is a black, Des Moines divorcee who adopted two girls after having two boys of her own. "I came from a family of nine children so I wanted to have more than two kids," she said. Mrs. Wilson, who preferred not to have her real name mentioned, did not have to wait as long as Patterson did to adopt a child — but it still took four years. She said some agencies were more receptive to her because she already had two children. She also said she had an advantage over most single male applicants because she was female. "Many adoption agencies don't like to work with single people because they think single people are too picky abtfut the kind of child they want," she said. An adoption worker suggested Mrs. Wilson put her name in the National Arena, a nationwide listing of people who want to adopt a child. Mrs.'Wilson said her name was only on the list for six months when she found her two girls. Within a month after she was notified of her girls, they were living with her. Neither single parent has had any serious problems with the adopted children. Both parents encourage open and honest communication between them and their children in an attempt to solve problems quickly and easily. "I had a long talk with Brian just last night," said Mr. Patterson. "I asked him if I was doing anything that bothered him and then he asked me if he was doing anything that bothered me." Mrs. Wilson also" has some heart-to-heart talks with her girls. She said her younger girl, who/changed families frequently, was very apprehensive when she first came to live with her six months ago. "She needed to have me tell her that she was here to stay and that she wouldn't be moved around again," said Mrs. Wilson. Both single parents feel they can provide the role of mother and father adequately, and they have friends and relatives of the opposite sex who act as surrogate parents to their children. Interior Latex Flat Wall Paint • High hiding • Easy application • Rich flat sheen • Colors resist fading Soap and water clean-up Now Only <5.99* gal. 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