Ukiah Daily Journal from Ukiah, California on June 5, 1998 · Page 13
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Ukiah Daily Journal from Ukiah, California · Page 13

Ukiah, California
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Friday, June 5, 1998
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THE UKIAH DAILY JOURNAL -FRI., JUNE 5-SAT., JUNE 6, 1998—B-5 Time out Newsday Crossword LA-LA LEADERS by A.J. Santora Edited by Stanley Newman Second wife feels cheated Dear Ann Landers: I love my husband very much. He has three children from a previous marriage. His two daughters are married now, and the one son is still single, living on his own. They grew up with their mom and stepdad. When they became teenagers, their mother didn't want them hanging around, so we took the kids in. They almost destroyed our marriage and my emotional health. ' Then, the kids went off to college. None of them finished. We have paid for two weddings and two baby showers. I don't even want to think about how many cars we paid for that they have wrecked. The oldest daughter came over one day and cried about how she and her husband wanted a house and couldn't afford it. So, my good-hearted husband went out and got a loan for their down payment. The second daughter is now counting the days. Her father promised that he would do the same for her. We are not rich people, Ann. We go from paycheck to paycheck. I never have complained abput my husband's loyalty to his first family. Unfortunately, we never had any children of our own. He said we couldn't afford it. Now, I am the step-grandmother of three. J always felt there was something missing in my life. I now realize it is the warm and loving relationship between children and parents I had with my own father and mother. I do not have thqse mother-daughter shopping days, the long talks and the special moments. I am not included ANN LANDERS in my stepchildren's lives. We see the kids only when they want something. They have never invited us over. I have two questions: When does the second wife become first in her marriage? The stepchildren are now starting their families - where is mine? •• Tired of Being Second in Cleveland Dear Cleveland: The second wife becomes first when she asserts herself and lets her husband know that she will not tolerate being pushed aside while his first wife and children treat her shabbily. If you need a starting point, show your husband this letter and tell him it was written by you. Dear Ann Landers: I work as a bank teller. A month ago, I fell on the steps of my home and fractured my right arm. After a week of sick leave, I returned to work with my arm in a cast, happy to be up and doing something constructive. What I didn't realize was that practically every person who came to my teller window seemed to find it necessary to inquire about my injury. "Oh, my heavens - what happened to your arm?" When I say, "I fell and broke it," most people won't stop there. They want to know all the details or feel the need to regale me with stories of their own injuries, which, of course, are endless and boring. I serve approximately 150 people a day, and fully 100 are "askers." What these "interested" folks don't realize is that every comment or question reminds me vividly of the pain and trauma of the accident. By the end of my shift, I am ready to cry. I hope this letter will help your readers understand that when they encounter someone, particularly a stranger, who has obviously had a traumatic experience, it is kinder to let courtesy override curiosity. •- Fed Up in Oregon Dear Oregon: Please don't be so hard on the questioners. It is only human nature, when one sees a crutch, a black eye or a bandaged arm, to ask, "What happened?" A simple response (no organ recital) is all that is expected. Simply say, "I fell," and change the subject. Lonesome? Take charge of your life and turn it around. Write for Ann Landers' new booklet, "How to Make Friends and Stop Being Lonely." Send a self-addressed, long, business- size envelope and a check or money order for $4.25 (this includes postage and handling) to: Friends, do Ann Landers, P.O. Box 11562, Chicago, III. 60611-0562. A dream honeymoon in Hawaii Dear Ann Landers: Last weekend, we celebrated my parents' 50th wedding anniversary. This morning, they left on a long- awaited trip to Hawaii. They were as excited as if it were their honeymoon^ '-.When they had only' enough money for a three-day trip 50 miles from home. They made a pact that each time they made love, they would put a dollar in a special metal box and save it for a honeymoon in Hawaii for their 50th anniversary. Dad was a policeman, and Mom was a schoolteacher. They lived in a modest house and did all their own repairs. Raising five children was a challenge, and sometimes, money was short, but no matter what emergency came up, Dad would not let Mom take any money out of the "Hawaii account." As the account grew, they put it in a savings account and then bought CDs. My parents were always very much in love. I can remember Dad coming home and telling Mom, "I have a dollar in my pocket," and she would smile at him and reply, "I know how to spend it." When each of us children married, Mom and Dad gave us a small metal box and told us their secret, which we found enchanti- ng. All five of us are now saving for our dream honeymoons. Mom and Dad never told us how much money they had managed to save, but it must have been considerable because when they cashed in those CDs, they had enough for airfare- to Hawaii plus hotel accommodations for 10 days and plenty of spending money. As they told us goodbye before leaving, Dad winked and said, "Tonight, we are starting an account for Cancun. That should only take 25 years." -- Loving Daughter in Abilene, Texas Dear Loving Daughter: I don't know when I have read a more heartwarming story. Your parents were marvelous role models for their five children. Please give them my warm, good wishes on their 50th, and ask them to drop me a postcard from Hawaii. It is truly one of the most romantic garden spots in all the world. Dear Ann Landers: In one of your recent columns, you printed a poem by Charles Osgood called "Pretty Good." I thought your readers might enjoy the enclosed poem, even though I don't know who wrote it. I found it enlightening and hope you will print it. -Winona, Miss. Dear Winona: So did I. Here it is: Good Enough Isn't Good ACROSS 1 At the drop of_ 5 Tommy Chong's daughter 8 Smudges 13 Sonora sir 15 Rugged auto: Abbr. 16 Ship deck 17 Volatile liquid 18 Colbert role 20 Groom's reply 21 Knowing 23 Hellion 24 Frank Jr.'s sister 27 Chopper 28 Gibson, in Lethal Weapon 29 Spore sacs 31 Onetime Delhi queen 34 Pituitary hormone 36 Discernment 39 Fat substitute 41 Part of Kansas' motto 43 Former Japanese capital 44 In the pink? 46 Biblical twin 47 Bobbsey sister etal. 49 Do-nothing 51 Pack animal? 53 Like some nutrition 58 Conception 60 Alarm hearer 61 Jackie's second 62 Quadrilaterals 64 Bits 66 Stage area 67 Size abbr. 68 Levels off 69 Defensive effort 70 WWII craft 71 _ plata (Montana's motto) DOWN 1 In (agitated) 2 Swiss miss 3 Composer Bruckner 4 High rock 5 Petty vehicle 6 Minimally 7 Shotput, for one 8 Jeweler's tool 9 Oman man 10 They're far out 11 Detergent ingredient 12 Outpouring 14 One of Lou Grant's reporters 19 Another. Sp. 22 George Bums trademark 25 Grain appendage 26 The Charles' dog 30 Barracks 31 Certain Asian soldier 32 _ Khan 33 Aquarium fish 35 Valuable property 37 This puzzle's theme 38 French water 40 Singer Braxton 42 Research 45 TV appearances 48 Hitch 50 Strange 51 Moreno and Rudner 52 Expert 54 Memorable bridge guarder 55 Western 56 Word form for "heavens" 57 Fraidy-cat 59 Elvis Presley 63 Connecting word 65/«>_(fTomthe beginning) Enough My child, beware of "good enough," It isn't made of sterling stuff; It's something anyone can do; It marks the many from the few. 'The flaw.which may escape the eye And temporarily get by Shall weaken underneath the strain And wreck the ship, the car or plane. With "good enough," the car breaks down, And one falls short of high renown. My child, remember and be wise, In "good enough," disaster lies. With "good enough," the shirkers stop In every factory and shop; With "good enough," the failures rest And lose the one who gives the best. Who stops at "good enough" shall find Success has left them far behind. For this is true of you and your stuff-Only the best is "good enough." CREATORS SYNDICATE ® 1998 STANLEY NEWMAN Eugenia Last CELEBRITIES BORN ON THIS DAY: Sandra Bernhard, Bjorn Borg, Amanda Pays, Maria Montez JUNE 6, 1998 Happy Birthday: You're your own worst enemy when you don't consider the rights of others. Selfish gestures will result in long-term grief. Compromise and you'll have the world by the tail. If you're wise and thoughtful, you'll choose the options that will bring the highest rewards this year. Don't give in to temptations that others dangle in front of you. Your numbers: 4, 13,19,28,37,46 ARIES (March 21-April 19): Expect things around home to be hectic. Friends who have problems may be looking for advice. You may not want to get involved, but the choice will not be yours. 3 stars TAURUS (April 20-May 20): Have patience with the ones you love. Insecurities will lead to jealousy and discord in your relationship. Try to sort things out by talking honestly about your concerns. 3 stars GEMINI (May 21-June 20): Don't get involved in others' problems. You'll find it hard to be faithful to your mate if you . end up going to most functions by yourself. Opportunities for romance will be plentiful. 3 stars CANCER (June 21-July 22): Don't stop doing the things you love just because they're not bringing you the returns you're looking for. Don't give up on your dreams now or they will never pay off. 5 stars LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): Those around you will be on edge and disagreeable. Make sure that it isn't due to something you did or said. You might want to do something special just in case. 2 stars VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Problems with in-laws may cause bitter disputes at family gatherings. Don't let others get involved in your personal life. Get together with friends who aren't likely to interfere. 4 stars LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): You can make changes to your home if you do the work yourself. Overspending on big jobs Answer to previous puzzto ICIRIAIBI DHHH EJDllQ QQHEQ BBH HQQ HEH LJIJU HEIED HUH QHHQ HDD QHH ana HEE HtaHina anna Qtaan CQSBC10 rannn Hcinci QQQHH HDHB HEE0 that require contractors will result in financial setbacks and unfinished work when you run out of cash. 3 stars SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Don't expect your partner to pick up on your signals. Spell out your needs if you want them to be met. Don't be so shy. You'll never get what you want if you sit back and wait. 3 stars SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22- Dec. 21): Don't let depression get <o you. Just because things aren't going according to your plans doesn't mean that they can't turn out. Remember: Things always happen for a reason. 3 stars CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Communication skills will win you points. You'll persuade even the toughest opponents to think your way. You can move into a leadership position at organizational functions if you're persistent. 4 stars AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Don't put yourself out on the limb for someone else. You've worked too hard to get your life back in order and now is not the time to risk everything. 2 stars PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): Romantic opportunities will unfold through creative projects. Let your intuition lead you in the right direction. Start getting back to the things you enjoy the most. 5 stars Need advice? Call Eugenia at 900-484-7827. Your phone company will bill you $1.99 per minute. Birthday Baby: You were born with the gift of persuasiveness and diplomacy. You definitely know how to get what you want. You're a free thinker and a charming character who can easily accomplish all that you set out to do just by asking for help along the way. 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