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SATURDAY, MAY 23. 1381- THE INDIANArOUS STAR PAGE 9 Tl Com irec star Joyce DeWitt back home for '500' again It She's in town to serve as grand marshal of the "500" Festival Parade and couldn't be more excited. In fact, the 1967 Speedway High School graduate hadn't granted any interviews for almost a year until this occasion prompted ones for Indianapolis magazine and this By DONNA S. MLLLINIX How do you share an apartment with a male and a female friend in front of millions of people and still satisfy your very real need for privacy? Tisn't easy, but "Three's Company" TV star Joyce DeWitt has worked out her own solution during the four years since she has two convictions: (11 Her first responsibility is to be true to herself, not pummeled by the pressures of press and public, and (2) she doesn't think she's someone people ought to be so interested in. "Jimmy Stewart's the kind of person who should be interviewed." "BESIDES," bubbles the bright-eyed She isn't being difficult It's just that skn as a parent to "expose the child to everything I could, to allow him or her to develop with roots something solid to fall back on.

to count on and wings the urge to share the universe, to seek personal joy. with respect to the fact we share this planet." HER OWN childhood and youth here gave her solid footing, she believes, and the West Coast has provided a base for her career development, "but I hope with all my heart not to live in Los Angeles all my life. I like Colorado, and of course. I've always meant to be in New York. I started out on the stage.

That's my reality. I hope when this project ('Three's Company') is over, both pictures and stage will be interested in me." Most of her trips to Indianapolis are personal, and unhappily infrequent. Her parents live here and she values private time with them. Last visit was April of 1980. so she's not seen the city so gussied up for the race.

"It's beautiful," she exclaims. "I love the work they've done." JOYCE remembers one summer and several Mays working in the Indianapolis Motor Speedway ticket office. She is absolutely thrilled at the prospect of riding 'round the track amid "all those people with so much energy flowing" prior to the race Sunday. And she and sister Ruthie Musgrave, who handles her public relations, and brother-in-law Scott will view the race from the Tower. Today they attend a brunch before Joyce leads the parade, then the Borg-Warner reception and a private party.

Joyce was pleased to learn, upon arrival Thursday night, that Jenny Lee Harrison, costar this season with her and Jon Ritter on "Three's is participating also. "This is a great honor," Joyce says, "and if I didn't cooperate it would be like being named Queen for a Day and saying, 'Okay, but just mail me the crown')." A private person, Joyce DeWitt is. A rude, self-impressed boor she couldn't be. sne oecame tamous overnight. Pushie grandmas TVs Joyce DeWitt (right), actress, "I'm sure either to say some thing the wrong way or to change my mind by tomorrow! "I tried it both ways," she says.

"I have always been very independent and very private. In college I had one close friend and we were together 24 hours a day. I have a very small circle of friends now. So when the show was young, I shied away from publicity. Then the studio and some friends said, 'Oh, you've got to do this, it would be good for you, for the show, Now she's back to her way.

When she's in front of the camera, or on stage, or even here for the "500" Festival, she belongs to the world. Otherwise uh, uh. Sometimes she wants to be alone, and sometimes she's shy, and sometimes she's Just plain terrified, she admits. Joyce DeWitt seems to be a person who still has a lot of questions, but knows in which direction the answers lie. Brought up, she says, in a "strict Catholic setting," she has developed a philosophy which pretty much centers on universal love, she explains.

"IT'S NOT AN organized religion. I feel the need to interpret life and my spiritual self more in relationship to the universe. And at the center of it all is love." Perhaps because of her solid Midwestern upbringing here, she sees "marriage as the ideal state. But it would have to be with a man who would want to go through life with me hand in hand, side by side, with the relationship enriching both our selves, a man who would want and allow me to develop to the fullest." Since a relationship of eight years' duration (with TV actor Raymond Buk-tenika) ended in January 1980, "there have been no romantic involvements in my life no matter what you may have read," she says shaking her head in disbelief. She doesn't see herself in a mother role just yet practicing on my dog, Coconut, and so far people are still asking who is walking whom when I take him but she would see her mis- doesn't have to resemble a Chinese fire drill.

Keep smiling and remember a sense of humor can save the day. Don'f flunk your chemistry test. Love is more than one set of glands calling to another. If you have trouble making a distinction you need Ann's booklet, "Love or Sex and How to Tell the Difference. Send a long, self-addressed, stamped envelope with your request and 50 cents to Ann Landers, in care of The Indianapolis Star, P.O.

Box 11995, Chicago, 111. FM EnlwvritM Racing is a family affair for the Snevas. Drivers Jerry (left) and Tom provided power for their aunt Faye Chassie (front left) and mother Joan Sneva at the Pushie Grandmas race to "push M.S. right off the earth" at the Indianapolis Motor Speedway Friday. Mrs! Sneva is one of seven Pushie Grandmas who have been promoting the push against Multiple Sclerosis during the International Year of Disabled Persons.

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