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If the man had to, he wouldn't Mr. and Mrs. Ric Strong (Theresa Dreiling) Dreiling- Strong Theresa Dreiling, Ellsworth, became the bride of Ric Strong, also of Ellsworth, May 2 at the St. Bernard's Catholic Church, Ellsworth, the Rev. Louis Mattas, Salina, officiating.

Parents of the couple are Mrs. Shirley Dreiling and Mr. and Mrs. Arthur Strong, all of Ellsworth. The bride, escorted by her brother, David, wore a candlelight ivory gown trf chiffon, highlighted in sequins, seed pearls and Alencon lace, and featuring a chapel-length train.

Her mantilla veil, appliqued with lace flowers, was attached to a matching embroidered cap. Maid of honor and bridesmaids: Jane Rodenhouse, Tyler, Texas, and Lori Bell and Sandra Dreiling, Ellsworth. Best man and groomsmen: Butch Muehleisen and Roy Choitz, Ellsworth, and Jim Strong, Arnold. Other attendants: Mark Gwinner, Larry Herlan, Clinton Fletcher and Sommer Bell, Ellsworth. A reception followed in the Parish Hall of the church.

Mrs. Strong graduated from Ellsworth High School and Hutchinson Community College. She is a secretary at Cashco, Ellsworth. Her husband, also a graduate of Ellsworth High, is an electrician with Comfort Air in Ellsworth. After a honeymoon to Durango, the couple will be at home on Ellsworth Rt.

2, West Douglas. Mr. and Mrs. Tom Lamb (Kim Eilders) Eilders-Lamb Marriage vows were exchanged May 2 by Kim Eilders and Tom Lamb, both of Solomon, at the Mount Pleasant Presbyterian Church, Abilene. The Rev, J.

Lester Haspels officiated. The bride's parents are Betty Eilders, Abilene, and Arvin Eilders, Solomon. The groom is the son of Mrs. Catherine Lamb, Solomon. Musicians were Mrs.

Keith Lauer, Abilene, Julie Roof and Marianna Venneberg, Solomon. The bride chose a Qiana-knit gown featuring scallops of appliqued flowers and seed pearls, with venise lace edging the skirt which flowed into a chapel train. Her veil was edged in venise lace and attached to a headpiece of lace and seed pearls. Matron of honor and bridesmaids: Mrs. Wendall, Pittsburg; Lisa McCIain, Sabetha, and Myra Lundquist, Clifton.

Best man and groomsmen: J.R. Ryan, Alan Nelson, and Craig Denson, all of Solomon. Other attendants: Kandyce Eilders, Abilene; Crystal Denson, Solomon; Tonya Nelson, Fort Riley; LaDawn and Don Lamb, Clearmore, and Kent Eilders, Gypsum. Mr. and Mrs.

Richard Eilder, Lohrville, Iowa, assisted at the reception in the church. The bride graduated from Solomon High School and Cloud County Community College, Concordia. She worked as a welder at Hesston Corporation until her marriage. The groom is a graduate of Solomon High School. He is employed at the Solomon Co-op.

After a honeymoon, the newlyweds will live at Solomon Rt. 2. Dear Ann: I've had seven wonderful children. My husband always accompanied me to the hospital and was usually close enough to hear what went on in the delivery room. The births were all normal, but my doctor did not believe in any kind of help to relieve the pain.

His motto was "natural is always best." The last 30 minutes were sheer agony and I made quite a lot of noise. This seemed to embarrass my husband. He kept telling me to "pipe down" because I was upsetting the relatives in the waiting room and disturbing the patients on other floors. After our last child was bom he said he didn't know why I yelled so much. It seems he sprained his ankle the previous week and it hurt so bad he passed out.

He declared (with a good bit of bravado), "if having a baby was as rough as women let on, they would pass out, have the baby and when they came to it would be all over." Will you comment on his reasoning, please? And don't spare the horses. Wondering in Los Angeles ann landers Dear Wondering: Pass out and come to and it will be all over, eh? Doesn't the ignoramus know that the mother has to remain conscious and help push the baby down through the birth canal and the pain can be excruciating? I have long held the belief that, if Mother Nature reversed the charges and it was the man who had to carry the baby for nine months and then go through the delivery, the birth rate would be cut by 95 percent within 10 years. By the year 2,000 the human race would be extinct. -Cr Dear Ann: I am writing with the hope that you can come up with some suggestions to save my sister from a life of grief and trouble. Here's the story: Olive was living with this guy for two years.

They decided to get married. Everyone in the family disliked him intensely and was very upset about the way he treated Olive. She became pregnant and was thrilled. He said he was, too. (I never believed anything he said, including that.) They lived out of state, about 1,000 miles from here.

Olive suddenly found out he had been leaving the house at 6:30 a.m. to go to the apartment of a woman he met at work. Olive learned that on the nights he had worked late he had taken this woman to dinner. The poor kid packed up and came home. After three weeks Olive panicked about being a lone parent and had an abortion.

She then set out to make her own way returned to school, so she could teach, and was really making something of herself for the first time in her life. Now, out of the clear blue sky the hut announces she is going back to the bum. We are all furious. She refused to listen to anyone. Please tell us what we can do to stop this woman from ruining her life.

Family Living Up in Arms Dear Family: Some people have to put their feet in the fire before they will believe it is really hot. Olive Is one of those people. Stop trying to salvage her. Let Olive get her own blisters. Eventually she'll get the message.

Unfortunately, lessons that are hardest bought are best taught. Ann Landers discusses teenage drinking its myths, its realities. Learn the facts by reading "Booze and You For Teenagers Only," by Ann Landers. Send 50 cents and a long, self- addressed, stamped envelope to Ann Landers, P.O. Box 11995, Chicago, 111., 60611.

Study reveals men can be victims of rape New Wave swamps screen NEW YORK (UPI) There's an animated film in the works called "Drats" about a rock musician in a city of the future called Nuke York who is trying to bring forth a demon from another world. "Drats" is scheduled for release in Christmas of 1981, for reasons hard to explain. Earth Wind Fire have been commissioned to write material for the soundtrack, as have Cheap Trick, Blondie, Lou Reed and Iggy Pop. WICHITA, Kan. (UPI) Despite myths to the contrary, studies done by a Wichita State University researcher indicate that men often are victims of rape by women.

"Anybody can be raped male, female, young, old," said Dr. Mary Jeanette C. Hageman, a counselor at the Wichita Area Rape Center as well as an assistant professor of Administration of Justice at WSU. "But rape has been so associated with females that it's hard to look at it in the total perspective. Rape has been equated with sex.

And society thinks everybody wants sex, right? But that's not true People see rape as a sexual event, but it's not. It's a violent act." Although the FBI in 1975 began documenting cases of women arrested for rape there were 203 documented cases in 1978 the legal system has still tended to ignore the possibility of males being raped by women. And in Kansas, a man cannot be raped under the present definitions of the law. "You can have biological penetration, but it will be called sodomy or aggravated assault," said Ms. Hageman, who explained that only three states have changed their laws to make it possible for women to be prosecuted for rape.

But Hageman said a more crucial problem is the attitudes of the public and law professionals. One judge dismissed a case where a 35-year-old schoolteacher forced a 15-year-old boy to have sex with her. "The judge said it was an educational experience," Ms. Hageman said. Another great name from Zales collection of fine watches SEIKO Someday all watches will be made this way.

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Ms. Hageman said those misconceptions are evident in classes where she discusses the problem. "When I talk about male rape in the classroom, the guys' eyes light up and they say, 'Boy, I hope it's a she said. "But they don't realize it can be a very unpleasant situation. Three women and a knife coming at you is not a very nice situation.

"There are some real gutsy women out there. They do have knives. They are nasty." Ms. Hageman presented her research, "Male Rapes and Women Rapists," to the Academy of Criminal Justice Sciences in Philadelphia last month, and said the presentation turned into a sensitivity session as men volunteered their experiences with sexual harrassment. Ms, Hageman said female rapists can be either women who force another woman to have sex with a man, or women who overpower or bully a partner into submission.

She said rape sometimes occurs when a woman wants to humiliate a homosexual man. She said men can be just as vulnerable to rape because while they're generally stronger than a woman men don't take precautions since they feel rape can't happen to them. She cited an example: A Hutchinson, police officer is out on a date with a young woman. The evening is proceeding along just fine until the woman begins to force her in-. tentions on him.

He doesn't like the idea but the woman is very determined. He's confused because while he wants to resist he's been brought up never to use force against a woman. Before he realizes what has happened, he has become a male rape victim. "It's like the policeman who was raped," she said. "As it started to happen, he knew that wasn't what he wanted, but he was so confused he didn't know what to do.

He had all these conflicting thoughts running through his head. He didn't want to kill her, so what could he do? "He thought to himself, This can't happen to me. I'm a police officer. Men are Because of all this thinking, he was completely ineffective in dealing with the situation." Ms. Hageman began her research in an attempt to find if out if newly-liberated women were committing more crimes and more sex crimes.

"I went out to find if women raping men was part of the package deal of women becoming more aggressive," she said. Her research failed to show any definite correlation, but she thinks most cases are simply not reported. Ms. Hageman said the situation is similar to that of female rapes 10 years ago, when few were reported because victims were too embarrassed and humiliated. Women's Music Sponsored by Salina Chapter of National Organization lor Women Fest Time: Saturday, May 9, 8 pm Scheme, 123 N.

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