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Sunday, September 22, 1991
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E-2Advice, SCOOP THE CINCINNATI ENQUIRER Sunday. September 22, 1991 Dear Abby SCOOP A quick look at ideas, trends and people Eye examination took detour in an unwanted direction Photographer on the wings finds ABCs of butterflies Abby y VanBuren I 4 : t f u -O .y Nature's alphabet flutters on the wings of butterflies and moths. This we know because of Kjell Sandved, who trekked through 30 countries on five continents to find and photograph the letters A to Z and the 1 0 Arabic numbers in insects' wing designs. His search took 15 years. The result is a dazzlingly colorful alphabet poster, a reminder, Sandved says, of the delicacy and beauty found in nature. Sandved is a natural history photographer for the Smithsonian Institution. It was there, more than 25 years ago, that he first observed the letter F on the wing of a butterfly specimen. He photographed it and hung the print over his desk. More than a year later, he got the idea to find the rest of the alphabet. One unsigned poster is $12; each additional unsigned poster is $3.95. Signed posters are DEAR ABBY: I had my eyes examined by an ophthalmologist who should have had his head examined. I am considering sending HIM a bill for services inadvertently rendered. Let me explain: Dr. Toad (not his real name) must think that his female patients are so preoccupied with their eyes that they will not notice that the doctor's knee, arm, chest or whatever is pressing against them with more than ordinary pressure in this dark and very quiet examining room. (Actually, my knee was being sexually assaulted.) Had I said anything, he would have feigned unawareness of any undue familiarity and accused me of having a dirty mind. So, I decided to handle this in my own way. From now on, anyone who treats me like a lady for hire will get my bill in the mail. RUBBED WRONG WAY DEAR RUBBED: Anyone, male or female, who feels that a professional is behaving unprofessional should speak out immediately on reaching that conclusion. And should it happen a second time, a letter of complaint should be addressed to the county medical association. DEAR ABBY: That snob who wrote to you, fearing that her Miss Manners i wii ii Wear a sign The Soviet symbol of the hammer and sickle has turned from an ominous threat to a souvenir of days gone by. Now, you can even wear it on a T-shirt without making anybody angry. Colorful T-shirts ($17.50) and posters ($12.50 unframed; $55 framed) depicting the hammer and sickle with a sunburst and stalks of wheat, are being sold in conjunction with an exhibition of 80 posters of the Soviet Union at Winn Art The hottest new cuisine A single source for safety $14. First-edition posters signed and numbered with embossed ; gold seal and certificate of ; authenticity are $18. Shipping ' and handling: $3.50. ' Write Kjell B. Sandved, P.O. : Box 39138, Washington, D.C. 1 20016. Or call 800-ABC-WING.; JOHN JOHNSTON New Mexico POOD PRODUCTS QATALOG SUMMER 1991 send $1 to 2405 Maclovia Lane, Santa Fe, N.M. 87501. MARY BETH CROCKER jl Today's emphasis on emotion makes her uncomfortable People seem to have an inordinate amount of interest nowadays in their own feelings. First they put an enormous effort into examining themselves, in the hope of discovering what their feelings are. This seems to be an operation of exquisite delicacy. Then they act on those feelings. This requires no thought at all. Not to act on feelings would be dangerous to their emotional health, they believe. Even not to express these feelings, whatever the effect on others, would be dishonest. All of this puzzles Miss Manners, who always knows exactly how she feels but considers the question of how and when to express or to act upon one's feelings to be a highly complex subject namely, etiquette. Miss Manners has nevertheless been so impressed by the introspective excavations in which others tell her they are engaged that she expects fascinating results. But no, there are only two announced results: Comfortable and Uncomfortable. The declaration "I'm comfortable with that" is used to described every feeling from being agreeable to renting a videotape for the evening to a willingness to get married. And the negative version, "I'm not comfortable with that," has a range from "We don't have a deal" to "I can't stand having your parents visit." Because people seem to be having so much difficulty with all these exercises, Miss Manners wonders Your Health What do you do if a child accidentally drinks a household cleaner? Why are hand-me-down baby cribs no longer recommended? How can adults who work with children spot child abuse? For parents who can never seem to find the information to safety- and health-related questions in one place, Jim Apke has the answer. His Community Awareness Network is preparing for the mid-October publication of another 50,000 copies of the Child Safety Handbook. Intended to be stored near the telephone, the book serves as a single-source reference for emergency phone numbers, personal identification f A I A 11 I ft 9 28 oiinroi'i I R m m m mm mi mi mr i of the times Group through Tuesday. Exhibition catalogs ($17.50) also are available at the gallery, 151 W. Fourth St., downtown. To order any of the above, call 651-5088 or write to Nelson Design, 1706 Highland Ave., Cincinnati 45210. For mail orders: add $2.95 postage and handling for orders of less than $30; $5.95 for orders of $30 and more. Orders must be received by Wednesday. OWEN FINDSEN information, safety tips and advice on drug overdoses and poisonings, choking, child abuse, missing children, burns, water safety, crib safety, bicycle safety, guns, car seats and more. The 20-page booklet includes an eight-page coloring book with safety tips and advice for children, and a 12-page book of checklists, information and safety tips for parents. The fourth edition will be distributed free through Tristate police departments, libraries and other family-oriented outlets. For more information, call Community Awareness Network at 784-0434. SUE MacDONALD Queen or King r prior sales & N Layaways Excluded And receive a valuable Sealy Posturepedic set Extra Firm wcoupon Sale $79 $ 99 $259 $369 Twin, ea. pc. Full, ea. pc. Queen, 2 pc. set King, 3 pc. set removal of old bedding on sets hnri ill' 1 1 11 i ii ii II New Mexican food products are hot not only in taste but in style. Take a moment to ponder these: spinach basil garlic pasta, green chile turkey sausage, pineapple salsa, cactus relish, olive pesto, prickly pear jelly and red chili honey. All are available through the New Mexico Food Products Catalog, a publication that offers at least 45 mail-order resources for foods from such gourmet food shops as Adelina's Gourmet Pastas in Las Cruces or Santa Fe Exotic Gourmet Condiments and Los Chileros in Santa Fe. Besides food shops, the publication also offers a catalog from the Coyote Cafe, a famous Santa Fe restaurant that offers a cookbook by the same name. To receive a copy of the New Mexico Food Products Catalog, " wrt vvX 'ii.- ,111 ImJ llhu V1 uneducated in-laws might corrupt her son's English, was abominable. My late father, the son of Jewish immigrants, had to quit school at 14 to go to work. He and my late mother went on to become very successful businesspeople who sweated blood to educate their children. I have always felt that what my parents achieved with very little education is far more impressive than what I have achieved. My father's grammar may not have been as good as mine, but he was by far the better man. That snob who wrote to you, fearing that her uneducated in-laws might corrupt her son's English, should get off her high horse. Self-made people like her uneducated in-laws have a lot more to offer than some people who collect diplomas and degrees. CHARLES S. LIPTON BOXBORO, MASS. Judith Martin whether they would like to hear about the traditional system, which worked rather well. Surprisingly, the old-fashioned way allowed a huge range of feelings, not only charming ones but such blunt ones as lust, greed and sloth, which make today's discomforts seem namby-pamby. Rather than merely missing one's expected comfort, one could be racked by passions of all kinds. The catch is that one wasn't allowed to express all these feelings as they happened to occur. There was a gap between feeling and saying or doing, during which one was supposed to guess not at one's own feelings but at the probable feelings of others should one's feelings surface. No one thought you would dam age your own emotional health by sparing the feelings of others. On the contrary, there existed an interior mechanism that ravaged your feelings if you caused undue damage. Instead of a Comfort Scale, one had a Conscience. Judith Martin is a syndicated columnist and author of several books on etiquette. Dr. Allan H. Bruckheim vomiting. Histories of past illnesses always are studied to see if hospital stays created separation anxieties and if other family members have experienced such problems. Effective treatment depends on many test and evaluation results, severity and how long the child has had the problem. At times, treatment may be only discussing separation difficulties with the child, parents and other family members. In other cases, individual and family psychotherapy might be needed. Home tutoring may be suggested until the child is capable of agreeably returning to school. 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