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Wednesday, February 1 1, 1987 THE CINCINNATI ENQUIRER Featur8SF-3 Gardt CONTINUED FROM PAGE F-l Love and marriage couple took to Washington, D.C., a few months after their wedding. But he adds: "What started out as wonderful, became better all the time We never were able to have children, but we still counted ourselves blessed. There were times, of course, when we were in disagreement. But, even in this, there was joy in making up, always before the day was over." in turn, entertains Ora by singing, playing the dulcimer and dancing. Though he is now deaf, he enjoys it all.

What was the most romantic moment of her married life? "I don't really think of things that way," she says. "Maybe, though, it was the wonderful feeling of a miracle having been performed when our daughters were born, each a part of both Ora and me." Hiser CONTINUED FROM PAGE F-l and weeds for "cures" were plentiful. The latter led Berniece to write a book on backyard medicine called Please Don't Kill the Weeds. Ora became an auto mechanic. Berniece learned to weave, and with money earned from her weaving, she put herself through Berea College and the University of Kentucky.

She earned a master's degree in education from the latter. She taught school for 22 years, then found a job as a librarian. The couple eventually moved to Walton, where they still live. Retired since 1976, Ora entertains Berniece with folk tales. She, Where I had felt alone before, I now felt that I was walking with Frances, night and day.

My heart beat faster when I knew I was going to see her. And in it all, I felt a great respect for her. It was a spiritual fire, a touch of God's will and direction a heavenly feel-ing. After marriage, Leo worked for the Cincinnati Bell Telephone Co. Frances, who had worked as a maid, became a housewife.

Leo is hesitant to single out one romantic moment in his marriage. He mentions a honeymoon trip the Thinking of marriage? Here's some advice: "Know what you want in life and keep one foot on the ground, using common sense in the things you do. "Remember that you cannot find real love without a basis of friendship. Friendship is the most steadying, reliable part of love, and allowing each other freedom to do things each likes to do helps keep love alive." Berniece Hiser "Before you get engaged, look around. Be sure you are in love and that you are loved in returned.

Be sure that you want to spend the rest of your 'life with the one you have chosen. "When you marry, marry for keeps. Stay with your wife and don't look around anymore. Your love will grow as you never could have believed." Johan DeGroot "Put marriage on a pedestal, looking upon it as the permanent, blessed, and most important thing in your life. Don't marry just because you feel a fiery passion.

"Make sure that, first of all, you like and respect the person you think you love, and that that person likes and respects you the same way. This liking grows into friendship, the most important element in a lasting love. Leo Gardt Enjoy The Crossword Puzzle Daily In The Enquirer For Home Delivery Call 651-4500 Enjoy The Crossword Puzzle Daily In The Enquirer DeGroot We Live Up To Our Name ryEKy CONTINUED FROM PAGE F-l had spent several years in America and wanted to live here. In 1959, Johan and Bastiana moved here. Johan found employment as maintenance man at the Immanuel Presbyterian Church in Clifton, and Bastiana became the housekeeper there.

Now 81 and 79, respectively, and retired since 1973, Johan's dark hair that Bastiana loved so much has turned to white, as have the blonde tresses that attracted the youthful Johan. When Johan is asked about the most romantic moment of his married life, he replies without hesita tion, "Every day." Bastiana says that moment was her 79th birthday (Jan. 28), when she received a bouquet of roses from Johan with a card that read: "To my lovely wife from her lovely husband." When asked to define love, Johan replies, "Love is giving to and taking from each other. It's commitment. It's for keeps.

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