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THE QNQNNAT1 ENQUIRER WEDNESDAY, FEBRUARY 11, 1987 SECTION To dine with swineF-2 Ending emotional abuseF-4 Around TownF-6 TV according to NielsenF-7 ecrets off lomg-lastins love Tipoff EDITOR: LINDA CAGNETTI, 369-1011 Jim Knippenberg "That's the girl I love!" he exclaimed. Surprised, I asked, "How do you know you love her?" "She told me so," he replied. From that age on, life gets more complicated and love more involved, but the questions remain what is true love and what's the secret to making it last a long time? Seeking answers, The Enquirer talked with three Tristate couples whose love and marriages have weathered the test of time. BY MARIE RYCKMAN The Cincinnati Enquirer Love has been defined and redefined since the beginning of time. Still, it remains somewhat undefinable.

When my son, Chris now a doctor in Lancaster, Ohio was 5 years old and Valentine's Day was approaching, he brought home a list of the children in his kindergarten class. We began to address Valentine cards to be taken back to school. About half way down the list, we came to a name that alerted Chris. I 1 'V Vj v- Shy no more? As they say in the cliche industry, beauty is only skin deep, but shy goes all the way to the genes. Or something like that, say researchers who are using shy hunting dogs to study social phobics.

Already they have identified a genetic quirk which causes some dogs, no matter how much love they get, to exhibit reactions similar to human panic disorder. In addition, they've found in the brain chemicals of phobic dogs and their littermates differences which may be the key to helping the dogs and giving the socially backward the ooomph they need to conduct normal activities, provided nobody crosses chemicals, thereby causing a bunch of shy people to run out and try to tree a raccoon or something. Research continues but conclusions are still a way off. Buying better beds Shopping for a mattress? You'll need to know this: According to designer Marian Artinger, shoppers will make a wiser choice if they follow the rules. To wit: Don't be too shy to try the thing out for 10 minutes; lie on tummy, back and side; lie still, roll; bounce; if two people will share, both should trv.

orovided they 'No need for flaming love some people talk about' remember they're in a deparment store; if There were more visits and on Nov. 16, 1927 they were married. "I knew I was in love when I realized I would be willing to go hand in hand with Ora through life. I felt a peace, a certainty that a life together for us would be right. I never did feel the flaming, passionate love some people talk about." After they married, Berniece left her teaching job to work at Peters Cartridge Co.

at Kings Mills. Ora also worked there. "We shifted along," she recalls. "We paid only $10 a month rent in those days for four rooms and bath, and otherwise, could live on $12.95 a month. But the depression days were soon upon us and things were hard." The couple moved to Buckhorn, Ky.

They bought a house on land where herbs (Please see HISER, Page F-3) Heed advice before tying knot, Page F-3 Love may make the world spin for some people, but for other people it's just there in a quiet, legal, working partnership. Berniece Hiser of Walton, recalls the day in 1926 when she met her husband-to-be, Ora Hiser. (Ora, now hard of hearing, asked that Berniece be interviewed, saying that she would be speaking for him, too.) "It was on my daddy's front porch right smack in the middle of Kings Mills where the big entertainment center, Kings Island, is now. "I had been teaching in Lost Creek, and was home in Ohio for the summer. Ora was a friend of my brother's and came to the house to see him.

I liked him just in a friendly way. No love at first sight. But liking is important." Berniece, 78, said, "Ora was from Pike County, Ohio, and, like me, he spoke antique English. Appalachian through and through." buying polyurethane foam, make sure polymer density pure polyurethane with no compounds is at least 1.8 pounds per cubic foot; if going the innerspring route, generally the more springs the better and, as above, be sure foam topping is 1.8 pounds per cubic foot density; if buying flotation, insist on a bladder membrane 20 mils or thicker; and finally, Artinger doesn't say but could, make sure it's high enough off the floor to hide shoes, dirty laundry, jigsaw puzzles, games, the dog's blanket, the sewing basket and a cheese burger underneath. If this be fiction The Cincinnati EnquirerAnnalisa Kraft Another chapter in what looks to be the Ora and Berniece Hiser of Walton, will soon be married 60 years.

endless saga ot Amenka: bo now it nas an auto sponsor again. Originally, recall, Chrysler was to sponsor the 14V2-hour mini-series about a U.S. ruled bv Russia. ru. ri I 1TTH Ml'tf iriWTVWlTlfl 1 Neither must be 'the boss' But when Chrysler's Lee Iacocca got wind ot it he got his mm All Holland loves to dance.

And it was at a shorts in a bunch over the gloomy theme clashing with his "pride is Friday night dance 61 years ago in Amsterdam, Holland, that Johan DeGroot, then 20, spotted a beautiful blue-eyed blonde and felt "that funny feeling" that told him this was the girl. "Right away, I knew she was different from back" ads and El pulled out. everybody else," says Johan, who now lives in Clifton. "My heart began to beat rapidly. Love was spontaneous." That left ABC No to spend the rest of my life with her.

That's how I knew I was in love." Bastiana felt the same. "I wanted him to be part of everything I did. I had never felt this way about anyone else." They married in Rotterdam on Feb. 23, 1927. Johan worked in the circulation department of a newspaper.

Bastiana stayed home and kept house. They had a son, then, a daughter. Then came the war years. Their 28-year-old son, a marine, died in New Guinea, leaving four children. "Our sadness strengthened our love, made us closer together than ever, helping each other," said Johan.

Their daughter, Jacoba, married in 1946 in Amsterdam and moved to Cincinnati. Her husband (Please see DEGROOT, Page F-3) with 37 spots worth $6.5 The girl, Bastiana, was an 18-year-old seam stress. She, too, was immediately smitten. "I saw this young man with dark hair and dark eyes, which I love so much, and I hoped he would dance with me," she says. "Our eyes met and dance we did.

I loved him from the beginning everything about him." million and no takers. Until now. Volkswagen, it develops, will pick up a chunk of the spots; the rest go to several advertisers ABC won't name, lest people who don't understand the very difficult concept of fiction go berserk and start boycotting a week before it airs. In other Amenka news, soonsors General Foods They dated for about a year. During that time The Cincinnati EnquirerJim Callaway Johan says he thought about Bastiana constantly.

Bastiana and Johan DeGroot met in Holland 61 years ago. Married in 1 927 "I wanted to be with her every minute. I wanted and Northwestern Mutual say they'll hold firm, despite a pile ot outraged letters from people who Mean Well. ABC, meanwhi e. at the ureine of an attorney Disagreements allowed; making up was joyful the United Nations hired to point out that married we enjoyed doing things together once in a it not amused and wants some changes made, has agreed to run a disclaimer reminding UN administrators and the very thick that it's only a movie and any resemblance to any person blah, blah, blah.

In other literary news, Macbeth's 1 three ugly witches have hired an attorney to force bhakespeare to stop calling them hags; Hester Prynne has hired one to make Hawthorne tell people she wore a Warren Harding was president of the United States when Leo Gardt met Frances Kappes. She was from Dover, and was visiting a friend of Leo's. Leo, a native of Gallatin County, was working and living in Cincinnati. "I remember it well, she was pretty and lots of fun to be with," says Leo, now 87 and confined to a wheelchair. He is a resident of Shadynook Nursing Home in Law-renceburg, as is Frances, who is 85 and still lovely, but suffering from Alzheimer's Disease.

The couple live in different parts of the home, but they eat lunch and dinner together every day. "We love each other even more today than ever before," says Leo. "She still knows me and has that precious beauty, that special something." When he and Frances met, they were each dating a number of people. "We weren't thinking about getting while." Those "once in a whiles" began to get closer together. Four years later, on Sept.

26, 1926, they were married in Cincinnati. "I knew she was my kind of girl. She was pretty, with brown hair and blue eyes. She liked so many things that I did, like walking in the country, dancing and going to church. Her faith in God was uplifting, and supportive of mine.

She was a great cook and made the most fabulous fried chicken; I can still smell it and taste its crispness. She liked me and did things to please me. Being with her was something comforting and pleasant." How did he know he was in love? "How does anybody know he's in he says. "The world gets rosy, the longing to be near her gets stronger. (Please see GARDT, Page F-3) scarlet A because she lettered in track at Aiken; and 600 Hollywood husbands are whining that Jackie Collins should have made it Shelbyville Husbands.

Amenka opens at 9 p.m. Sunday on Channel 12. Party with zest The Cincinnati EnquirerGordon Morioka Leo and Frances Gardt were married in 1926 and love each other today more than ever. Next up here, a jug of wine, a loaf of bread and a 110-foot Italian sub crammed with enough food to feed a piazza full of oartv animals. The Downtown Council will Billy Joel keeps his balance spice up its Party in the Piazza, midwinter 'Orphans' star values self version of a midsummer nignt party in the park, today at the Hyatt with a 110-foot sub.

Honest, says Kahn's, which BY DAVID LYMAN Enquirer Contributor Review will assemble the thing on a loaf of Italian Meeting John La- Gioia, one would not bread with 150 pounds ot its deli meats, 30 pounds cheese and 20 pounds sauces and trimmings. Built in honor of Italian wpek. which continues through Friday, the sub will be cut and served, free while it lasts, at the oartv. Said party is 5:30 to immediately guess he is an actor. True, there is something to his rugged looks and the soothing resonance of his voice that one normally associ BY CLIFF RADEL The Cincinnati Enquirer The piano man knows how to walk the straight and narrow.

At his Riverfront Coliseum concert Tuesday night, Billy Joel did a superb balancing act as he sang "The Longest Time" while strolling atop the wall that surrounds the arena's floor seats. Joel was not walking alone. He had 13,512 fans cheering him on while his eight-man band looked on in disbelief as he hammed it up by shaking hands and posing for pictures. He didn't kiss any babies. But he would have if asked.

After he returned to his rightful place at the keyboard of his grand piano, Joel Theater Thursday, is not one of those actors immediately recognizable to the People magazine set. But soap opera fans may remember him from his five-year stint as Johnny Dallas on Edge of Night in the mid-'70s. He is not a star, not a celebrity just, as he puts it, an actor. For 25 years, he has been busy in several soap operas, on the New York stage, on tour, and in a host of regional theaters. "When I started out, all I really wanted was to be a good, working actor," LaGioia (Please see ORPHANS, Page F-10) 7:30 p.m.

and hosted by WWNK, which resumed another balancing act. This one had started earlier in the evening when he arrived on stage to sing "A Matter of Time," the first number in his splendid two-hour-and-12-minute show. This stunt was Joel's musical balancing act. It was not as dangerous as the one that took him into the crowd. Yet, it was even more exhilarating to behold.

Throughout the night, Joel artfully balanced his act, shifting from power-packed (Please see JOEL, Page F-10) will play the South Fhilly sort ot music Fabian, Frankie Avalon, Connie Francis hi id others made famous several hundred John LaGioia ates with stage performers. But he seems so well years ago when we all still had acne. It's free and open to all. normal. LaGioia (La-JOY-ub), who opens a three-week run in Orphans at the Playhouse in the Park's (PIP) Shelterhouse Jim Knippenberg's column appears Tuesday, Wednesday, tnday and bunday..