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Engagements The Salina Journal Sunday, February 3,1985 Page 18 Annette Martin Clinton Keeler Tammy Munoz Mark Feltner Barbara Evans Jon Nichols Myrna Youngers James Hamm Martin-Keeler Mr. and Mrs. Jack L. Martin, 307 Oakdale, announce the engagement of their daughter, Annette Elaine, to Clinton Wayne Keeler, son of Ruth Odom, 2206 Meadowlark, and Robert Keeler. The bride-elect graduated from Derby Senior High School and attended Kansas State University.

She works at Dillon's Southgate and McDonald's. Her fiance attended South High School and the Salina Area Vocational-Technical School. He works at Long MacArthur Inc. A March 30 wedding is planned at the Bel-Air Southern Baptist Church. Munoz-Feltner KANOPOLIS Mr.

and Mrs. Albino Munoz announce the engagement and approaching marriage of their daughter, Tammy, to Mark Feltner, son of Mr. and Mrs. Marvin Feltner, Lyndon. The bride-elect, a graduate of Ellsworth High School, has a bachelor's degree in elementary education with an emphasis in early childhood education from Fort Hays State University.

She works for the White Rock School District, Burr Oak. Her fiance graduated from Lyndon High School and attended St. Mary's of the Plains College, Dodge City. He is a farmer near Mankato. The wedding will be March 2 at the Immanual Lutheran Church, Ellsworth.

Evans-Nichols Mr. and Mrs. James Evans, 813 Merrily, announce the engagement of their daughter, Barbara Ann, to Jon Christopher Nichols, son of Mr. and Mrs. Weeden Nichols, Rt.

6. The bride-elect graduated from Hazelwood Central High School, Florissant, and is majoring in speech and drama at Marymount College. She works at Gutierrez Restaurant. The future bridegroom, a graduate of Sacred Heart High School and Marymount College, is attending the University of Kansas Medical School, Kansas City. A June 15 wedding is planned at Marymount College.

Youngers-Hamm COOLIDGE Mr. and Mrs. George Youngers announce the engagement of their daughter, Myrna Kathleen, to James Gaylord Hamm, son of Mr. and Mrs. Gaylord Hamm, Tampa.

The bride-elect, formerly of Salina, graduated from Syracuse High School and studied secretarial work at the Northwest Kansas Area Vocational-Technical School, Good- land. She is an executive secretary at the Hillsboro State Bank. Her fiance, a graduate of Hillsboro High School, farms near Durham and works at Buller Manufacturing, Hillsboro. The couple are planning a June 8 wedding at Sacred Heart Cathedral, Salina. Cook-Rolph WAMEGO Mr.

and Mrs. Douglas Cook announce the engagement of their daughter, Joanne Elizabeth, to Shawn Lee Rolph, son of Mr. and Mrs. Neal Rolph, Delphos. The bride graduated from Wamego High School and is attending Cloud County Community College.

Her fiance, a graduate of Minneapolis High School, is also attending CCCC. The wedding will be May 31 at the First Baptist Church. Howe-Clark BARNARD Mr. and Mrs. Bob Howe announce the engagement of their daughter, Noralee Mae, to Steven Eugene Clark, son of Mr.

and Mrs. Wayne Clark, Valley Falls. The bride-to-be works for the State of Kansas, Division of Accounts and Reports, in Topeka. Her fiance farms in rural Valley Falls. The couple are to be wed June 15 at the First Baptist Church.

Linda Grieve David Henke Nita Swenson Wayne Carlson Debra Faust Michael Foster Marna Boye Kelly Coddington Grieve-Henke OSBORNE Mr. and Mrs. Clinton W. Grieve announce the engagement of their daughter, Linda, to David Henke, son of Mr. and Mrs.

Louis Henke, Osborne. The bride-to-be, a graduate of High School, is majoring in work at Cloud County 'Community College, Concordia. The future bridegroom also graduated from Osborne High and is farming southwest of Osborne. A May 25 wedding is planned. Swenson-Carlson SMOLAN Mr.

and Mrs. Edgar 2Swenson announce the engagement their daughter, Nita Kay, to Bradley Carlson, son of Mrs. 'Audrey Bjorkman, Smolan, and the Brides late August Carlson. The bride-to-be graduated from Lindsborg High School and is majoring in music at Bethany College. Her fiance, a graduate of Lindsborg High School, attended Kansas State University and graduated in diesel mechanics from the Salina Area Vocational-Technical School.

He is a farmer and rancher. A June 1 wedding is planned at the Salemsborg Lutheran Church. Faust-Foster MARQUETTE Mr. and Mrs. Gordon Faust announce the engagement of their daughter, Debra Marie, to Michael D.

Foster, son of Mr. and Mrs. Wayne Foster, McPherson. No wedding date has been set. Boye-Coddington HOISINGTON Mr.

and Mrs. Harlan Boye announce the engagement of their daughter, Marna, to Kelly Coddington, son of Mr. and Mrs. Ken Coddington, Logan. The future bride, a graduate of Hoisington High School, has an associate's degree in radiologic technology at Hutchinson Community College.

She works at the Thomas County National Bank of Colby and is a part-time X-ray technician at Citizens Medical Center, Colby. Her fiance graduated from Logan High School and attended Fort Hays State University. He is majoring in communications technology at Goodland Technical School. No wedding date has been set. Attention, brides-to-be! A few tips will help the Uving Today Department of The Journal handle your engagement and wedding reports more efficiently.

Forms are available at the office, 333 S. Fourth, which detail all information the staff needs to write the announcement. Type or print information as errors are prevalent when handwriting is difficult to read. Use rank for all servicemen in the wedding party. If picture is to follow, indicate on form.

Engagements are published in the Sunday edition and the deadline is noon Thursday. Pictures should be 3- by 5-inch black and white glossy prints for the best reproduction. These may include the bride-elect only or the couple. Information and pictures for wedding stories must be turned in no later than two weeks after the ceremony. Publication is on a space-available basis in Sunday editions.

Pictures should be 5- by 7-inch black and white glossies. These may include the bride only, or both of the newlyweds. Engagement and wedding pictures should be close-ups rather than full-length. Snapshots will not be accepted. Articles about bridal showers are printed before the marriage takes place.

The deadline for this information is one week in advance of the wedding date. Photographs can be returned in self-addressed, stamped envelopes or held at The Journal office for pickup. From The Journal's Wire Services Charles Choset has such an imposing collection of first-rate contemporary art that he literally has nowhere to put it. Some of his purchases remain with the artist from whom he bought them, according to an article in the February issue of Connoisseur, because he can't fit them into his fifth floor walk-up apartment in New York City's Greenwich Village. Choset is a composer with an eagle eye for art who used to make his living proofreading mass market paperback books.

Today, he makes an annual income of $15,000 to $25,000 by "deaccessioning" reluctantly selling the paintings he has picked up at bargain prices thanks to his fine eye for fine art. "I started collecting in 1974," he said. "I bought out of passion. The first piece was a drawing by George Segal. I'd never heard of him.

The next was a tile by Helen Frankenthaler. I'd never heard of her, either. "But that was what I loved about collecting. I was educating my eye, by myself." Financing himself with the meager money he made as a proofreader, he learned quickly. Walking into Choset's apartment Joanne Cook Noralea Howe Shawn Rolph Steven Clark Judith Bachofer Donald True Barbara Martin Loren Meyer Bachofer-True HUTCHINSON Judy Bachofer and Don True announce their engagement.

Their parents are Salinans Mr. and Mrs. William Bachofer, 228 S. 10th, and Mr. and Mrs.

Philip True, Prairie Village. The bride-to-be graduated from Sacred Heart High School, Salina, and is assistant manager of Show- Biz Pizza Place. Her fiance works for Southwestern Bell. No wedding date has been set. Martin-Meyer Mr.

and Mrs. Robert E. Martin, 620 Johnstown, announce the engag- ment of their daughter, Barbara Lynn, to Loren Wayne Meyer, son of Mr. and Mrs. Glen Meyer, Rt.

1, Carlton. The bride-elect graduated from Central High School. She works for Dillon Stores Co. Her fiance, a graduate of Chapman High School and the Salina Area Vocational-Technical School, works at Salina Planing Mill Inc. Their marriage is scheduled May 4 at Sacred Heart Cathedral.

Seeing spouse's good side can make happier marriage From The Journal's Wire Services There's more than hearts and flowers involved in making marriage work. Common sense and compromise are among the secrets of a happy marriage, according to an article in the February issue of Cosmopolitan that offers guidelines for making marriage work. The first rule: Focus on the positive, not the negative. "If people would only focus on what they like rather than what they don't like about a partner, the issues would fall into place differently from the beginning," said New York psychotherapist Anne Tully Ruderman. It is a matter of emphasis, according to Donald S.

Williamson, director of the Houston Family Institute. "It's not a matter of what's true or false," he said. "Choosing the positive side is simply choosing a more effective way to live. There are always ambivalent feelings inside each of us about our most intimate relationships. From the beginning, one set dominates but the other doesn't go away; it just recedes." Dividing the work of a family fairly, efficiently and with consideration is another key to happy marriage.

"The keynote word is efficiency," therapist Ruderman said. "A certain number of things have to be done in a certain amount of time. Who can do what best? Deciding that way is better than labeling a job his or hers." Marilyn Singleton Raji, founder of the Institute for Marriage and Human Relations in New York City, believes such decisions should be made early. "In most new marriages, the wife is so interested in pleasing that she'll take on far more than her fair Art collector out of space share of the work," the therapist warned. "So it's best to get down to the nitty-gritty of who does what before you're married." Be aware that people do change and don't let it throw you.

"The common notion is that marriage is a one-time decision," Williamson said. "Not true. It's a constant choosing and rechoosing. You can neither force change nor stop it in your partner." Raji advises marriage partners not to waste time blaming each other for changing, but rather find "new options that are harmonious." "Marriage is like riding a bike or sailing," Ruderman said. "When one person moves and shifts, the other will move and shift in a complementary way.

That's how we get our forward motion and that's what gives a relationship life." "For a marriage to stay healthy," Raji said, "two people can't dig their heels in. If they can look for solutions without thinking they're giving up a part of their private selves, they move into a new dimension of adulthood." Conflict is as much a part of marriage as compromise, according to the experts, and successful spouses accept the need for it. "They have to learn to trust each other," said Lori Gordon of the Falls Church, Family Relations Institute. "That may sound almost too basic, but the ability to confide intense feelings of whatever kind is necessary to emotional closeness." The experts advise couples to build on what is unique in their marriage and not worry about whether what is different in other people's marriages is better. Reports that marriage is a dying institution are premature, according to Cosmopolitan, which cited a recent study indicating that 90 percent of all young Americans expect to marry.

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There are paintings and prints in every corner, under the bed, in the closet, hanging from the bookcases, stacked on the floor. He also owns nine Sean Scullys, seven of which have never left the artist's studio because Choset has no place to put them. One thing Choset doesn't like to discuss is price. "I always hated that part," he said, "but there's one story I have to tell you. One day I saw a Hans Hoffman drawing in a little East Village gallery.

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