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NeIGhBORS MONDAY, JANUARY 22, 1996 Page 8 Dear Abby By ABIGAIL VAN BUREN ured if he couldn't beat me, he At Christmas, we gave our might as well join me. families the good news. DEAR ABBY: You published After reading Tara's letter, I I want to thank Tara for exletter from Tara Esther Lib- felt guilty every time I lighted a tending my life and the lives of bens in which she described her cigarette around my kids. I those around me. Her message 49-year-old mother's death from showed the article to my hus- really got through and was lung cancer just 34 days after band and told him that I was worth the pain it must have her diagnosis.

She told how her considering quitting. He offered caused her to write it. mother had tried for years to to quit with me to help me get If this doesn't get printed, quit smoking, but was so hooked through it. Abby, would you please pass it she smoked until the day she As of Dec. 5, we have had a on to Tara? She may feel a little died.

smoke-free house. Tara's letter better knowing that her letter I am a 25-year-old, happily saved our family's lives. I now did some good. You may use my married mother of two wonder- have it framed and sitting on my name. LAURA GLEASH, ful daughters, ages 3 and 5.

I dresser as a reminder. I hope to PHOENIX have been smoking for 13 years. live a long, healthy life and A year ago, my husband also become my daughters' best DEAR LAURA: I'm printing started smoking. I guess he fig- friend. your letter in its entirety I know Tara will be overjoyed when she sees it.

Congratulations on your victory over the addiction. I'm sure the news that you and your husband have quit smoking was the best news your families have ever received. DEAR ABBY: Your answer to Helen Bierstein regarding retirement facilities in 1 Europe was 100 percent correct. My husband and I are originally from the Netherlands, but our parents remained there. My mother spent her last seven years in such a home.

The treatment that the elderly get there is excellent. The cost is very reasonable for both the elderly and for the family who visits and needs to stay overnight. (I traveled twice a year from Florida to see her.) Prior to my mother's death, I spent three weeks at the retirement I home to be with her during her last days. My two brothers and their wives stayed at the home off and on for the same period of time. This included meals and accommodations.

After Mother's funeral, I went to the office to pay whatever expenses we had incurred, but I was told there was no charge! They said it had been a pleasure to have had my mother for those seven years. Abby, with all the talk in Washington, D.C., about cutting Medicare and Medicaid, one wonders, "Do we respect our senior citizens like they do in Holland?" Thank you for mentioning this in your column. RUURTJE VEIGHT-VAN DER KOOY, LAKELAND, FLA. DEAR RUURTJE: The treatment of senior citizens in some European countries is admirable. However, working people in those countries pay for this care with taxes far higher than those in the United States.

Mrs. Carlos Junco Aimeerenee Layton weds Carlos Junco Fernando Junco, 7785 Southwest 102 Lane, Miami, were married at the Yacht Club Resort, Disney World, Fla. The Rev. Tim Herring performed the double ring ceremony and John Grey was violinist. Following a reception at Ariels in Disney World, the couple left for a honeymoon in Miami and Orlando, and San Juan, Puerto Rico.

They now reside at 8 Gaslight Village Apartments, Ithaca, N.Y. Given in marriage by her father, the bride wore a white matte satin ballgown with a 1 V-neckline, bodice and Juliet sleeves accented with pearled and sequined Alencon lace, skirt and cathedral train accented with cutout appliques and lace hems. Her pearl headband held a double tier veil, and she carried a cascade bouquet of white and mauve roses accented with flowers and ivy. Mrs. Blaine (Diana) Layton, Conyngham, was matron of honor for her daughter.

She wore an ivory crepe suit with a satin shawl collar and rhinestones on the jacket, and a calf-length skirt with slit accented with rhinestones. The flower girl, Leslie Layton, Conyngham, sister of the bride, wore an ivory satin tea-length dress with a lace overlay and satin collar adorned with flowers and ribbons. She wore a matching ivory hat with flowers and ribbons. Javier Junco, San Juan, Puerto Rico, was best man for his brother. A graduate of Luzerne County Community College with an A.A.S.

degree in dental hygiene, the bride is a licensed dental hygienist with Dr. John Comisi in New York. The groom received an B.B.A. from Loyola College in Baltimore, and is completing master of business and law degrees at Cornell University. The bride was honored at a shower given by her sister, Michelle Potash.

Aimeerenee Layton, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Blaine E. Layton Conyngham, and Carlos Junco, Ithaca, N. son of Mr.

and Mrs. Hints from Heloise Dear Heloise: I have solved the problem in our home of the lost remote control. It was usually kept on the arm of an easy chair, but being odd-shaped it was forever falling to the floor and getting placed somewhere else. I took a headband the kind that has hard plastic inside and fits over the top of the head ear to ear then put some doublesided sticky fabric tape on the band and on the back of the remote and put this over the arm of the chair. Now it stays! Enjoy your column in the daily Spokesman Review.

J. Johnson, Ephrata, Wash. I enjoyed hearing this handy hint. Please drop in again any time! Heloise SEND A GREAT HINT TO: Heloise PO Box 795000 San Antonio TX 78279-5000 or fax it to 210-HELOISE FAST FACTS Here are a few uses for an old coffee cup. 0 Use to hold pens and pencils.

Use to root plants in. Use in a birdcage to hold seed or gravel. 0 Use to hold sewing supplies. 0 Use to hold cotton balls on the vanity. Heloise Debra Hinkle becomes bride of David Spaide Mr.

and Mrs. David Spaide Debra Hinkle, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. M. Dennis Hinkle, Weatherly, and David Spaide, Hazleton, son of Joan Spaide, Freeland, and the late Howard Spaide, were united in marriage in Grace Baptist Church.

The Rev. Hugh Lupien performed the double ring ceremony. Renee Tessitore was the pianist and vocalists were Mrs. Kay Smith, the Rev. Paul Furedi and Mrs.

Lynn Bachart. Following a reception in St. Michael's Recreation Center, Freeland, the couple left for a honeymoon in Cocoa Beach, Fla. They now reside at 758 McKinley Hazleton. Given in marriage by her parents, the bride wore a white satin gown with pearls, iridescents and lace cutouts featuring a Victorian neckline, basque bodice, long puffed sleeves, a shirred skirt with a scalloped lace hemline and a semi-cathedral train.

Her headpiece of pearls and roses was arranged on a fingertip illusion veil. Mrs. Donna Gasker, Jim Thorpe, was matron of honor for her sister, and Daphne Gasker, Jim Thorpe, niece of the bride, was junior bridesmaid. They each wore an amethyst satin floor-length gown with a sweetheart neckline with lace border, a dropped waistline and side bow. The flower girl was Dorothy Gasker, Jim Thorpe, niece of the bride, wore a floor-length white satin gown with purple accents.

Stephen Spaide, Hazleton, performed the duties of best man for his brother. The bride is a graduate of Weatherly Area High School and the Hazleton State General Hospital School of Nursing. A graduate of Freeland High School, the groom is employed at All Steel and serves with the Pennsylvania National Guard. The bride was honored at a shower given by both mothers and the bridal party at the Word Family Church, and the rehearsal dinner was hosted by the groom at Grace Baptist Church. Brochure offers Au Pair in A new brochure details the live-in international child care program, Au Pair in America, which annually brings more than 3,000 English-speaking au pairs aged 18-26 to assist American families with child care.

The cultural exchange program was reauthorized by Congress last week and expanded to include au pairs from nonEuropean countries. The program allows au pairs to stay a year in the U.S. with legal, J-1 visas. They provide 45 hours a week child care. Besides babysitting, they drive children to lessons, change diapers, prepare meals and run errands.

Au pair means "on a par" or equal, or how the young person is expected to fit into the family. Au pairs are encouraged to take advantage of educational and cultural benefits of the host community and often participate in volunteer service efforts. SOUND OFF Dear Heloise: Enjoy your column. I was wondering if others feel this way: I would like all magazines to number each page (advertisements, too) so that you can find the page you want in the upper right-hand corner. Big numbers would be great.

Also, am I the only one who regrets that mayonnaise manufacturers have abandoned the large (wide) top so now it is difficult to scoop out the last third of the jar, especially for arthritics? Thanks for letting me sound off. Rida Spross, Rochester, N.Y. Thanks for writing. We love hearing Sound Offs from our readers. Many things have changed after we printed complaints from readers.

So, if you have a Sound Off that is driving you crazy, drop us a line. Heloise Should you choose a bagel or a doughnut? Should you choose the bagel or the doughnut to go with your coffee? From a nutritional point Andrew Barnasevitch and Jennifer Donald Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Donald Engaged Second nounce the Street, Beaver engagement Meadows, of their an- daughter, Jennifer Marie, to Andrew J. Barnasevitch, son of Margaret Barnasevitch, R.R.

1, Coxeville, and the late Francis Barnasevitch. Miss Donald is a 1989 graduate of Hazleton High School and a 1991 graduate of Penn State University with an associate degree in business. She is employed by Smith Floral Co. Mr. Barnasevitch, a 1987 graduate of Hazleton High School, attended Penn State University, and is employed by Gutter Systems.

An October wedding is planned. of view, the best choice is pretty clear. or is it? According to Kathryn M. James, family living agent with the Carbon County office of Penn State Cooperative Extention, Jim Thorpe, "a standard ounce bagel provides 200 calories and five grams of fat. Your basic doughnut isn't that much higher in calories (210 if cake and 235 if yeast).

However, more of those calories come from fat; 12 to 13 grams per doughnut." If you eat the bagel plain, it obviously is the better of the choice, nutritionally. Top the bagel with two ounces of cream cheese and the story is a little different. You've just boosted the calorie content of your bagel to 300 and its fat content to 15 grams. Toppings aren't the only hole in the nutritional image of bagels these days. Size is another factor.

When frozen bagels were first introduced more than 30 years ago, they weighed only about two ounces. You still can get two-ounce bagels but you also can choose from "heavier" lines, at about three ounces each. If you grab your bagel from a bakery or bagel shop, expect even larger and heavier bagles. They can have more than 400 calories, or the nutritional equivalent of about five slices of bread without any topping. None of this is to say that big bagels are unhealthful additions to your diet.

On the contrary, they rate as an excellent source of complex carbohydrates, which should contribute many more calories to the diet than fat or protein. What's more, "topless" bagels are low in fat, containing less than a gram of fat per ounce of bagel. What really makes a bagel's fat and calorie count soar the cream cheese, peanut butter, and other toppings we add. Just one ounce of cream cheese (about 2 tablespoons worth) adds 100 calories and 10 grams of fat. Peanut butter and butter are even higher in fat and calories per ounce than cream cheese.

Two tablespoons of butter contain 216 calories and 24 grams of fat; the same amount of peanut butter provides 188 calories and 16 grams of fat. The bottom line: Like all foods, even bagels need to be eaten in moderation. And, as with so many foods, it's the topping that makes a bagel's fat and calorie count soar. Selecting a reduced-fat spread and spreading your toppings thinly are two ways to reduce the amount of fat contributed by the topping. For additional information about reducing fat in your diet, contact the Penn State Cooperative Extention office in Jim Thorpe, 325-2788.

details on America program Au Pair in America's on-site Community Counselors arrange cultural and social activities for au pairs throughout their year in the U.S. The program costs approximately $200 per week which includes the au pair's pocket money, insurance, visa, orientation and flight. Families also pay an education allowance. Au Pair in America participants are placed in groups or "clusters" in 180 communities in 36 states, each with its own Community Counselor. For the free brochure, write Au Pair in America, Dept.

P-7, 102 Greenwich Greenwich, Conn. 06830 or call 1-800- 9AU-PAIR. In June 1983, astronaut Sally Kristen Ride became the first American woman to travel in space. She rode aboard the space shuttle Challenger. love being quick with your apologies.

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