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Case Book Of Or. Chase Mother Is Resentful Of Visits From Daughter And Her Family Dear Dr. Chase: I have two boys, ages and 10, that I want to understand and care for but because of my daughter and her family, I ani continually upset to the point that I am practically no good for anyone. My daughter and her husband with their Uvo children come to visit us. She as expecting her third child and when they come, I am like a slave to all of them.

I don't mine caring for my immediate family, imt wben the work is doubled and no one helps, it bothers me. I spoke to my husband about it and be just takes the side of our daughter. I feel no one understand my position. They over at least twice a week and sometimes more. Her 2-year-old always wants cookies, crackers, apples or whatever she sees.

If I don't give in to her, my daughter does. After they spend an after- By Loriene Chase, Ph.D. noon and evening, I have extra housecleamng, cooking and Telephone 226-4418 Dear Abby Taxpayer Makes "Home Delivery" To Postmaster By Abigail Van Buren DEAR ABBY: I wanted to call up my postmaster and tell him a thing or two because I knew he ate my pension check, but I couldn't find his telephone number in the book. I called information and that's when I found out he had an unlisted number! -That really made me mad, so since I knew where he over to his house and told his wife off. Abby, as, a taxpayer, I would like to know why a public servant like a postmaster would have an unlisted telephone number 9 TAXPAYER DEAR TAXPAYER: Probably to protect him from people who "know" he ate their pensiofochecks.

DEAR ABBY: For the mother whose 16-year-old son pretends to be retarded to draw attention, and the father's encouraging reaction: Obviously the boy is a good actor, but he probably is repeating himself, so I suggest the father do the following to inject realism. Begin by using elastic bandages to tie the boy's elbows slightly behind his back, so the elbows will remain bent. Next, wrap heavy rubber bands around the boy's ingers so that they may be only with effort. Next, the father could have the boy lie on the floor where he could then wrap elastic bandages around his crossed knees. Then wrap more elastic bandages around his feet so they be pointed inward.

Next, place handful of large marbles into the boy's mouth, so he can neither close it nor control his saliva. Finally put a strap around the boy's head, and attach a rubber strip to it so the head is held up only with effort. By this time the father is probably about to explode in anticipation of the boy's next performance. Then the father should instruct the boy to do Aluminum Furniture Is Favored RALEIGH Whenever there's warm, summer weather, there seems to be folding aluminum outdoor furniture around. And small wonder.

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THE FATHER OF A C. P. IN JIOUSTON DEAR ABBY: From the letters in your column, we "cold" wives should form a club. There "are a lot of us around. We're a to rec- ogwze.

We're either sick a lot (headaches) or dead tired. We drwk too much, smoke too much, and eat too much going on a diet We lose ourselves in novels (dreaming) and watch a lot of late television. We're sharp with our kids and we get foolish in the 40s (wearing too much makeup and not enough clothes As for myself, I have most of the symptoms already and I'm. not yet 40. I'd give 10 years of my life if my husband would grab me at the kitchen sink, pat me, pinch me or seduce me (before somebody else does).

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It wouldn't be so bad if she helped me, but after dinner they all go into the living room, watch television and leave me alone to clean up. By the time I am finished, and join them, they are ready to leave. Then I have the rest of the house to straighten up. I am fed up, but I know if I talk to her about it, she will get mad and wind up not visiting any more and this will cause problems between me and my husband because he always defends her. What should I do? Mrs.

C.W.M. DOCTOR: If your daughter and her family only visited you occasionally, then I would suggest that you try to accept the situation with a much grace as possible. But what you describe here is quite another matter. For your family to put forth no effort to help teils me that they are only'concerned with their own comforts. It is easy for some people to fall into a pattern of "let mother do it" but you are equally responsible for allowing this to continue on such a lopsided basis.

You should certainly suggest that each adult and able child assume some specific task and make it a mutual family effort. Through an intelligent discussion of the new plan I would hope they will understand and rather than bdcome angry, become aware of the needs you are expressing in your letter. If, unfortunately, they get upset over the discussion, then it is something they must work put among themselves. Certainly can't honestly blame you for misunderstanding because of your need to share the visit on a more productive basis. You are right; you can't be properly productive for anyone while harboring these feelings.

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