Express and News from San Antonio, Texas • Page 77

San Antonio Match 1969 Fage 7-E Opera Opening Sparkles With Chic Ihe on!) conductor in Ihe Cult- Alcssandio The j.niues.s sUic A-line inslume nf black ed Slates who conducts a full gown was i with a de snie fasinoned willi 1 J'l pin- hmbce. finished a Ir.iji 1 front, Mrs Stanley Fr.mk a i Opening nicltt at the opera dent of Ihe Women's Commit- Hancock's gowi n' fashionable Ice of Ihe San Sym- i nml a By ALK'K BO.NXKTT Silver Anniversary of sy niphony season and a full draped jeweled neckline the San Antonio Symphony's opera season, (irand Opera Festival a a and mils ical evcnl. event around the world, i phonv i wore a full Saturdav's i no excep- length '-own of belike crepe de The Theater of the 'ir- i MIC npmvs-. Ires ing Arts was the seltuiK for cocktail i a llns lavish musje length, and short i front and a low bee lar Saturday. A Irio of OI-IT- diesses were worn, with aceossorics.

a i Mis. Martin (kiland's gown of white salin featured an as's most a i voices suils and dresses "ere imlcil brought a oramalic audience. For masterpiece to 1 i e. Beverly mi in KM varied. Sills, opera's new soprano: su- and tails, tuxedos per star Norman i g1 (lll (1 cl uhl designed America's forcmosl bass: and els and dark business li 1 1 (l I' 11: Mr John Alexander, lenor, shared U1 r( the musical spotlight.

Mrs. Max i I wore a For the first time in San An- of um colored chiffon tonio. the faninus ballet scene fashioned with high neckline "Walpurgis i was in- am cc th gold jewels, eluded in "Faust," and was lr Ueiior was Ihe danced by the Texas Christian Univcrsilv Ballet. use bodh T'ie was nf iii.ilching niatcn.i!. Mrs tldhi'it .1 ji a Arlists enleriaiiimeni chairman, was Downed in red chiffon.

The neckline Hie princess style gown a line bodice wath of i 1,1,,,: sequins sheai'i of a I colored silk was a i was i silk 'a cd fas'i lolled a and skill i this ins I in he won- -i biuvanil) mat i "ld Ihreads i C.irilr lln.se 10 a a while opera MIII iashioned the ii I III by Mrs II Ciiaii-s 'Hie wlule silk flecked i I beading flowed Hie leie-'i: -k'i'l Mumcip.il Audi'orium will be in Stars will tie Montscr- i a' c.ilialle. liernabe a i. lliaoi Donley and Nell Kan- The fivstival i ler- minaie i "Tiir.indni" al i s.iimda) the Mumi l- Hichard Tucker and Mandac. and Do- l.ncia ill I aiiliner- at Sunday i On the podium for llns -lh anniversary year was musical 1 1 crepe fashioned the director i Alessandro, costume worn by Mrs. founding conductor of llu 1 San mesh fashmucd i i loiuul eluffiui a I a teweled Anlomo Orclieslni.

decollel.u:e and a fu null, 1- ju re bodice will, a shapeilneekline.inilasti.il);!,! flow Bishop an Mr. and Mrs. Floucis Opcr Mrs wa. iambiiw i i silk The Was lii-siau'd i an Fmpire wai- 1 and a a Mrs CaiiipbcH's nf red. laic and blue crepe was -ui'-n a navy jacket I'mlaintime for ihc lined ilnor Icn.nlli -kin performance nf i a Mi-s I'liailcs (Ico'-sic a blue Inifon i a bodice and skirl a flare in kid; Mrs I.e-he of while Don't Except Expensive SYMPHONY PRESIDENT Mr.

and Mrs. Martin Goland ere pictured at tne opening of the Grand Opera l-Cstivnl, Maqcd in the Theater of the Per- fonning The opera "Faust" celebrated the Silver Anniversary ol the San Antonio's Grand Opera Festival. Mr, Goland is the current president oi the Symphony Society of San Antonio By AMY YANDKHBII.T MISS DKItllll.T: If a boy and a Kirl have been mn f- I a and he gave her a rather expensive piece of jewelry, should this gift be returned when the pnne, steady rms Or should the K'rl keep the Asheville X.C." may keep Ihe piece of jewehy liocause. iinforuiiiiteh' you accepted il as a gift. However.

I hope this awkward situation makes il clear lo yon why the rule of etiquette says a "jrl should not accept expensive Kifls from a boy unless the couple is actually en- I have not come across the lerm "going-steady nnc" bin assume il is similar to the friendship riiiK popular for many years now Friendship rings usually sihei, very inexpen.ive (a dollar nr so) and are not returned when tile friendship ends If you return iniK to the buy. whal ilo you suppose lie will do i a secondhand "gninR-slendy I would like In hear fro'ii other teen readers on the ub- ject of g'liiiy steady, which in many areas is on the decline, and on the subject of int; gilts hi boys a girls. Send me post cards nf letters. problem "Dl-iAlt' I YAMIF.I! Devise A Simple Antidote To Avoid Family Arguments I. I.

A. I 't remarkable hnw some people seem to "change coinplelely" on weekends or holidays nr vacalions. a 1 because they are away from li i ill are' emotionally demanding. Tins can be the job. the home I I i a social gathering.

situation where a person is required to pivc emotionally The key is thai each person know Ins capacities for giving, and not force himself much beyond. When this does hap peii and he is unable to fill the Irll. he may become anKi'y at i 1 and then feel depressed and worthless. Listening tu Some occupations are veiy rtemandinp. especially which involve a response to others' a needs.

The clergy, medicine, a fl teat -bin; an 1 examples. of Ihc-se groups must listen to the woes and troubles of oilier human brings. Can demands affect the persona! lives of such Indeed they can. The man who is completely spent i his work day mav have litl'le left to give when lie arrives home in the Book Review On Mozart Scheduled The Women of St. Mark's Kpiscopal Church will sponsor its sixth book review of the season at in a.m.

Thursday in San Pedro Playhouse. Mrs. A very of a a will review and Profane" by Davis Weiss, a novel of Ihe life of Wolfgang Mozart. Ho.slesses and hosl guilds will be Mrs Josephine Vol- lentinr. St.

Nicholas, and Mrs. Frank Parish Aid. Mi.s.s DeWin lo Wed Mr. a fi Mrs Charles M. PoWitl announce the engage- meni of their daughter.

I'ene- lope Aldien, lo Keilh Patrick Kamwater, of Mr. and Mrs. U'. Rainwater. An August wedding in Castle Hills First Haplist Church is being planned.

i K. Vet he feels he should. Simple Itrinedy Here's how one clergyman resolved this problem. "I've 1 a lhal an endless stroam of people wilh proli- lenis can oumpiclcly dram me al limes. When I come home knowing there isn't much led in me.

my wife and I have an arrangement for snch days. "In our foyer there is a table wilh a square vase on il. When 1 walk in and know that I am spenl, I turn this vase upside down is a signal to my wife, to take it easy, and perhaps let me vegetate for the evening. "She has the same i i- Icgc. of course.

If the children have been particularly trying during the day, and she is'giv- en out, she can turn Ihc vase upside down as well. When I walk in, then 1 know we had belter have a low key evening. I try to help with Ihe chores and the children. "We used to gel inlo some bitter arguments bcfoie we devised this little scheme It saves both a lot of war and tear." Anlidiilo This ploy is- but one of many ways people have devised to deal i anxiety that stems (mm feeling depleted and unable lo respond lo Ihe emotional needs nf others. Of course.

Ihe anlidolc is lo be on the re- i i end after such episodes or I i of being drained. Another way of dealing with tension related emotional depletion lo adopt a cold and formal poslute. A personnel malinger, who listens to problems all day. may appear as stiff and formal' person. Underneath, he is a warm and sensilive human being Why.

then, the formality? II is ,1 defense (Defense is used here in a psychiatric sense, and rep- resenls a psychological maneuver lo reduce a i I The cold and forbidding individual sends a a "Don't me." In this way. he autids furlhiT cino- il in a and spares himself further drain on his depleted resources On a a I i n. llns same office manager does not need Ihe defensive "cold fish" pos- lure, anil he is delightful company. I am a divuneo eial years arc my obligations regarding llic giuiig nr prescr.ls by niv children Ilieir father" The children aunt Iheir late teens, carl) Iwen ties and are vevy vein- laiii shippers "1 have tried clipping gestions irom papers and III-IL: axines. have made suggestions when discussing gifl-gmng in general, but ill Ihe I whole thing has fallen on me.

lo Hunk of Hie items, pui- chase them, a and mail ihem. father lines nothing at all. or at most occasionally semis each small iheck. lie cnmes from a family of lion givers. On the oilier hand.

come from a family of thnuglil- fnl givers and I would like lo try to instill this in my children They give willingly lo each oilier and lo Iheir Iricml-. bin have Mime kind of a 'block' about prescnls for Iheir fathci How should 1 handle lliK 1 Ihen and I are nol very fiiendly. we do dines mallei-, concerning Ihe children -MItS. S.Y., I. a i Forest, III." You no obligation under the circumstances.

children are old enough lo decide for themselves whether 'ir not they will give presents and lo whom. By undertaking this responsibility for them, you arc putting a false value on the veiy thing you are In ing to teach Ihem. From a psychiatric poml i you are possibly buying and lhe.sc gifts as a salve to your own coiisi-iem e. perhaps as an apology I diur as a hidden ei lure rccnncili.ilion. i.

prnliMalinn ilia' arc il only In leach Minr clnldien could be yinr children a r. ailolc-ceiil "i indeed adult i to give their father scnis. will begin to tin sn only uliet, the) can be )on won'! interfere Apart Irnin the biggiv! gi'l giving da) of all- ivuple In lend lo fnrgei dales, nil jou could remind your children a week or two in advance then llier's birthday. smm Ihmg quite i.iMial. a--.

"Your lather's birthday is the 1'erliaps you i wain in sond off a i aril so arrive lime Then -lep mil nf Hie picture and don't mention a even! ag.llll "If the i aid Is pun hascil and seiii. tine II no', don I give another If uui cx-lur-bantl shuulil about Ihe lack of nf prexeiils or card--, you could explain tasuallv lhal jour offspiing ap' no longer iillle children, Hiey do Iheir own and i( he is up- sel about Ilieir lack of llmiiglil fulness, he will speak them himself. Main people who don't give presents (or of tliemselve-l in iiiiii tain'! ajipreciale or eu-n knnw how receive gills from oliiei's without einb.iriassiner.! --iluis the nf the The annual Opera Supper, sponsored by the 's Coaiimiiec Hie San Sunphnnv Society will he held ai'er Ihe maimee perfiirinani Sieuiav a i will served at fi the Ilnum nf Ihe Hotel i dinner -it 7 in Hie Culnm.il llonin ihc uuests i Hie stars of Hie The Sihcr colors of Miver and royal blue he featured in the decor for Hie and Colonial ie TnU'TmL' reproductions four operas to In' ilurinc Ihe Open Cab; icq-: i I' i a I. will adorn IhCMi In I ri.mris lie SPRING ENSEMBLE BY MIA BELLA ii a bcaulifully jtylod navy a fnmt a of htto trim and red stitching one! charminq, i coat in red. white and navy plci'd i pnspmbln will give you end your marvplou 1 fashion for Spnnq.

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